Newbie looking for some support

[Peachycream]

Hi ladies,

I’ve been lurking for a few days, just seeing what the deal is, trying to work out some of the terminology used, mostly going to post but then getting scared and carry on lurking haha.

I don’t really have anyone I can talk about the TTC journey with in my real life as we aren’t telling anyone as it stands so I’m hoping maybe I can make a few friends here that I can obsess and stress out with 🤣

I’m currently CD 7 in my first cycle so tracking with OPKs every day right now so that I can get a clearer picture of my cycle each month.

I’m 30 and this will be our 1st,

If anyone has any advice/is in a similar position to me or just wants a natter I’d love to hear from you 😊

Xx

@Peachycream hello!! Im new to the ttc journey alo! 31 and trying for our first! I am currently cd37 and still no sign of AF I came off the pill in December and cycles so far have been 42, 42 and 34 days so I expected af a few days ago based on this but nothing yet but i reckon its very unlikely i am pregnant, took a test on Monday and bfn! We only decided on cd15 this cycle to begin trying so very early days for me too trying to get use to all the jargon!! Welcome!

Hi CTMcG

Thanks for the welcome!

To be 100% honest with you, I have no idea what my cycles are like usually as I’ve never really tracked it properly, I’d kinda pop in a period on my app when I remembered 🤣 my last one was 34 days but didn’t TTC in that cycle as I just wanted to know roughly how long I’d be looking at, and it usually turns up around the same date each month (even after coming off birth control) so I assume it’s roughly 30/34 days.

I’ve only been looking into it all on here for the last few days and I already feel overwhelmed! God knows what it will be like in a few months time haha.

It’s the waiting and not knowing isn’t it? Don’t you just wish there was a tiny little light on your foof that turned different colours for different things 🤣

@Peachycream haha yes that would be good but then i would never get anything done but look at it all day😂

I have pcos so I am assuming i have irregular periods.. hard to tell as some will say it can take a good while for them to become ‘regular’ after the pill but time will tell! My advice, only 1 cycle in is dont test too early! Going forward i vow to only take a pregnancy test when af is late. I drove myself crazy thinking i had all these pregancy symptoms!! It will be good to have a newbie buddy on this journey!!

@CTMcG sorry lovely, I passed out last night, it was a long day working!

Yeah I think I’d probably be the same 🤣

Awh that sucks, so it can be a bit of a nightmare for you to figure out what’s going on when sometimes especially if AF doesn’t show up when you think she will.

We can keep each other away from the tests! I swear sometimes it’s psychosomatic, I was reading through here the other day and then noticed a load of symptoms, I was there for like an hour googling and thinking ahhh it’s happened without me even trying band then I had to check myself and be like hold on, moron, you literally just had af, you took a test after that before you started tracking ovulation, don’t be stupid 😂

Yes! It will be nice to have someone to talk to about it and let out the crazy inside!

@Peachycream @CTMcG Hey - I'm 32, trying for 1st, 1st cycle.... due AF this weekend.

I feel like there is so much lingo to learn but I think it definitely helps having people to talk to! It's such a weird process I'd never really thought too much about - and no one really talks about it because by the time they announce the pregnancy the pain of trying is probably so far behind them!

Be nice to see how you both get along and fingers crossed for a quick success!! 🥰

@Peachycream the first few weeks I went down a rabbit hole of symptom spotting, fuelled by threads on here so definitely doesn't work for me so steering clear of doing that going forward!

@KayL1988 so true! Spent my life trying not to get pregnant and now i keep thinking HOW does someone get pregnant by accident?! It seems like a minefield lol

Welcome!

Ah tell me about it! I’m like you, I’d never really paid too much attention before because I didn’t really need to, but it’s such a complicated process! Or it seems that way anyway.

@CTMcG like you, I’ve started to wonder how it “just happens” for some people, I sat there yesterday thinking no way does someone just seem to time it right by mistake, surely they already have some idea of when to get down to it 🤣

@Peachycream @CTMcG - yeah I have absolutely no idea how people just get pregnant without trying?

If you aren't using birth control then surely your cycle tracking in which case you'd know? Unless contraception fails at precisely the wrong moment? I knew someone who got pregnant after being ill - because the sickness had got rid of her contraceptive pill (and she hadn't realised).

I really think they need to pull all us women into a classroom again in our mid twenties.... 'look girls... I know when you were 11 we said if you didn't use contraception you'd get pregnant... but it's a bit more complicated than that'. 😂

@KayL1988 @Peachycream totally agree about the re education! It blew my mind that you can only get pregnant in such a short window of the month! 31 btw😂 but i guess when your avoiding something all your life you dont really look into it much!

In this first month i have went from not wanting to see my period to really wishing it comes asap! I know i am not pregnant & I feel like im stuck in limbo until it does come now so i can try again! Cd38 and counting😭

@CTMcG I know I think in my head it was like technically you can get pregnant anytime but you have about two weeks a month when it's super easy.

