Symptom Spotters Anonymous (egg spotting or implantation spotting let's have your symptoms)

[digitalgirl]

New 2ww thread, have brought over mince pies and mulled wine and put up some fairylights

Come in, take your heels off and get cosy!

excitable - I am with your DH on this one, but it is a personal thing. Only you/your Dh will know whether you want to tell people you are TTC. In my case, we agreed TTC was a private thing for us and we didn't want to put pressure on ourselves to update/discuss/explain/share things. As it happens I haven't shared with anyone other than fellow MN-ers, who are great. I'll share the joy if/when it happens with people in RL. I am glad I took that view, because after 12 months TTC with nothing happening, it would only add to the pressure if friends were asking "what's happening?". Another (seperate) reason is that my BIL and his wife cannot have DC's because she's had a premature meonpause and we felt it was untactful to announce we were TTC. Friends and family will be excited for you and only want to be happy for you, but for in my case, I like to keep it as our little secret .

p.s. I have always been pretty open with close friends about everything

hello DG - yes, I am sure our holiday will be a great distraction and I cannot wait to go. Hurrah! Tests will have to wait.

shreksmissus - I am sorry about your FIL and hope that the next few days aren't too tough.

hello to everyone else!

thanks dg, gg and annie.
i've just re read my post, as i read up from there when i catch up, it doesn't read v well. i meant that i am happier in myself but obviously not happy about fil as that is a sad thing. does explanation sound worse? sometimes i do over explain and muddle everything

Just popping in to say hello.

Coolkat, glad you're starting to seem a little brighter.

Re telling other people about TTC, only my very close friends know (our bridesmaid and one of my best friends, and my other best friend who I have known since I was 6). We're all TTC together but trying not to get excited about the thought that we'll be on maternity leave together. This will be DC1 for two of us, and for our bridesmaid it will be DC2. Her DS1 is 15 years old from a previous marriage and at the moment he's the reason they're not successfull at TTC because they're convinced he's going to hear them, bless.

Anyway, I think it's very personal about who you tell, and we've only told these people because they're the people I would turn to if I needed to. Anyone else who asks when children are on the way gets the response "maybe oneday".

Shrek sorry to hear about your FIL. I hope your MIL is okay - it's an awful time of year to lose a family member.

GG doctors never cease to amaze me. Have they not realised that children being born keeps them in business . Tell me if I'm being nosey, but are your BIL and his wife going to pursue having children through other means? I know this sounds like an awful thing to ask, but my mind has wandered to this possibility in the last few months. Infertility in women runs in my family (I don't know why - it was never really discussed); I had DD when I was 19 - for all I know, something could have occured in my system since then which could stop me conceiving. As you point out, I've a year to try before I can investigate, but I was thinking about the possibility that I might not be able to have any more children.

Bucky Have had the cramps for the last few days now. It comes and goes, and can be quite painful. It's not mid-month and AF isn't due for 10 days. Hmm.. the only thing is that I don't really feel pregnant. Though, I'm reluctant to get too hopeful as I've had months with accute symtoms, followed by AF. I'm hoping it's a good sign!

Hello and big waves to everyone else, mums, DG, excitable, cbcb, coolkat(hope you're taking good care of yourself; they say mc prepares you for pg - I had one and got straight back on the wagon ; I fell with DD the very next month) and anyone I've missed .

Mums sorry about BFN, though it's early. I'm having to fight myself as I'm itching to test. Roll on the weekend..

Shrek Sorry to hear about your FIL and I hope your DH, MIL and family are coping as well as can be expected.

Excitable DH & I always disagree on what is/isn't private He is a very private person and I like to talk and talk and talk. BUT how exciting you feel PG what CD are you? When can you test?

Abby It's hard not testing look at me how ridiculous hope you can hang on until the weekend.

Well I trundled into the centre of town to hospital this afternoon, Spent £6.30 on parking charges went to my appointment and one of the first questions was are you PG. So I explained TTC and could be but too early to tell and they sent me home I phoned them last week to say all this and the receptionist told me to go anyway

Still onwards and upwards. Lets hope I really am PG then it wont seem like such a waste of time.

Sorry to hear about your FIL Santasmissus Picknmix - thanks for clarifying that. (D'oh!) For some reason I had visions of women ttc by taking lots of substances banned in the Tour de France and could not imagine that would be good!

Bucky - I had the same symptoms when I got PG with my daughter and was furious when I thought AF was coming, so I am keeping my fingers crossed for you.

