🧙please, fellas impregnate, I’m here to ovulate 🦥

[Peachycream]

And the lucky winner of thread name bingo is:@SareBear87

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Here we go again, 2 threads deep, numerous cheese boards, several BFPs and more to pick up along the way!

We’re a group of hormonal, emotional and down right loveable 30somethings TTC #1
Feel free to join us, nothing is TMI and no one here will judge you, we just love and support each other which some giggles along the way!

Our last thread seemed to have some luck so let’s see how lucky this one is 🥰

If I’ve forgotten anyone I apologise but trying to remember everyone at once is hard!
@Aries491
@Sparklingwine1
@80sPadme
@PurpleCat88
@HRP1990
@CTMcG
@KayL1988
@Dannii892
@Foodster
@glasspaw
@GingerTea333
@Eli707
@SkeletonSkins
@Mrsspoon3
@Emmaldo14

Ooh thanks for your message also @KayL1988! Just saw it! 😊 xx

No 2 looks darker @Mrsspoon3

Ooh does it @80sPadme?? I wasn’t sure! So glad if it does! 😊

Also meant to say @HRP1990 sorry to hear you got a BFN today, but if the dip was implantation I think I read it can take 48 hours from implantation to get enough of the pregnancy hormone in your blood to test properly? Hopefully there’s still time!!

@Mrsspoon3 these are quite clearly positive and today’s one looks darker than yesterday.

My advice, if it’s worth anything, step away from the tests, you’ve had your positive and you seem to be driving yourself mad trying to figure out what’s going on. The tests can’t monitor your pregnancy so as long as there’s a line you just have to assume you’re fine and let nature do it’s thing. The more you stress, the worse it is for you and your body. I know it’s hard but try and relax into it.

Even if it didn’t turn out the way you want it too, there is nothing you or anyone else at this stage can do to change the outcome.

Put. The tests. Away. 😂

I can’t tell if I’m being harsh or not but if you read this and it seems harsh, I don’t mean it that way 🥰

Haha thanks @Peachycream! Not harsh, I get what you mean! 😂 I wasn’t going to test today until I got the spotting, but it scared me so much. I will try to stop testing and relax a bit. I am naturally an incredibly anxious person anyway (drives me and dh nuts haha) and it’s worse with this as I want it so much and have had 2 chemicals in last few months. But thank you, I know I need to stop stressing and just see what happens!!

@Mrsspoon3 I get that, I have general anxiety so anything I can have a panic attack about, I do and even for no reason at all, go figure, so I know how hard and frustrating it can be.

But all you’re doing is making your anxiety worse, I’m sure the spotting is nothing, millions of women bleed throughout pregnancy, and some really heavily.

You’re worrying about something that hasn’t even happened yet, and I get how anxiety does that to a person.

Sorry about BFN @HRP1990 hopefully AF won't show and it's just a later BFP!

So glad your temp is still high @Mrsspoon3 and it does definitely look darker today. If you haven't had anymore bleeding then I'd have a nice relax tonight and get some sleep!! Xxx

I just typed out a message but MN decided it wasn't going to post lol so here goes again!!

@Peachycream I am sorry to see how you're feeling. Breakups are really tough but you will feel better in time. What I loved about my last one (looking back ofc) was that I could just think about me. Please look after number one 💓💓💓
Friendswise if you're around Lancashire (chorley specifically) there's always a brew or stronger here!! I've struggled with mates across the years, all my closest ones are back where I grew up so have a scattering of people around. Ideally want to make more in my area but covid made things tricky there!

@Mrsspoon3 your tests look good to me, try not to worry yourself lovely- although I imagine if I ever get a BFP I will probably be a serial tester yikes!

Sorry about your BFN @HRP1990 fingers crossed AF doesn't show as you are still quite early!

How is everyone else? I am CD13 and in my FW now so DTD last night and gonna aim again across the weekend and next week :) we shall see! Xxx

@Mrsspoon3 here an example of how UTTERLY ridiculous my anxiety is, I just went to get petrol, and spent the entire time violently shaking incase I didn’t have enough money in my account to pay for it, even though I knew perfectly well I had more than enough as I checked my back not once, but THREE TIMES before I even went to get it 😂

@mrsspoon3 I'm glad things are moving along for you. I agree with @peachycream - step away from the tests! What will happen will happen. You could focus your anxious energy on eating healthily, finding a gentle exercise to do, and having a luxuriously selfish summer of freedom while you still have it! 😉 Same goes for you @peachycream actually - I'm sure everything will feel like the end of the world today/tomorrow/next week/next month, but focus on yourself and the things you can control, and come and chat to us if you're feeling lonely!

Sorry for the BFN @HRP1990 but it's still very early so don't lose hope yet. Your graph is so amazing!

There's some really lovely advice on here for Peachy! A lot of you sound like such inspirations. @SareBear87 when you said you painted the shed purple and all the other liberating things, it reminded me of that poem called 'Warning - when I am old I shall wear purple' - which is one of my faves and how we should all love life!

