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The TTC Sanctuary - Let's Talk About TTC... the ups, the downs, the fantasy shopping list that is getting bigger even though our tummies aren't...

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BobHoskins · 16/01/2008 09:28

It doesn't matter about which bracket you fit into... you can be trying for your first, or third, have been trying 6 months of 6 years, have PCOS, been on clomid, never been on the pill, IUI, IVF, suffered a lot, or only a little - let's all come together to hope, to dream, to wish and chat with like-minded people.

The only thing I ask... please no gender preference method swapping. Pretty please.

Other than that... let's get going... It's good to talk

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Ready · 29/01/2008 19:16

Ok, somehow this thread has fallen off my ?threads I am on? ? I thought I had set it for 7 days? That?s two of my threads now? grr.

How is everyone?

Poppy, good luck at your appointment on Thursday. I guess it differs from area to area. My consultant was happy with everything my GP sent over, even called her by her first name, so clearly knew her well. Didn?t need to redo the semen or the Day21 tests as he was content with the results from both. I would say that if there is concern over the tests then they would redo them to make sure that it was not just an off day or something. My consultant basically wanted me to have an HSG as, in his words, ? the eggs are there, the sperm is there, let?s see if there is anything stopping them getting together?. Makes it sound so easy doesn?t it ? so the next step for us was the HSG.
I think it is possible that you will have to have an HSG. The other things are lap and dye or the internal ultrasound, or HyCosy is a new alternative to HSG. I am not being very helpful am I? I guess the first consultation is to meet your gynae and to chat about everything. Your period history, any concerns. Definitely mention the miscarriage. Good luck

poppy75 · 29/01/2008 21:20

Mistlethrush - thanks for info thought they might want to redo everything so good to know they often do so I'll not disappointed when they suggest that.

Ready - I guess the doctors go by whats been done when they trust the GP etc... I'll have to wait and see

Had a great day today, met with friend with 1 toddler and 1 baby spend pm playing and doing fun stuff with them. Wouldn't have felt so positive around babies this time last year so much better now. Then went for dinner with some other friends! Wish I had afternoons off work everyday, so much more civilised!

mistlethrush · 30/01/2008 11:30

Poppy - lets hope they don't - but Hosp bascially said that they did more sophisticated tests than Dr (?) - each time of course it meant having appointment to be told what tests you needed to get done - then getting an appointment for the tests - then getting another appointment to review the results and talk about possible next stage etc - it does all take rather a long time to actually get anywhere sometimes!

Ready · 30/01/2008 16:36

Sounds like you had a lovely day Poppy Fingers crossed everything goes well for you this week, and the consultant is lovely, and relaxes you and makes you feel like you are on the right track

nomoremagnolia · 30/01/2008 18:47

My experience of tests is very different - I had day 1 and day 21 blood tests done at gp's which showed I wasn't ov'ing - hospital were more than happy to take this at face value and didn't ask to repeat it. Same for DH's sperm test - requested by gp (actually taken to hospital and results back to gp). Hospital did say they wanted to re-test DH but then said if they were referring us for IVF anyway then the IVF centre would do the tests themselves

poppy75 · 31/01/2008 15:33

Hello guys - had the appointment with a really nice doctor. Took all my test results along incase didn't have them as at a different hospital.

Basically they are happy with the GP tests so all I have to have now is a day 1 FSH and if that is ok then book in for a HSG.

So hopefully if I get organised I can have the blood test in Feb and hopefully HSG at end of feb or march.

So relieved we don't have to have another round of tests before the HSG. I have this theory that there is something going on with my tubes! Especially the left one!!! makes me sound like a real wierdo but we shall see!

So pleased things are starting to move along - you are right it does make you feel slightly more in control, ttc does make you feel like you are totally losing it and in freefall sometimes

Ready how was your HSF? I know Viksam said that the lap and dye can clear small blockages, does the HSF do anything at all?

Viksam hope you are feeling better after your op

viksam · 31/01/2008 19:30

Hi everyone,
Sorry i havent been on for ages, my computer has been poorley, DH is out tonight so can jump on his! I took my dressings off on saturday and was surprised to find that they had gone through my belly button!! I was horrified at first coz it looked horrid but now its a bit clearer its ace,it means i wont have a scar, the other incision is very low down and tiny so really doesnt matter. I am badly bruised around the belly button and the shoulder pain lasted through till the sunday, so 3 days but i was well enough to go back to work on monday(op was on thurs)although a bit tired.
Poppy sounds like ur appointment was positive, funnily enough its my left tube thats blocked. I have heard of superfertility after L&D but not so sure in my case due to them not being able to blast the blockage away. One of the reasons i argued with my sister is because she asked me if the tube was dead...........i thought that was really insensitive, now all i can picture is that its like a worm thats been out in the sun too long, funny i know, but horrid too! I have had my appointment through for 11th March, feels like ages away, im sure it will come round quickly. My consultant gave me the choice between HSG and L&D but steered me towards L&D due to never having any pg at all i think. Also have to go back to Docs for further blood tests re thyroid, as i am now on Thyroxin for underactive thyroid. If that hasnt been mentioned its worth having that checked out too. Hope everyone is ok and glad, like i am, that Jan is over, its been a very strange month, glad to see the back of it!!

mistlethrush · 04/02/2008 09:25

What's happened over the weekend - all the thread's I'm on have disappeared due to inaction!

