First timers, TTC. Safe space for brain dumps...

[TinyDancer91]

Hi everyone!

This thread may or may not contain questions, I've mainly started it to be my brain dump safe space but in an excited way, not a bad way...

Me (30) and my SO (34) have decided to take the leap and start TTC! We have both wanted children for a while but just knew the timing wasn't right for either of us until now. For me, any time I see a baby or even baby clothes recently my heart aches for it to be my turn. I've never really had that strong feeling before.

The reason behind this 'safe space' is that we have agreed not to tell anyone we are TTC. We just want to avoid any pressure or disappointment if things don't go to plan, etc.

For context, I am the youngest of 5, the only girl the only one of my siblings without children.
SO is the oldest of 2, his brother has a child who lives with BM away from here so isn't really seen much by grandparents.

Both families are great and would only want the best for us but I personally don't want to feel any sort or pressure at all (intended or not) from either side.

So, we start our journey, we are on cycle 1 SWI, not expecting anything to happen this cycle and trying not to turn in to a crazy lady about TTC

If anyone else needs a brain dump safe space, feel free to join me here x

@Moonlighting Don't you dare feel guilty! Massive congratulations! We are all in the same boat, and it also reminds me that you never know what someone's journey is... I'll admit to shedding a tear yesterday when my period arriving combined with the fourth pregnancy announcement from a friend this month...!

Fingers crossed for an August BFP for me, we have decided already if it's BFN we are going to book a holiday on the day my period arrives to cheer me up...

@Moonlighting congratulations!!

im around 11 dpo of a 31 day cycle. BFN this morning. Main dilemma is I’m going to a hen party on Saturday (af due Monday). Not sure if I should drink or not..was planning on doing a clear blue early test Saturday but then what if I’ve just ovulated late..
Then comes the dilemma of coming up with an excuse not to drink on the hen party 🤦🏽‍♀️😂

Congratulations @Moonlighting !!!

Sorry ladies, I've been awol the last few days!

@Moonlighting that's amazing news!! Don't feel guilty, I still love seeing the BFPs on here as it gives me a little bit of hope as well as the happiness for those getting the BFP! Can't wait to hear about your journey, please keep us updated!

Welcome to the mad house @H1994 😂 it's a real rollercoaster around here!!

@ladydorito a holiday sounds like a great plan!

I've found something to keep my mind of TTC stresses for a little while... I'm finally getting braces fitted to straighten my teeth! It's something I've wanted for a long time but I'm not a fan of dentists, so I've always put it off - I had some bad experiences growing up, now learning it was down to the dentist and not me! The orthodontist did say she was shocked I hadn't been offered them as a teen (I'd been saying this for years!!) and when I told her that my dentist growing up just kept telling me that the overcrowding was because I was small for my age and as I grew my mouth would grow and my teeth would straighten... obviously they never did!! New ortho was even more shocked that that was their approach! Anyway, at the age of 31 and a cost of £3.5k(!) I'm getting my biggest dislike about myself fixed 😁

Back to the reason we are all here though, have we got any more BFPs or anyone in the TWW? My fertile window should start on Saturday so lots of BD for for me in the next few weeks, just to cover all bases. Think we are going to try everyday this month and see what happens.

Love & baby dust to all 💕

you were all right - I caved (as soon as you buy a test 'just so you've got one' that's it!) - not pregnant. Although it's still 3 days before af is due so I know there's a margin of error. I feel pretty alright as I dont really know what I was expecting and it has only been 3 weeks since my copper coil came out! We dtd according to my app flo's predicted ovulation but know that isn't that accurate. Will try some ovulation strips this month - any advice with these?!

@TinyDancer91 Thank you! I'll soon be in the TWW and it'll all be in limbo from there! Thanks for being so welcome... thinking of everyone! WE GOT THIS!

Hi all. First Post. I'm 35 and SO is 37 and we had always said we didn't want children but on reflection more to do with not being in right house/job/place in life and 2 weeks ago we had a big heart to heart and realised that we did want to TTC but just a bit scared by it all.. any way reading this thread has been so helpful and reassuring. This is month 1 and SO has suddenly developed an almost obsessive interests in my cycles after 20 years of him shutting of everythime I mentioned hormons or periods. I'm taking this as a positive. I'm ovulating this week ?yesterday according to timing (but not using tests or anything yet its only month 1!).
I'm analysing every twinge I feel and really didn't appreciate how weired this feels waiting for 2 weeks for AF !
Nice to read of people BFPs. I've got the tests ready (man bought as a present yesterday bless). Such a weird place to be mentally right now.

Welcome @Sailawaygirl! My SO also started showing an interest in my cycles when we started TTC - before that he had always seemed a bit disgusted at even the mention of AF!! 😂

So guys, after feeling really crappy about my situation last night - I was scrolling through TikTok (don't judge me 😂) and kept coming across either pregnancy related posts or ones about people TTC, I have decided to give something new a try. So I have ordered some Pre-seed, we only very occasionally use lube anyway but willing to try anything at this stage!! I've also ordered a Ferti-Lily cup. After reading the reviews and seeing so many people saying it worked in their first month it's given me new hope. Let's see how this goes!!

