🎵 Anyone for a spot of Sunday Evening Xylophone? 🌈 TTC Bus 52 🚌

[polkadotpixie]

Soooo....@Minster2012 is letting the lunatics take over the asylum as she's handing over the driving seat to the passengers and having a well deserved rest after driving us around since June 2020!

I'm sure she'll still be around and you can follow her on Instagram (Minstermusings) where a lot of passengers and ex-passengers have their own TTC or normal accounts too (just be careful not to out anyone on their non-TTC accounts!)

We have a fabulous history of BFPs on this thread since @Minster2012 took over and we need to keep it up...no slacking!

Anything goes and NOTHING is TMI on this bus! Whether you're doing it the old fashioned way or with some help from science, we're all waiting for those 2 pink lines and are here to support each other and try to stay (somewhat) sane along the way

June 2020 24 BFPs
July 11 BFPs
August 18 BFPs
Sep 4 BFPs
Oct 7 BFPs
Nov 7 BFPs
Dec 14 BFPs
Jan 2021 7 BFPs
February 8 BFPs
March 5 BFPs
April 5 BFPs
May 4 BFPs
June 5 BFPs
July 1 BFP
Aug 2 BFPs
Sept 5 BFPs
October 3 BFPs
November 4 BFPs
December 5 BFPs

Still on for the ride are our fabulous passengers:

@Franklydear
@polkadotpixie
@dmb91
@pennysays
@Sausage1990
@MrsBiddy
@manifestingbaby
@chiatta
@Hann91
@LoveQ
@BellatrixK
@JuniperAndTonic
@user1019273703

IVF/IUI/ICSI/Clomid passengers as well as TTC on the side!
@somatronic
@Dollybird89
@pennysays
@InkyPaper

Already promoted to the Bumps list but still hopping on the bus to keep us company:

@clairey844
@blackcurrantqueen
@lucyrp
@Catherinettc
@Ltay2
@BlondePotter
@Clairey844
@Gem176
@kirky658
@justanothercyster
@2020mission
@Hopeful110
@becarefuloutthere
@crazydoglady123
@Haiyaa
@lexber
@whatwonder
@bez91
@DKDK123
@minster2012
@feliznavidad2
@clolo
@gcat16
@paintfairy
@Bea14
@vil10
@juno231
@sunbird24
@kaylsd
@larrythelizard

Apologies to anyone missed...40 pages is a lot!

New passengers always welcome and an embarrassing story buys you a cheap ticket...Beep Beeeeeep!

@BellatrixK another vote for grapefruit juice 🙋🏼‍♀️

Oh I'm gonna start drinking grapefruit juice, yum.

Thanks @Minster2012 - it wasn't too bad tbh and I did manage it. But it's not ideal. We play music (we made a playlist together ❤️ very cute bonding exercise) and once he went out after he had done his bit which helped too. I also invested in a v good vibrator! But yeah it does seem to take a long time and I think I'm still quite tense about the whole process 😬

@Minster2012 your weird suction voice notes cheered me up on a depressing Monday! 😘

I fell off the grapefruit juice and EPO wagon but I'm back on it now(after a special delivery today!) How much EPO do you guys take each day?

@lakejupiter

I have pcos and I'm 35, but my bmi is a lot higher than yours, I'm currently taking 1500mg of Metformin and my doctor prescribed it. Im trying to lose weight as they won't look at me until under bmi 30 🙁

Can't believe what your GP said 😮 I would have definitely complained!!! Hopefully your new GP isn't a di**head like the last one xx

Anyone used Ferti-Lilly Cup ? I've ordered one to see if it helps

@MrsBiddy sorry to hear you're having to lose weight before being helped. I'm trying to reduce my BMI a bit at the moment and also follow a low GI diet but it's hard to make those changes alongside all the admin and anxiety around TTC (particularly in my TTC situation which is quite admin heavy for a non clinical situation lol)

@MrsBiddy I did use Ferti Lily this round (first cycle TTC for me) and I have to say I have heard amazing things! I did have to practice putting it in a lot and I def fucked it up the first time we used it but it was recommended to me for home inseminations and if nothing else it gave me a lot of peace of mind in the few hours after inseminations. I put it in straight after and usually wore it for the rest of the evening until bedtime.

@lakejupiter
I know ttc shouldn't be this hard 😩

Plus work are asking people for volunteers for enhanced redundancy ☹️ before they make compulsory redundancies😞

All stress/worry I don't need 😩

I might practice before ovulation then xx

A cute playlist @lakejupiter do you have it playing so you both can hear it for ah hem, the squirting? (Him then you?!) the grapefruit juice helped me def. Admin heavy TTC 😂it would be! Does your coparent live close?

@Somatronic I just took one a day til OV

@MrsBiddy ha ha ive been having conversations on here about fertili & how it stopped my lake spermo woes. I got pregnant the first or second cycle using it in April, (MC) then used it again going forwards & def helped for this pregnancy. We are rubbish at keeping sperm inside me in this house (or I have a cave for a minge, or both)

Yes @Minster2012 we have it playing so we can both hear it (and not hear each other/give each other more privacy. The idea of him hearing the vibrator is somehow incredibly embarrassing to me despite us being close and me having put his sperm in me a few times!) Through trial and error (accidentally put some songs on it at first that made me think of my mum and ended up crying lol - not the vibe) we went with a lot of vintage R&B, lowfi hip hop and general ambient music. We live in separate cities at the moment but hoping to change that in the long term - the distance adds a lot of admin! Lake spermo 😂 I'm so sorry about your MC but happy the cup worked for you and that you are pregnant ❤️

@Minster2012

Sorry to hear about your mc ❤️ oh wow, that's good news!! I can't wait to try it, I have seen good reviews but I'm going to stay calm lol

Yes! I totally understand lake spermo, I call it the sperm canyon always never stays in and I end up (tmi) with a patch on the bed 😫 Duno if it's just me 😂

Yep def same here @MrsBiddy but it takes some practice!

