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The TTC Sanctuary - Let's Talk About TTC... the ups, the downs, the fantasy shopping list that is getting bigger even though our tummies aren't...

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BobHoskins · 16/01/2008 09:28

It doesn't matter about which bracket you fit into... you can be trying for your first, or third, have been trying 6 months of 6 years, have PCOS, been on clomid, never been on the pill, IUI, IVF, suffered a lot, or only a little - let's all come together to hope, to dream, to wish and chat with like-minded people.

The only thing I ask... please no gender preference method swapping. Pretty please.

Other than that... let's get going... It's good to talk

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Ready · 19/01/2008 17:49

Me too Shreksmissus, I always cheer up with a good face mask

shreksmissus · 19/01/2008 17:57

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Ready · 19/01/2008 18:00

I don't drink red, but I am partial to white or rose ... I think anything goes here (except gender preferences I think ) so be as much of an alkie as you like

mistlethrush · 21/01/2008 09:20

Back at work - not been able to get on over the weekend (starts Thur lunchtime in terms of 'work')..

Lissie - when in April - ds born on 6/4/05, so probably very similar timescales...

Shreksm's - 2.8 - May?

I agree re the gender selection. Before this conception lark started taking so long and causing so many problems, I really wanted a girl - probably because my mother and I have a really good relationship, and of course the clothes are really cute. When pregnant I got to the stage in the middle that I didn't really mind either way, and at the end it turned out well that it was ds as the name we'd both agreed on was male and it was so nice to say hello with his name... Now, really don't care. Would in some ways like a girl, but in other ways a boy would be good (use same clothes more, probably stand up to ds better in the long term??) - I really don't mind!

glastochick · 21/01/2008 10:04

Happy birthday lissielou

Hi Shreksmissus. I know what you mean about the of all those BFPs. I feel really pleased for them, but deep down I wish it was me too

Got a positive on my OPK on Friday (CD16). Was so pleased to see it I had a stupid grin on my face for ages . All I could think was 'my body works'! Seeing as we BD'd on CD15, and again on CD17 & 18 I'm hoping that egg had no chance of escaping. DH asked if we could keep this up and of course I said yes. I'm trying to tell myself that it's not over until the red lady sings . Now have to stop myself worrying that I may not have a long enough luteal phase [sigh emoticon]

shreksmissus · 21/01/2008 10:21

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mistlethrush · 21/01/2008 10:30

So that's 3 April 05 dcs on this thread! Not bad for a thread with no dates or months in the title...

Ds at the beginning of April - which meant that there was a bit of a problem with his birthday party last year as it fell on Easter Saturday - 10 then another 10 children invited - 3 attendees - which was actually ideal for a 2nd party. All had a great time playing on the new climbing frame and (existing) swings and enjoyed all of the food. Ds talked about his cake for a long time (bear sunbathing with sun glasses on). Now we've got to try to work out who his friends are that he would like to invite this year which is a real tightrope. Its particularly difficult as he often plays with children slightly older than him - so I hope that he gets invited to their parties earlier, otherwise will feel at inviting them to his... . He has booked a dragon cake (at the moment) so my mother and I will have to get geared up to making it!

nomoremagnolia · 21/01/2008 17:10

Happy birthday lissie Hope you're having a good day

Ready · 21/01/2008 17:25

happy birthday Liss Hope you are having a marvellous day.

mistlethrush · 21/01/2008 22:16

Sorry, missed that earlier Lissie - Happy Birthday!

mistlethrush · 21/01/2008 22:18

and at Lissie being only 30 as I'm going to be 40 later this year - definitely not fair!!!!!

Ready · 23/01/2008 12:10

I need some pampering... exfoliating mask, pedicure, manicure and massage. CD1 of my 18th cycle ttc #1 - pretty low today.

nomoremagnolia · 23/01/2008 13:13

Ready my love, it's all here for you - a full body massage, facial, manicure, pedicure, full use of the spa, sauna, steam room, a big fluffy robe for you to wear and unlimited wine
Hope you feel more yourself soon but don't apologise for feeling down.
Big hugs x

mistlethrush · 23/01/2008 13:44

[hands in chocolate cake with lots of double cream and strawberries]

viksam · 23/01/2008 20:00

Hi everyone, i had a phone call from the hospital today saying they have a cancellation for my lap and dye, which has been cancelled twice, TOMORROW. I, of course, accepted but am now shitting it, for want of a better phrase! Have any of you guys had it done? If so, any advice????

mistlethrush · 24/01/2008 12:24

viksam - hope its gone well and that you're recovering OK. Have you already had comments or do you have to go back for them?

Ready I've found some cherry brandy - might go rather well with the chocolate cake...

glastochick · 24/01/2008 17:48

Hi viksam, how did it go?

Glasto walks in with cakes and tea

Had a strop earlier - far too impatient waiting for next week when AF is due. I want to TEST, TEST, TEST!

No symptoms apart from mild period type pains and bizarre dreams. Been worrying that my luteal phase is too short. Wish I could stop obsessing about every little thing!

