Ttc after miscarriage 🤞🌈✨

[Skl2021]

Just a thread for any ladies ttc after a miscarriage! Nice to get some support from people going through the same thing. So I had a MMC at ten weeks nearly three weeks ago now. I'm still getting faint positive on tests. My ovulation tests are still all over the place possibly due to the HCG still being in my system. So not totally accurate right now. So I'm currently stuck in limbo land either waiting for ovulation or my period 🤔 any ladies want to join the journey?!?!

@Skl2021 I know! Thanks..you've been amazing 🥰...yeah had my cry now. Need to speak to DH. Hate how it's always me hassling for DTD as well. Going to focus on my diet as it's not the best. Doing stuff for myself ( I want to get back into horse riding) and hopefully just regular DTD will suffice. I'd love to not track anything but not sure I can let go of that much control yet 😬 x

@calimc83 haha I said if it doesn't happen this cycle I want to try and not track next cycle never been able to give up the control haha 🙈😂 easier said than done 😬 I should really sort my diet too but that doesn't happen either 🙈🙌 xx

@calimc83 I’m 38 and change. It took 5 months to conceive. I guess I don’t mean I don’t think about my age—I do, a lot. I worry it’ll be harder to get there. I just mean I used to think, I couldn’t possibly be ok having a child at x age and now that side of it doesn’t bother me. My mom had me at 19 and was shocked and appalled that I was trying...but times have changed...I do worry it’ll take longer, or that I’ll have to do this several more times. I guess I also live in an area where I wouldn’t be the oldest pregnant woman by a large margin (many on their first at our age) so that makes me feel like it can happen and to the extent that it niggled at me from a social perspective 1. I don’t care anymore but 2. I wouldn’t stand out

This is Ganesh, this is very old name, didn’t realize it was coming up as two diff names 🤨

@Sparklesurprise29 Thanks so much. I'm so sorry we all find ourselves here but it helps so much to have support.

Re pressure, it's been pretty icky for us with DTD. Always me pressuring. It's tricky b/c, while he's happy to have another, he doesn't feel the desperation for it that I do, and would be happy with our family as it is. If I said tomorrow let's just stop, he'd likely never think about it again. So I'm always scared of kinda pushing him into calling the whole thing off (not scared-scared of him, or anything like that, just..it feels yucky). How are people finding their partners in all this (if partnered)?

Hi all,

I would love to join if possible? Although I am a little earlier in the process than many of you.
I started bleeding on New Years Eve when I would have been around 8 weeks. I was only able to book an appointment at the EPU on Monday, but nature took over and I was pretty sure it all happened on Saturday evening. The scan on Monday confirmed that there was nothing in my womb, just a thickened lining. They couldn't accept my private scan picture as proof that there was something there, so I am in tomorrow for bloods to confirm that my HCG levels are lowering.
The bleeding is definitely easing, so I am hoping that I will soon be in the clear to get back on it.
I cannot tell you how much this thread has changed my mindset. I've been feeling so lost and without hope, and to be honest I was exhausted by the idea of TTC again, but reading about your experiences has helped me feel so much better about being in this horrible club, so thank you all x

@theblueflowers so sorry you have to join this club, but warm welcome. I've just joined recently and it's helped a lot.

@Ganesh2022 ah ok, I see what you mean. My mum had me at 38 and in those days that was seen as geriatric! 🙈😆 x

@Ganesh2022 also I think my DH sounds exactly like yours..whilst he's keen and happy for another ( which took some persuading) I think, like you say he's happily walk away tomorrow if I said let's put an end to this x

@theblueflowers Hi, welcome. I'm so sorry for your loss. This thread is lovely 🥰 I've found it incredibly supportive. I've had a full on pity party for one today so please excuse me today...😫 x

@calimc83 were you trying a while? I'm definitely having a hard time with the idea that every month counts. Ideally I'd love to take 6 months off the rollercoaster. Definitely pity party in full swing at mine, too!

@Skl2021 I totally want to not track too. I hate it, my husband hates it...but I can't seem to stop.

@Ganesh2022 here's to the pity party's! 🥂 hoping today is a better day..so with my 2 I have now it took around 3 months with each. With the one I lost I got pregnant within the first month of trying. Felt like it was too good to be true..and yep it was 😫 x

Hi girls I just got a positive test. I'm shaking like a leaf. It doesn't mean baby to me but I'm grateful I got a positive.

I don't mean it doesn't mean it's a baby but just it doesn't mean there's a baby at the end

@Ganesh2022 it's hard to give it up isn't it! Wish I could 😬
@calimc83 how are you today? ✨
@Hopingforarainbow27 congratulations I hope it's a sticky one! Just take it a day at a time 🤞 x

@calimc83 I had the same, how can I be so lucky (was very fast with first two but in hindsight the 5 months it took this time was also very lucky). I can only hope we will be lucky again; the EPU reiterated (helpful and not helpful at the same time? bit clinical) how common loss is and that I've just been very lucky so far versus that it'll all go this way now b/c of age/anything else. I did ask, is this b/c I've written 1983 on my form (I was in a real state) and it didn't help that the doctor looked about 18. Pity party continuing here today wooo!

@Hopingforarainbow27 gentle congratulations!! I know it's so hard not to know what will happen, but stats are on your side. So lovely to get a positive on the thread, I will keep my fingers crossed for you.

@Skl2021 It is hard! I think I will need to track now, just to make sure I'm ovulating...but it was feeling tedious, clinical, and extremely unsexy over here.

Has anyone used that sensor thing that you put on you (in you?!) and it helps track? Ovusomething?

@Ganesh2022 yes that's why I use them as my ovulation changes every month so I wouldn't have a clue when it was 🤦 no I haven't tried that but seen threads on here about them! X

@Ganesh2022 thank you 🤍

@Hopingforarainbow27 wonderful news for you, hope you’re feeling ok and not too anxious 💐 if you don’t mind me asking, what cycle were you on since your MC?

@Hopingforarainbow27 oh congratulations 🎉..did u do anything different this cycle? X
@Ganesh2022 I was doing ok....feeling a bit better but then received an invite fo my SIL baby shower! 😫😫..had another cry...again! It's good that we conceived relatively quickly considering our age.
If it helps, I have a friend who is a consultant in fertility ( I have hounded her btw 😆) she told me to chill, stop over analysing and said with my history there shouldn't be any issues and fertility doesn't drop off a cliff as some might like to have us believe...she said give it time to let hormones etc settle x

@Skl2021 sorry meant to tag you in that reply as well 🙈😬 xx