Ttc after miscarriage 🤞🌈✨

[Skl2021]

Just a thread for any ladies ttc after a miscarriage! Nice to get some support from people going through the same thing. So I had a MMC at ten weeks nearly three weeks ago now. I'm still getting faint positive on tests. My ovulation tests are still all over the place possibly due to the HCG still being in my system. So not totally accurate right now. So I'm currently stuck in limbo land either waiting for ovulation or my period 🤔 any ladies want to join the journey?!?!

I so want this board to be a place of lots of good news.

@Hopingforarainbow27 Thanks, I hope I don't sound cold but I just want it done. It's clear that it isn't going to work out. I understand their hands are tied, but I wish I could've been handed back a tiny bit of control over the situation.

@Ganesh2022 I completely understand. You just want to move on but you can't. More limbo 😔 I hope you can soon and you get your rainbow soon 🌈

@Ganesh2022 I'm so sorry. Why can't they do anything?? I felt exactly the same as you. Once I knew it was a MMC I just wanted the process to start so I could move on, if that makes sense? Thinking of you xx

Well AF is here...gutted. Feel like giving up. I know I'm only on the first cycle back TTC but not sure I can put myself through this much more. I have 2 children and I'm incredibly lucky to have them. Am I being selfish wanting a 3rd..😞 xx

@calimc83 I’m so sorry :/ you’re not selfish. Have you guys had a conversation about how far you’re willing to go? For some reason having a plan and knowing when I might get help—or call it a day—has helped a lot, though I know each AF will crush me.

Don't give up ladies❤️ Me and my partner have been trying since July 2020! I had a MMC and a MC last year. I was starting to give up completely and cried last week thinking I missed ovulation.

Today I got a BFP🤞🏻 Hoping this one stays but I so terrified.

@calimc83 sorry af got you 😩 your not alone I also thought the exact same as you! I have two lovely children why am I wanting more? Maybe I should stick with my life how it is but then I thought that the niggling in my head will never go away. The what ifs or regrets of not trying again. I stupidly thought I would fall pregnant straight away so when I didn't it hit me hard. Maybe have a chat with oh if you don't want to continue or sort a plan or timescale but don't give up if it's what you want. Were all here to support each other 💞 we will get these rainbows 🌈✨ xx

@EmLouisexx how lovely a positive story after such a horrible time ✨ hope it's a sticky one 🤞 congratulations 🌈💞 x

@EmLouisexx gentle congrats, fingers crossed for you.

They wouldn't do anything b/c they're legally not allowed to call it a missed miscarriage without two scans 10 days apart, and mine have been 4 days apart. Even though I'm bleeding (slightly), there's no growth, the sac was irregular, and they admitted there is no good ending to this. Legally their hands are tied. It was actually a pretty horrible situation, I tried to explain that I struggle badly with anxiety and that I couldn't go home and not know when it'll all start, that it didn't feel safe for my kids; then of course they heard the buzzwords of "safe" and "kids" and I had to back down.

I haven’t had any bleeding since yesterday so that’s good. I did a PT test earlier and it was a v v faint positive, so faint you can’t see it unless held right in the light. So it’s heading in the right direction. I’m gonna test every day so I can see when it goes fully negative, and also keep an eye out for ovulation signs over the next couple of weeks.

I had a dream the other night that I was pregnant again and found out it was a girl. It’s sad that the reality is much different but I’m holding on to so much hope that things will work out for us soon.

Hope you're okay @calimc83💖 be kind to yourself, enjoy baths, have wine, chocolate, lots of cuddles etc, whatever makes it just slightly easier to get through 💖

Congrats @emlouisexx!! Wishing you so much happiness and a healthy pregnancy 🥳

Sorry to hear you are both going through so much right now @ganesh2022 and @pameladoov💔

Currently CD10, feeling mixed feelings this month about TTC, first month. Going to be relaxed about it, dtd regularly but not using opks. Booked a holiday in the Spring for something to look forward to. Don't want to put my life on hold but its so hard when all you want is a baby 🌈

I had a similar thing @PamelaDoov had a couple of pregnancy dreams post MC then AF appeared, so deflating but hopefully it will become a reality soon for us all!💖

@Skl2021 @EmLouisexx @taykitty20 Thank you for all your kind words and support. It really helps...I just don't want this taking over my life ( which it is at the mo) and affecting my loved ones. Urgh. Think I need a good cry and then onwards and upwards. I think me and OH do need to sit down and put an end date on it as well..but that scares me 😩 Do you all find it crushing when AF arrives as well? X

@Sparklesurprise29 thanks for your support 💖 much appreciated. You definitely have the right idea in staying relaxed about it. Any tips?! 😆 fingers crossed this is your cycle xx

@calimc83 so sorry, totally disheartening. My end date used to be 40, but now I think, why not 41...42...especially when I see people pregnant at that age and they seem to feel great. At 25 I'd have thought that was "too old for me" but I certainly don't feel too old. For me, the age gap with my kids is widening big time, so that idea of 3 close in age and playing together is gone, but if it does happen I'm sure there will be benefits too. My husband and I discussed clear boundaries about how far we'd go (I'd be ok with an egg donor, for example, but we'd only have moneybarelyto try once). I already see the toll this has taken on my kids, and it's hard. But I think the toll of giving up would also be hard for me (he'd be ok either way). Dunno what's harder.

...I think I used to think about it in terms of age, now I don't mind at all about that, I'm just thinking, when is it emotionally too much.

@calimc83 I think booking the holiday has helped! Something for me and DH to look forward to whether I get pregnant or not this month/next😉
Thank you, I really hope so💖 I found the first AF difficult emotionally so please be kind to yourself💖 but now its passed I feel a lot better about things 🌈

@calimc83 I found the first af really tough but have a cry and let it all out and move on! We will all get there 💞✨ yes it does take over your life maybe stop using opks or tests and just go with the flow if it happens great if not then that's fine too 🤞 hope your doing ok 🤗 xx

Horrible that AF is a physical reminder. I know my husband is very sad too, but his body doesn’t bear the evidence of it all

@calimc83 ah I'm
Sorry sweet. Don't give up and be gentle on yourself.

@Ganesh2022 at the moment I'm very much anxious about my age. Can I ask how old you are? I've just turned 39. How did u manage to move away from getting anxious about your age? ..how long have you been TTC if you don't mind me asking? I think me and OH do need to sit down and discuss this. It's hard..I feel like TTC takes over the women's life but not the man's if you know what I mean? It's always down to me to out the pressure on to DTD? X

@Sparklesurprise29 @Skl2021 see although this AF has really upset me I kind of didn't class it as my first, that came about 4 weeks after MMC. I wanted that one out the way so I could get down to DTD, if that makes sense? Like you @Skl2021 I thought I'd fall pregnant straight away after the MC...obviously not the case...😫 xx

@calimc83 honestly when that first af came after trying properly again I was so upset and fed up! I was like nope not doing it again and now look at me 😂🙄 second cycle even though I said I wouldnt! Just think you need a few days to get over af then u will be positive again 🤞✨ it's a Shame were at opposite ends of our cycle or we could of done it together 🙈 I'm still here for support tho 💕 x