Waiting to TTC,any one else in similar sitch??

[Wannabamummy]

Hi all

am looking for ppl in similar situation who are waiting to start TTC, interested to hear when thay are planning to start, reasons for waiting etc!

I am waiting to TTC as DP and i have agreed due to number of reasons, holiday in aug and trying to get ourselves better off financially, getting head straigh after mc in july, spending time together... Would just like to hear from those in similar boat, would be nice to get excited with someone!! sometimes feel an intruder being here hope no one minds!

hi all its BB but have names changed, am having a baddddd day so thought this would lift my spirits!

how are the rest of you?? Cosmo you around today? anyone heard from puss lately? x

Hi all,

sorry mad day at work today, have not even stopped long enough to eat all my lunch let alone look at Mumsnet but thought I would have a peak before I went home.

BB/BMLB - That is exciting news on the ttc front. Sorry the other thread wasn't that friendly, I suppose that some of them go through such hardships ttc that they just can't have any sympathy for people like us who are choosing to wait. I can understand that, it must be hard for them to realise that for us the desire to have kids is just as strong as theirs is and despite having valid reasons to have to wait it doens't make it any easier. It may not be quite as frustrating as trying every month and failing but its not far short, especially for someone like you who have had a m/c.

Aww thanks playing, stupidly posted an AIBU thread in anger and that descended into madness so thought new name new start, think i'l just stick here in our friendly group he he

poor you being so busy, its no fun is it? i have manic days at work but have been lazy today! he he

hope tomo's better for everyone and cosmo again good luck!!

Natalie hope your feeling better!

forces, mcaparkle,acceber and carmen electra, are you all around?

anyway off home in a mo so speak to you all tomo hopefully xx

...and of course dont forget there will always be people who are happy to have 3 kids in a 2 bed house or survive on benefit, so will go ahead ttc regardless. I am not one of those people (that doesnt mean I think they are wrong), they just have different priorities. I think if you bring a life into the world it deserves everything you can give it. That doesn't mean loads of money, money is not everything, but to me it does mean a basic standard of living. Not going short on anything they need, not having to miss out on the experience of going on holiday abroad (even if it every other year in a caravan site) or not being able to have horse riding lesson, not being able to learn a musical instrument, not having extra tuition in a subject they are struggling with, all because money is too tight. Being more financially stable also means to me, having the time to spend with your children because you are not both working full time (I know that one is contentious) and people are free to disagree. Money can't buy you happiness but it can free up time to spend with your children and provide the experiences that enrich their lives and turn them into well rounded adults, its all about how you choose to spend it. If people still can't see why we might choose to wait in order to give our kids a better life then that is their problem, but here, I think we all understand, just as much as we understand how hard waiting is!

sorry was a bit of a rant!! They just got me a bit angry! I thought threads were supposed to be supportive. I apologise for the rant.

Hi ladies, gosh, been a bit eventful on here today! BB - another name change? Is it OK if I still call you BB?
Super nervous about tomorrow but it's at 8.30 am so at least will be out the way quickly if it doesn't go well.
I'll let you all know how it went - thanks for all the good luck messages Playing, Natalie and BB.

Night all.

Yeah you can all call em whatever you like, so long as its nice he he hope it has gone well today cosmo!!

Well better do some work today i guess!!
x

Hi everyone

Good luck today Cosmo, I will keep my fingers crossed for you xx

BB/playing, I think some people on the TTC boards have had it really hard, and as much as I feel for them, (I do know what it is like to be waiting for a while), sometimes they get so caught up in their own TTC that they aren't really much good on a thread about others TTC. They don't always give the same sort of support, because they feel they aren't getting anywhere, why should anyone else? It sounds like selfishness, it isn't it is quite right that their own lives and circumstances are going to seem far more important to them, than people on an internet site, but as I say, I think perhaps they should recognise that they aren't really giving the support, and maybe bow out, or go and start a specific thread to do with TTC for a long time etc. it has been done before.

Whilst obviously the longer you are TTC the stress and worry builds, I think sometimes people forget that even in the first month TTC it quickly becomes an obsession and is the biggest thing going on in your life.

Does all that make me sound really bitchy? It wasn't meant to be. Just observation and from my own personal experiences.

I still have a cold/headachy type thing, so am still grumping about! Though I did cheer myself up slightly yesterday, I ordered some of those cheap pregnancy tests off eBay, mainly to see when I stop getting BFP's from the M/C, but hoping to use more of them come May time

playing just read your long post, thanks for it! it summed up exactly how i feel!

Natalie you're right too, and not bitchy,perhaps im just better staying within our little group, dont wwanna upset people and i spose like you said it must be hard not to become a little self centred if you have trouble ttc, i am just hoping agianst that for myself!!

Its nice you have a month, may will soon be here!

I still havent had AF, but Coil seems fine, think it must just be a side affect...the strange human body eh lol x

Morning everyone.

Yes I did post a rather long message yesterday. I had had a shit day, was stressed and went a little OTT, I hope I didnt offend anyone.

I do really understand the problems some people face ttc and I am sure I cannot even begin to comprehend how hard it must be, however, that doesn't excuse rudeness which is what made me mad. Many people here have a lot of personal issues/circumstances to deal with and come on here for support, which is what Mumsnet shoud be. But yes, I think maybe not posting on those threads is a good idea, I havent as I thought I may have got a similar reaction, but I do read them. Anyhow, lets draw a line under all of that.

How are we all today? Cosmos- how did the interview go?

