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The TTC Sanctuary - Let's Talk About TTC... the ups, the downs, the fantasy shopping list that is getting bigger even though our tummies aren't...

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BobHoskins · 16/01/2008 09:28

It doesn't matter about which bracket you fit into... you can be trying for your first, or third, have been trying 6 months of 6 years, have PCOS, been on clomid, never been on the pill, IUI, IVF, suffered a lot, or only a little - let's all come together to hope, to dream, to wish and chat with like-minded people.

The only thing I ask... please no gender preference method swapping. Pretty please.

Other than that... let's get going... It's good to talk

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mistlethrush · 14/02/2008 17:25

Hi PG. My ds is 2.10, so not that far from you in terms of age - but we've been trying for 18mo. Hope that you don't have such a long wait!

Ready · 14/02/2008 17:55

Hi everyone! This thread gets so quiet that it falls off my "threads I'm on" list.

Bless you MT for thinking you killed the thread - of course you didn't!! Hope the party planning is going well... meant to say - wonder what it is about ds's friend that is scary - I thought about you this morning, as there was a piece in T2 about imaginary friends

Viksam, how are you? I have been in the hut, not so much recently, but when it first started - but I save it for when I am at a real low ebb - which is what it is for I think

Hi Pinkgirl I am ttc#1... 18 months so far. Good luck this month

mistlethrush · 14/02/2008 18:27

Party planning complicated by the fact that dates have changed for things and now I will be driving back home on the morning of the party. Luckily, the secretary where I work is good at children's cakes, so she has agreed to do the cake, and I will collect it on the way past. Dh will therefore have to get the rest of the party food etc ready (with ds !!!)

Have started thinking about things like party bags etc. Got a great deal on some tissue paper at Costco - fraction of the price that you can get it most other places.

Ds going to party on Saturday. I hope that th present I picked up is OK!

viksam · 17/02/2008 17:02

Hi everyone, just looked in to see how everyone was.
Poppy hope ur ok and your date has come through for ur HSG.
MT glad u feel ur back on track thats good, i think if we let anyone know the extent of out own thoughts they would lock us up at times!!
Hope the party thing is sorted, not sure what its all about but hope it is/was good!!
Ready Im ok, thanks for asking, i am sadly eagerly awaiting the 10th so i can see the consultant and know whats going to happen next. She will have the full diagnosis for not only my L&D but also the scan i had just before. Its all a hideous waiting game isnt it!!
Work has picked up at the moment and I am out and about alot so its nicley keeping my mind off things.

mistlethrush · 17/02/2008 21:30

COOOEEEEE!!!!! Where has everyone got to? This thread fell off my list and I had to go and look for it!

Went to 3rd bday party yesterday with ds at 'soft play' where a lot of bday parties are held - we're aiming to have ds's party at home - good sized garden, so provided that the weather is fine, should be OK. Food is somewhat complicated by the fact that ds is not eating any cows' milk products at the moment. Hopefully a handful of 3 yo will be happy to run round and play in the garden (climbing frame, swings, other stuff)

Still wondering whether to carry on trying, or to call it a day - particularly with the paracetamol issue making any future pregancy potentially problematical...

MrsMattie · 17/02/2008 21:34

Hi everyone. Promised myself I'd stay off these threads, but am having a bad evening and need to vent. We've got a 3 yr old and have been ttc no.2 for 8 months now. I had a miscarriage in October. I'm finding the whole ttc thing increasingly stressful, to be honest, and feel like jacking it in and just trying to be happy with the one fabulous little sprog I've got. Just can't believe that with all the rampant sex we've been having I am yet again feeling pre-menstrual and ready for a hellish week of period pains and knowing we've failed again. It seems like our lives are on hold (mine especially) and I don't think I can take another month of it :-(

mistlethrush · 17/02/2008 22:02

MM join the club - except we've been trying for a bit longer, have had 2mc and ds 2.10! Know exactly where you're coming from. Ds is lovely and seems to be quite bright - is it worth changing things with all the potential there is for problems...

