First timers, TTC. Safe space for brain dumps...

[TinyDancer91]

Hi everyone!

This thread may or may not contain questions, I've mainly started it to be my brain dump safe space but in an excited way, not a bad way...

Me (30) and my SO (34) have decided to take the leap and start TTC! We have both wanted children for a while but just knew the timing wasn't right for either of us until now. For me, any time I see a baby or even baby clothes recently my heart aches for it to be my turn. I've never really had that strong feeling before.

The reason behind this 'safe space' is that we have agreed not to tell anyone we are TTC. We just want to avoid any pressure or disappointment if things don't go to plan, etc.

For context, I am the youngest of 5, the only girl the only one of my siblings without children.
SO is the oldest of 2, his brother has a child who lives with BM away from here so isn't really seen much by grandparents.

Both families are great and would only want the best for us but I personally don't want to feel any sort or pressure at all (intended or not) from either side.

So, we start our journey, we are on cycle 1 SWI, not expecting anything to happen this cycle and trying not to turn in to a crazy lady about TTC

If anyone else needs a brain dump safe space, feel free to join me here x

@littlecontis

Usually my period is very regular and I'm supposed to have AF today but it's still not here 😟

And I'm definitely not pregnant!!

I'd like to join in. I've been off my pill over 6 months now. I've been ready to try but my boyfriend has still been pulling out as he wanted to start in 2022. The pull out method has clearly been working 😂😤. Whilst I've been off my pill I have been tracking on two apps, premom and FF app. They both seem really accurate as obviously CM tells you where abouts in your cycle you are too. Apparently we are taking a relaxed approach and he is just going to stop pulling out but I'm going to carry on tracking and encourage the baby dance on ovulation days haha! AF is due the 14th of this month so then we will be good to go unless the pull out method has worked this month which is unlikely!

Cant decide whether to start tracking ovulation each month from after AF. I'll be honest I have my heart set on BFP straight away even though I know its so unlikely. Just with me being off the pill so long and be knowing my cycles so well in my head I feel like well why wouldn't it work....!

@Cookiedough123

I'd like to join in. I've been off my pill over 6 months now. I've been ready to try but my boyfriend has still been pulling out as he wanted to start in 2022. The pull out method has clearly been working 😂😤. Whilst I've been off my pill I have been tracking on two apps, premom and FF app. They both seem really accurate as obviously CM tells you where abouts in your cycle you are too. Apparently we are taking a relaxed approach and he is just going to stop pulling out but I'm going to carry on tracking and encourage the baby dance on ovulation days haha! AF is due the 14th of this month so then we will be good to go unless the pull out method has worked this month which is unlikely!

Cant decide whether to start tracking ovulation each month from after AF. I'll be honest I have my heart set on BFP straight away even though I know its so unlikely. Just with me being off the pill so long and be knowing my cycles so well in my head I feel like well why wouldn't it work....!

Welcome! I think if you have been off your pill for this long and you know your cycles very well/haven't been tracking them then you could just rely on your app to tell you whereabouts you ovulate. I can imagine that will be much less stressful. I have been tracking but only because this is only the second cycle off the implant and I have no idea what my cycles are like currently! Also you never know, 1 in 4 people will get pregnant using withdrawal method!

@CrazyCatLady95 I have been looking into this and apparently this generally only happens if you have sex again after you have ejaculated, as its the sperm left over in the tubes. Thats what Dr Google told me anyway 😂 but yes I have my fingers crossed for the end of this month 🤞🤞

@TinyDancer91

Does anyone have any distraction techniques to help get them through the 2 week wait? Any hobbies that suddenly become very active?

Only eating chocolate apparently 🤣🤣 longest 2 weeks of my life but I gave in and tested yesterday but BFN.

AF due tomorrow and feeling very much like she will arrive on time so not holding out much hope for this month!

Definitely got my first positive OPK this morning 😀 thought I was going crazy looking at the previous lines questioning the darker faint ones but that's defo a positive!!!

@WildePanda

Definitely got my first positive OPK this morning 😀 thought I was going crazy looking at the previous lines questioning the darker faint ones but that's defo a positive!!!

Good luck @WildePanda !!

Also AF came yesterday meaning that my cycle is still pretty regular phew!! Will be using the OPK after this period!!

@littlecontis thanks😊

I definitely would have worked out my O completely wrong if I hadn't used the opk so defo recommend trying them xx

@WildePanda yes, that last one if definitely a positive!

@TinyDancer91 oh its all a bit exciting!

Where are you up to in your TWW? Xx

@WildePanda that's definitely a strong positive!

