Preparing to TTC in 2022 - part 5

[WingingIt09]

Hi ladies, we're onto thread 5! I'm afraid I've completely lost track of the list since I took a break off Mumsnet.... so let's make an updated one!

Roll call for those

• TTC graduates.... pregnant ladies who are you and when are you due? Hope you're all doing well

• Actively trying.... what cycle are we all in? Any particular plans for this next one?

• Waiting to TTC.... what month are you planning on starting?

@SVC11 😂😂 my partners just pointed out that its been 6 days since we've dtd 😳😳

@Summerbreeze111 so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. Hope the tww goes by quickly for you and you get your bfp this month 🌈

@Bananatoast123i definitely think stress can play a factor.

CD21 here, 7dpo. Feel totally normal which presumably doesn't mean anything. We definitely covered my fertile days this month so hoping for the best. If AF comes next week I'm ordering preseed for next cycle.

Hope everyone else is OK.

@Summerbreeze111 Good luck for the TWW and hope this is your cycle.

@Nypie at least your other half keeps track! I don't think mine really thought about it until I got really upset this month because I thought I might have ovulated early and missed a whole cycle (don't think I did because I got my peak later on)

@Summerbreeze111 Cycle three for me too, i had my peak ovulation test yesterday afternoon so TWW should start tomorrow for me!

@Summerbreeze111 so sorry to hear about your miscarriage hope you're doing okay

@LucyLoopyLu I am now 13dpo and still no symptoms after my BFP so fingers crossed for you! Also with preseed I never tried it but I took cough medicine this month leading up to ovulation and the difference to my CM was unbelievable and I honestly think that was the difference in me getting my BFP. Fingers crossed though for this cycle

Hi all! Dreaded AF has been and gone, so it's on to a new month of trying. OPKs at the ready ❤️

Hope everyone is doing well!!

@WingingIt09 - have just caught up with your posts. I am so, so sorry - the fact that they could leave you to go through this 'multiple' times is devastating. Sending lots of love and hugs.

Sorry to hear about your mc @Summerbreeze111, hope you're doing ok and that you get your BFP soon.

Good luck to all in the tww!

@lj2022 that's really interesting about the cough syrup, I've not heard of that one. Heard evening primrose oil can be good for CM. I don't want to add too many things into the mix right at the start so will just see how we go first few cycles I think.

Perhaps this is a silly question, so forgive me, but do most people just DTD every other day during their fertile window? I heard it's a good idea to get to it every other other day after AF disappears, but as my cycles are long and I ovulate pretty late (Around CD22) that would mean a lot of DTD and think it might be hard to keep up momentum 😆Particularly if there's no egg in sight, that might be a waste of time and effort for us. (Reproductively speaking, anyway). Or do people follow SMEP? I looked into that, but again starting CD8 would be a bit fruitless for us...

@DesertSnow For DTD it's largely down to personal preference and whatever works for you. DTD every other day after AF clears off is great at first, but then wears off quickly and becomes a chore. As long as you DTD every other day in the lead up to the FW, then DTD during and slightly after, you've sufficiently covered all bases. Some people DTD everyday which is fine as long as your partner is sufficiently aroused everytime, otherwise the amount of semen with each load decreases.

As an example; My FW approaches at around CD17. So I start from CD14 every other day, ie CD14, 16, 18, 20, 22. Somewhere in those days I'll get my surge and ovulation, in which case I'll DTD on that day and then again the day after and then again the day after that. So steady goes it, then sudden onslaught of D'ing TD 😂I have not had success yet, though as a general rule, surge day and ovulation day are the two most vital days, so even if you don't get a chance to follow SMEP or are just plain knackered (it happens!), twice or thrice right slap in the middle of the FW will be okay.

@DesertSnow I'm similar to you in that I have long cycles - last month I got a peak OPK on cd20 and this month on cd25. Both the last two months I have tried to D2D every other day from about cd16, and then on OPK peak day, and the day after that.

This will be cycle three for me, so whilst it hasn't worked yet, it's still early days.

There is no way DH and I could keep up with every other day from cd8 😂

@DesertSnow when I conceived I got my peak cd 19 (so ovulated cd20/21) and only dtd cd17 and cd19

@LucyLoopyLu oh trust me he keeps track everyday. I used to think I had a normal libido but now think it must be quite low I was very proud of my four days in a row 5 days in one week during fertile week and apparently needed a 6 day break afterwards 😂😂. Bless you I would have been upset to its a huge thing to feel like youre carrying alone...I'm glad you didnt miss the peak!

