One year+ TTC part 3

[BritInNZ]

Hey ladies - new thread here we come! Changed it from 9 months+ seeing as we're pretty much all over a year of TTC now (boo!)

Feel free to add anyone else I may have forgotten 😊

@Carla2601
@lemons44
@LucyAnne34
@NatW2021
@Indianna2006
@KatieLooLa
@Hoping43
@Flyonthewall89

Newbies welcome too! Just a bunch of lovely ladies going through a tough time TTC and having a good old time venting and supporting one another 😊

Had my scan this morning 12 on one side 8 on the other. Cd9 1 x 15mm, 1 x 11mm and 1 x10mm hoping one of there others catch up so i have 2 mature, lining was good! As i ovulate my own its hard to no if the meds are helping? @BritInNZ sorry for all the questions can you remember what you had on the run up to ovulation x

@NatW2021 sorry I can't remember. I know when I had my CD12 scan I had no dominant follicles and then when I went on CD17 I had two and I think one was 16mm and the other was 14mm. I ovulated that night and got pregnant 😊

@BritInNZ thanks 😊 i think the 15mm will probably grow more today/tomorrow and i will ovulate was hoping the others would catch up to increase the chance but you never know. Trying to manage expectations and not get my hopes up x

@NatW2021 you actually don't want more than 2 dominant follicles, otherwise you have over stimulated and you will be advised not to try for a baby due to the risk of multiples. So two is the ideal really!

Girls I’ve just been for a private scan as deep down I knew something wasn’t right with the not so strong test lines and the 1-2 weeks on CB. They couldn’t find anything. I am classed “pregnancy of unknown location”. They’re going to refer me to the hospital tomorrow hoping to get someone to see me urgently as they suspect ectopic. I’m so sad and so worried. Why is this whole journey so cruel??

Oh @Tinkerbell098 i am so so so sorry to read this, really hope someone can see you tomorrow and that maybe there might be some more positive news; will be thinking of you xxx

@Tinkerbell098 I’m so so sorry. It really is so cruel. My ‘ectopic’ was actually a pregnancy of unknown location too. The embryo was never big enough to actually be seen on an ultrasound so it was never officially confirmed as ectopic (hcg needs to be above 1,500 for it to be visible.) they will likely start by doing bloods every 48 hours to see how your levels are progressing. I really am so sorry this is happening, I know how worrying it can be but you will be in safe hands at the hospital as they monitor you. Sending so many hugs xx

Oh @Tinkerbell098 i am so so sorry to read your update. I’m thinking of you and hope that you get some answers and next steps tomorrow.

This is such a cruel development - well done for going with your gut and following your intuition and not just waiting, you should be really proud of yourself.

Sending you love and do update us when you feel up to it as I know you’ll be in all of our thoughts xxx

Oh @Tinkerbell098 I'm so sorry. It's such a hard, up and down journey and I'm so sorry this time you didn't get the happy ending. Keep us updated.

I am sorry @Tinkerbell098
It really is just so, so unfair. We are all here for you ❤️

Thanks so much for your thoughts everyone. Really appreciate it. I’ve got an appointment with EPU on Thursday. That’s the earliest they can see me. Guess I’m not classed as urgent due to no bleeding/agonising pain. I’m hoping the body will resolve it by itself without any further complications. My clinic didn’t sound pleased I went for a private scan and said it’s not in their policy to regard private scan results. Some compassion would have been nice! Just coming to terms with it now. It’ll take some time to fully heal, but taking it one day at a time.

