First timers, TTC. Safe space for brain dumps...

[TinyDancer91]

Hi everyone!

This thread may or may not contain questions, I've mainly started it to be my brain dump safe space but in an excited way, not a bad way...

Me (30) and my SO (34) have decided to take the leap and start TTC! We have both wanted children for a while but just knew the timing wasn't right for either of us until now. For me, any time I see a baby or even baby clothes recently my heart aches for it to be my turn. I've never really had that strong feeling before.

The reason behind this 'safe space' is that we have agreed not to tell anyone we are TTC. We just want to avoid any pressure or disappointment if things don't go to plan, etc.

For context, I am the youngest of 5, the only girl the only one of my siblings without children.
SO is the oldest of 2, his brother has a child who lives with BM away from here so isn't really seen much by grandparents.

Both families are great and would only want the best for us but I personally don't want to feel any sort or pressure at all (intended or not) from either side.

So, we start our journey, we are on cycle 1 SWI, not expecting anything to happen this cycle and trying not to turn in to a crazy lady about TTC

If anyone else needs a brain dump safe space, feel free to join me here x

@littlecontis yay cycle buddies! When is AF due for you?

Good plan on the lingerie front!! Haha. This TTC journey is making me feel not very sexy tbh, I'm on cycle 4 but feel like it's cycle 800. I wish I could just chill out about it all 🤦‍♀️

Also you never know, your first cycle could be the winning cycle lol xx

Hi everyone.

Sorry for being a bit quiet on here recently, work has been very busy! Huge congratulations to all those who have had BFPs. How exciting!

According to Clue’s estimates my period is three days late but I’m pretty sure I ovulated later than usual due to my booster so I reckon that by Friday, I would officially be ‘late’. Do you reckon that I should take a test tomorrow morning when I’m 13DPO or wait a bit longer? I have some FRERs waiting in the cupboard that I’m desperate to use ha! It’s only the first proper cycle of trying for us so I’m trying not to get my hopes up too much as the late period probably just down to my booster but I can’t help myself!

@MrsG2021 yes test then come back and tell us how you've got on 🙂

@MrsG202113dpo is a great time to wait until and you’ve done well to hold off until now. Let us know how you get on and fingers crossed for you!

@MrsG2021

Hi everyone.

Sorry for being a bit quiet on here recently, work has been very busy! Huge congratulations to all those who have had BFPs. How exciting!

According to Clue’s estimates my period is three days late but I’m pretty sure I ovulated later than usual due to my booster so I reckon that by Friday, I would officially be ‘late’. Do you reckon that I should take a test tomorrow morning when I’m 13DPO or wait a bit longer? I have some FRERs waiting in the cupboard that I’m desperate to use ha! It’s only the first proper cycle of trying for us so I’m trying not to get my hopes up too much as the late period probably just down to my booster but I can’t help myself!

Hey, I'm currently 4 days late, I've taken to test - one before I was due and one on the day I was due. Going to test tomorrow I think as so far I'm negative! All very strange as I'm normally very regular with my periods

Sorry if TMI but I'm a little excited as I have EWCM today so hoping my body is starting to ovulate again after coming off the pill! 🤞🤞

@Mariabombia my AF is due on 4 Feb, DTD two days in a row and don't think my OH would be keen for another night lol! Although I don't have high hopes I do really hope we'd get a BFP soon. My cycle is really regular so I guess I'll find out on 4 Feb. When will you test?

Turns out that my ‘late’ period is more baby than booster! The second line appeared pretty much instantly this morning! I’m delighted but it feels so surreal!

Yay delighted for you @MrsG2021! 😁 very surreal feeling isn’t it. Congratulations!

Trying to upload a pic!

Congratulations @MrsG2021 !!!

Congrats @MrsG2021 !!!! I got my BFP yesterday too. Remember talking to you a couple of weeks ago. So happy it worked out for you. Xx

Thank you @rcal1988 and @Nyxxie!

Yay! So pleased for you @HMFx! Such lovely news. Have you got many symptoms?

Congrats @MrsG2021 & @HMFx !!! Bet you're both absolutely over the moon 💕

@littlecontis My AF is due on the 3rd so I was thinking of testing the day before. On my second cycle I waited for AF instead of testing & I was late so was extra gutted when AF turned up. So think I'd rather just test before to know! I'm peaking tonight according to easy@home but got a static on cb advanced yesterday so god knows. Just trying to dtd as much as poss :p

How're you feeling about your first cycle ttc so far?

