First timers, TTC. Safe space for brain dumps...

[TinyDancer91]

Hi everyone!

This thread may or may not contain questions, I've mainly started it to be my brain dump safe space but in an excited way, not a bad way...

Me (30) and my SO (34) have decided to take the leap and start TTC! We have both wanted children for a while but just knew the timing wasn't right for either of us until now. For me, any time I see a baby or even baby clothes recently my heart aches for it to be my turn. I've never really had that strong feeling before.

The reason behind this 'safe space' is that we have agreed not to tell anyone we are TTC. We just want to avoid any pressure or disappointment if things don't go to plan, etc.

For context, I am the youngest of 5, the only girl the only one of my siblings without children.
SO is the oldest of 2, his brother has a child who lives with BM away from here so isn't really seen much by grandparents.

Both families are great and would only want the best for us but I personally don't want to feel any sort or pressure at all (intended or not) from either side.

So, we start our journey, we are on cycle 1 SWI, not expecting anything to happen this cycle and trying not to turn in to a crazy lady about TTC

If anyone else needs a brain dump safe space, feel free to join me here x

Thank you ladies! I am so shocked. I have had lower back pain from expected ovulation date but nothing else at all so didn’t think much of it. I have no idea what to do now though. I guess I’ll leave it maybe a fortnight then test again? Never had a BFP before so am clueless, don’t even know how to do the big reveal to DH when he gets home from work!

Congratulations @BlueSky57!!

I’ve been doing the ovulation tests for a few days but every one I’ve done today only has a control line, not even the faintest line. Has anyone had this?

@SMD16 I used them for the first time properly this month and I found they worked really well. I did 2 every day (first thing and also early evening) but I think you have to hold your pee for about 4 hours before you do it and also limit liquid intake so it doesn’t dilute it. Maybe you’ve already been trying that though. Some days I had the faintest line for LH and others were stronger. My LH surge was really clear after about 6 days of testing. Felt like I would never get it but keep going and fingers crossed you will🙂

@rcal1988 thank you, I bet you it’s the cup of tea I had! I’d held for about 3 hours though. Will try again this evening.

Hi girls,

Can I join this thread :) 31 years old, TTC #1 CD4 of cycle 4.

How's everyone's TTC journeys going so far? I've been finding been finding it all very emotional, need some tips on how to relax!!

Fingers crossed for a BFP for all of us this year xx

I am officially on DPO 1 of my 1st cycle! The countdown begin 🤪

Hi everyone

I'd love to join the chat! Me and DH (both 27) are TTC #1. I'm currently on CD14 - ovulation predicted tomorrow, so DTD as much as we can atm!!

This is my first cycle of properly TTC but been tracking ovulation etc for a couple of months in prep. Good luck to us all!!

So excited for everyone who's tested positive!!

I'm 7DPO today and just wish I could take a test. Started with breast/nipple tenderness yesterday and today and trying not to read into it.

Hey everyone, so nice to see everyone's BFPs! I'm 8DPO, 9DPO tomorrow and the urge to test is real. However, AF is due Thursday so I know I should wait. I only have cheap tests so the likelihood of getting a bfn is high especially this early. Ahhhh.

Just today I've started having sensitive nipples, lower back pain (not usual for me) and some very mild cramping. When you write them down they seem so obviously related to implantation, but I also currently have covid (mild so far, thankfully) and who knows what's going on inside my body 🤔 I'm isolating at home and the tests are sitting there staring at me. Is anyone else testing in the next couple of days?? @Zubi you seem to be close to me in DPO, how long do you think you'll hold on for? 😁

Hello! Excited to join this thread. I'm 36 and TTC for the first time with a coparent (I'm a lesbian, he's a gay man) via home insemination. Been tracking cycles and doing OPK test for a while to pin down my fertile window and this month was our first month TTC! I'm now on CD17 and 1DPO so it's the start of my TWW. I haven't bought tests or anything and honestly was so preoccupied with the logistics of home insemination and ovulation dates and getting the timing right that I hadn't given much thought to the TWW until today. Now I'm reading up on threads and feeling a bit clueless about early tests vs regular tests etc. My AF is due 24th or 25th so it's a long old wait! Looking forward to catching up on this thread so far.

@Florrie95 I have covid too! Haha luckily fairly mild for me too. My AF due Sunday so we're really not far apart, I'm thinking I can hang on until Sunday.

Really hard as the symptoms of implantation are so similar to AF. Defo got the breast tenderness and I'm thinking I'm quite emotional but I'm wondering if I'm thinking into it all!