Totally understand you not wanting him to hear the vibrator @lakejupiter 😬 nor listening to music at a pivotal time that makes you sad! Gosh I can imagine the distance adding a lot of admin, does the pcos make you irregular too? That won't help I bet 🙄

Just popping in. I'm a big fan of evening primrose oil for ewcm @BellatrixK

Also a big believer in upsuck and always try to orgasm post BD. Won't have made any difference in my case though!

@lakejupiter I second what everyone else is saying that your GP is a dick. Fyi was told just yesterday how my BMI of 26 is "great!" so I can't imagine 27 being abysmal FFS.

@lakejupiter what everyone else says... hate to think what your GP would think of my 30+ BMI. 😒

@lakejupiter I'm really confused. You might have to explain. 🤣
You mention a co-parent but then speak like he is your partner? So I can't work out what your system is? Is it your partner you can't use a vibrator in front of? Or a sperm donor? (The latter makes sense).
And yeah there is the upsuck theory but no, wouldn't have made a jot of difference to me. Didn't even when the hospital physically shoved it in my womb. 🙄🤦‍♀️🤣

Stories like yours fuck me right off @lakejupiter - as if that sort of attitude would help you lose weight (if that's what you needed to do) - why not be knowledgable and supportive about nutrition and exercise?! Or point you to some resources that are?!

Oh that's not ideal @MrsBiddy - my lady company did rounds and rounds of that and they always had more volunteers than they needed (good pensions, generally men who were mid 50's and the enhanced payout would see them through to claiming their pensions at 60) so try not to worry (I have trained myself to only worry about things I can control - it works maybe half the time?!)

@paintfairy he's my coparent - not partner or sperm donor. We are both gay. We met on the coparents website about two years ago and are very good friends :)

@Minster2012 luckily I am pretty regular with cycles and ovulation within a 2 day window, although I ovulated late this month 😤 so we only managed to inseminate before my peak. It's gonna be interesting but luckily I am quite flexible at the moment as I work for myself. And we are both pretty dedicated to the cause now we have finally started TTC so have made it a priority.

Thanks everyone for the reassurance about my GP. Part of me was convincing myself he was right and I was in denial about my weight and PCOS stuff so glad to have the vindication!! I will def complain about him once I've officially moved practices.

@lakejupiter ah OK. So you don't have a partner at the moment? That makes sense- the vibrator thing. Because at first I thought it was your other half and I was like- you are having a baby (hopefully) and they will be there for the birth, so a vibrator noise is the least of your issues! 🤣 No, I'd feel awkward a friend hearing me sorting myself out with a vibrator! In fact I'd feel weird maybe if DH did (if it was alone time and he wasn't involved). I use one all the time with him though, can't finish without! So using it together is no issue. TMI. 🤣

@paintfairy god bless vibrators tbh! If anyone is interested I have the Satisfier Pro 2 and it's an absolute legend 😂 no I don't have a partner at the moment - was engaged to a woman and planning to do this with her in my late 20s & early 30s and then life happened and it all sort of fell apart so I made the (at first difficult) decision to try and find a coparent when I was 34. My coparent is in a similar position. I was fully expecting not to find anyone, and to end up going the sperm donor route, so I feel really lucky. We met on the coparenting website but have a lot of spooky connections including same career, same interests, similar tastes, mutual friends and various other things, and he's as committed to and excited by the baby thing as I am, so I feel very lucky. It's not how I expected my life to go and there are definitely practical and emotional hurdles, but so far there's a lot of love and quite a few laughs.

Had my monthly thyroid bloods done this morning. It took an hour, 4 veins, lots of digging around with needles and 2 nurses. Ouch!

I think I'm going to invest in one of those little cups. Might make the difference! I'll have a look online later. Did ye get them online?

@lakejupiter that's so interesting! And what a journey 🤗let's hope the TTC bit isn't too long then

@Somatronic I def think you can get them from boots

@Minster2012 thanks for tying on my tether x
How are you? How far along are you now?

@blackcurrantqueen oh wow! Huge congratulations on the safe arrival of your baby girl. So great to hear all went smoothly. Hope you are recovering well and enjoying your new baby x

@lakejupiter we've had a lot of stories about twatish GPs on this bus but yours takes the biscuit! Good for you changing to a new one. How is the tww going? Must feel monumental as sounds like you and your coparent have been building up to it for quite some time. I watched a documentary once about people looking for coparenting partners and it was so interesting. Like a mix of dating and interviewing or something. They had to really delve in deep from the offset and it was quite intense given what an important role the other person would have! Might not be how you thought you would be doing this but sounds like your future baby will have two very devoted parents 😃

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4456850-To-have-laughed-at-her-Slimming-World-advice

I am in hysterics 🤣

@Manifestingbaby it definitely felt like dating! People recommend to spend at least 18 months getting to know each other before TTC and there are soooo many questions to ask and stuff to go through (emotional, legal, financial, practical, medical....) but I'm glad we took the time to do it properly. And no matter what happens I've made a friend for life!

My TWW is going.....like most people's first TWW I imagine. Symptom spotting, convincing myself I am/am not pregnant, obsessing over my bbt chart, and yesterday I peed on a stick at 7dpo. If anyone has any spare dignity please consider donating it to me.

@lakejupiter that is so beautiful that you're doing it with a co-parent! Somehow a lot purer than the old fashioned way to me. Do you live together then to make things easier?

Off to Google your vibrator... My old one could use a break every now and then 😂