One year+ TTC part 3

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Hey ladies - new thread here we come! Changed it from 9 months+ seeing as we're pretty much all over a year of TTC now (boo!)

Feel free to add anyone else I may have forgotten 😊

@Carla2601
@lemons44
@LucyAnne34
@NatW2021
@Indianna2006
@KatieLooLa
@Hoping43
@Flyonthewall89

Newbies welcome too! Just a bunch of lovely ladies going through a tough time TTC and having a good old time venting and supporting one another 😊

@Koalie yes, with the finger prick I'm just not sure I could actually get myself to do it haha! I'll just get a normal blood draw from a clinic where I can pass out on the couch if I decide to go.

Wow that's a lot for the DNA frag test but I suppose it is worth it to have all the answers. I would go for it, I'm definitely on team get ALL the info.

@NatW2021 just wanted to say I had period pains for two days before I got my BFP, and even after I got my BFP! I tested when I was one day late so I could just get the sadness over and done with and was so shocked it was positive. So I think don't count yourself out! Fingers crossed for you x

I'm so sick of the 2WW I always think every little niggle is something and it never is . Very hard not to get hopes up and then be crushed .

Hi Ladies - still no AF, i did a test on FRER yesterday and was negative as predicated 😔 my temp dropped a bit today and still getting pains so hopefully it shows up soon so i can just get on with it. First time ive ever been late but either stress or letrozole x

AF arrived this morning, im so sad but least i can get on with the next cycle. I am just so hopeless and feel so out of control and feel so overwhelmed. I have tried almost everything, supplements, thyroid medication, diet changes/nutritionist, accupunture at Christmas and currently doing it again now, Hycosy, leyrozole the list is endless and i just dont know how long to keep going naturally, do i just go ivf or carry on for another 8 months till its at the 2 year mark?

I am 35 in a few weeks and just feel it will never happen. 💔

Sorry for your loss too @JSS15 it really is just so hard!

@NatW2021 I'm so sorry your AF came. Sending you a massive virtual hug as I know how shitty it is and that feeling of 'will it ever happen?'. Have a glass of wine tonight and try to take a deep breath ❤️ we're all here for u!

Not much to update on here but I have booked a consultation with another IVF clinic for 13th December. Our surgical speed retrieval is booked for 1st December and I'm kind of worried I've jinxed it as I've booked an IVF consultation without knowing if we have any sperm! But I'm just so sick of waiting that I'm trying to move one step ahead.

The clinic I've booked with also does NHS IVF. Does anybody know anything about the NHS IVF applications? I read the GP can do it and wondered if I could get our GP to fill one in with all our private test results. Or can the clinic do it? I was going to pay for the access fertility package privately but if we could get the NHS funding that would be better. We haven't even had our NHS fertility referral come through yet so I don't know if I can bypass this step.

Just need a vent today ☹️
Just had a message in a group chat of yet another pregnancy announcement. I have plastered on a fake smile and done the whole 'OMG congrats!' message so many times before that I'm just exhausted and can't even muster the energy to reply to this one yet. I just feel like I want to scream, lash out and cry 😢 these are all my friend's second babies too. And here I am not even knowing if we can have one ☹️

@lemons44 Thank you for your support yesterday, i had a rubbish day and cried alot, which i haven't done in a while but i feel a bit better today.

I think your appointment is worth going for, i am not sure on timelines and what next steps will be with the NHS if you jump the initial tests etc. i know NHS can be great and i know its a difficult decision but its how long it all takes with the NHS that puts me off, and i suppose its how long you are willing to give it, i am at the end if my tether now and just dont know if i can be dealing with all the extra waiting round that comes with the NHS plus time is ticking on for me at being almost 35.

Sorry about your announcement today, its utterly shit and i don't blame you for holding off, do your friends know what your going through?

After my shit day yesterday my brother sent me 3d videos and pictures of the baby, they are having a girl, all i keep thinking about it holding her when shes born and bursting into tears, i just cant be around all the fuss and excitement, i feel myself just wanting to be alone and i know its not good x

@lemons44 sending you lots of love - it’s so bloody hard having to constantly put on a brave face. It’s ok to have a scream and cry. Two of my friends have had second babies in last 2 weeks and I haven’t even managed to send congratulations cards yet because I think I’m just blocking it out!

@JSS15 welcome but sorry you’ve found yourself here.

@NatW2021 so sorry AF arrived; I’m due on this week and am not even entertaining the idea that this might be our lucky cycle, wish it would just hurry and arrive so I can book my HSG xx

Sending you guys lots of hugs. This thread really needs a BFP again soon xx

How is everyone? @FlyOnTheWall89 have you had your appointment yet? X

@Tinkerbell098 sorry x

Hi @NatW2021 I'm feeling a bit more positive again.

We have our sperm retrieval on 1st Dec so only a week and a half, and I have booked an IVF consultation with a new clinic on 13th Dec. I was worried I am jinxing it because obviously there is not guarantee we will find sperm. But I wanted to be proactive and think positively!

We have had all our paperwork and consent for the procedure so it is such a relief that after almost 5 months we are finally going to have it!

How are u doing?

@lemons44 Glad to hear you are feeling a bit better, definitely think it helps having appointments to keep focused on and you have waited long enough and its almost here at last.

