First timers, TTC. Safe space for brain dumps...

[TinyDancer91]

Hi everyone!

This thread may or may not contain questions, I've mainly started it to be my brain dump safe space but in an excited way, not a bad way...

Me (30) and my SO (34) have decided to take the leap and start TTC! We have both wanted children for a while but just knew the timing wasn't right for either of us until now. For me, any time I see a baby or even baby clothes recently my heart aches for it to be my turn. I've never really had that strong feeling before.

The reason behind this 'safe space' is that we have agreed not to tell anyone we are TTC. We just want to avoid any pressure or disappointment if things don't go to plan, etc.

For context, I am the youngest of 5, the only girl the only one of my siblings without children.
SO is the oldest of 2, his brother has a child who lives with BM away from here so isn't really seen much by grandparents.

Both families are great and would only want the best for us but I personally don't want to feel any sort or pressure at all (intended or not) from either side.

So, we start our journey, we are on cycle 1 SWI, not expecting anything to happen this cycle and trying not to turn in to a crazy lady about TTC

If anyone else needs a brain dump safe space, feel free to join me here x

Morning ladies,

I woke up at half five desperate for a wee so I decided to do my FRER then and I’m pretty sure it’s a BFP, a thin line but definitely pink and came up within the first minute. I’ve barely stopped crying since! But I’m scared to get my hopes up early on, keeping everything crossed it sticks around for the long haul.

Hoping to see more of your BFP’s very soon! Sending you all the luck in the world ✨

@Livlaughloathe that definitely looks like a BFP to me!! Congrats!! 🥳 hope all goes well 💕

@Livlaughloathe that's definitely a bfp congratulations!

@Livlaughloathe that is definitely positive! Congratulations! Sticky baby dust ✨✨✨

Congratulations!

@TinyDancer91 @Babydust99 @BeeLieve86 @Plantymcplant thank you all!
I am still quite nervous as I’ve had so much spotting throughout my luteal phase for months and was due to have a day 21 progesterone test in the next cycle. I’m just hoping that’s not a problem and that it’s a sticky one 🤞🏼 I was quite crampy yesterday, it’s hard to not panic about every little thing.

How is everyone else feeling today?

Baby dust ✨✨✨

Feeling a bit crampy which I guess means I will get my period soon. On one hand I'm glad it means by body is getting back to normal after coming off the pill but on the other hand surprised how I feel a bit disappointed! I hadn't realised how much hope I would get towards the end of the month

@Livlaughloathe Congratulations!! Fingers crossed for you.

I have decided to try ovulation tracking for the first time and have just got some of the clearblue tests. I'm showing as low LH at the moment but according to my Flo app (where I've recorded my periods for years, and almost always gets AF date spot on) I should be ovulating in 3 days' time. Is it normal to be getting low LH at this stage in my cycle? I am usually 28 days but as I've never tracked LH before I don't know what to expect.....

@thecoconutcat
absolutely normal. I’ve been doing ovulation testing for a few months, even before we started ttc because I’m 35 and wanted to really make sure. Anyway, my LH levels increased super quick. I’ll attach a photo of my LH tests this month. Xx

@BeeLieve86 thank you so much that's so helpful to see!! xx

@thecoconutcat youre very welcome!

so today I’m only 4dpo but I do actually feel quite chilled out about this tww. I have been keeping an eye on any symptoms, so far they aren’t much different to my other cycles except today when I felt some twinges in my left lower abdomen. Only lasted a minute or so. Obviously it’s way too early to be a pregnancy symptom so I won’t be reading into it. But who knows!

baby dust ✨✨✨

@Plantymcplant well it’s good that the signs are there that you’re going to return to your normal cycles quickly. The end of month hope to disappointment to hope again is tough. I didn’t expect to feel so much disappointment after the first month either but it just goes to show how much you want it.

@thecoconutcat thank you so much! Fx for you this month too, good luck with the ovulation tracking!

