First timers, TTC. Safe space for brain dumps...

[TinyDancer91]

Hi everyone!

This thread may or may not contain questions, I've mainly started it to be my brain dump safe space but in an excited way, not a bad way...

Me (30) and my SO (34) have decided to take the leap and start TTC! We have both wanted children for a while but just knew the timing wasn't right for either of us until now. For me, any time I see a baby or even baby clothes recently my heart aches for it to be my turn. I've never really had that strong feeling before.

The reason behind this 'safe space' is that we have agreed not to tell anyone we are TTC. We just want to avoid any pressure or disappointment if things don't go to plan, etc.

For context, I am the youngest of 5, the only girl the only one of my siblings without children.
SO is the oldest of 2, his brother has a child who lives with BM away from here so isn't really seen much by grandparents.

Both families are great and would only want the best for us but I personally don't want to feel any sort or pressure at all (intended or not) from either side.

So, we start our journey, we are on cycle 1 SWI, not expecting anything to happen this cycle and trying not to turn in to a crazy lady about TTC

If anyone else needs a brain dump safe space, feel free to join me here x

Hey fellow first timers. How are we all? Have we any more BFPs?

Anyone else feel like they are going a tiny bit crazy? I've started having really strange but vivid dreams (I never normally dream at all) that all refer to being pregnant. Not sure if it's a sign or just my mind playing tricks on me.

Currently in my 2ww so can't even test to find out yet!! Feel like I'm wishing my life away just to get some answers...

Sending baby dust to you all 👶🏻💕

@TinyDancer91 I'm also in the two week wait!! Ovulated on the 1st so got about another week to go yet. The wait drives me crazy!! I dream about having positive tests so much haha. Hopefully this month is the one for us!!

@Zubi fingers crossed for you!

I've not had a dream about doing a test yet, but in the dreams I've had I have known that I was pregnant. They have been different every night too. Each dream seems to elude to a different 'symptom' which is strange.

Maybe I'm just losing my mind 😂

@TinyDancer91 hello! Hope you don’t mind me joining! 29 DH 35! Ttc first child but we have been ttc for 12 months! Similar situation to you as wanting to keep it quiet and not tell people until it actually happens and progresses to around 10 weeks! Particularly due to our issues we are so glad we haven’t told anyone and people constantly questioning us! We did get married 9 months ago, and some people still question it, but I think it would be a lot worse had we told people we are ttc!

Anyways I’m currently 7DPO and waiting for Thursday to test! I was initially going to test on saturday, but I think I’m going to test on Thursday instead now, and continue to test until Saturday as I have no self control! Good luck everyone!

@Zubi same ovulation day 👋

Hi All again. I got my BFP yesterday (and on the other 3 tests I have frantically taken since 😂). I was only 11 D.P.O and randomly took a test because I just couldn't sleep through the night and thought the tww might have me stressed out subconsciously (I wasn't even thinking about testing because I had zero sympthoms but was at my wits end after another bad night's sleep). Was shocked when I got an instant positive.

@EMC2022

Hi All again. I got my BFP yesterday (and on the other 3 tests I have frantically taken since 😂). I was only 11 D.P.O and randomly took a test because I just couldn't sleep through the night and thought the tww might have me stressed out subconsciously (I wasn't even thinking about testing because I had zero sympthoms but was at my wits end after another bad night's sleep). Was shocked when I got an instant positive.

Congratulations! You must be soo happy!

I tested early and got an evap i think, so hard to stay away from the tests 🤣

I am so very happy but also very cautiously nervous. I want to tell everyone but have that typical stigma to wait the 12 weeks. It all feels very overwhelming which is why this forum is a welcomed escape

@EMC2022 this is so exciting congrats!
Did you have any symptoms at all?

@EMC2022

Hi All again. I got my BFP yesterday (and on the other 3 tests I have frantically taken since 😂). I was only 11 D.P.O and randomly took a test because I just couldn't sleep through the night and thought the tww might have me stressed out subconsciously (I wasn't even thinking about testing because I had zero sympthoms but was at my wits end after another bad night's sleep). Was shocked when I got an instant positive.