After coming off Microgynon in late November I finally have my first AF/ withdrawal bleed- whichever it is. So relieved as it was over 5 weeks. Thanks to everyone here sharing that it also took a while for them, as it eased my worries. I am excited now to start recording dates and continuing TTC this month- I think despite trying last month I knew it wasn't very likely. In the meantime dealing with stomach ache and eating lots of cookies

@WildePanda I have 11 days left 😂 I'm so impatient though, just want answers now!!

Any updates from any of our friends on here? Anyone any closer in their TTC journey? Any BFPs?

Hi all! I'm hoping to get some help with my ovulation date! I got a peak on CD34 (1.89) so we DTD that night. The next day I had a huge surge and got my actual peak of 2.32 on CD35. We didn't do anything that day but DTD again on CD36 the day after the peak.

What day would I have ovulated on? CD35 or CD36? The app says 36 so I'm 9DPO today but not sure if the huge surge was me catching my ovulation and the high (originally peak) that I got on CD34 was the day before I ovulated? Do you take the first peak or keep going until you get another one and then that's the day before you ovulate? It's cycle #1 so I'm not sure how it all works!

@kitkat89 it's hard to pinpoint exactly when ovulation happened unless you track your temperatures, but I would guess yours would have been around CD36? I'm no expert though.

@TinyDancer91 I'm trying to hold out until Sunday to test, that's when af is predicted. I've had mild cramps and bloating, but not sure if that's just af on its way..

Anyone else struggling with how slow the TWW is?! It’s like time has stopped! Only on 4DPO so know symptoms would be very unlikely so early but any little thing I keep thinking could this be it…torturing myself haha! Hope you are all well and wishing baby dust to everyone

@rcal1988 I'm not even on my TWW yet and I'm already climbing the walls! Do you think you will test early?

@WildePanda I’m going to try and hold out until AF is due unless I have loads of symptoms as I’m dreading the disappointment if it is a BFN!

Hi, hoping it's OK to join too - apologies i don't know what 99% of the acronyms mean!

My hubby and I (30 & 31) are in our first month of TTC, came off the pill in Sept. Had a period in Nov, and Dec but the Dec cycle was 36 days so I'm not entirely sure when ovulation is. Ive got the Glow and Flo apps which either day 8th or 10th so hoping now is a good time to get to it? Any one else's apps tell them different things?

My very dear pet cat passed away this week though so feeling very teary and also like I'm missing something to love - hoping extra hard for a little one, and sending baby dust to you all! x

I tested positive for covid today, worried this is going to have some effect. I'm 5DPO and AF due 16th so we will see what happens, gutted!

Evening all. Just had a catch up on the thread as been really busy since going back to work which tbh has been good to keep me going through my first 2ww. I made it to Friday yay! I'm 10dpo and due AF on 11th. I'm soooooo tempted to test in the morning but I'm so scared it'll be negative. Shall I, or shall I wait?

Work has definitely been keeping me preoccupied this week but I have been noticeably more tired but I keep thinking I can feel the usual AF symptoms so I think I may be out in my first one. This weekend is going to be hard 😭

@Ft23 - oh not so sorry about your cat! sending baby dust to you. I'm still getting to grips with the acronyms too 😂 My Flo and Premom apps differ slightly too, but the Premom app is using data from ovulation tests, so assuming this is more accurate.

@Zubi - eek, not the dreaded Corona!! Hoping it doesn't affect things for you, but please keep us updated!

@ECA142 - Yay for Friday!! Although for me it starts the busiest few days of the week 😂. I want to say go for it and test now, but my sensible head wants to say no, wait until 11th so you don't get a possible false reading.... I'm no help here I'm afraid! I'm the queen of indecision 👸🏻😂

Hey!

New to Mumsnet ... TTC and 7DPO. AF due in 7 days. Been off contraception well over a year and been using condoms.

My boobs always get sore and swollen pre AF and they have started to hurt like usual but I had a weird stinging sensation earlier that I hadn't had before. So I'm thinking AF is on the way but then others have said their boobs swell within days and they knew it was pregnancy so who knows

I've gone from not being too fussed about baby making to finding this two week wait a bit torturous. Lots of my friends have been super lucky and conceived on the first or second go ... feeling anxious we may not be so lucky but really want to keep anxiety/stress at bay.

Anyway, I'm glad I've found this space. Sending positive vibes (and hopefully tests!) to everyone x

Tested this morning (AF due yesterday) but still BFN

I caved and tested this morning due to SO not sleeping last night and he wanted to know. The 2ww has been as hard for him as me. I can see a line! 11dpo and due AF on the 11th. Biggest symptom was my nipples hahaha

I can see it too @ECA142 how exciting!