Thanks @MrsG2021 and @Mariabombia - it still doesn't feel real but I'm so happy!!!

I've been feeling quite crampy and stomach pains also quite queasy today and very tired. How about you?

Sending you all so much luck for anyone still to test ✨🧡

@HMFx

Thanks *@MrsG2021 and @Mariabombia* - it still doesn't feel real but I'm so happy!!!

I've been feeling quite crampy and stomach pains also quite queasy today and very tired. How about you?

Sending you all so much luck for anyone still to test ✨🧡

Just sore boobs and some very mild cramping for me so far so nothing major. The cramping was what gave me an inkling as I always have quite bad period pains but these were so mild that they were barely noticeable.

Sending lots of luck and baby dust to you all x

congrats @MrsG2021 ! Such a lovely BFP!!!

@Mariabombia I actually dunno if I'd be able to wait until the 4th to find out but equally I don't want to get my hopes up either! First cycle of TTC - I keep thinking whether it was too early or too late to DTD!! I just wanted to make sure we DTD at the "right time"! As I said I don't want to get my hopes up and so I went ahead and bought more lingerie and they've arrived today 😛 have you done anything differently since cycle 1?

Congratulations @mrsg2021 @rcal1988 and all the other BFPs on here over the last couple of weeks! It is so inspiring to see.

I've been trying not to obsess about ttc this month but it's really not working! I'm about 8 or 9 dpo at the moment and have convinced myself that the nausea I'm feeling today is baby and not just hunger 😂 I also very selflessly(!) decided not to go running during my tww, just to give my body more energy to expend on that baby it should definitely be working on (glares at stomach) Anyone else feeling this way??! 😂

I feel the same on trying not to obsess but also thinking about every symptom and date calculation and everything. We're month 1 of ttc and my app said i ovulated on 10th but its only using two proper months cycle data (28 and 34, think my booster delayed it) so no idea if we DTD/Ovulated as the app said. Trying to be chill and go by the assumption that I'll just get my period next week and we'll try again in Feb, but honestly dont feel calm/ think I'll be a bit upset! Doesn't help that we're apart for most of the week ahead and so i think hubby will be expecting updates of AF or not!
Anyone else expecting to hear next week?

@littlecontis I know what you mean I keep thinking we maybe should have done it the day before my peak but then again I've heard people say not to do it every day in the fertile week as it can reduce sperm quality so I don't know. It's all just a bloody minefield haha.

Ooo lovely, where did you end up getting them from? I probably need to invest in a new set haha.

First two cycles we didn't track ovulation, 3rd cycle we started with ov sticks & this cycle we've started using pre seed. It's got lots of good reviews. Willing to try anything tbh 🤣

@Ft23 I have everything crossed for you this cycle and that AF doesn’t show up! I’d highly recommend trying OPKs if this cycle wasn’t meant to be as I found my app was not accurate in its prediction of when I would ovulate. I used OPKs this month and got my BFP. I would have missed the fertile window if I hadn’t of used them but it’s also very good to be chilled about it and not have to test for ovulation 🙂

Hi all hoping I can join this chat? We are TTC for the first time, already ovulated this month so we have already had our first try if that makes sense lol. I'm 27 and we are getting married end of March, I have a high BMI I'm not ashamed to say that but it does make me anxious its going to stop me getting pregnant. I've been off the pill for a year tracking my periods since using the Flo App. According to the app I'm due on tomorrow I feel like the last week my body has been playing tricks on me! I've had on and off spotting last few days and today I had cramps and thought oh no its here had a small amount of bleeding but no where near what I would have on my period. Seems to be slightly more spotting than I've had this week mixed with clear discharge not enough for need for even a small pantyliner, very light. Anyone had this before?

Congrats to all who've had a BFP and wishing the best of luck to everyone else in the same TTC boat!

Lucy xx

@MrsG2021

Turns out that my ‘late’ period is more baby than booster! The second line appeared pretty much instantly this morning! I’m delighted but it feels so surreal!

Thank you @littlecontis and @S0lipsism x