@BeeLieve86 So hard not to read into everything! Good that you’re feeling calm about things. I wish I was a more chilled person 🤣

I’ve started spotting and the cramps have felt worse as the day goes on 😣 I don’t know how worried I should be. Dr Google gives mixed messages and I am a stress head! Scared that I’ll test tomorrow and it will be fainter.

@Plantymcplant - I agree, the hope/disappointment/hope cycle is hard to get used to.

@thecoconutcat - my LH rises really quickly too. Mine goes from low to high in one day then high to peak to high again the next. I use the easy@home tests with the premom app. It's really helped me to understand my cycle, especially after 11+ years of being on the pill and having no bleed at all!!

I keep feeling a strange twinge near my left hip today, but it could just be the way I'm sitting. It only lasts around a minute or so, then disappears. I've felt it 3 times today. I'm only 6po so feel like it's way too early for any symptoms anyway!

I'm feeling quite chilled about the TWW this cycle. It might just be that deep down I'm expecting another BFN...

@Livlaughloathe - oh I really hope it's a sticky bean for you!! Dr Google is the worst! Sending lots of love your way.

I'm trying to keep myself busy and hold off from testing until at least Monday. I ended up buying a new game for the Switch today to keep my mind occupied 😂

Love & baby dust to all 💕✨

@thecoconutcat My LH levels right super quickly and drop quickly too! I go low, high, peak, high and low within 5 days! I use the easy@home test the same as @TinyDancer91 and the app is wonderful and has really helped me understand my cycle! 🙂

@TinyDancer91 I’m glad that you are having a chilled TWW, im also in the TWW now and im also feeling very chill… im only 1DPO but boyfriends birthday has occupied my mind and his birthday is after AF is next due which is brilliant. I’m also thinking that i will get a BFN so that might be adding to the chillness of me haha!

@Livlaughloathe Congratulations 😅😅

@LauraA31 thank you that's so helpful! I tested this morning and had high LH so that's really reassuring...!

@TinyDancer91 Thanks! Still no AF today and it's day 31 so I got excited again and took a test. Very definitely negative. Do you have a routine of when you test to avoid all the ups and downs?

@Plantymcplant you're not 100%out until AF arrives! Fingers crossed for you!

I'd like to say I have a routine/plan but I have zero self control 😂😂 I end up getting my hopes up then having a little cry every time AF arrives... I was so convinced last month was the one for me that I tested almost every day from 10dpo... despite all the BFNs. Not helped by the one evap that I got as well!!

Coming on here and sharing my thoughts helps. I only share so much with my OH as I don't want to worry or stress him out and no-one else knows so I can't talk to anyone else. I feel like we've got a really nice bunch of ladies here and I'm forever grateful for you all 💕 (oh god, I'm going through the soppy/tearful stage now!! 😂🥺🥲)

@TinyDancer91 Yes it's so nice to have people to talk too who understand. I'm so sorry it didn't happen for you last month. I will keep everything crossed for you this month.

I will keep the hope till AF comes, I just think by body doesn't know how to do it's thing yet. It might make timing things difficult for a while.

Anyone else 1/2dpo?

echoing @TinyDancer91 it's so nice to have this thread to talk on! I'm not talking to anyone except my husband about TTC, and sometimes you have so many questions/ thoughts that you just don't want to burden them with.

This is my flo app this month and predicted cycles...I am also using clear blue OPK. According to Flo I am ovulating today, According to OPK I am still 'high fertility' (day 3 of this) and not yet at the 'peak'. Anyone else have any experience of this? Our schedules are busy over the next few days so trying to work out optimum days to DTD! 3 times this week so far, 3 times the end of last week too. is it better to do it today or wait for OPK to show peak fertility? or am I just overthinking 😂

@thecoconutcat the app will just be an estimate whereas the cb opk is testing your hormone levels. I'd aim for every other day if you can until peak and then 2/3 days in a row if possible when you hit the peak

@Babydust99 thank you!

@Babydust99 Im 3DPO today :)

I’m 7dpo and feel no different from every other month :(((((