Preparing to TTC in 2022 - part 5

[WingingIt09]

Hi ladies, we're onto thread 5! I'm afraid I've completely lost track of the list since I took a break off Mumsnet.... so let's make an updated one!

Roll call for those

• TTC graduates.... pregnant ladies who are you and when are you due? Hope you're all doing well

• Actively trying.... what cycle are we all in? Any particular plans for this next one?

• Waiting to TTC.... what month are you planning on starting?

@LemonZestDribbles estimated April 12th but I usually ovulate late so might change at the 12 weeks scan but should be April which is a lovely time as most of our family are all Christmas birthdays or June so nice to have a date that doesn't really clash with anything. Only thing is my dissertation is due around then but I'll just need to try get it in early.

that's great you have your 16 week appointment you must be so excited! Is that a private scan ? Will you find out what you're having ?

@ljlj2022 I agree 3/4 days as a one off would only be how much you would take it when you're ill with a cough anyway so can't be too bad. And it worked for you so happy days!

I'm on CD23 now, probably 6/7 days till AF (last month started early because of my smear I think). It would be much easier if I was regular!

No symptoms, just trying to get on with things as normal. Feeling a bit nervous now as I want it so much

@WingingIt09 I'm so sorry, that's an awful policy! Sending you hugs ❤️

@lj2022 Congratulations!

CD22 for me and I am SO ILL! The little tickle cough that was irritating at the start of last week latched on to my asthmatic lungs and has wrecked me. My throat is raw from coughing, and overall very short of breath.

TTC has taken a backseat because I'm most definitely not in the mood, but me and OH aren't even in the same bed right now- I'm sleeping downstairs on the couch because I have to be upright.

Still on the Provera, looking forward to a new cycle when I'm feeling better.

Oh no @HeathenPlayingHouse sorry to hear you're ill, lots of things going around at the moment especially the dreaded covid

Hope you feel better soon

Thanks for advice re. timing @SarahShorty @Springblooms08 @Dreamingof3 @Nypie @Theawkwardblonde ,. I guess if everything lines up, it just lines up - whether you've DTD once or EOD. Guess the theory behind SMEP is just to maximise your odds by making sure it's not timing that is the issue.

Welcome @Watchingoverme.

@BritishDesiGirl Sorry about AF, but good news that Covid didn't mess up your cycle.

How was the appointment @LemonZestDribbles, did you get to hear the heartbeat?

Sorry you're poorly @HeathenPlayingHouse. As a fellow asthma sufferer, I know anything on the lungs can get pretty nasty! Not surprised ttc has taken a back seat - just focus on getting well!

Hope you're feeling better soon @HeathenPlayingHouse

I ended up in a&e overnight Wednesday as I was so sick and had horrific stomach pains...initially thought it might be my gall bladder but everything came back clear...so now I basically have to wait and see if it continues and is pregnancy related or if its just a bug....hoping for the bug tbh 😅

Oh no @Dreamingof3 that sounds absolutely horrible, hope you're feeling better now. What did the doctors say when they discharged you?

Thanks @Nypie so is day 0 when you’re testing at your peak? I’m testing as low at the moment so will keep testing over next few days to see when it changes!

@Dreamingof3 hope you're okay - that sounds grim!

@LucyLoopyLu they just said everything was clear...bland foods, rest and lots of water. But said to go back if it comes back again.

I'm thinking now might be the time to tell my parents about the pregnancy though as if I'm going to feel this rough I will probably need their help 🙈

@Dreamingof3 sorry you've been unwell and had to go to hospital. Hope you feel better soon.

@Welshgal85 I count the day after my peak as ovulation day so day 0 then day after that would be 1dpo

@LucyLoopyLu @DesertSnow @Dreamingof3 Thank you ❤️

I'm doing ok, got myself a week of antibiotics to try to clear my chest up. Although I found my appointment to get them strange- apparently my local nurse can assess me for a chest infection... without actually listening to my chest!

She said she didn't think I needed them but gave me them anyway because "the weekend", either way I'm hoping they'll help clear it up. The only downside is this particular antibiotic has caused me forehead hives a few times. I'll give it one last try, but if it does it again, I'm going to have to call it an allergy, won't I?

Hope everyone is having a happy Friday!

Thanks @EdinburghGirl1 😊 there’s so much to get my head around with all the planning and abbreviations! 😂 last month day 18 was peak so hopefully if the same this month I’ll count day 19 as 0.

@Dreamingof3 fingers crossed it was a bug and just a one off 🤞

I can definitely see why you might need the extra support from your family. Hard to know when to tell people isn't it?

@HeathenPlayingHouse hope the antibiotics work for you and you're feeling better soon.