Katie3677 · 18/02/2008 16:40

Can I join in? I have a 3 yr old and have been ttc #2 for almost a year now. Two miscarriages in September and November, so I guess I am not holding out much hope.

mistlethrush · 18/02/2008 16:47

Hi Katie - sorry that you're here but its good to chat about things with other people that are in the same boat I find...

Katie3677 · 18/02/2008 16:55

Thanks. I'm fairly philosophical as I obviously don't have a problem conceiving, it's just trying ot get the little buggers to stick around!

mistlethrush · 19/02/2008 09:19

Its not as bad once you've got one though is it - I mean, if the worst came to the worst, I still have wonderful ds who, at one stage, I never thought we'd get... He is a great comfort and can normally get me smiling again.

Katie3677 · 19/02/2008 10:53

Exactly, and when he is having his tantrums I sometimes wonder why I am trying for another one!

TTCinDisguise · 19/02/2008 10:54

Hiya

how are you all today?

Well I hope!

Whereas Im feeling like shit! lol

mistlethrush · 19/02/2008 20:41

((TTC)) What's up?

mistlethrush · 19/02/2008 20:42

Apart from the obvious of course - we've in the same boat from that point of view...

nomoremagnolia · 05/03/2008 21:41

BUMP
The thread had alomst fallen off the bottom of the page! Where are you all?

mistlethrush · 13/03/2008 09:02

Everyone's gone again!

viksam · 15/03/2008 19:21

I quite liked this one too!!

mistlethrush · 17/03/2008 23:43

I'm still keeping a watch just in case... you never know....

Ready · 18/03/2008 09:36

What is the best... room thermometer? I think this looks cool, and seems to be good value, and also ultra functional!

mistlethrush · 18/03/2008 09:38

If you get a Grobag you get a room thermometer with them which tells you what you should be putting your dc in (in terms of clothes and grobag) depending upon the temperature - very reassuring for 1st timers - as, OK the room is at x temperature, but what on earth does that mean in terms of what a nb dc should be wearing?

Ready · 18/03/2008 09:39

I didn't think newborns were allowed to go in grobags?

mistlethrush · 18/03/2008 10:48

You can put them in quite soon - we did from about 5mo and it was fantastic - you could pick dc up and feed and return in a sleepy state and you wouldn't be putting back down on cold sheets so less likely to wake up.

We ended up swaddling ds quite a bit early on as he tended to thrash around and wake himself up. Probably not surprising since he'd been so restricted toward the end due to size that the sudden freedom was a bit difficult to cope with, particularly when going to sleep.

Those thermometers do look good though. I had a baby alarm that I could look at the temperature on which was also very helpful, and meant that there wasn't any light on in the room most of the time.

Ready · 18/03/2008 13:34

Sound good them grobags

... MT... I know this is a way off, for me, havin' a baby I mean... what items are absolutely necessary, and what items are over-rated (don't mention bugaboos ) and pointless.

Don't worry - you don't have to list a million things - just trying to ignite some conversation - if you want to play

sarah73076 · 18/03/2008 14:41

Hiya, I'd like to join the sanctuary! A parafin wax hand treatment and a glass of wine with a straw for me please. . .

My DP's little brother and his GF just got pregnant...they have only just turned 24 and 21. DP and I are nearly 32. I didn't think it would be so bad, but we were with them over at DP's parents' house and by 10 minutes in I was sooooo sick of hearing about their pregnancy. Then she started complaining about how she couldn't get benefits because she's white and spouted a bunch of racist crap, including being pleased that the BNP took over council in her area. Why is this work-shy, racist, and all around chavtastic GIRL pregnant? Why am I still waiting? I hate being so jealous. I know it's terrible, but I've found myself avoiding friends that are pregnant.

I'm sure others have experienced this too---when you're TTC, it seems like the world is just full of pregnant women and babies, they are everywhere you look! I'm convinced there is a population explosion going on right now.