DH has been a dear. Was a bit grumpy yesterday so when I got home he told me he's booked me a facial and a back massage on Saturday and I'm to then spend the rest of the day relaxing

Ready · 24/01/2008 18:57

Did someone mention cakes and tea? Me me me. Please and cherry brandy woo.

How is everyone?

You know I am not going to condone early testing Glasto, hang in there. Keeping everything crossed for you Very of your dh to book you some pampering to take your mind off it. I need some of that I think

Viksam, sorry I wasn?t about to wish you good luck for the lap and dye ? how did you get on? Tell us all about it. I only had an HSG, which was stressful enough. Is the lap and dye under general anaesthetic? Hope you are feeling ok?

viksam · 25/01/2008 08:22

glosto wow you have a lovely DH mine is fab but would never think of doing that, I'll be interested to see if i get flowers today or not, i should imagine or not is most likley!
Anyhow L&D.........It went well, had to wait at the hospital for AGES got there at 10.30 had the Op at 3 didnt go home till 8ish, Had to wiat for the doc to come round. She told me i have part of my bowel stuck to my stomach, wierd. But also and more importantly only one tube is open she could tell me that when they inserted the dye in didnt go up the tube at all. Thats ali on the left hand side and could have been caused by an infection that i didnt even know i had. Not an STD though i asked, as to my knowledge i have never suffered one of those. She couldnt tell me about any treatment she was only there to pass on the outcome. I will get an appointment with my specialist in around 6 weeks time to discuss the next step. I am gona do some research on the net today to see whats what. As for how i feel......Ummm not that bad considering, strangly it does hurt in your shoulders, like a really bad muscle strain, its ok if you keep still, there is a bit of bleeding but nothing to worry about and my abdomen feels sore and the stitch is pinching a bit but apart from that im amazed how well i feel. If anyone has to have one, dont worry its not as bad as all that, really. Thanks for ur well wishing, ill keep u posted! x

viksam · 25/01/2008 08:28

god, i reread and corrected my sp errors too but clearly didnt do it properly!!
Sorry glAsto.

Ready · 25/01/2008 15:44

viksam, I am sorry to hear that you have a tube that is not open but I suppose the good news is that at least now you know, and something can be done. I thought that usually they clear any blockages during the procedure, is this not the case then? Strange about your bowel being stuck to your stomach, is that something that can (if needed) be rectified? Pleased to hear you don't feel too sore - but make sure you rest plenty anyway. Good luck at your next appointment, here's to a quick 6 weeks

viksam · 25/01/2008 19:37

Thanks ready i think they can clear small blockages within the proceedure, but not too sure about mine. The doc that came around wasnt in the surgery so only know the bare facts really. The bowel thing is a bit wierd, dont think that anything needs to be done there, didnt even know, strange! There are several proceedures that can be done re the blockage, it all depends where the blockage is or if maybe the area needs cutting out and rejoining so will wait for my appointment before endless speculation via the net.
I have just had a giant row about it with my sister. I think i have dealt with it quite well so far and have looked up what the next steps might be, but due to the fact that i dont know the details its not worth trying to look it up, u can drive urself mad looking and wondering, i know i have been there and so have most of you guys im guessing. She was pestering me about what might happen next and didnt understand that i just wanted to leave it alone for a bit, so we argued, didnt really need that tonight to be honest. I suspect i am a bit highly strung at the moment but you just dont need someone pushing ur buttons, is that unreasonable. I feel bad now coz she is upset......but so am i.....Oh families eh!

mistlethrush · 28/01/2008 09:43

Viksam - I know exactly what you mean. In fact, one of my friends who is a consultant in the field, specifically told us not to look at the internet at one stage as, if you started following one route, you could end up scaring yourself horrendously. As it happens, I should have read that one, but there we go! Really glad to hear that they can do something about it - its a shame that you have to wait so long for your appointmnet though!

I've had an HSG - not a particularly pleasant experience. I think that the consultant's comment 'there, that wasn't too bad was it' was a bit rich - I don't think that you should be 'allowed' to say that unless you have had whatever the proceedure is done to you (not possible in the circumstances)!

poppy75 · 28/01/2008 19:39

Hello - Viksam what sort of tests did you go through before having your scan?

I am going to my first clinic appointment on Thursday. Have been ttc since July 06 when had mc at 10 weeks. We have had blood tests and sperm analysis through GP. Would really like further investigations now, do they make you retake all the tests? What should I ask at my consultation?

Sorry about all the questions don't seem to bring myself to talk to everyone in RL. It brings me down so MN is so much better for real info.

Can understand that you just want to give yourself time at the moment. A friend of mine had a lap and dye, one tube had small blockage but she fell pregnant two weeks afterwards before she had any treatment! So you never know

mistlethrush · 28/01/2008 21:54

Poppy - when we had all the tests, yes, had them at Doctors and then redone at hospital (despite having info from the Doctors) - and had to have tests each time we restarted on the list....