Hey ladies,

so I posted on this thread a little while ago. And thought I’d come back as this past weekend we officially decided to go ahead a TTC!
im so excited and grateful and nervous.
I will be ovulating over the weekend so we will be dtd LOTS but I know how unlikely it is to fall pregnant first try.
Im just so excited to be trying for our first baby.
im 35 and my OH is 41 so it is definitely a little bit nerve wracking.
baby dust to you all ✨✨✨✨✨✨

@BeeLieve86 Hello! How exciting that you are ovulating over the weekend. Keeping everything crossed for you!
My fertile window starts end of the week and I should be ovulating around Tuesday so not too far behind you! 🙂

@LauraA31 thank you ☺️
yes this week is pretty exciting but I Really don’t want to get my hopes up. I guess I’m cautiously optimistic.
I am just on such a high that my partner is finally ready! I’ve had to be so patient with him. It was driving me crazy.
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@BeeLieve86 It was the other way around with us, boyfriend has wanted to TTC for around 12 months and i put it off because of work and moving house etc, he was over the moon when i finally told him i was ready to try 😅

This month is his birthday, and my testing day would be a week before his birthday. I am trying to stay level minded but im secretly hoping that i can give him a BFP for his birthday!

Fingers crossed for you! X

@LauraA31
fingers crossed for you too! Keep us updated ☺️ ✨✨✨✨✨

Hello all!

After a bit of advice around BBT, I use easy@home ovulation tests and the clearblue ones. I am ordering some pre-seed but not expecting miracles.
I have tried to do a bit of research into BBT, but feel that i would monitor it far too much!

Any advice/opinions would be great! X

has anyone further along experienced heartburn and bitter after taste at around 7dpo? I've never had heartburn, literally perhaps one time in a period of years.

@LauraA31
i did track my BBT about 6 or so months ago and it is a very good way to to track, especially I’m sure alongside using opk’s. It can be a bit difficult making sure you take your temperature every morning properly, but it soon becomes a habit.

hope this helps… xxx

It’s been a little while since I’ve posted here, have been trying to think about TTC less but it’s pretty impossible!!

I am now in my fertile period with a positive Opk this afternoon. This will be our 6th cycle TTC. I’m trying to stay positive but am starting to worry that there may be a problem with one of us… I’m a massive worrier at the best of times so always jumping to the worst possible outcome! I know realistically 6 months isn’t a massive amount of time to be trying I just never would have imagined it being so difficult! Nobody knows that we’re trying to it’s hard not having someone to vent to sometimes!

Anyway, fingers crossed this could be the one!

baby dust and happy thoughts to you all ✨ x

@HeartNutella I don't think I've ever had heartburn at all.... like ever.... so I'm really sorry but I can't help you there. Hopefully someone else can though!

@mgwyegve welcome back. I know how you feel, it's hard to not think about it when it's something you want so badly. I'm glad I started this thread because it gives me somewhere just to get things out of my head and that helps me feel a bit better. It's also great getting to chat to everyone else and us all being in the same situation too. We are now on cycle 8, I should be ovulating at the end of the week so am obsessively using OPKs at the minute. I'm getting that fed up of waiting now that it's getting to the point where I am willing to try anything. Trying pre-seed and a ferti-lily cup this cycle for the first time. Will let you know how that goes!

fingers crossed for everyone!

@TinyDancer91 im sorry you’re getting fed up. Trying new things this cycle will hopefully help. Baby dust to you ✨✨✨
I ovulate this weekend too. Told my OH that we need to have lots of sex and he rolled his eyes! I think he’s only just getting his head around all this, so my fertile window happening so soon after our chat isn’t great, but at the end of the day we decided to start trying straight away!

AF officially started yesterday, so month 2 of TTC has officially started. I'm planning to use ovulation sticks this time so I feel a bit more knowledgeable about my ovulation window. Sending lots of positive vibes to you all xx

Hey everyone! Hope you're all ok! Been so busy I've not come back to read all your updates, hope everyone's doing ok.

New cycle, new attempt... just wondering if cycle day 6 is too early to start trying? I am doing OPK test strips but want to make sure we are covering all bases.

Again, any tips or advice welcome ☺️ xx

Thanks for the wishes everyone ❤️ It’s hard to believe the result when I still feel like I have my normal PMS. I so sympathise with the symptom spotting @HeartNutella (I actually don’t think it’s possible not to do this lol) but for me last month I had every symptom of early pregnancy and was not pregnant, whereas this month it’s like I’m just waiting for AF to come. I just don’t think it’s that easy to read into it unfortunately. Although people who are more in tune with their bodies than me may disagree!

@ladydorito I’m crossing my fingers for your August BFP too (although holiday as an alternative is not a terrible deal!) This whole process has made me so much more aware of the struggles people face and how emotive TTC is. If we’d got lucky cycle 1 I probably would have told people in a completely different (read: insensitive) way. We’ve got a while before we’re at the telling people stage but I will be avoiding any big, gleeful group announcements.

@Chocolat how did you handle the drinking question in the end? Hen dos are my worst bloody nightmare lol.

@TinyDancer91 good luck with the TTC adjuncts this cycle and with the braces! I’m also dentist-phobic and never had them as a teen. Would love to now tbh but still dead scared of dentists 😂 Blowing BFP dust in your general direction.

@Glawen it’s never too early - the more s-e-x the better, right?…

Hi everyone, just joining in now. I'm on cd5 of cycle 2 ttc #1. Finding it all a bit overwhelming and stressful!

@Moonlighting my plan was to do a pregnancy test in the morning before I go to decide whether I should drink or not, and it was faintly positive 😭. I was doing tests a few days before any they were always stark white negative. They all sussed me out at the hen party lol but i just said I really didn’t know and that I might have been 😂. Anyway AF officially late and have my BFP 😄

Thanks @Moonlighting - congratulations on your news 🎉

I am CD7 #1 TTC #1... we are a bit clueless but doing what we can and hoping for the best. You'll all have to fill me in on the lingo - AF/BFP etc? Hehe!

I think hubs is going to pass out with the trying mind you! I see a look of fear in his eyes hahahaa! Is it ok to try every day? Every other seems more realistic but does it change your chances/quality of his part? 🤔