🧙please, fellas impregnate, I’m here to ovulate 🦥

[Peachycream]

And the lucky winner of thread name bingo is:@SareBear87

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Here we go again, 2 threads deep, numerous cheese boards, several BFPs and more to pick up along the way!

We’re a group of hormonal, emotional and down right loveable 30somethings TTC #1
Feel free to join us, nothing is TMI and no one here will judge you, we just love and support each other which some giggles along the way!

Our last thread seemed to have some luck so let’s see how lucky this one is 🥰

If I’ve forgotten anyone I apologise but trying to remember everyone at once is hard!
@Aries491
@Sparklingwine1
@80sPadme
@PurpleCat88
@HRP1990
@CTMcG
@KayL1988
@Dannii892
@Foodster
@glasspaw
@GingerTea333
@Eli707
@SkeletonSkins
@Mrsspoon3
@Emmaldo14

@HRP1990 both? I don’t know if that makes any sense? I’m relieved because the stuff I said the other day isn’t even the tip of the iceberg as to what’s gone on over the last few years. But I’d rather be totting along still because I just don’t know who I am anymore, without him I have nothing else, I don’t have a girlfriend I can go out and have a glass of wine with because I don’t have any anymore. And I hate being on my own, I’ve never been very good at being lonely, and while to some extent I’ve felt lonely for a while, I’ve never actually been all alone

So sorry to hear you’re feeling so lost @Peachycream. I know how that feels, but things do get better and you can turn things around, and you are still young have so much time to do that.
When I was around 30-32 I was completely by myself - single and no friends about in the same city, and was so lonely. I went on bumble BFF to make some new friends (who are great), and finally met someone when I was 33 after a 10 year string of dating disasters. It was a long time coming but things to change and get better. And this group is always here for you too! x

@Peachycream I've been in relationships before where you let go of friends and let your world revolve around that one person. Now is a really good time to reconnect with people and take time to look after you. There will be people in your life you care about you and will be there for you when you need them if you just reach out. When you're happy with who you are and the life you've built for yourself that's when the right person will come along.

I get you. It just sounds like you’ve completely lost sight of who you are and you’ve always put his needs before your own. It’s time for change my love! Change isn’t always a bad thing!

I’d much rather be lonely on my own than lonely in a relationship.

I love a glass of red and am partial to a cheeseboard 🥴 so if you’re close to Brighton I’ve got a glass with your name on 😘

@Peachycream your life has just been turned upside down, it’s completely normal to feel lost. If I were in your position I’d throw myself into something I’ve always wanted to do, a group or a class or swimming every day or whatever yoj want to do. I’d go out and buy an animal cause that’s what I like, a rescue cat or something, I’d find something to fill my time until I felt okay and ready to start again. I know it feels impossible now but small steps.

I love this and it applies to so many situations x

@Peachycream sending you a big cuddle and virtually drinking a glass of wine with you.

It's awful to feel directionless but from previous experience ... I'm sure old friends would love you to reconnect with them, and it's a good opportunity to get a new friend group too.

He doesn't deserve you .... he sounds like a self centred man baby. I'm so sorry he seems to have beat down your confidence in yourself. You are amazing and I'm convinced in a few years he'll see you living your amazing life you've built.., and he'll realised he definitely f*ed up.

Love that @Eli707 🥰

Hope you're ok @Mrsspoon3 ☹️ keep us updated with how things look in the morning but I'm keeping everything crossed it isn't a CP xxxx

@Peachycream just sending u a big hug lovely. It might not seem like it but things WILL get better. Everybody in this thread is standing behind you and routing for you! xxxx

Love that @Eli707

@Mrsspoon3 I have absolutely everything crossed for you - it’s a good line and doesn’t sound like period bleeding at the minute. I think bleeding/spotting is actually really common in early pregnancy but that doesn’t make it less scary. Lots of love, hope you get some sleep x

@Peachycream if you are anywhere near Hampshire or Dorset I've got a fridge full of wine!

When ex-H left me I decided to take up spin classes and joined Meet Up. I live in the hostile south where no one talks to anyone, and I now have a few close friends here. I met my DP on tinder (of all the places)!

I know things seem bleak now, but concentrate on you. Do the things you've always wanted but never had time. It doesn't matter how small.

The amount of random things I did, purely because I could and didn't have someone moaning at me! I learnt how to make sugar paste roses for cakes and fresh pasta from scratch, painted the garden shed bright purple, bought fresh lilies for the house, ate a disgusting amount of Sainsbury's cheese puffs, watched old black & white movies, left my shoes in the hallway, pee'd with the door open.... if I wanted it/to do it, I did.

Make a list of all the things you've ever wanted to do or try. It will help you find yourself

In the meantime we are all here for you x

Ah I’m so frustrated, today was a key temperature but I woke up at 5am and can’t get back to sleep so can’t take my temp today. Should have just taken it when I first woke up! So annoying, my sleep is crap atm.

