Waiting to TTC,any one else in similar sitch??

[Wannabamummy]

Hi all

am looking for ppl in similar situation who are waiting to start TTC, interested to hear when thay are planning to start, reasons for waiting etc!

I am waiting to TTC as DP and i have agreed due to number of reasons, holiday in aug and trying to get ourselves better off financially, getting head straigh after mc in july, spending time together... Would just like to hear from those in similar boat, would be nice to get excited with someone!! sometimes feel an intruder being here hope no one minds!

oo sorry Natalie, thought it was, that will teach me to try and work and read at the same time. And see hoe excited BB got me about all those baby things. Its not good. Have to keep will power and not ttc yet.

Hello ladies,

Just thought I'd pop my head round at say hi. I think I prob won't be posting much - ttc just seems quite a way off at the moment to me and I think it would be better if I didn't get too excited this early on!
I have decided to quit the pill after my current pack though - I think it is making my moods a lot crazy during certain times of the month and I have just a bit fed up with it really. So I have the craziness of getting used to being off the pill to entertain myself I guess. Plus I start the new job on 25th Feb so that will be exciting too.
Anyway, just thought I would pop my head in and say that. I'm not disappearing in a puff of smoke so please keep me on the list, if that's OK. Cosmo x

Bum! Sorry about all the typos

Hi Cosmos,

I had been wondering where you were. Think maybe that leaving us for a bit is a good plan. Its hard when you are constantly talking about it and you are encouraged by other people when you know you have to wait longer than everyone else. I can completely understand. I am staying here for now even though my time seems a long way off. I actually find it easier to come here and talk about it rather than just keep it to myself and start feeling resentful. The past few months have been so hard when I have had to keep it all in, the support here is great. So we will be around if you want to come back. If I dont "see" you soon good luck with the new job.

I am off home now as its getting very late. Will speak to everyone tomorrow.

Diege,go on go for it!im still undecided though!great contraception as when i decide againgst dh is for and vica versa!

Just to let you know AF arrived this morning - at least it didn't wait until Monday and I can get on with it again

havent had chance to read post so apologies for self centred post but im going to cry...

i think i will have to change jobs which puts kibosh on TTC in two months... my boss has extended my parole and i have no job security... i think im gonna cry...

just needed to vent and feel sad...

will read other posts and post properly asap xx

Oh sweetie, thats not good. I don't know what I can say or do apart from send {{{{hugs}}}}. Did she give any reason? Is it something they normally do? My heart bleeds for you, but at least if you have to change jobs than at least if it means waiting you have all of us for support!!

Oh and good morning everyone

Oh no BEMY! Vent away, it's horrible when something like this happens - feels like the rug's been pulled from under your feet. Did your boss given any reason for extending the parole? Can see how this would make you feel insecure job-wise - there again how would you see things if you had just got pregnant then this happened? Just been thinking myself recently that there are certain things in life that happen regardless, and sometimes it's just best to get on with things as there will never be a 'perfect' time. Can understand you feelings entirely though.
TEUCH: well at least you know where you stand eh! I used to hate the first day or so when af arrived when I was ttc, but after a day or so it's odd how the disappointment of it all lifts and it's on to the next month!
Off out to meet an old work colleague, so speak later on

Oh Teuch bugger it. At least you know where you are and can get on with it next month. Lots of love for you.

Bemy that sucks, what the hell is going on? Do you love the job? I am not very good with work stuff as i have not worked for nearly 10 years Hope it gets sorted.

Morning everyone else

Just thinking BYMY that it might be worth having a quiet word wioth your union rep? Just an off the record chat? I hhave heard of bosses pi**ing about with this sort of thing, just so they don't have to sign up to permanent contracts. There have also been changes in the law recently (anti-discriminatory) that do give workers in your situation more right re: holiday leave etc, but not sure about probationary periods...will check when I get a chance today .

Agree with Diege...not sure that they can justify extending a parole period (unless of course you have breached it already, lady ).

Also agree wholeheartedly with just getting on with it anyway...I resigned (constructive dismissal, actually) at 9 weeks pg last time, with no idea what I was going to do for money or for work!! It was the best thing I ever did, as it opened so many opportunities for me that I now rely on!

I don't know what your area of work is, but can you register with a decent agency?

If they are buggering you about now, what will they be like with maternity leave/pay?

can I suggest a new thread? Thread title suggestions?

"TTC-ers and procrastinators...the slippery slope!"

Anyone else?

Go for it if you want, I will def be in the procrastinators section!! . We are getting quite long in here, we keep chatting!

Hi all thanks for support

My parole has been extended because my ex-boss didnt sign me off after my original probation because he fucked off to start his own business, i got an award for excellence so i think im doing ok, only thing is decision will be made on march 24, so what do i do? do i hang around in a job that some days i hate, with reallyu long hours thats ages away from home but that pays well, in the hope that i will be signed off whilst living with knowing that at the end of each week i cld be out on my ear, also knowing that even when perm no more stable really

or

do i find something new and start from scratch so to speak? i feel so put out x

hmm...you are right 'procrastinate' doesn't really sum it up

how about "Ready, Aim...HANG FIRE!! Waiting to TTC"

LOL Teuch , I'd join!!

BB- It doesnt sound as if your job is under immediate danger then, so if its worth fighting for maybe stick it out? However, it does sound as if your employers are arseholes to extend your probation over something so stupid. It sounds a little dodgy, I wouldn't want to work someone where they treat emplyees like that. Also, if you are not enjoying it, it might be worth looking for something new, money is def not everything? There's no harm having a look?

yeah thanks playing think thats what ill do, check back here later, from mums house so can have proper chat x

Jus depressing cos means like cosmo i wont be able to TTC for agggges

Keep you chin up BB, you might still end up trying before me! If you get a new job you might want to wait till after probabtion to start but that could be in as little as 4 months or so, certainly within 6 months. In fact, you will def be trying before me as DH and I have def decided we are not even going to consider it till Sept. Got to go and do work now, will chat to you later.

BB - just had to pop on and give you a virtual hug (()) That really sucks! My new job is a 6 month probation period - so that will mean end of August before I get permanent contract if all goes OK.

I know you must be feeling really down, I am having days like that too. If I were you I'd take some time and have a think about what you want to do. It is so frustrating that work and money have to get in the way of the more important things in life!

Anyway, am thinking of you hun, and as Playing says, if you do need to wait, you'll have plenty of company x

Thanks you guys, its nice having you guys here anyway, DP and i are going to discuss all tonight but i do think i'l leave, it'l just be nice to leave onmy terms, thanks for all your hugs, ive needed them today!

am off to my mums tonight to apply for jobs so will check back later x

Hello girlies

Where to start???

Teuch, I am sorry about AF, but agree with what everyone has said about looking forward to next month

Cosmo, Glad to see you are still about Again as others have said, you do what is best for you, if being here is too much, then take a break, but if you want us, we will be here

BB, I don't really know about all your job stuff, but I do hope it gets sorted out one way or another soon. Good luck with the job hunting later xx

Diege, I love the new thread title, made me smile actually!

Is that the lot? Phew....!

I have had such a busy day today, I went into town after dropping DS1 at school, went and sorted bank stuff and bills, did some shopping, had my hair cut, got home just in time to get shopping packed away and go and get DS from school, then I rang my mum, put the phone down to her and my sister rang, I haven't even had a brew since this morning! And it's not over yet, we've got Tesco tonight, but I think I fully deserve a bottle, or three, of wine And I might let DH buy us a chinese

Right must go and get the boys ready for Tesco. G'night everyone xxx