I had an excuse - playing in a concert on Saturday so no access to computer from Friday until now - what's everyone else's excuse?

viksam · 04/02/2008 18:12

I have a good excuse my computer is virused up....still, and my DH's computer broke down therefore the whole floor was covered in computer insides for the weekend, nice!
mistlethrush what sort of concert were u playing in? Was it a success?
nomore have u been refered for IVF?
Has anyone else started down that route? I only ask because as time goes on i feel that might have to be our route, so would be nice to hear anyone elses experiences.
Glasto What was the pampering like the other weekend, did you have a lovely relaxing day like it sounded like?
Im feeling absolutly fine now, just waiting for th stitch to come out. My appointment came through for the 11.3.08 seems like ages away at the moment, im sure it will go quickly. Hows everyone else doing??

poppy75 · 04/02/2008 19:11

Hello guys

Viksam - yes it was good but since the appointment I have been over anaylsing everything. What do they do if your FSH is too high??? Feeling alittle bit rubbish today, am wondering why all of us have to go through all these tests etc... Used to be carefree etc... now am focused on ovulation, test results etc.. Would like to go back to before all this happened and I was blissfully unaware of all this!!

viksam · 04/02/2008 20:56

poppy* i sooooooooo know what you mean about over analyzing, my god, if people could be in my head they would think i was a loony!! I am really struggling with seeing chavs with kids they dont really want at the moment, it totally does my head in. I totally sympathise with how you are feeling, but it will pass and soon you will feel better, honest! Im not too sure what they do if FHS is too high but there will be something im sure. I would like to go back too, and i think all this sucks, i struggle to keep my head above water and dont let my husband know how i feel most of the time for fear of him thinking he is married to a loony. I did wake up the other night and have a good cry and he was ace. So ur not on ur own, thats why its good here, i dont post alot but to know there are a load of like minded people is really good.

mistlethrush · 05/02/2008 15:51

Viksam - been there, done that... Got to the top of the NHS IVF list twice - got bfp 3 days or so before the appointment at which the actual day of starting would have been set, so know exactly what you're going through at the moment.

Also commiserate on the - came out of Asda and saw heavily pregnant woman smoking: was very

Saturday - orchestral concert. Went well

nomoremagnolia · 05/02/2008 20:54

Hi girls
Just lurking still but wanted to say hi to viksam and popsy Hang in there both of you

viksam · 07/02/2008 22:58

poppy How are u feeling?

Thanks nomore its difficult at times isnt it.

MS god, that sucks, are u back on the list now?

where has everyone gone???

mistlethrush · 08/02/2008 15:12

Viksam - no, not back on list. Went to recurrent mc clinic yesterday - they were very reassuring and will give very regular early scans for reassurance which will be so good. Have had blood tests and dh has got to have some too - but apparently the chances are that everything is OK. One of the possible things that they might normally suggest is off-limits for me due to previous mp (hormone treatment), so will have to go and see what they have to say when get the test results back.

Ready · 08/02/2008 21:53

For some reason this thread fell off my list. Tut.

How is everyone??

Viksam, don't get me starts about chavs with babies. I get so - dh tells me off for being so bitter. And I know he is right, but it is just so unfair!!

mistlethrush · 09/02/2008 20:45

Hi Ready... also feeling a bit and - appointment Thurs for recurrent mc was at epu - so lots of pg people around, some of them young enough to be my own child ,,. Too many pg people around too.

Ready · 09/02/2008 20:46

MT, I am with you... I remember when I went to see the gynae about the results of my HSG, I was in the waiting room for far too long with loads of pregnant women waiting to see their midwives - should be different waiting rooms I think! It's not fair.

mistlethrush · 09/02/2008 20:56

I know, but you can hardly ban pg women from walking around in public just in case one of us is passing and feeling particularly blue and at the time...!

Ready · 09/02/2008 21:02

No. But they can have separate waiting rooms when there are going to be women struggling with fertility sitting with heavily pregnant women - it's not really a sensitive way to handle things.

mistlethrush · 09/02/2008 21:10

Yes I agree wholeheartedly. Even worse when you're having scan to confirm mc. However, at the moement having most problem with 'rl' - at least can prepare for hospital situations. Although I nearly murdered the chav outside A&E on the way to my appointment who had just got outside the door and was struggling to light up as she had a c. 5 - 7mo baby in her arms. arghhhhh!!!!!!! Life's not fair is it.

mistlethrush · 12/02/2008 08:42

Have I killed this thread !??

viksam · 12/02/2008 22:01

no i hope not, i liked this one!!!although everyone seems to be in the hut.

mistlethrush · 13/02/2008 09:03

I've poked my head in there a few times but decided not to stay and get a deeper shade of indigo with the others there.

How are you Viksam? I also don't let dh know everything that's going on in my head, although it is good sometimes to talk about things. I know after my first mc (and subsequent mp) he was devastated too, but he was also very supportive. 15 months ago I didn't tell him for sometime that I was worried that mp coming back (levels not dropping after mc) - and I think that the whole thought of another possible mp put him off for ages - I think that he was employing the rhythm method very effectively which isn't v. helpful when you want to get bfp! Hopefully back on track now, especially with promise of very early scans and continuing support from recurrent mc dept.

pinkgirl30 · 14/02/2008 13:11

hi i have a daughter whi is 2 and a half years. have been trying for n.o 2 since 31st of jan came straight off pill so hoping i get pregnant quickly.
due 26 th of this month
hello everybody