@SkeletonSkins my sleep is always a bit irrational so I always do it as soon as I realise I'm awake just in case I don't get back to sleep (which is quite often) and doesn't seem to affect my graph too much m, even if I temp at 3am - still very very clear highs and lows.

*meant erratic! 😂

@Peachycream

I don’t even know, I haven’t been able to do what I want in so long. My whole life just revolved around him and trying to keep him happy and not rock the boat.

I just don’t know how I’m ever going to be okay on my own now? @HRP1990
I’m all on my own in the world now, apart from the people I go out and care for but that’s it. No friends, nothing. Just me.

I was here 5 years ago. And I PROMISE you, it gets better once you realise what you life is without that yolk around your neck. Chrikey I was married to mine for almost 12 years. You got this! You now have the time to find you again, be the best version of you and you never know, meet Your one when you least expect it. I was absolutely 'no men' for a long time and then a work colleague (who I have worked alongside for years) asked if I wanted to join them for a hike at the weekend and over some we grew so close that it was like a lightbulb went off. I finally realised what a loving relationship looks like. It took to my mid 30's to see it. I wasn't looking, I was actively not looking and that is when it happened. I hear similar stories of women 'starting over'

Morning ladies!
Looks like we’ve all got a story to tell! I know I’m a better person from what I’ve been through and in turn, met a better person

Thanks everyone. It’s just all a bit overwhelming I think, to go from one extreme to another and with all the hurt in between I think it’s just magnified everything.
I feel stupid and embarrassed.
I’m sure it will all figure itself out in the end, but I am a particularly impatient person when it comes to myself, while I can tolerate a lot from other people before I lose my rag, I have no tolerance for myself.
I guess it’s just going to be a long and dusty road until I find some sort of peace for myself again. I just wish I knew where or even how to start.
Part of me wishes he would turn around and come back and things would all just be fine and the same, it’s comfy slippers I suppose.
I don’t know, I just don’t know 😂

I’ve just got to wait until the good days start outweighing the bad ones I guess, right? Can anyone give me a timescale please? 😂

Anyway I suppose I better go and get myself washed and dressed as I still have to go and fake a smile and start someone else’s day on the right foot

@SkeletonSkins that’s annoying! Have you jacked on the OPKs or are you still doing those along side your temp?

I had a dip yesterday and a rise today so I thought I’d test at 10DPO... BFN. Had AF like cramps and my boobs are killing! AF should be on her way on Saturday 🙄

Oh @Peachycream I’ve just caught up and saw your news. I’m so sorry. It sounds trite, but things will get better. Right now you’re getting to grips with the loss of knowing where you were & being part of a team. It sounds like he wasn’t right for you and didn’t deserve you anyway but even with that in mind you’ll need to go through an adjustment period which is never easy.

There’s some great advice on here about meeting friends. You’ve managed to make a tonne online in the past month, I have no doubt you’ll find your people once you put yourself out there.

Before long you’ll stop feeling lonely, the only way is up from there ♥️

@HRP1990 @Mrsspoon3

I didn’t actually have an implantation bleed, but I take it that puts me in the minority rather than saying you should worry. My midwife said yesterday that eventually I may get some brown spotting if I never saw a bleed and that I shouldn’t worry if I did.

Sending best wishes to you and crossing fingers and toes that this one sticks!

You've got this @Peachycream ❤️❤️

@Mrsspoon3 How are you today? Xxx

@Peachycream it may not seem like it, but you will get through this and find who you are and look back and think thank GOD that ended!! Sounds like an arse and trust me, ive been there! Didnt know who the hell i was without being with him and now i look back and laugh!

I think im finally on the home straight to cycle 2! Some spotting this morning on 11-12dpo, really dark brown, like old blood and the cramps and backache are real!!! Upside of that is it confirms i did ovulate 12 days ago when i thought i did so know more for what to look out for in fertile week going forward!

Thanks so much @Sparklingwine1, @SkeletonSkins and @glasspaw!! I really appreciate everyone’s lovely messages on here. I’m so glad I found this thread! 💗😊

I woke up pretty much every hour last night and took my temperature every time haha, and it was still high (it had gone down to 36.86 from 36.9 but hopefully that doesn’t mean much). I did a test just now (tried to wait as long as possible) and it’s still positive!! So happy but wondering would this be the case anyway if I had lost it? Would hcg still be in my system? Didn’t want to get my hopes fully back up as wasn’t sure on this?
It looks about the same darkness I think as yesterday. Attached both photos. Written a 1 (yesterday) and 2 (today) in the corner.

Hope you’re ok @Peachycream. Breakups are awful, regardless of whether it was the right person or not, as you’re plunged into the unknown and everything is different and you’ll miss this life you built, but it will get better and then you’ll look no doubt back and be so glad this happened, as trite as that sounds right now. You’ve had some great advice on this thread too for when you’re ready to start making plans again! Just take it easy and do the things that make you feel good and look after yourself. Sending hugs xx

@HRP1990

Morning ladies! Looks like we’ve all got a story to tell! I know I’m a better person from what I’ve been through and in turn, met a better person

Absolutely!!