@lakejupiter that awesome that you have both decided to do that! Are you both in couples? Excited to hear about your journey!

I'm almost half way though my TWW now and honestly it's dragging 😩 but I am quite an impatient person haha. Going to try to hold off testing until AF is due I think 😬

@TinyDancer91 how many dpo are you? I'm also about half way through tww so I think we're on similar timings 😁

@CrazyCatLady95 I'm about 6/7 dpo. AF due next Tuesday, how about you?

@TinyDancer91 I ovulated on either Sunday or Monday I think so I'm 7/8 dpo! I have no symptoms though so not too convinced really!

Ahhhh I'm so excited to see everyone's BFPs

@TinyDancer91 no neither of us have partners involved, it's just the two of us. We spent a few years really getting to know each other and are very close platonically which really helps with all the emotions coming up (already!!! Lol)

Can't wait to see how everyone's TWWs go

Hi everyone, can I join?

I'm 33, and I stopped taking the mini pill last January 😯 Cue 6 months of ttc with opks and stressful twws and nothing but BFNs, followed by 6 months of not trying quite so hard (a summer 2022 due date would have been...inconvenient) and still nothing but BFNs.

But I think the ttc attitude of both DH and I has changed over the last year of waiting. I've had time to accept that I can't plan when this will happen, and I've enjoyed taking up new hobbies, doing more exercise and getting in better shape, and enjoying free time while I still have it. DH has become less nervous about the pressure of ttc, and less nervous/more excited and confident about the prospect of having kids. 😀

So, new year, new start, and we're really going for it this month! I'm calling this month our Cycle 1 of Round 2!

It's great to see a range of experiences and ages on this thread. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for everyone here. We can do this! 🤞🙌✨

Thank you for starting this thread! Please may I join you ladies?
Me (30) and my partner (35) are TTC for our second baby and I'm insanely excited but have no one to talk to as like you we don't want anyone to know just yet!

Where abouts are you guys in your journey? I'm currently in limbo, due to start my period (hopefully not) a week today. I have my tests at the ready but it's so hard not to build hopes up!

Hope you're well xxx

@lakejupiter that is really lovely 😁 are you in your TWW now? 🤞🏻

@taytay2020 that is a really good attitude to have. Are you going to do OPKs etc this month? I need to be more zen!!

@ERachD I've stupidly told all our close friends and keep getting asked every time we see people 🤨 thinking that was a bad move now. Burst into tears last time a friend asked me casually 2 minutes into seeing each other arghh.

@Mariabombia yes I'm 2DPO (I think!! Struggling to pinpoint ovulation exactly tbh). We did home inseminations on three consecutive days over that period though so trying not to stress too much.

@Florrie95

Hey everyone, so nice to see everyone's BFPs! I'm 8DPO, 9DPO tomorrow and the urge to test is real. However, AF is due Thursday so I know I should wait. I only have cheap tests so the likelihood of getting a bfn is high especially this early. Ahhhh.

Just today I've started having sensitive nipples, lower back pain (not usual for me) and some very mild cramping. When you write them down they seem so obviously related to implantation, but I also currently have covid (mild so far, thankfully) and who knows what's going on inside my body 🤔 I'm isolating at home and the tests are sitting there staring at me. Is anyone else testing in the next couple of days?? @Zubi you seem to be close to me in DPO, how long do you think you'll hold on for? 😁

I'm exactly the same! AF due Thursday and caved and did an early detection test this morning which unsurprisingly was negative! When are you going to test? Xx

I have had a busy weekend so just catching up now. How exciting to see some BFPs!! Hopefully there will be many more to come. I am just getting AF out of the way and then looking forward to month 2 of TTC. Due to our ages - mid 30s - and it being #1, I am expecting it to take a while, but you never know! These posts have given me some hope that it might happen sooner rather than later!

@Zubi oh I'm glad yours is mild too! My phone is currently fill of lateral flow test lines and is about to be full of pregnancy test lines, what is life 😅

I caved and did a test just now with smu, the boredom overtook. It had the slightest line with a twinge of pink in real life but I know its too early to be testing really and it could well be an evap. Im using the Amazon Wondfo tests for anyone wondering. If they get darker in the next couple of days I'll use a FRER. Feel free to squint and laugh at my 9dpo test!

Hi! Joining in this thread as I'm also TTC baby number 1 . We are on our 9th cycle of trying and it feels like a lifetime already. Hoping the flow of BFPs on here with lots of other first time mums will help me feel more positive at this point! X

@Florrie95 I think I see it!!! This is so exciting!! Fingers crossed for you keep up posted. Making me want to test sooner now!