The TTC Sanctuary - Let's Talk About TTC... the ups, the downs, the fantasy shopping list that is getting bigger even though our tummies aren't...

[BobHoskins]

It doesn't matter about which bracket you fit into... you can be trying for your first, or third, have been trying 6 months of 6 years, have PCOS, been on clomid, never been on the pill, IUI, IVF, suffered a lot, or only a little - let's all come together to hope, to dream, to wish and chat with like-minded people.

The only thing I ask... please no gender preference method swapping. Pretty please.

Other than that... let's get going... It's good to talk

Actually, while I'm a a roll, I'll have another grump -
We have told our parents about the impending fertility treatment, because they needed to know (childcare issues, and PIL have been nice enough to give us some money to help out). We don't want people knowing generally though, even the select few who know that we have problems, because it's quite unlikely that I'll get pregnant, and basically I just don't want the pressure of everyone wondering/asking if I'm up the duff.
So... DH was on the phone last night, and PIL were asking if they could tell SIL about the treatment. The answer was no, it's on a need-to-know basis only. They were not happy and were telling DH how upset SIL would be that she wasn't told! Who cares! SIL and DH are not particularly close and shouldn't it be my needs that are met (and then DH's in that order and no-one bloody else's)??? Why should I have to be worrying about SIL at such a stressful time? All she wants is the gossip value.

Thanks mummy2olivia, I will pop out at lunch time and get something containing guaifenisin

I'm on CD14 but not OV'd yet. Expecting to OV on CD16 or CD17. We've BD'd so far on days 10, 11, & 13. DH has been told he's being roped into service on days 15, 17 & 18 also . Poor fella. I feel awfully demanding but I have to be as he doesn't respond to subtle hints. He actually said last night he loves the fact I'm being demanding!

Hoping that with all the BD'ing this will be our month

I have SIL issues too- although mine just makes me look fat we are the same weight but she is 6 inches taller. and pg.

tittlemouse- you are right, it is absolutely your choice who you tell. Saw your other thread- have you tried IVF world.com?

glastogirl- get that cough med down you NOW!!

We call sex around OV a 'donation' and any other time its a bog standard shag!! If I ask for a donation he knows what position to go for, to make me orgasm afterwards and to grab my legs after and hold them up. saves any confusion!!!

Hi i'm a mum of 2dd 7 & 8yrs....we have been ttc#3 for 6 mths (also sufferd MC)... well except this month as i ov'd yest, and have been floored with a bug so i think i'm out this month as we have had no bd since sat.. But i know how the pregnancy announcments affect you...we have someone who had a baby just over a year ago............(i was jealous because we wanted ttc since 2yrs ago but had to wait) anyway in sep she announced she was pg again due in march and has done nothing but moan about how she hates being pg and how she hates the baby stage and how miserable she is to be pg again FFS !! i feel like slapping her an telling her how lucky she is but i just smile and say nothing...anyway i'm dreading it coz she has asked us to look after her baby while she is in labour and i am sick at the thought of seeing this new baby as i fear i will go to pot and cry my eyes out......................It is such an emotional rollercoaster i feel like my life is on hold right now..................................Sorry for the rant X

Tell her no! There is no obligation for you to look after her DB. If there is no-one else around who could possibly do it, then it would be a really nice thing to do, but otherwise why put yourself throught the stress?

I was reading on the baby centre site that cough medicine can also dry up cm so i have been trying to avoid it and drink lots of water and me and dp are both taking evening primrose oil as that is supposed to help (TMI alert) it has def helped i have really been a lot more moist in that department !

this a quote from the site about CM.

"No matter what's causing your dryness, drinking lots of water and avoiding antihistamines and the cough and cold medicines that dry up mucous membranes. may increase your amount of cervical mucus. On the other hand, taking cough medicines that contain "expectorants" that thin mucus could help. "

www.babycentre.co.uk/preconception/suspectingaproblem/mucusexpert/

BM2 - I know exactly what you mean. I saw a mum I know from coffee mornings outside nursery the other day and said the usual how are you etc - and she said she was expecting - and that it would mean 2 under two

Well FFS - if you didn't want 2 under 2 you know exactly what you should have done about it.

And just to top it all she's due when I would have been if no mc this autumn. Unfortunately I couldn't think of anything to say I was so gobsmacked at her eye rolling and attitude - and I don't normally mention mc but I would have done to her if I'd been thinking straight.

