First timers, TTC. Safe space for brain dumps...

[TinyDancer91]

Hi everyone!

This thread may or may not contain questions, I've mainly started it to be my brain dump safe space but in an excited way, not a bad way...

Me (30) and my SO (34) have decided to take the leap and start TTC! We have both wanted children for a while but just knew the timing wasn't right for either of us until now. For me, any time I see a baby or even baby clothes recently my heart aches for it to be my turn. I've never really had that strong feeling before.

The reason behind this 'safe space' is that we have agreed not to tell anyone we are TTC. We just want to avoid any pressure or disappointment if things don't go to plan, etc.

For context, I am the youngest of 5, the only girl the only one of my siblings without children.
SO is the oldest of 2, his brother has a child who lives with BM away from here so isn't really seen much by grandparents.

Both families are great and would only want the best for us but I personally don't want to feel any sort or pressure at all (intended or not) from either side.

So, we start our journey, we are on cycle 1 SWI, not expecting anything to happen this cycle and trying not to turn in to a crazy lady about TTC

If anyone else needs a brain dump safe space, feel free to join me here x

Congrats @mgwyegve !!

We are now on cycle #13, day 11. Still nothing. Not convinced it will ever happen for us...

Cycle 9, day 10. Trying so hard to remain stress free but it's not easy. Life is stressful and TTC is miserable!

Also hope all that about keeping your feet warm is bs because I'm always cold but our house is particularly baltic at the moment.

Hi everyone.

Sorry I haven't been active on here for a while. Been finding it really hard to find the motivation to come on here and update everyone with each new BFN.

Hope you are all doing well and that was have had some BFPs this year. Wishing extra hard for BFPs for those of us that haven't for next year!

I'm really not looking forward to Xmas this year as I naively thought it would be our first one as a family of 3 (even if #3 was still a bump).

Update in our TTC journey - we are now on cycle 13, AF due around New Year's Day. If she makes an appearance then OH has agreed that we will start the ball rolling with the GP.

I will start a new thread in the new year for anyone wanting to join and will link it below when I have done as this thread is getting very long!

Wishing you all a happy Xmas & new year and for BFPs all round 💕

Hi @TinyDancer91, this thread has gone a bit quiet but I think lots of people are busy at this time of year. I felt exactly the same about this Christmas as keep thinking about how hopeful and happy I was this time last year about finally starting TTC, hoping / assuming I would be pregnant by now.

I'm 11dpo on cycle 9 so still a bit behind you but it's very hard. I think Jan/Feb may be a little easier. I expext cycles 12 and 13 might be harder again. I now feel 99% of the time like it will not happen for us and 1% of the time feel a really painful hope and start to imagine it working out before going back to carefully not getting my hopes up.

Will definitely be joining the new thread if you make one. All the best and hope you have had some happy times this Christmas

Hello! Just finishing up cycle 6. Looks likely another bfn for me. I found christmas hard, a couple of friends did their announcements on social media on Christmas Day. I would join you on the new thread. Here's hoping 2023 goes better than 2022

Hey, I think we are all feeling the same. Christmas was hard, I also had some close friends announce and as happy as I am for them, it still makes me bawl my eyes out at the injustice!

AF arrived on the 23rd Dec and I had bloods done by the GP. They have all come back as normal, but my ultrasound said enlarged ovaries with potential cysts so going in next week to discuss.

Would also join a new thread. Fingers crossed 2023 is our year ladies 💞

Started cycle 7 yesterday. For anyone who has had blood tests did you go via the gp? How long does it take to get them?

@Plantymcplant I've had the day 21 bloods done do far and went through GP. My GP was fab and had my bloods done straight away.

Trying to get another appointment with them now with my OH though, which is proving difficult as they are currently only taking emergency appointments!

Was hoping to get my day 3 bloods done this cycle but we've missed that boat now, so on to cycle 14 we go.

We really thought the last one was our time, as I ended up having a 33 day cycle for the first time ever. I usually have 27/28 day cycles, have had a couple of 31 day cycles in the summer so this one really took us by surprise. OH kept asking every day from about day 25 'have you come one yet?' and he got more and more excited every time I answered no. I did test a few times with the easy@home hcg strips and got BFNs every time so don't even think this one was a chemical. (didn't tell OH that was so wanted them to be wrong).

Hope everyone is doing OK. Praying & wishing for BFPs all round this year.

New Year, new thread coming up. will post the link to the new thread below in a sec for anyone who wants to join me there

Link to new thread (click here)

Hope to see you all there 💖