Yeah I used to dread my period - now I'm just grateful I have them and a recognisable cycle of some kind. It's weird how now - it feels like AF is a negative but also a positive because you have a few days of drinking wine 😂 and then you have a whole other chance just around the corner. The TWW is an absolute mare - I'm sure a man invented it. I love the fact the egg is so keen to not stick around more than a day or two.... but then it takes weeks to properly latch on 😂

Hi girls, mind if I join? I’ve been a lurker from a far but I feel like I’m in the same boat as you all I thought I’d jump in and say hi! I’m 30 also, TTC first month properly and currently DPO1 I think.. still trying to learn the lingo and will google every single symptom until I find the answer I want haha

Welcome @HRP1990!!! I love the fact there's a few of us in similar situations! Are you testing ovulation with test strips? Xx

Hi @KayL1988! Yes I downloaded the “Premom” app? It’s been really helpful to take pictures of the strips and see them all together. It predicted Ov for 30th but I think I had my peak 26/27th so assuming I’m 1DPO today.

Ahhh I have the Premom app too @HRP1990 - I find it really useful. I'm not 100% certain when my peak was either. We went away for a week and I decided to do some research and order the test strips whilst there - so didn't track my full cycle.

I've got plenty of strips though so will tracking my full cycle this month which will be interesting.

Where are you in your cycle @KayL1988? I think the earlier you use them the better so you can gradually watch the test line darken? Fingers crossed for us all this month! @Peachycream @CTMcG

@HRP1990 CD26 today - my usual cycle length ranges from 27-29 so waiting for AF over the next few days! I started testing around CD15 but there wasn't a clear peak so not sure if I missed it or if it just wasn't super high - will know more next cycle!!!

Hi Ladies, do you mind if I join too?

My situation is kinda the same although we've been trying for 6 months for No. 1. I'm 33 and like most people we haven't told a soul we are TTC and I've found it can get a bit lonely with a the 20-somethings. I'm sitting like Grandma in the corner!

I totally get what you mean about the lack of education. I tend to write things down when I get upset or frustrated and I'm so tempted to write a short book for 20+year olds calling it something like 'The REAL sex ed'

IMO The more the merrier - quite nice to have a little group of early 30s trying for #1! I also feel a bit out of place as it doesn't feel like a lot of people are just trying for their first in their early 30's! Feels like a lot of people have gone through it once and are onto their second. Makes me feel completely out of my depth!

How has your journey gone so far @SareBear87 ??

I agree with both of you @SareBear87 @ @KayL1988 all my friends had kids early 20’s and I’m the only one out my group that doesn’t have kids yet. It’s only recently we’ve started talking about trying and I didn’t realise how much of a mind field is it!

I’m not wanting to tell anyone we’re TTC either as I don’t want any pressure. I’d totally read that book haha

Hello ladies,

Oooh lots of new messages 🙈

I’m getting excited now I have some people to talk to rather than getting a blank look from other half! Haha.

I’m just popping in quick when I have a minute between work to say I’m not ignoring anyone, I’ll have a proper read through and reply properly this avvo 🥰

@KayL1988 its been OK, I've learnt a HUGE amount in that time. Some months I have been totally chilled and other months (like this one) I am symptom watching every little hiccup and twinge!

@HRP1990 Yeah all my friends have children, even my best friend who is 37 is pregnant (although this is a IUI baby - but still it was the first attempt!)

My partner is older and way more chilled out than me. I just feel like something should have happened by now surely? But I keep being told it is totally normal for it to take a year... I wish I'd known that sooner!

@SareBear87 god me too. If I knew how long it could potentially take I would have started years ago! My boyfriend is the same, so chilled. If only they knew what we were like behind the scenes haha. I think he’d freak at my google search history 😂 (what is IUI!?)

@Peachycream hope work is going well! Excited to have a little group too!

@HRP1990 yeah I've definitely not told people either. It's such unnecessary pressure and you never know which of your friends you can ask - like I've no idea if they struggled. I know some of them haven't and got pregnant first time - so just don't want to have that convo!

@SareBear87 I know what you mean - I had no idea a full year was completely normal! Fingers crossed it happens for you soon.🥰

IUI - Think turkey baster and you got it . They paid for private treatment without trying because of age (and the assumption it would take forever). First basting session and boom - she caught!

I have cramps today so I think I'm out, AF is due Sunday/Monday and its about the right time for my uterus to start being aggy. On the plus side I can have a glass or two of something over the bank holiday!

@SareBear87 @KayL1988 @CTMcG @HRP1990

I’m just gunna @ everyone cause that feels like the right thing to do 🤣

Ah! I get what you all mean about being early 30s and feeling old trying for 1st one. When we were thinking about it I said to the nurse at my GP will I struggle because of my age at all? And she looked at me like I was insane and was like......no love, if you was 40s I may have said yes but you’re young and healthy. And I was thinking well if you’ve watched the Kardashians or any kind of reality TV you’ll know that the minute they turn 30 they freak and go straight out and freeze their eggs or have embryos made!

It feels so out of place for a woman in her 30s to be trying for the first time, but I sit there and think to myself, when I was in my early/mid 20s I didn’t have that kinda time on my hands! I was too busy having fun 😂

You’re right about needing more accurate sex Ed as you get older, especially for women, we all should be pulled to the side for like a week seminar where someone stand there and goes “look girls, this is what’s REALLY up!” Business venture anyone? I think we’d make billions!