I think last time I was so glad to be pregnant that I didn't care that I felt crap and I don't think anyone except occasionally dh got any moaning...

Thats the thing- you must use a cough med containing ONLY guaifenisin. no other active ingredients.

I have a friend expecting no.2 and she does nothing but moan and tummy rub. She knows we are ttc but never asks about that- its always me me me and how tired she is and how sick she feels. She even told me to hurry up and get on with it so we could have matty leave together. I'd rather not ta!

She does not have anyone at all.her family live in england, we are in scot...we are really their only friends that they see and trust...(well as far as i know). I have agreed and my RL best friend says i should not have agreed also(but more because she really dislikes her), but i feel so guilty as i know they dont have anyone else.

Just googled guaifenisin and found that Sudafed contains it, but also pseudoephedrine hydrochloride as an active ingredient. Does that mean that Sudafed should not be used?

dont use sudafed hun- use benylin or robitussin

Exactly mistle! it really grates on me..i know when you are pg you have a wee moan of how tired you are and stuff thats normal but she is full blown i hate this and i hate that of being pg..and keeps saying how dissapointed she is because the last baby was a ds and this one is a dd and now she cant use the same baby clothes blah blah!! I would give anything just to have a little bundle no matter the sex.

M2O ahh so thats what it is ! i will need to raid my medicine now and read the labels. Thx

You are all so clever on here ... I would have been suffering through this bug/flu thing otherwise x yay i have benylin.

Can I come in?? No-one's talking about the Shettles method are they?

I am feeling incredibly low and emotional at the moment, so a Sanctuary is just what I need. Good on you Bob ? (s)he?s right?. it?s good to talk

Hi. My name is Ready, I am 28 and have been ttc my first baby for 17 months.

Nice to meet you Spink, MrsKitVonD, BroodyBaby, MrsTittleMouse, Glastochick, and Broodymumof2 ? and lovely to see some friendly faces that I already know, Nomoremagnolia and Mistlethrush

And a

Big wave to Ammy (can?t help calling you that either), so pleased that married life is treating you well ? it rocks doesn?t it . Lovely to see you

MrsTittleMouse, on your behalf at being questioned about who you want to know your personal information. Stick to your guns!

Rant away as much as you like Broodymumof2, some people are so insensitive!!

Hello Ready!!! I'm sorry you are still here hun

Hows it all going??

Yeah, still here. Trying my best, but at the moment, lowest I have ever been 17 cycles, and CD1 of number 18 looks set to start on Friday/Sat. So gutted. But so chuffed that you are loving married life. Tell us about your wedding day

I think that I'm lucky that DH fended them off without referring to me and how much pressure I feel under - he told them that he works that way. Lovely DH. Shame I couldn't help hearing the conversation and how bloody long he spent listening to them go on and on...

DH is also very sensible and tells me how lucky we are to have DD (which we are - it took 8 rounds of fertility treatment). He also told me how lucky I was to be healthy when I was pregnant, as I did have a bit of a moan. I felt bloody awful throughout the whole thing, but we had friends who had dreadful health problems, so I knew he was right. Just wish that he could have felt how I felt sometimes!

Sorry to hear that ready.

Wedding day was beautiful- lovely sunny winters day. Unfortunately though my best mate/cheif bridesmaid was rushed into hosp the night before with an ectopic pg but that was the only downer although a pretty major one. she is ok now- well as ok as you can be!!

We have been ttc PROPERLY since aug- am having acupuncture now and casting spells off ebay

Do get pretty low but trying my very very hardest to be very very positive.

benylin or robitussin it is then. Boots, here I come

Hi Ready nice to meet you...thanks for reading my rant! sorry to hear that you are feeling low {{big hug}} now your turn to rant!...

I'm back on the accupuncture too - restricted myself to once a month as otherwise I'd go every week and its too expensive! However, if I do get a bfp at any stage in the future I'm going to bring my appointment further forward - didn't have treatment in the autumn between finding out and mc - don't know whether it will help, but did go fairly early on with ds.

I've just had a thought - I can bring some steaming cups of hot chocolate and dark chocolate digestives along. Anyone else?

(I can't in rl - allergic to chocolate, intolerant to milk, on diet - so nice to be able to try some for a change on this thread)