As for telling people about ttc, the first time round I did not tell anyone and this time I have told one friend, which I actually think might be a mistake. The reason I think it is a bad idea is that it adds to the pressure. I knew someone who told lots of his work friends and can clearly recall a secretary asking him whether his wife was pregnant yet. It actually took them about 18 months and they suffered a miscarriage... in those circumstances I doubt that having people know what they were up to helped.
I am also a fan of keeping pregnancy quiet until after the first scan, just because (for me) until it is properly confirmed it isn't quite real.

Good evening everyone.

santasmissus so sorry to hear your news. I hope you are all doing ok, or as ok as you can be. As you say, he has gone to a better place, and that is comforting, but it is hard for those left behind. It is especially difficult this time of year. I know we are finding that with MIL's funeral this week, and now i have found out that my cousin has a day or so left to live. So my thoughts are very much with you and your family. Although i don't "know how you feel" (we can never completely know how another feels) i can empathise and i hope you can all find comfort being with each other. Do look after yourself while you are away, and look forward to seeing you back in a few days.

bucky am secretly hopeful for you - thos sound like good signs!

07MTW what a waste of time for you today! How you must have been. Can we form a virtual "posse" (sp?) and go and shout at them for you?!

excitable we have chosen not to tell anyone that we are ttc, partly because we are ancient and we know it may well take a while and also because some people may think we are mad and tell us! I have been thinking about telling my mum, just to have some sort of RL support (apart from DH of course)

DG what can i say? I hate that you are left in limbo again. Don't have any wise words for you, but thinking of you. Was it today you were seeing the acupuncturist again? Wondered if he / she had anything to say or suggest?

ccolkat it was good to hear from you. Hope you are doing ok. And if you are feeling like surprising your DH then why not - surely it will do both of you good to have that closeness.

abby glad you are ok! When are you testing then????

Hello to everyone else that i haven't mentioned yet

Santasmissus so sorry to hear about your fil - my thoughts are with you and your family, as yousay, he is in a much better place now but still doesn't make it any easier.

dg - can you phone the nurse tomorrow? Or is she only there at certain times? It seems to be a loooong rollercoaster for you at the moment, I can empathise as I too suffer from long drawn out cycles and have the same fear that I'm not ov'ing. I'm on cd22 and still no sign of ov.

On the subject of to tell or not to tell excitable, we've only told people if they've asked so far sil knows (she asked and I can't lie very well so told her the truth - altho with her 3rd bubba on the way I think she felt a bit 'guilty' to hear of our difficulties as she started to talk of ivf and adoption which is a long way down the road for us) and so does a good friend of mine. A friend at work knows as well as I know she wont keep asking questions but is there as support if needed. Haven't gone out of our way to tell though as can't deal with the constant 'any news' style questions!!

My fingers are crossed for you Bucky and Abby - sounding 'good' so far!

ScaryHairy - gosh, didn't mean to give off the impression of taking illicit substances, will have to watch how I abbreviate things!! !!!

Mtw what a waste of time, effort and money for you!! Sorry to hear about your (early) bfn.

Hi to everyone else!!!

Oh how annoying MTW
That silly nurse

How sad for you and your family shreksmissus and, as has been said earlier, what a shame for the time of year.
Goodness MOT your are not having an easy time of it either

Well, I was gonna come on to complain about DH and our lack of BDing.
You show an ounce of despondancy and he has given up completely, or so it seems.
Only once, since a positive opk on saturday and, with DD waking up, it was a race to the finishing line, he won
Mind you, I still haven't felt any ov pains and my temps are still about the same so who knows, there may still be time.
Last time I felt the ov pains about 3 days later, so maybe tommorrow?

I am a blabbermouth excitable I have told mostly everyone. Not sure if it was a good idea or not but I am not regetting the decision yet. Though will admit, I told them all, naively, thinking I would be pregnant really fast
The only person who has asked about how we are doing was my sis, who instantly regretted it as she was given waaaay more info than she had bargained on teehee

Hi ladies, i'm just looking up some things and wondering i thought implantaion bleed was just a speck or trace of blood and tonight i have read that it can last up 2 three days . i had what i think was a very light period (2days) about 2 weeks ago and now i'm wondering if that could have been implantation ? has anyone got any ideas about this? I had a faint spell on friday and have been cramping for weeks, now in hind sight i am wondering if i have actually concieved and not known even though i have been sympton spotting!!thanks Holly78.

Oh mot I'm so sorry - I meant to say I'm thinking of you and your family too as it seems you are also going through a rough time at the moment. I wish you all the best (never seems quite right to say that, I apologise) for the week ahead xx

Holly I'm really sorry but I have no experience of implantation bleeding so am not much help to you. My best advice is to take a test as this is the only real way of knowing - fingers crossed you get the result you're hoping for

twinklingfairy - as you say, if no ov symptoms just yet then hopefully there's still time for you

I will test and put my mind at rest. Hear is hoping for xmas bfp .

