Ttc #1 - cycle 7

[rosiej95]

Really fed up of AF showing up month after month now 🤦🏼‍♀️ we've been taking the see what happens but dtd lots approach. But now going into month 7 so We've decided to use the clear blue opk's to see if it gives us a better chance. 🤷🏼‍♀️
Now to just wait for AF to disappear 😀

Any one else ttc #1? 😀

Haha very intellectual! But also very true. Are the wild ones not super expensive? Well I'll join you in the no opks for the late Sept cycle (cycle 14). Might use the last ones to test when I think it's ovulation eg by cm but otherwise meh.

Nah think I've already ovulated as had some left side pain earlier. My ovulation does tend to be on ovulation day and not the day later. We prob will dtd but don't think it'll make much difference. His sperm can be great but its quite a swim for the little pricks 😂

@Loops01 yeah they are £34 a month 🤢 but they have so much more in them than the ones I was on, plus the active form of most ingredients (again, unlike the ones I was on, including folic acid vs folate). So I figured if I’m doing everything else, I should probably also be putting the best in my body! We’re generally like that anyway, no processed food, plastic tubs, organic produce etc, so might as well cross over into supplements, right?! That’s what I’m telling myself…

I think I get ewcm 2-3 days before ov, so going to focus on that time this month more than ov day itself - listening to my body and all that hippy stuff 😂 might temp nearer the time to confirm ov so DH can have a rest haha.

You never know, timing it spot on and dtd loads hasn’t worked for us so many catching it once on ov day will have a different outcome…

I agree! Worth a try esp if you can feel or see any difference. Yeah I'm 2-3 days of ewcm too then its back to creamy. Didn't have loads this month though but stopped taking most vits around cd11 to just let body have a wee break and make its own shizz. Can't wait to finish it all. Nice empty cupboard haha. How many chemicals have you had?

@Loops01 I also forgot to say in my last comment that I TOTALLY got what you meant about the high cervix fertilily issue 😂😂 sometimes I’m like where the hell is it?!? whilst worrying I’m doing more harm than help.

I’ve only had one chemical, last September (cycle 2) and this is cycle 13, almost a whole year ago and not a sniff since. I’ve tried to replicate what we did that cycle so many times to no avail. The one thing I can’t replicate is that the fw was over our wedding day 😂
I was briefly pregnant 6 years ago in a prev relationship too, so I’m 99.9% sure I’ll know I’m pregnant without peeing on a stick. Both times I felt so different on the lead up to what would’ve been af, so I’m really sure I’ll know instinctively. Could be wrong though.

@Amy259 that's good to know though in some sense. Maybe cutting back will help. Maybe it'll relax you a bit or maybe it is just a 'time' thing. At this rate we will all be off opks etc in a few months. Would be interesting to read the start of the thread again although waaaay too much effort and I think it would just make me hate myself for buying into these fads etc.

We've had a void in our lives and home for a wee whole since our cat Lola passed and I hate the fact that there's loads of animals don't have homes so we decided this wk to rehome. For you cat lovers - meet Lily. She's almost 6 months. It's weird cos I don't feel like her mum yet but I'm glad we can give her a loving happy forever home ☺

@Loops01 ohhh my goodness, she is the most adorable little thing! I love her colouring 🥰 she’s very like a cross between our two - we had a tortie called Poppy who we lost back in Feb, she had the same colours through her, and we still have our tabby and white, Maisy.

How’s Lily settling in? She looks very content 😂

Here’s our Mais currently x

Oh @Amy259 she's gorgeous!! Lily is like that just now too 😂. Happy cats! She's settling in a lot better than I thought! Likes to go nuts then cuddle up. Last night she slept for like 5 hours straight. I honestly thought she was dying like she had eaten something because she's barely slept since we got her 😂. Think she was just catching up on sleep.

@Loops01 the joys of the kitten age 😂😂 how lovely though, a little injection of joy into your life! And a welcome distraction too maybe? I’m sure she’ll keep you busy.

I will say its nice to have the distraction but the in laws think its a silly idea (they don't have pets and never have other than a rabbit when they were really young and have no idea what happened to it) and one of my friends it like 'aw at least she'll satisfy your need to mother' as if she just replaces a baby so easily. She's good though. No spraying or scratching furniture so far! Plus she gave the dog a head rub the other night and he was so chuffed to be accepted by her 😂

@Loops01 whaaat, how could they possibly think she was a bad idea 🥰 and the comment about her being a baby substitute wasn’t ideal either…

Glad lily and the dog are enjoying each other though! We have two dogs, a 7 year old (my shadow and love of my life) and a 2 year old who is still a bit of a numpty, in the best way! The younger dog and Maisy are always up to no good together 😂

@Amy259 doing all right so far tbh.
Apart from the occasional sore boobs, the bloating tonight & cramps here & there I wouldn't have a clue I'd got a bfp
Did a digital & a clear blue last night & this morning which gave me a bfp & the normal clear blue came back with a very strong line so I'm feeling a little more chilled then I did a few days ago.

I was trying to think what I had done different this cycle & all that changed was I started back at the gym & I think it's been mentioned before but I tried the orgasm thing this time as well!

@Loops01 that reading is so good! 😍
Hopefully dtd tonight still might give you a chance? 🤞🏻
Aww Lilly is gorgeous!
Ouch that was a little insensitive of your friend :/

@Amy259 I’m good thanks, hope you’re ok!
I think I’ve ovulated (really cut back on tests so I only know my peak was in the last two days) not really bothered about it anymore other than knowing I’ve ovulated. Less stress! Also noticed egwm just before so think I can spot it coming now.

Let us know if you hold out and not use your opks.