I'm starting to feel like I'm out again. 10dpo, AF potentially due on 10th although I feel like it might be 9th based on when I got my peak. I have felt totally normal so far this month (headache for a couple of days after OV, bad skin), but I didn't have any twinges / cramps until today. Now feeling like the little twinges and slight heavy feeling are provably meaning AF is coming in a few days like normal.

I don't want to do a test until I feel like I can be very fairly confident in the result either way. Also only have one and it's a clear blue not FRER so going to leave it till next week and AF might arrive before I test anyway.

@LemonZestDribbles hope everything went okay!!

@Welshgal85 @EdinburghGirl1 exactly that, my app will usually confirm the ovulation once my temp rises so I ovulation day as 0. Do you temp?

@LucyLoopyLu I feel out as well 8dpo a few twinges and pulls today but my chart is pretty flat and I feel like I might just be imagining things

Ahh I feel like were having the worst luck! ❌️

Last month myself and dp had covid and this month dp caught a stomach bug during the fertile period (although still managed to dtd - made him shower before 🤣) and then just after peak fertile period finished, I caught the same bug, predominantly 24 hour vomiting, now recovering!

I am 4DPO, does anyone know if a sickness/diarrhoea bug 🐛 would have any impact of fertilisation/implantation?

I feel like the combination of this bug and last months covid means we're already out!!!

Ahh I feel so disheartened 😔

Sorry to hear you've also been unwell, it could be pregnancy related for sure, although there is a bug going round that I am slowly recovering from (sickness and poopies, awful!)

I hope you get better soon and praying it won't last for you! 🙏

Hey - been super quiet! Waiting for my EWCM to start! CD12 today! We’ve dtd CD9,11&12 so far… I’m not OPK testing this month as I’ve had a peak the last 5 when my EWCM is very
visible so I don’t feel continuous testing is helping or needed! Hopefully it starts up soon! I went for a massage yesterday and have been trying to exercise more to keep down cortisol levels so fingers crossed it’s working! Definitely noticed my digestion is better 🤞🏼

Hey ladies xx

Long post incoming....

Some of you may recall a little while ago I came back on here all happy and relieved when I got my fertility results back. I negated to explicitly mention that my DH had failed to provide a sample. I didn't think it was fair on him to mention it and assumed everything was fine because I had a CP on the first proper try. Unfortunately he had a headache and couldn't perform at the time of testing and we all know the effect headaches can have on erections. It's not his fault.

To cut a long story short, he's been taking tests for at home testing until London Women's Clinic can do proper testing where we live. One of those tests is Exseed which uses the same technology as fertility clinics recommend, ie microscope and a plastic slide etc and the results are, in a word, crap. If anyone wants the numbers, I'll share.

DH is utterly devastated and feels like a complete failure and he's really torn up. We're on cycle 5 now, and we've decided that if this one fails, it's time for plan B - IVF. The upside is that we now know the situation and we can begin treatment sooner rather than wasting anymore time. Maybe it's not that bad and we conceive this time, but we really don't want to keep trying and failing, getting older and tired, when we can go straight for assisted conception and increase chances of success.

I asked my MIL how long it took her to get pregnant and while she told me that everyone's different and to relax (if I had a £1 for everytime someone told me that I'd have.... some money) she then also told me it took her two months to conceive both DH and his brother. This conversation was over text and I just put my phone on the table and broke down.

Admittedly not the best way to end a Saturday, but hey-ho. I have to remain positive; I have been armed with important information and can press on with whatever needs to be done next.

I hope everyone is okay and good luck to everyone in their TWW xx

@SarahShorty I’m so sorry you’ve had this news! It sounds like you’ve had a tough Saturday! Please ignore anyone who tells you to “just relax” as they don’t understand!

I know everything might seem a bit bleak but as you said, you’ve got a plan of action in place, and I believe it’s totally ok to go get help if that’s what’s right for you both!

I didn't know if to post this here as I know some of you guys haven't had the best news this weekend and I feel guilty about this but I haven't spoken to anyone else and I nerd to know ...Line eyes?... Or actual line? 10dpo xx

@SVC11 definite line! Congratulations! Is this your first test or did you test yesterday too I can't remember 😂🤦🏼‍♀️

@Tropicana1 🥰 thank goodness, for real it looks better on the photo than in real life but 🤞🤞i tested yesterday but got a Bfn and I didn't post that here. I was really sick last night so I'm hoping that's a trend that doesn't continue

@SVC11 that's absolutely a line. Congratulations ❤️

@SarahShorty I'm so sorry you've had this news. I think I'd absolutely do the same in your shoes, if you know that a natural conception is going to be more difficult and are able yo go for ivf I think it makes sense to up your chances. Wishing you all the luck for this cycle though and that help isn't needed ❤️🤞