I have a contender for the weirdest symptom prize. I've a cough that's been going around in the North for about a week now. Quite a nasty cough, but no other symptoms and then last night I woke up really hot and delerious - it was awful. We had the window open and it was freezing last night and yet I was just so hot that DH couldn't even get to sleep. I walked around our house naked to try to cool down, which sort of worked, but I was really traumatised and shouting and crying. It was just awful. I remember DH trying to ask me what was wrong and not being able to answer him, just being distraught and not being able to stop crying.

I'm only on CD17, and I bloody hope I'm pregnant, because if I'm not this is bloody strange behaviour!

excitable that's very strange. are you feeling ok now?

I have just spoken to the nurse. she doesn't understand my test results either and referred me back to my doctor, who is on holiday. so I've booked the earliest appointment with the next available doctor - next tuesday morning. followed by my gynae appointment in the afternoon. i hope AF doesn't come before then as I'd like to be able to get a day3 test referral out of one of those appointments.

might have to leave this thread, as with my cycles I don't really get any symptoms worth spotting.

Hmm, no ov pains yet. And my temp went up this morning.
Fertility friend thinks I ov'd on Saturday and has me at 3dpo!
Perhaps we missed the boat afterall.
There again maybe our Sunday BD did its job, shame it was a rubbish dance though

Oh DG how frustrating! Next Tuesday is like ages again. I do hope you get something out of at least one of the appointments though. And please please please don't leave this thread we love having you around - you may only leave when you get a BFP and even then we'll want to have you around.

DIGITALGIRL NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO OOOOOOOOOOOO Don't go away . Please.

. Hello everyone. .

Abby, you are my cycle buddy again . CD22 for me today, AF due around CD27/28 based on ov day. So I could early test on Sunday? Not sure if I will though as just writing that has made me feel scared.

Shreksmissus and MOT sorry you are having such a sad festive period. . I am thinking about you.

I am just rushing in and out again. My Project Director has JUST (like 15mins ago) gone on holiday until the 7 January 2007 and I am now the sole point of contact!!! So not much of a cushy run up to Xmas for me!!

DG - what would we do without you ? Don't go.

Bucky I'm planning a sly early test on Sunday, and you're 2 days ahead of me, so why not?! I was thinking I was, but have been feeling nothing today. Suspect my mind is playing tricks on me again.

I keep thinking back to the 3 times (yes, I know, tut tut ) that I had "accidents" and panicked, and had to pay £25 for the morning after pill early in DH's and my relationship. Ahh.. the irony.. Could be ttc for ages yet.

Festive smiley!!!

listen everyone,while DG has got her back turned, i've bolted the door top and bottom, and locked the windows, so we're not letting her out - agreed??? We'll hide the keys so the rest of us can pop out when we need to, but i'm afraid that if she goes out at all, she won't be back...and we can't have that...^

Holly saw your announcement on the other thread !!!! Big congrats. You can't wait that long to tell DH though, surely? I know i'd be bursting!!

Bucky am excited already about your potential test at the weekend!

twinkling fairy hopefully you have done enough LOL at rubbish BDing! I guess though there are certain times of the month though when him crossing the finishing line is essential - the other times make sure you get ahead in the race I have to say on occasions we just focus on getting the job done. The rest of the time we make sure it's fun.

picknmix thank you for your kind thoughts - and everyone else. Felt a bit guilty after reading my post - i forgot that everyone else as well as SM could see my message to her, and i hope i didn't look like i was "fishing for sympathy" just trying to empathise with her a little.

excitable hope you are ok now?

Good evening to everyone else!!!!

Well AF has departed now. Got in a little practise today already started the opks just incase it's another v short cycle.

Evening all

DG - you are absolutely not allowed to leave this thread. I am going to help MOT bolt the shutters to keep you in!

Am excited for you too, Bucky. You've just reminded me that I am also nearly at test-time. I'm on CD 24 out of what will, I think, be a 31 day cycle. I guess this means I could test from Saturday, although whether there is any point when ovulation took me so by surprise I am not sure. As far as symptom-spotting goes, I have been feeling a bit queasy, but could that not just be progesterone produced during the luteal phase? And my temp seemed to dip a little today, so I guess unless my little egg has been fertilised, AF will put in an appearance soon enough...

Ooh, sorry, forgot to say, and to agree with the others: Cha'! I think not DG! You are going nowhere!!

When is the earliest you can test?
10 days?
That would make me able to test next Tuesday
I was thinking I would leave it until christmas eve, use a cheapy test, then a CBD on christmas morn so that I could give DH a fabo gift! (my sister said, what a stick you have peed on?)
But to be honest, I very much doubt I could wait that long and/or keep it from DH.
And anyway, I have jinxed it now