Yay!! Congratulations 😊

Absolutely none at all. I was having trouble sleeping for over a week (wakinh from 4am onwards and I usually sleep like a log) but I couldn't guarantuee that was attributed to pregnancy given it was happening for quiet a while. Today I have some very mild cramping which I'm hoping is totally normal but as its my first pregnancy I have no idea!

Hi ladies, I hope it's okay for me to jump back on this thread. I got a BFP in Jan but sadly it wasn't meant to be 💛 I think I may have just ovulated again so getting back on the TTC train. Hope you're all doing well x

@EMC2022 that's great news! So happy for you!!

@Sassy144 so sorry it wasn't meant to be. Fingers crossed for a lasting bfp very soon for you!

I'm 7dpo and the tww is killing me!! Debating testing at 10 or 11 dpo or just waiting to see if AF comes 😬

Hi all! I would love to join this thread too. I'm 34 and my OH is 38. I've been off contraceptive for 2yrs now (but using pull out method for first year ish). Then for a few months a relaxed view of getting pregnant (not doing OPK or timing sex). But after no results decided we needed to take things seriously so it's been 2 months of OPK, which have been very weird as I got covid early Dec and then booster mid Jan, so my cycles have been crazy!
I should also add that I've got endometriosis. I know it's still possible to get pregnant but chances are lower. Luckily, I've got a date for my laparoscopy to remove the Endo 1st of March so hoping that will help.
Same as many of you, my OH finds it very hard to believe that babies don't happen when having unprotected sex once
I got my laparoscopy surgery date a few days after my ovulation and we had already DTD but I'm still hoping I get a BFP and anxious but at the same time thinking it would be better to wait until after the surgery.
Never thought I would be so anxious about this whole process and love being able to share this here (as with many of you, we aren't telling anyone we are trying).

So lovely to see so many BFPs here! No news for us, AF arrived a day early this month so no need to test. On the positive it looks like my cycles are pretty regular after coming off the pill in late November. Fingers crossed that this is the month! Sending luck to everyone!

@noclueTTC welcome! Sounds like you've got a few challenges, but keeping my fingers crossed for you! Sending lots of baby dust your way!

@CornishSeaSwim that's good news that af has already regulated! Hoping for a bfp next cycle for you!!

Well it's another bfn for me, AF arrived this morning...

@TinyDancer91 I'm sorry, af is such a cow 😞

I have raging PMS and mild cramps today, af due on Saturday, so have a feeling she might be surprising me early

@Sassy144 AF is a mega cow for me this month. Based on previous cycles, she is 3 days late, but based on ovulation this cycle, she's not due until Friday! I think covid delayed ovulation by a week this cycle, so my tww is actually only a week and a half... 🤷🏻‍♀️

Let's see what happens with my next cycle!

Sending baby dust to all!! 👶🏻💕

@TinyDancer91 there's nothing more frustrating! My AF due today but not here yet, took a test this morn but BFN, fingers crossed next month for us!!

I told a test this morning 3 to be exact!!! I'm positive!!!! Says in 1-2 weeks so trying to remain calm!

Ooh hi girls, please may I join too? First timer, also 30yo.

Just about to crack on with 3rd cycle of TTC. We’ve been tracking ovulation, taking supplements, and timing DTD. I was so ignorant to ‘the journey’, and stupidly thought it would happen straight away. Silly me! I’ve got a thermometer and pre-seed now too, and have completely cut out alcohol.

Maybe I should NC to DogsAndNoGin! One week til ovulation!

Good luck everyone

@GAAJ04 congratulations! That's so exciting! What cycle was this for you? Have you told your partner yet?

I've been so bad at keeping up with mumsnet, but I'm still reading where I can. Congrats to all the bfps so far on this thread!

[quote taytay2020]@GAAJ04 congratulations! That's so exciting! What cycle was this for you? Have you told your partner yet?

I've been so bad at keeping up with mumsnet, but I'm still reading where I can. Congrats to all the bfps so far on this thread! [/quote]
I can't remember, cycle 8 maybe, I stopped counting lol
Yea he was with me when I took the test! So much emotion right now x