@Mrsspoon3 I hope you manage to chill today. I know it's so hard not to think about it. Hopefully you have work or something else that can keep your mind off it?

I got a BFN today, at 14dpo. Not a surprise, so I'm feeling ok, although after 5 cycles I'm starting to wonder if there's a problem.

We'll try again next month (cycle 6), but after that we really really do need to take a break to avoid labour/3rd tri clashing with our wedding reception next year. But, and this is a genuine concern, how are we going to stop bonking long enough to avoid accidentally getting preggers??!! You can bet I'll be extra fertile just when it's not convenient. 🙄 We've had soooo much more sex this year whilst ttc and I don't want it to stop 😂😂

@SkeletonSkins I'm sorry I didn't reply yesterday about us wanting to chuck our OPKs out the window! For me it's because I've realised that the pre mom app can allocate a different test to control line ratio score depending on how zoomed in the picture is 😩😩😩😩😩

I was so frustrated yesterday because I struggle to get a high one. Last month my highest was 0.49 even though I could swear it was my positive and I was due to ovulate based on my other symptoms. So I put it down to diluted urine.

Then two days ago I got what I thought was this cycles peak but on the app the SAME photo of the SAME strip was coming up at 4 different readings ranging from inconclusive to 0.45 to 0.58! Literally just based on how much I zoomed or not! For me who doesn't get high LH scores the difference between 0.45 to 0.58 is quite significant! So that was really stressing me out.

Ahhh sorry for the BFN @HRP1990, you’re not out yet though I don’t think, keeping my fingers crossed for you.

@taytay2020 also sorry for your BFN, and wishing you so much good luck into the next cycle

@Sparklingwine1 I’m still doing OPKs but I’m not sure what’s going on, I really felt I ovulated yesterday as I had pain all day, a peak OPK on Tuesday and then my LH dropped right off, but I couldn’t take my temp this morning and my
LH is up a bit so I’m losing hole a bit. If I get EWCM today then I’ll know it’s failed. Really trying to stay a bit got relaxed with it and just think it’ll happen when it happens but it’s hard.

Sorry it was @HRP1990 that asked me if I’m still using OPKs and @Sparklingwine1 who hates OPKS with me haha, sick of literally pissing my money away on them!!

Thanks for the positive outlook ladies! Fingers crossed it’s just alittle too early to test, especially if (fingers crossed) yesterday was an implantation dip. Saturday will tell!

Maybe it’s worth giving the OPKs a rest if they’re stressing you out @SkeletonSkins! It is an expensive habit to keep them up every month, especially if you’re doing multiple a day!

So last night I had a dream that I POAS and it was positive. It was one of those dreams that was so real that for a moment when I woke up, I thought it had actually happened!

So I did get up at POAS, negative, but I am only 9dpo today which I think is quite early still.

@Mrsspoon3 I also think today’s line is stronger than yesterday’s. Fingers crossed for you

…get up and POAS…

Sorry for the BFN @taytay2020 when is AF due?
You’ll have to be extra careful around your FW if you need to avoid preggers for your wedding.

I potentially need to take a break too for a friends wedding next year but I know if I do I’ll just be thinking “what if!?” That month! (It’s abroad so I’m thinking of being too far gone to travel etc)

@hrp1990 af due tomorrow or Saturday probably. Yes you probably don't want to fly too close to due date! And not with a tiny baby either. It's frustrating that this cuts out so many months of ttc isn't it! But I'm sure your friend would understand if the dates didn't work out.

Just did an OPK after a 4.5 hour hold (not out of choice, I was in back to back meetings!) and it's dropped really low. Lower than this morning. Normally CD 13 is when I get my peak!

If I don't get a higher OPK by tomorrow then do you think it looks like I ovulated two days early (on CD 12)?

CD 10 I had EWCM and CD 11 I had ovary pains for about 4 hours (which isn't common for me).

Opinions welcome

@Sparklingwine1 yes I think it’s possible, especially if your temp rises again tomorrow.

@taytay2020

I got a BFN today, at 14dpo. Not a surprise, so I'm feeling ok, although after 5 cycles I'm starting to wonder if there's a problem.

We'll try again next month (cycle 6), but after that we really really do need to take a break to avoid labour/3rd tri clashing with our wedding reception next year. But, and this is a genuine concern, how are we going to stop bonking long enough to avoid accidentally getting preggers??!! You can bet I'll be extra fertile just when it's not convenient. 🙄 We've had soooo much more sex this year whilst ttc and I don't want it to stop 😂😂

I am I the same boat, getting married next sept and do want to be either huge and uncomfortable or just post labour on my wedding day so I will need to slow down the baby making November/December time.

@Sparklingwine1 I reckon you could have ovulated CD12, especially if your temp rises 1/2 more times like @SkeletonSkins said x