Sorry girls I wasn't saying that you (or 'new' TTCers) should leave those types of threads, but that the people who have been TTCing for a while and are starting to get a bit of.... resentment towards people who haven't been trying very long, they should be the ones who take a step back and remember what it was like to start TTC.

I think if there is a thread running specifically for those that have been trying for e.g. 12 months or more, and then a 'newbie' butt's in and starts talking about just starting out, minus the rudeness I think it would then be perfectly acceptable to point them in the direction of the general TTC threads.

I saw the thread yesterday and it certainly didn't look to me like a thread for the old timers.

Anyway, I have a bar of Galaxy to get through before DS2 wakes up and want's some

Oh no natalie have i missed the choc??? i lurve galaxy!i have sent my office monkey out to fetch malteaser type suplies however he has just informed me i will have to make do with chocolate fudge cookies ho hum... sometimes he's a gd drugged up monkey who does my bidding he he

Yes lets all forget about yesterday, i think i'l do like you playing and just read,i do enjoy reading anyway hehe

havent heard from cosmo, wonder how she got on? x

Nope sorry it's all gone

Will save some next time xx

You can't beat Galaxy chocolate, t'is beautiful

he he its ok ive stuffed myself with biscuits bang goes the diet for today lol x

Biscuits, ultimate comfort food, I don't buy them anymore, else I eat them all LOL

Hi Guys,

well I have managed not to eat anything too naughty today (that big bowl of chilli con carne doesn't count ). Keep thinking about going on a diet. Could do with loosing a reasonable amount of weight according to the BMI scale but cooking (and eating) is one of my fav hobbies and I generally eat reasonibly healthy most of the time. Maybe exercise is the answer. Should do something to get my body in shape before ttc.

Anyone else attempting a pre-ttc diet/exercise plan?

Hi playing

According to the hieght against weight charts i too should shed some weight, im not happy with my weight myself either, am contemplaiting WeightWatchers but like you i enjoy cooking and the social side of eating... And the unreasonable lazy cow part of my brain says whats the point of loosing weight if gonna ttc...

Oh the drama!!

I think i shall just be trying to cut junk food... and take some more exercise, i was trying stackers but they were horrid they give me the shakes!!

So i think i'l just try to do things the right way...

what about everyone else? xx

I am firmly a beliver of eat when you're hungry, don't eat when you're not (unless it is Galaxy bars, or biscuits, or jaffa cakes )

I have lost about 3st. in the last 13 months just by eating only when hungry, and not over eating (ie. stopping eating when full, not feeling like I have to finish every last morsal on the plate)

I don't have a strict exercise regime, but I do walk quite a bit and because we live on a mountain, a lot of it is up hill, but other than that I've done nothing.

What are stackers??

there like pure caffeine pills, i got them from the gym, they just send your metabolism into hyperdrive!!! they honestly made me feel so thirsty that i felt i'd die unless i had water with me at all times... i did shift a stone in two weeks but cldnt cope with feeling that way for long... was considering doing a week on week off, but think i'l just follow your good example, and eat when hungry, and control my portions x

OMG, I couldn't be doing with those.... I have watched my sister doing diet after diet after diet, and never getting anywhere with them, I decided I wasn't going to do the same, I thought if I eat too much I am going to put weight on, if I eat too little my body won't work, if I eat enough my body will do what it feels is right, seems to be working so far!

Hey ladies, well what a day! Job interview went well - they offered me it at the interview!! So shocked, so said I would think about it over night. Am going to call tomorrow and accept. Such a good offer, great money, loads of good benefits (they really look after staff), so I am hopeful it will all work out for the best. Just the yucky business of resigning now ick.....

Dieting wise, me and DH are two weeks into Slimming World. He is going to the meetings, I am just following it from the book but he lost 10 and a half pounds in week 1 - how good is that? Hope we can stay motivated. I miss chocolate tho Hope you are all well girls. Thanks again for your good wishes x

Wow Cosmo! Congratulations It sounds like a really good opportunity

That is good that you are dieting together, gives you more motivation I am sure. I think the hardest part with any diet is when you first start you lose loads, then a few weeks down the line you seem to stop losing so much as your body catches up, I think that is when most people give up thinking it isn't working.

Congrats on the job again

Congrats cosmo!!

Thats such good news, its really important to be in a gd job that you enjoy!

does anyone have plans for the weekend xx

Morning all,

Congratulations Cosmo! Sounds like exactly the sort of thing you need. New job, new start and sooner than you know it, new baby (hopefully!!).

Wow, you girls are being so good on the diet front. I really should be more proactive. Its not really what I eat, I think its more to do with the fact I eat too much, don't exercise and I have far too many dinner parties (not in the snobby middle class way, just mates round for food ). Maybe will have to work on getting my portion sizes smaller and start some exercise.

Not up to anything too exciting this weekend, helping my brother move house. Also have friends coming for dinner on Sat night and a different set of friends coming for Sunday lunch (hmm, food again!).

Anyway, time to get on with some work.

Morning all

Plans for the weekend? Well DH is having a very rare weekend off, but we are going to attempt controlled crying with our youngest, never done it before, can't stand to hear them cry, so goodness knows if it is going to work, but he is getting so stroppy and over tired, and will not give up the fight to go to sleep and we need our evenings and bed back to ourselves. Bit controversal, but don't feel like we have much choice anymore but to try it.

So I expect we will spend the weekend taking naps and trying to catch up on sleep.

I don't think we'll feel like doing much else TBH, it is going to be a long hard weekend.