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18, really nervous here

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tonijane17 · 09/08/2021 13:45

Hi there.. I'm 18 and have been with my boyfriend for a few months... We had unprotected sex (please don't say anything unkind because it won't help me) on day 19 of my usual 30 day cycle (I use an app to track this)... I'm due on my period in 10 days and am wondering if any of you have any advice as to whether I could be pregnant and if anyone has anything that could prevent pregnancy that isn't the morning after... Please 🙏

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wishing3 · 09/08/2021 14:36

It’s just a waiting game. You can test 6 days before period is due so jot much longer to wait. I hope your period comes, but you’ll get through it and have options either way. Xx

Wowwellokthen · 09/08/2021 14:37

With those dates it sounds like you had sex yesterday....you can take the morning after pill up to 48 hours after intercourse.

chesirecat99 · 09/08/2021 15:02

Why don't you want to take the morning after pill? You can take Levonelle up to 3 days after unprotected sex, ellaOne up to 5 days. The sooner, the better though.

You can have an IUD (coil) inserted up to 5 days after unprotected sex as emergency contraception. You can have one fitted at GUM (sexual health) clinics, contraception clinics, some walk in centres, pharmacies and young person clinics or your GP may offer the service.

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tonijane17 · 22/08/2021 12:22

@chesirecat99 @Wowwellokthen @wishing3 turns out I was pregnant xx

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ineedaholidaynow · 22/08/2021 12:25

What are you going to do?

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tonijane17 · 22/08/2021 12:30

I'm keeping it, my family and partners family had such amazing reactions to the news and we're really happy xx

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ineedaholidaynow · 22/08/2021 12:32

So how long have you been together? Are you at college/working?

GoodnightGrandma · 22/08/2021 12:33

You had unprotected sex so of course you could be.

GoodnightGrandma · 22/08/2021 12:33

@GoodnightGrandma

You had unprotected sex so of course you could be.
Just seen your update, congratulations !
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tonijane17 · 22/08/2021 12:35

We've actually not been together long - just over two months... We actually have a viewing for a flat tomorrow evening too... He's working at RBS bank and I'm going onto do an HNC in Childhood Practice @ineedaholidaynow

Thank you! @GoodnightGrandma

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blueberrywaffle · 22/08/2021 12:43

Well congratulations, seems it's all worked out for the best x

ineedaholidaynow · 22/08/2021 13:07

Will you be able to cope on your own as a single parent, 2 month relationship is not necessarily an ideal start to be a parent? How old is your partner?

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tonijane17 · 22/08/2021 13:11

@ineedaholidaynow I won't be a single parent, thank you very much... He's 21, 22 in a few weeks... No need to pass judgement that isn't your situation Smile

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ineedaholidaynow · 22/08/2021 13:15

I'm just asking whether you could cope being a single mother, if the relationship breaks down. Being a parent can be stressful on a relationship especially one that is only 2 months long.

SilverOtter · 22/08/2021 13:17

Congratulations!

BarefootHippieChick · 22/08/2021 13:26

Congratulations, however, make sure you have all bases covered regarding your future. Two months into a relationship is not really the best time to have a baby and I speak from experience of friends who are now single mums. You have a lot more to lose than he does. And when the baby is born get yourself on some birth control pronto.

Urghhhhh · 22/08/2021 13:37

[quote tonijane17]@ineedaholidaynow I won't be a single parent, thank you very much... He's 21, 22 in a few weeks... No need to pass judgement that isn't your situation Smile[/quote]
They were trying to help. Odds are not in your favour and it does you no good to go into parenthood with rose tinted glasses and expecting everything to just work out. A baby is the most stressful event for a couple. It can destroy mature couples who've been together for ages. You have a partner who's 21 so barely out of his teenage years and a two month relationship. He can choose to walk away literally any time and you'll be left to pick up the pieces. He can fuck off with no consequence, save for maybe paying a little child support, but you won't have the option to just hand the baby over to someone and go back to your previous life. It's painful to think about, but it's the truth of the female condition in terms of motherhood. Please be smart about it. Have the baby if you feel that's right, but be prepared to do it alone.

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tonijane17 · 22/08/2021 13:45

@Urghhhhh I understand that, but having a pessimistic point of view won't do me any good - I'm staying as relaxed and happy as I can to try and enjoy my pregnancy as last year I had an early miscarriage at 6wks which is giving me fears at the moment.

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ineedaholidaynow · 22/08/2021 13:46

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tigerbreadandtea · 22/08/2021 13:52

Have you been trying for a baby?

CorrBlimeyGG · 22/08/2021 13:54

You're confusing realism with pessimism. The reality is that you're likely to become a single mum. There's nothing wrong with that, but you need to look at how you'll cope emotionally and financially.

Please don't commit to a tenancy with someone you've only known two months. That would be irresponsible whatever your age or circumstances.

SpaceBethSmith · 22/08/2021 13:56

Yes I’m sure your parents are fucking de-lighted that you’re pregnant by someone you’ve known all of 8 weeks maximum Hmm

ineedaholidaynow · 22/08/2021 13:58

I was thinking that @SpaceBethSmith I can't imagine being delighted whether it was my daughter or son in this position. I would be supportive but not delighted

Urghhhhh · 22/08/2021 14:01

@ineedaholidaynow

Do you not like contraception? Or have you always wanted a baby young?
I really want to know this too.
Batsaboutcats · 22/08/2021 14:21

@SpaceBethSmith your parents must be so delighted with you too, talking like that to someone who is pregnant, and therefore quite vulnerable