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18, really nervous here

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tonijane17 · 09/08/2021 13:45

Hi there.. I'm 18 and have been with my boyfriend for a few months... We had unprotected sex (please don't say anything unkind because it won't help me) on day 19 of my usual 30 day cycle (I use an app to track this)... I'm due on my period in 10 days and am wondering if any of you have any advice as to whether I could be pregnant and if anyone has anything that could prevent pregnancy that isn't the morning after... Please 🙏

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tonijane17 · 22/08/2021 15:29

@RosiePosieDozy Thank you so much, I totally agree 💞

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BarefootHippieChick · 22/08/2021 15:30

@tonijane17

I'm not reacting badly to "advice" - what I've been receiving is not advice.
But you have been receiving advice. People have been advising you to be well prepared for the future, because you have no idea what it will bring. You may both have a long and happy life with your baby...you may not. I would imagine a good proportion of us on this thread have 20/30 years more experience than you and can therefore see what 'could' happen to this relationship. As long as you're prepared for every eventuality then that's good.
DamnShesaSexyChick · 22/08/2021 15:34

Does your boyfriend know you were trying to get pregnant after being with him for a few weeks?

MessyLifeCleanHouse · 22/08/2021 15:36

@SpaceBethSmith

Your teenager is showing.
Are you enjoying arguing and trying to goad an 18 year old? You are absolutely pathetic.
BarefootHippieChick · 22/08/2021 15:36

Also, and you may not want to hear this, but as you've had unprotected sex with 2 different men, please don't turn down the STI tests the midwife will offer you.

Candycotton · 22/08/2021 15:37

why do people feel the need to wade in with their 'advice', OP has already said that isnt why she posted and that she doesnt appreciate it, so why some feel the need to continue jabbing is beyond me.

so judgemental, I know people in their 20s and 30s who are shocking parents, I know people who have been married for years and the dad cheated and abandoned his family. OP is clearly excited and looking to her future, I knew as soon as I saw the update and that this thread was 4 pages long it would have people with their well meaning "advice" (thinly veiled judgement more like)

hotasharibo · 22/08/2021 15:40

Awww congrats OP glad you are happy good luck Thanks

Original poster
tonijane17 · 22/08/2021 15:40

I'm no longer going to reply to this thread as it's making me feel bad.

To the people who were nice, thank you.

To the ones who weren't, get a grip.

Bye everyone 👋

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Candycotton · 22/08/2021 15:42

@DamnShesaSexyChick

Does your boyfriend know you were trying to get pregnant after being with him for a few weeks?
what an odd conclusion to jump to. contraception takes two, no?
DemBonesDemBones · 22/08/2021 15:43

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DamnShesaSexyChick · 22/08/2021 15:44

Not odd, if you advance search her it’s clear she’s been doing this for a while.

Ivalueloyaltyaboveallelse · 22/08/2021 15:44

Congrats OP hope everything works out for your family. I got with my partner (now DH) when I was 18 had our first when I was 21 so just a little older than you but were still together! 16 nearly 17 years and we’re still going strong.

ineedaholidaynow · 22/08/2021 15:45

I cannot imagine many parents would be encouraging their 18yo son or daughter to get tied into a tenancy with someone they have been in a relationship with for only 2 months and to have a baby with them. And there is a very good reason for that.

For everyone saying a baby is a blessing is quite naive. Abortion wouldn’t exist if that was the case. The number of single mothers having to cope because the feckless dad disappeared very quickly when they realised that a baby is in fact more hard work than a blessing.

Yes the OP’s relationship may work out, and I hope that it does. But it does help to be realistic too.

ElindultMaria · 22/08/2021 15:56

What wonderful news, congratulations!

It is so reassuring to hear you are surrounded by upbeat and supportive people IRL, it sounds like any future children of yours will be lucky to be born into this family.

Keep up the positive attitude and the confidence, you're going to be a great mum! xx

wishing3 · 22/08/2021 16:00

Congratulations OP. It’s such an exciting time and I hope you enjoy your pregnancy. Xx

GoodForTheSoul · 22/08/2021 16:11

@DamnShesaSexyChick

Not odd, if you advance search her it’s clear she’s been doing this for a while.
This is true. She posted last year she had unprotected sex and thinks might be pregnant. A bit weird to keep doing this with ever bloke? Confused
RunningFromInsanity · 22/08/2021 16:22

Exactly, not everyone is statistic! My mum had me at 19 and my dad was 25

Well statistically children of teen mums are more likely to become teen mums themselves. So you are a statistic already.

Iwantcauliflowercheese · 22/08/2021 16:22

Ignore all the 'what if' comments. I was 36 and the father left me. Your age is immaterial. My DD was 18 when she got pregnant. It made her more determined to do well. She has two degrees and a master's. Congratulations.

Finknottlesnewt · 22/08/2021 16:33

My greatest concern is for your partner. Your first post does not strike me as that of someone who didn't want to get pregnant. In fact the complete opposite. You had a period tracker so knew EXACTLY when your fertile period was. An chose to have unprotected sex at that time.
If your partner was aware that you were not taking contraception and also chose not to take precautions against pregnancy then he has gone into this with eyes wide open.
HOWEVER.. it's a pretty rare 21 year old male who signs up for parenthood with someone he has known 8 weeks. Only you and he will know if you had lead him to believe that you were taking contraception when you weren't and that your clear wish for a baby hadn't been discussed and agreed by him.

Both families are excited because they are presented with a fait acompli. Your partner is being an honourable person.

If my son was in this situation then I would expect nothing less from him.
and would be supportive of your choice. But that only refers to it having been a genuine choice for both of you.

Privately I would be horrified and hugely disappointed that he had been so reckless with his own fertility and future .

Gabby82 · 22/08/2021 16:36

@tonijane17

I'm not reacting badly to "advice" - what I've been receiving is not advice.
Agreed, it's not advice at all!
potter5 · 22/08/2021 16:37

Congratulations! Good luck to you both. I had the same negativity back in 1980!
I had my first son when I was 18. Married at 17. Still married, 41 years now. Still happy.

Tistheseason17 · 22/08/2021 16:43

last year I had an early miscarriage at 6wks

So it does seem you planned this pregnancy? Different dad, this time, though.

Honestly, I do not think you can really know someone for 8 weeks. But, good luck and hope it works out for the sake of your innocent child.

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tonijane17 · 22/08/2021 16:49

I know I said I wouldn't reply,

Just to clarify, I've known my partner for 7 months, we made our relationship official 2 months ago.

Also, he knew I wasn't on contraception. And I was terrified at the prospect of being pregnant again, hence previous posts. I'm in a better place now. Thanks a lot for all of the unhelpful comments.

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ineedaholidaynow · 22/08/2021 16:57

Do you live together at the moment?

Thefaceofboe · 22/08/2021 17:12

Congratulations! As long as you are happy, that’s all that matters and you can deal with other obstacles if and when they happen. Smile enjoy your pregnancy!

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