TTC 35+ Thread 6 Cougar and Silver Fox Club

[M4v3r1ck]

Hey ladies, setting up a new thread! 😃 Hope it works! 🤪

Hey ladies, just a quick catch up here!

Welcome newbies! 😃😃😃 To recap, I'm 36 and TTC #1 since late May 2020. Got pregnant in Oct 2020, but sadly miscarried at Christmas.

🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻 for everyone in TWW! I'm currently CD29 and BBT still relatively high. BFN though and I'm expecting this to be a late AF since this cycle was just haywire! Just want to reset though, as I keep getting flares of panic that something is wrong with me! 🤦🏻‍♀️

Urgh I've really struggled with some pregnancy announcements etc recently. I know for me, because of my recent MC, I'll not want to say anything for as long as possible!

@Marvellouslymadmum it sounds like our bodies are still adjusting which is frustrating! 🙈

How's everyone else doing? Any clinic/results etc updates? Not got any more supplements yet, but going daft on fruit for Vit C! 🤣

@M4v3r1ck You'll need to start yet another one of these threads before too long!
@climbershell I'm still not convinced about BBT. Although switching from a dodgy thermometer to one that seems more reasonable at the beginning of this cycle is obviously no help. I actually managed to find an example online that looked a bit like my chart though, as I was curious why I'd had a lower temp drop 3 days before ovulation, than the one that happened the day before ovulation.
Yesterday was my feeling crap day. I have noticed CD21 always brings me nausea, dizziness and fatigue. Same yesterday so I assume AF is on the way.

Hello newbies! Glad to see some other 40s here; I've just turned 40 too! Our bodies don't just suddenly change though and as @Loladoodle said, it will happen at the right time!

I'm going use some lube this month too I think, maybe ewcm is a problem 🤔 Partner doesn't like it though, he says it feels like menthol 😂 Going to use a soft cup too. Throw it all up there!! 🤣

My OH knows I’m following tips and tricks and always replying to you lovely ladies, but I was too embarrassed to show him the Pre-seed and the big plastic syringe-type things I had to stick up myself!! Did it secretly in the bathroom!😂
Anyway I’ve convinced myself that it helped everything along, and that was the little extra we needed, and on Sat I’ll have my BFP 🙃🤦‍♀️

@misty84 🤞🤞🤞

@sickofthisyear joking you on the tww 😬 Im on CD 14 today and got a smiley face yesterday on CB digital. Dtd CD 10,11 and 13 🤞

I had my second session of acupuncture today and it was electro acupuncture which she said she does around ovulation.

Got warm socks, new slippers and Brazil nuts 🙈

Here's hoping to a stress free tww which is not consumed by symptom spotting which is how I am usually.

Hope you're all well x

I'm currently chopping up a fresh pineapple 🙈😂

Can I just ask - what does little extras does everyone recommend?
Currently not doing anything extra other than vitamins, I read great reviews on Ferti-Lily but 1) wasn't sure if all the raving reviews were genuine and 2) we're only on cycle 2, so wasn't sure if I need to try anything yet.
But then again, if it works then I'd be kicking myself for not trying it sooner.

And what is pre-seed?

Should I be using OPK's and temping?

And does anyone get their DP's to take supplements? I read that DHA can improve fertility.

Oh gosh to be in my 20's again 😏

@marvellouslymadmum I had a smiley face yesterday too. I assume that means I'll ovulate today or tomorrow so will try to encourage dtd both those to cover all bases although I had cramps yesterday so kind of assume it's happened. We'll see... I kind of feel a bit mixed this month because I feel like we've got our timings right and I had the acupuncture. I'm feeling quite hopefully but trying to manage expectations. It's a hard balance!

Re the announcements I don't think I'd announce until I'm about 20weeks. I think I was about that with my son anyway but that wasnt necearily conscious. On the other hand I'm not sure about telling very close family. I'd be tempted to wait too but then if we did have another loss I'd want the support again so feel i may as well tell them straightaway almost.

@Magnum99 I do use OPK as we don't DTD regularly enough to necessarily 'catch' the FW. There's no way I could track BBT, I don't sleep well and would probably forget first thing in morning anyway!
I take Folic Acid 5mg as am high risk, and just started B6 100mg (mainly to ward off PMS) and Vit D 800iu daily. I've heard CoQ10 can possibly help but it's ££.
I only drink one caffeinated cuppa per day, decaf for the rest and only drink alcohol (and not much) when have AF.
Then more randomly/dubious theories I wear warm socks to bed and eat pineapple core post ovulation. Sounds like a lot but I try keep it all low key-ish so don't stress DH out. 😁 He took vits when we conceived in early 30s but hasn't this time.

@sickofthisyear I actually already take CoQ10 as I have fibromyalgia, I started taking it around New Year and (touch wood) my fibro symptoms have virtually disappeared. So it obviously does something, hopefully it will help TTC too.

DHA is supposed to be good for egg and sperm quality and then good for baby's brain development too. My son is autistic so I do worry about neurodevelopnent, I really should get some.