I am doing ok, i finished my Letrozole yesterday so i am going into my FW soon, really cant be bothered this month and if i wasnt on the meds i would be having a month off, i have just lost all hope and i just feel like a shadow of my former self at the moment. Not much to do expect trying and i have nexr sumner as milestone for IVF x

@NatW2021 I think you just need to be really kind to yourself at the minute and allow yourself that time to feel down and sad. It's a hard journey and we can't all feel positive all the time, that's just not human. I had a really bad day the other day and felt like instead of fighting it I just surrendered to it. Cried a lot and cancelled all my plans to sit on the sofa and have cuddles with my dog. It was just what I needed instead of bottling it up. I normally like trying to look on the bright side but sometimes I don't have the energy to and just want to cry about how shit it all is, and that's ok. I've also stopped feeling bad about not seeing pregnant friends. I have to put my own mental health first in order to cope with it all and that's just the way it is and I've accepted that now. Sending hugs xxxx

We are going to need a new thread girls! Does anybody else want to start it or should I? Xxx

By the way just to add to my last message where I said I'm not seeing my pregnant friends. I LOVE hearing from our BFP and pregnant ladies on here as you all know the struggle. For me it is completely different and I find it amazing and hopeful hearing from you all ❤️ and you're our cheerleaders!! xx

Hi all :)
Sorry I’ve been absent from here. I seem to be struggling with this journey more than ever at the moment. 😔 it’s O day for me today and I’m to ring the clinic when my next period comes so could be our last try naturally before starting IVF (although it’s not clear what happens next or why they want me to ring them on CD1 if they’ve not yet had my NHS funding 🤔)
I’ve been speaking to a friend who had IVF and she’s written me a list of things they did in the run up like having a clear out of any hazardous beauty products, taking impryl etc. I’ve downloaded an app called Yuka where you scan the barcode of your products and it tells you whether they’re dangerous or not and gives you recommendations for alternatives if they are so I’ve had a good clear out and also got myself a water filter. 😇 so we are making all the changes in preparation, it’s just all quite daunting and nerve wracking and I feel unusually emotional these past couple of weeks. I’m usually a just get on with it kind of person and am able to put my feelings aside and carry on but it’s all taking its toll at the moment. Maybe it’s the weather if we’re all feeling it 😆 sending you all lots of love X

Just wanted to say I remember vividly how awful the TTC journey was and I'm thinking of you all. I'm sorry it's a struggle for you all at the moment, but completely understand it's peaks and troughs and you just have to surrender to your feelings sometimes. I echo what @FlyOnTheWall89 said, it's about time there was a BFP on this thread again! Checking in regularly on you all and have everything crossed for each and every one of you, no matter what your journey is xx

Hi everyone! I hope you won’t mind me joining. Been TTC on and off for a year but properly for 5 months now and really trying hard and…crickets! I have endometriosis so have convinced myself I have secondary infertility and the gyn I saw just suggested going back on contraception and then laughed when he remembered I was at the appt to discuss not getting pregnant.

I’m surrounded by babies and pregnant ladies right now it seems like! There’s been a huge baby boom and the announcements are constant.

@NatW2021 @lemons44 sorry you girls are feeling so low. I know the feeling very well and please remember you’re not alone and we get it. Let’s get through this together X

@Koalie i was the same the cycle before we started ivf. I stressed about it/ was sad about it for so long my period was actually delayed because of it (I’m spot on usually). I was sad when my OH was preparing the first injection and cried a bit as I never thought it would come to this. But at the same time, knew this would take us a step closer to getting our little one one day. I was right in that this was the first time I’d ever seen a BFP in my life. I know the outcome wasn’t great but it was the closest we’d ever been. The whole ivf experience (except the MC of course) really wasn’t as bad as I’d ever imagined. Next to no side effects and it was over before I knew it. Please ask any questions you may have to put your mind at ease. Fingers crossed you won’t have to go through it and this cycle would be the lucky one for you, but if you have to, don’t panic about it. It’s really not that bad X

Hi all,

New thread before we run out of space:

One year+ TTC part 4 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/4681385-one-year-ttc-part-4

@Tophy124 I'm so sorry you are going through this too! It's so tough. Have you and your OH had any investigations?

Thanks @Tinkerbell098 ❤️

See you all in the new thread!

Hey ladies,

hope you don't mind me jumping on your thread, it's my first IVF cycle and just thought it would be nice to have somewhere to turn for support and advise.

Due to mediation shortage I have had a change in plans and got prostap injection 11/01/2023 instead of starting Burserelin.

Anyone else had this before? I've not had much information from the clinic about what to expect from the prostap think it's their first time using it as well.

@TW6 you might be better in the infertility board... 1 person is currently going through IVF, lots of us originals finally got pregnant after a long slog, some with some medical intervention, some not and some are either still waiting for their BFP or beginning investigations.... this is on PART4 of this group x

Hi guys, spent 3 days literally reading from thread 1 from OP britinNZ. Absolutely amazing thread and very positive I was hooked and she’d a tear from the BFPs that emerged!! Me and DF are currently at month 12 ttc #1. Have an appointment at hospital gynae 26th April as referred by GP. It’s with a nurse practitioner, is this normal? I’m trying DHA, c0q10 and a host of other vits. Just been on the pregnacare ones til this cycle so taking them as well alongside the other ones. DF had SA and GP confirmed normal. I’ve had day 21 bloods all fine and have ordered day 3 bloods from hertility also to do next month. So at my wits end every month spending hundreds on FRER staring at blank tests trying to see something that isn’t there. Tried conceive plus,preseed and also tried the menstural cups but don’t think I got it far up enough. I’m so bloody frustrated 🥺 cannot wait for the day I get a BFP no matter how it happens. Hope everyone is okay and all the lovely babies have been born and are healthy.