@Loops01 aww! So adorable 🥰

@rosiej95 glad you’re feeling ok ❤️ , keep us posted

@AZ1992X it’s funny how we’ve all reached a “sick of tests” point at the same time haha. I’m feeling a bit nervous today going into fw, as per, so need to work on keeping myself chilled somehow. Good to know you’ve definitely felt it less stressful too, that gives me hope!

@rosiej95 ahh glad to hear you’ve got your digital and that your lines are strong now 😍 yes keep us updated!!

@Amy259 I know aha! I was stressing before that I needed to keep testing and what the readings were but doesn’t really matter if you ovulate and time your dtd around that time. Felt much more relaxed about it all. Just a waiting game now so need to keep busy!

Hope this week goes ok for you!

How you getting on @Amy259 - have you resisted testing?

@Loops01 how are you doing?

Hello lovely - I’m okay thank you, still no tests!

CD14 today, had ewcm last night and I only had it one day last cycle 2 days before ov and it was a day we didn’t dtd, and we weren’t due to dtd last night… all the recent studies are so focused on how ewcm is the best successful pregnancy predictor, like 38% chance versus 26% on peak opk day (mine never line up, my ewcm goes away before I even peak) because the sperm get more energy etc from the cm and make it to your tubes to wait, instead of all dying before they get a chance..

So last night should’ve been our night off but my wonderful DH sensed my worry (despite me trying to play it down 😂) so we dtd. Have lots of cm again today but I think I’ll give him a night off haha. Have covered cd 10, 12 & 13 so far 🤞🏻 and will keep going every 2 days until temp rise.

So still a bit stressy, but maybe like 4/10, compared to my normal 8/10 at this time of the cycle. I think I’ll forever worry about not catching the right day, but would worry dtd every day too because of sperm quality - I’m a constant ttc worrier at the mo.

How’s your tww treating you? @AZ1992X

@Amy259 Glad you’re ok ☺️ & great that you’ve stuck to it.

Ah that’s really interesting- I do try to dtd on days I have ewcm but I’m similar don’t think I ovulate till 2/3 days after it shows up.

That’s good you managed to do it last night & agree you’ve defo covered so far! , I read somewhere that you can do it too much so the odd day off probably helps.

I’m doing well thanks - it’s not going too slow so hoping the rest of the week goes quick too 🤞

@AZ1992X apologies for the essay - I didn’t realise it was that long 😂

Yeah tbh it’s one of the things I get worked up about, aiming for every other day but then feeling like the days we don’t would somehow be better days to dtd for whatever reason - more cm or closer to ov or whatever (it’s probably all in my head!)

That’s good, you’ll need to teach me how to stay so chill, you’re a pro! What’s the secret? 😂

@Amy259 haha! It wasn’t that long.

No, I completely get that and I think that some days where I have a day off and think what if but I figure too much might do more damage than good 🤷‍♀️

I really don’t know if I’m honest 😂 no secret - I think I figure it will happen and if it’s not this month maybe next!! Just trying to keep positive and hopeful.

Hello! No change from me. Like I said very unlikely this cycle since didn't cover 3 days before ov/ov itself. Not tested since the apps ov day. Nothing more to report. Still as depressed and fed up of it all.

Another 2 pregnancy announcement at work. All the girls have children or are pregnant (apart from 1 who doesn't want kids and me of course) and now these 2 are the men. I am genuinely happy for them and their partners but I also feel like when I hit rock bottom that the earth opens up and swallows me more and there's no getting out. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Due a wk tomorrow.

@AZ1992X am I allowed to say I’m glad you overthink the days off too? At least we have each other 😂

@Loops01 oh mate I wish I could give you a big hug and a shot of tequila ♥️ was ov day the day DH got home? Did you dtd that night?

Also if anyone is a podcast fan, I’m probably late to the party (given it started in 2018) but there’s a brilliant podcast called BFN I’ve started listening to. It’s two women in London navigating ttc and ivf (I went back to the very start to listen to it) and it’s so funny, they’re pals and I feel like I could be their friend too 😂 and at the end of each episode they speak to the head of Oxford fertility doctor to ask him common ttc old wives tales - so far they’ve done wearing socks, eating pineapple, legs in the air etc. I listen to it on dog walks and it almost channels all my obsessing for the day into one stint 😂 so if anyone fancies it, I’d highly recommend!

@Amy259 I loved that podcast. Listened to it when I was maybe cycle 4. Finished like a yr and a bit but can't listen to it any more. It's either people with diagnosed issues that I can't relate or those that have to adopt etc and it makes me feel sad. But I did love it and felt like they were my best friends for a few cycles. Lol I also listened to it on dog walks.

We dtd about 11pm day of ov but I'm pretty sure I ovulated earlier as had pain and my scan did show that I ovulated earlier within the 24-48hr ratio. It's the kinda thing I can be sad about the negative because we didn't manage because of work/life or I can be sad about the negative when we tried our best. I think the latter makes you feel worse because you can't really control work/life as much.

@Loops01 yeah I get that, there’s a lot of ivf/assisted conception chat and I sometimes have to tell myself that won’t be me - I’m determined to keep the good vibes that we’ll get pregnant naturally for now.

I agree, I definitely feel more upset and disappointed when I give it my all too. It’s hard not to feel very helpless!

Yeah that podcast really made me understand there's more than just ivf which is great and I know they eventually got there bfp (shouldnt be a spoiler as I think it's on their Instagram etc) so it gives you hope in that sense but it did make me think that I'd need treatment and it would never happen for me. There's a few other podcasts but I found theirs the best. They've released or due to release a book too.

@Amy259 of course 😂 it’s only normal!

Oo not heard of that - might give it a listen. Just been told about a book so will let you know if it’s worth a read!

@Loops01 agree with you both - some months you feel you couldn’t do any more so you do get disappointed - it’s only normal.