About announcements - I don't think I'd make it public knowledge until maybe around 20 weeks but I'd tell people close to us.
Just because, if something went wrong I'd want those close to me to know what's wrong with me. So anyone who we'd want to know if we miscarried would be told early.
Plus I find the stress of trying to keep a big secret unbearable.
I'm not sure about my kids though, they are 8 and 11 so quite in tune with how mummy is feeling, if I miscarried they'd want to know why I was upset. But I wouldn't want them to feel that grief. Bloody hell I'm welling up here! 😭

I have one friend I talk to through the whole ttc stage, so I'll tell her the second I get a BFP. A couple of friends know we're ttc but won't tell them for a while, tho when I stop lead climbing (a certain climbing discipline that has more risk) they might well put 2 and 2 together

Not sure when I'll tell my family, maybe surprise with the 12 week scan

Btw I didn't mean temping, I won't chart temp ever, I sleep so badly and it would just be another thing to affect sleep as because of that not necessarily be accurate, more stress than anything. I will however opk if not successful this cycle

My ultra early pregnancy tests just arrived. Says 79% detection 5 days before expected period, 96% at 4 days, 99% at 3 days. I'll wait til 4 days before.

But my cycles are between 26-30 days... So I could test tomorrow for a 26 or 27 day cycle but not til Wed for 28, thur 29, Fri for 30. Argh!

I guess 28 is probably average. I'll probably test Wed or Thurs.. 😬

@selina37 I'm wondering if that's my problem too not had any ewcm this month at all!

@KG1145 we are cycle buddies! Cd 14 today, we dtd cd4,6,9,10,12 then I'm hoping tonight and tomorrow just to make sure! I also had the cramps yesterday but have had a little today to so I'm going to make him dtd anyway 😂

@sickofthisyear I forgot my pineapple this morning 🤦🏼‍♀️ not sure if I should bother now as it says in an empty stomach

@Magnum99 we are both in the pregnacare conception vits plus a few extras, both drinking pomegranate juice, I'm eating fresh pineapple including the stalk in the mornings (though I forgot today) as it was my peak yesterday and it's good for implantation, warm feet, I have a ferti-lily but haven't tried the pre-seed yet (it's lube that helps the sperm like ewcm) I'm also temping and using opk as my ovulation is all over the place when I actually do ovulate! It's very helpful when pinpointing the days you should be most fertile oh and I also have cut out caffeine, added protein to my diet (I'm veggie) extra veggies and no alcohol or non healthy snacks, I may be going slightly ott lol
I also have an autistic son but I believe dha isn't an approved drug in this country.

@magnum99

I take a prenatal with folate and I'm going to order another folic acid supplement to top it up. I take ubinquinol although keep forgetting to take it in the morning and then don't want to take it in the evening as I struggle to sleep anyway and it apparently makes it worse.

I'm still drinking alcohol as usual, couple of glasses a week probably and I drink about one cup of coffee a day.

We're tracking ovulation but not body temperature.

Writing it down it doesn't feel like much but I think one of my problems is stress so I'm really trying to strike the balance between doing enough and stress. I find I'm thinking about it All the time though!

I've brought Brazil nuts today and warm slippers oh and I've had two acupuncture sessions with someone that specialises in fertility. Partly for the fertility aspect and partly for the stress.

Welcome new ladies, hopefully this is our year!!

If anyone is looking for slightly cheaper FRERs AYP Healthcare have them for £5.49 for two. I have been using them to track my hcg back down and once my cycle comes back I'll be wasting them with too early testing again, I'm under no illusions and Amazon prices are pretty steep.

What I thought was a period came and went, monitoring LH just in case but still bleeding a little bit, just need to be patient but why is it so hard!

@TTCat39 what’s your bbt doing? I remember it seemed low or high (can’t remember) and you posted about that but not many responses.

I have no boundaries around the DH and show him all the conception aids in great detail, I’m sure he’s thrilled lol @Misty84

I’ve got new slippers too @KG1145! Not for any special reason, just fancied treating myself to some.

@Marvellouslymadmum will be pleased to hear I have another supplement 😂. This time it’s not for ttc though, it’s for my year of skin trouble but you never know, maybe if I can fix one thing the other will sort itself out too.

@thislittlebird 😂 I'm sure all these supplements must be doing us some good, even if it's not for ttc

Hello all! I have been TTC a third (very blessed to have two great girls) for 2 years now with no luck. This month I have had the most bizarre cycle with OPK showing two dark lines on day 10 and 11 (which I have only had during a few cycles) so I was excited but now no late cycle breast tenderness which I always get! Why are bodies to confusing....?!

@Em371983 hello and good luck

10dpo now and I'm not sleeping, too much thinking of if I'm pregnant or not. Sooooo hard to not let myself test. 4 x earlies ready to go and 2 digital...

Now I'm worried v mild cramping could be pmt. Think maybe it should've stopped by now. Also slight uncomfortable higher up abdomen in stomach. Boobs still have pains on and off. Was very hungry yesterday too.

Feel a bit sick but I'm pretty sure that's from lack of sleep and worry 🤦‍♀️

@climbershell It is hard not to test early but at least while not testing I can still think “I might be pregnant!” rather than getting the awful confirmation that I’m not. I’m on 11dpo. Glad to be kept busy at work!! Weekend is either going to be a joyous time or miserable!! Xx

@thislittlebird My BBT is different by a full degree Celsius between the two oral thermometers I have One would make me run quite hot for the whole cycle, and the other seems to be a bit low! So in my luteal
I'm showing around 36.5 on one and 37.5 on the other!

@Misty84 are you going to wait til Saturday to test? I doubt I'll survive that long

This is a bit weird but the last 3 or so days I've felt a wet sensation, expecting to have cm when I've gone to the toilet, but had only the absolute teeniest teeniest bit when I wiped.. Kinda baffles me

@TTCat39 I'd be inclined to believe the 36.5 one that's around what mine normally is