@DesertSnow also really interested in this question. We dtd the first 4 days in our fertile week then thought I missed the peak due to wank gate but my peak was the day after so we did it again and then I rested. I've heard that every other day is best, but that can depend on the sperm count and quality, but I've gone for everyday as thats a welcome treat for dp 😂...happy dp happy sperm I hope! Tmi but the quantity was very large throughout I was quite suprised

@DesertSnow I followed SMEP for months and didn't conceive.
DD we did it once about 3 days before ovulation. In this pregnancy we did it every day from 5 days before ovulating, twice the day before ovulation, once on day of ovulation. Go figure 🤷🏼‍♀️

@ljlj2022 yes I remember you saying, I was wondering whether I could get away with some cough syrup instead but not sure it's advised 🤣 how are you?

@Nypie to be fair I would have been impressed as well if it was me! We did 3 days in a row this cycle over ov time and that felt like quite a lot! Pretty sure we covered it so here's hoping 🤞 I hadn't been wanting to stress him out by nagging him about DTD but he didn't like me being upset and stressing about it by myself so we've just agreed to talk more about it now

Hi again all 👋

when you count DPO and do you count from the last day of ovulation or your peak? I’m a bit confused!

We couldn’t ttc last month due to Covid but OPK said I had low fertility on day 15 and then peak was day 18. So if it’s the same again this month I guess we would DTD every other day from day 15 just to cover things?

I’m feeling the pressure already tbh, and don’t want DTD to feel like a task if we end up having to ttc for a long time. How does everyone else cope with this and keep things fun?

Hi all,
I am actively trying for DC #2. Although I have no idea where I currently am at the moment it is all new to me. DD was a surprise. I had implant removed 6th July. Downloaded an app and logged every detail possible and apparently AF is due tomorrow. Currently 13DPO with a BFN this evening. Had a withdrawal bleed on the 7th for 4 days so I logged the 7th as CD1.
Good luck ladies, hoping we see lots of BFP's for you all 🤞🤞

@LucyLoopyLu tbh it's a rare month for us when its 2days in a row I'm one on one or two off kinda girl 😂😂. Proud of you! You've covered there are so many stories like @Theawkwardblonde I feel like when its time it doesn't matter if its once or 7 times it'll be. You're both doing the right thing talking is good you'll find your medium I think you being stressed is probably worse than no hitting it every bloody day.

@Welshgal85 I count confirmed ovulation as day 0 if that makes sense. In terms of dtd my partner seems to be the exception in that he is on it alll the time so for me I need to make sure that were have fun before fertile week and after... but also communicating to him to let him know whats going on and why I might need a bit of a break. I know my dp wants me to enjoy myself so I try to get myself in the mindset even if it takes extra time!

My DP is an every day kind of guy and if I'm honest usually more than once a day if he can get away with it but he'll definitely try. He's only home two weeks a month and we make the most of it. I've read so much about doing it every other day. End of August is our first proper attempt at TTC and so interesting to hear what's worked for you ladies, im going to stick with everyday and see what happens. Try and keep things normal and enjoyable and if that doesn't work we'll try SMEP or something else. If we're successful I can't imagine how I'll feel but I imagine DP will be facing into a serious drought 😂

@LucyLoopyLu I know I have no clue if it's advised but literally think it cleared a blockage or something because I would get no CM and then had an insane amount. I thought taking it for just 3/4 days can't hurt I was at my wits end 😂 I'm feeling okay just tired not really any other symptoms yet. How is your TWW going ?

@Nypie totally agree. As proven with us it's just been luck when we've caught!

Good morning

Well AF arrived yesterday so it is on to another cycle for me. Cycle #3

I've ordered preseed for this month as l don't have anything to lose and will happily give it a go!!

Thankfully, COVID didn't affect my cycle so that it a massive relief.

Wishing everyone the best for this month. Congratulations to those with BFPs

@BritishDesiGirl I also used pre-seed this month, im cycle three and im 1DPO but pre-seed was used. Will wait and see if anything helps 😂 I don’t expect miracles but read some brilliant reviews haha!

Me too!! The reviews are why l decided to give it a try.

@BritishDesiGirl the first month I used preseed was when ds was conceived 🤞🤞🤞

@WingingIt09 I'm so sorry :( it's heartbreaking that they won't investigate until after so many losses. I hope you're doing as okay as you can be

@lj2022 congratulations!!! Wonderful news. Will that be an April due date?

I have my 16 week appointment today. Hoping I might get to hear the heartbeat