@Tinkerbell098 - so so sorry to read this, i am sorry the clinic were not very nice i just don't think they truly understand the pain from a human perspective sometimes you feel like another number and it's just another day at the office for them. Big hugs thinking of you 💗 xx

@Tinkerbell098 thats terrible! You acted on your instincts and you definitely did the right thing. Really sorry they can’t see you till Thursday that must feel like a long wait.

we’re all here to listen and support x

@Tinkerbell098 sorry the clinic were insensitive. Some people just have no idea do they. Sending hugs x

@Tinkerbell098 how rude of the clinic to say that! Surely it’s none of their business if you decide to go for a private scan?! When I went to the GP with concerns about my ectopic, the dr basically told me I was imagining the pain I had because I’d been through a lot with my previous miscarriage and was in shock at having a positive test. She completely poo pooed me and sent me away so I went straight to the EPAU and told them I thought I was having an ectopic. They said that I couldn’t self refer but I told them I had left sided pain so they couldn’t exactly send me away … they agreed to squeeze me in that day and looked after me so well from there. If you’re really worried then it might be worth a try? Thinking of you. So sorry you’re going through this xx

Oh that’s just rubbish @Tinkerbell098 So sorry this is happening to you! Hoping at least it will resolve on its own. Lots of love to you.

Thanks everyone for your thoughts and love ❤️ Clinic did a blood test today and hCG is now down to 70 so they reckon the body will resolve it on its own. Still got an appointment with EPU on Thursday to rule out any other complications. I was asked to stop cyclogest now as I haven’t bled yet so they think I should start bleeding within a week of stopping it. Really sad it has now come to an end. Glad I went with my instincts rather than waiting for another week until the clinic scan to then find nothing.

@Tinkerbell098 im glad they’ve tested you and everything crossed your body can resolve on its own but good to get the checks. My friend just went through this and she got regular scans to check for fluid and bleeding and to check no damage etc. so might be worth asking about that if they don’t offer what you feel happy with x

@Carla2601 thanks I'll keep that in mind for tomorrow.

@Tinkerbell098 so sorry to read your updates. Life is SO unfair sometimes and cruel. I hope it resolves itself for you. Sending you lots of love.

@Indianna2006 thanks X

Update from me - EPU were really nice. The scan was similar to the private scan I had on Sunday. They couldn't see anything. They did say my ovaries were enlarged, but it's expected after IVF stims. Also said I've developed two cysts on my right ovary (I knew for a fact that they weren't there pre IVF as they scanned me to specifically look for cysts). Again, said they were common after IVF stims, and should go away in the next 2-3 months, but said to keep an eye on them. No fluid or any other concerns. They took bloods again and said they'd let me know today and discuss next steps. They weren't really sure why I haven't bled yet, think it's the cyclogest. Guess I have to take it one day at a time and see what they advise.

@Tinkerbell098 thank you for keeping us updated, I’ve been thinking of you! I get cysts on my ovaries almost every month - apparently most women do and they go away without you even noticing. Definitely take each day as it comes and be kind to yourself x

@NatW2021 how are you getting on with the letrozole? x

Sending big hugs @Tinkerbell098 I hope you are ok. Definitely just take each day as it comes. We are here if you need us

Conscious I haven't updated you all for a while.

So in a nutshell our clinic are unbelievably shit. They won't do the procedure due to my husband's medical condition but kept us waiting for four months. They said it should be done in a hospital setting just in case as my husband is a bit more high risk under anaesthetic so needs a bit more monitoring equipment than they have at the clinic. I've basically just hit the roof. They clearly failed to check his medical notes properly in the first place, gave the wrong medical advice and they certainly should never have made him have the screening checks for the procedure (blood tests, STI checks etc) if the procedure could never happen. They knew about this health condition since we joined the clinic in May. I've now burnt all bridges with them and I'm complaining about them to HFEA. It's a total failure in care. Not to mention the mental impact this has had on us. Poor DH is not in a good place.

Sooooooooo we are back to square one (i laugh so I don't cry). Hoping Mr Ramsay may be able to fit us in at the Lister hospital before Christmas.

@Tinkerbell098 - hope you are ok, you have had a tough few weeks. I was thinking of you yesterday xx

@Koalie all ok i think, i has a scan on cd9 and had a 15mm follicle and a 11 and 10. I think i might of ovulated the two ad i had pains from each side quite intensely, i had a longer LH surge than normal and peaked on Tuesday so think i ovulated Tuesday night/Wednesday. Time will tell but not hopeful. X