Am I going to miscarry? Scared and frightened

[Greeneyesbiglashes]

Hi all,

I’m just looking for some guidance really. I’m lucky to have lots of support around me by really fantastic people, but I sometimes feel better talking to people who I don’t know I real life, where I can write without feeling like i’m weighing down on the people around me. It makes me feel better to write stuff all down too. Thanks for reading if you see this.

I found out on New Year’s Day I was pregnant, with my long term boyfriend. We were so happy. That was a Friday. By Sunday night I wiped and there was pink. I tried not to freak out and kinda pushed it to the back of my mind. I was due on my period on that day so thought it may be connected.

Since that Sunday (9 days ago) I have had spotting. Up until 2 days ago it has been light pink. There may have been some red spotting too in between but nothing alarmingly red I don’t think. Thinking back the red was more on the dark side. The last 2 days have been brown/really dark red. There has been no discharge. I am feeling a big sick in the mornings and have gagged a few times. I also think my nipples feel a bit sore. I have done a few pregnancy tests, the most recent one on Saturday (3 days ago) was clearly darker than the rest.

Last Thursday, 5 days after the spotting began I had a hospital appointment anyway as I was having tests. I came of the pill months ago and was spotting for a week, then having my period, then spotting for another week. The drs thought possible PCOS or just my body adjusting, but couldn’t have the tests due to me now being pregnant. They saw me and scanned me on Thursday anyway. This was with an abdominal scan as I had told them i’d been bleeding and they didn’t want to make it worse. I would have been 4 weeks 6 days at that point, they couldn’t see the sac, only that my lining was thick. The lady said I was really early to see that anyway as it was so early and as it wasn’t a transvaginal scan, it wouldn’t have been clear really anyway.

I had an abortion (with the same partner) back in 2018, my dad had just died and my mental health had plummeted, I was 9.5 weeks and never knew I was pregnant, I was on the pill the whole time. I remember bleeding at work with that pregnancy (when I didn’t know I was pregnant) and had to go home it was so heavy, however I was still on the pill so looking back it could have been my break week and my body would have made me bleed, I think. I’ve regretted it everyday and now think i’m being punished for what I did.

I have a scan on Friday, in 3 days, i’m petrified. I’ve not had any cramps yet nor clots.

I am just looking for some thoughts please?
Please don’t judge me for the abortion. I am ashamed of it and it breaks my heart daily when I think about it. Thanks for reading this. X

I think firstly try not to panic!

I am currently feeding my 1 year old who I spotted with (pink then dark brown) on and off for 10 days. Then it just stopped and all was fine.

Obviously this is not always the case but also don't be concerned at what the scan last Thursday showed. It's very rare to see a heartbeat or fetal pole until 6+ weeks. How far along will you be for your next scan.

I would put the termination out of your head-not relevant at all from what I can see.

The fact that your line is still dark is great too-when I miscarried the line was clearly lighter.

Best of luck with it all

Please don’t feel guilty about the abortion; you did what you had to do at the time and there is no way you’re being punished for that.
With my second DC I had two lots of early bleeding at 4/5 weeks which I actually thought was a light period and then at 6/7 weeks just days after I’d found out I was pregnant. I was told to rest as much as possible over that time. The rest of my pregnancy was text book smooth and my son arrived safely last year.
If it’s now brown it suggests that it’s now old blood coming out rather than fresh which is a good thing.
Hope all goes well for you

Thanks so much for the fast replies, my eyes are streaming constantly with worry.

It’s lovely to hear both of your success stories, i’m so glad you were both ok and have beautiful healthy children.

The spotting is mainly when I wee, then some blood comes right at the end of the wee (sorry TMI). There hasn’t been much in a pad, some days nothing in the pad.

@JimandPam I will be 6 weeks on Friday, so they wanted me to wait until Friday to hopefully give me some answers.

Thank you @user1493413286 for your kind words regarding the abortion. I remember thinking at the time about it all and being scared for what would happen with a pregnancy that I was happy with. It’s just been a terrible start.

I did wonder whether the fact it was brown and dark blood meant it was old. The brown blood came two mornings ago, today was the third, I really hoped it would have stopped by now

Thanks for your kind messages x

@JimandPam i’m sorry to hear about your MC. I thought about being brave and taking another tests, but i’m feeling really low and not sure i’m brave enough

When I had a chemical pregnancy the pregnancy test was no longer showing as positive when I started bleeding so the fact yours is still positive and still dark is a good sign. Wishing you so much luck!

(Please don't feel guilty or ashamed of the abortion. It's much more selfish to bring a child into the world when you aren't ready)

Sending love and luck

Also my bleeding went from spotting to heavy in a couple of days when I had a miscarriage so the fact yours isn't filling a pad is also good 🙏🏼

@TJ17 thank you so much for your message. I am blown away by the kindness of people I don’t know in real life, so thank you.

I’m so sorry to hear you had a chemical pregnancy, I hope you and your partner are ok.

Thank you for your comments on the abortion. It was a terrible time, my best friend was also pregnant (1 week ahead of me). She had her beautiful boy who I love sooo much, it was hard at first though even though it’s what we had decided. My best friend is pregnant again so it does all feel a bit strange that it’s her and I again!

Thanks again x

Hey OP,

when I miscarried at 5 weeks (ish) I passed bright red blood and a fair bit of it which filled a pad and the toilet bowl. I told the doctors when i started spotting a bit of pink (as thats what made me test as it was mid cycle) and they said to me that pink or brown spotting is usually nothing to worry about and can either be old blood or the embryo causing displacement of blood as it snuggles in and your uterus begins to stretch.

I am in a similar situation, i found out i was pregnant yesterday and have had some slight brown spotting when i wipe occasionally so I am really hoping this one sticks this time.

I hope everything works out for you! keeping everything crossed!

@unicornpower

Firstly, congratulations on your pregnancy! What fab news. I hope you’re okay, from what I read and from what @user1493413286 says it could be old blood that you have spotting. Keeping my fingers crossed for you, could be implantation too. I had implantation bleeding that lasted a couple of days that was before I found out I was pregnant, but I found out quite early anyway so thinking that could be what you have.

Sorry can I just ask, and please don’t feel you have to say, but where you mentioned you had some pink spotting and the dr told you not to worry did you then go on to have the mc? Please don’t feel you have to say. I was just wondering about timings etc.

Thanks for your kind words! I hope everything is all ok for you too!!
X

@Greeneyesbiglashes thank you. It was actually about 4 years ago now! I had 2 in a row and at the time it felt like the end of the world but it wasn't long til I was pregnant again and he stuck! I now have 2 beautiful babies.

It's a tough old journey but before long you'll look back and things will have all fallen into place

@TJ17 thank you for sharing! Sorry you had to go through that though, I can imagine how hard that would have been. I am a firm believer of everything happens for a reason so i’m really trying to hold onto that. Congrats on your beautiful babies, I hope one day I can look back at this thread and know it all happened when it was supposed to.

Thanks again x

Let us know how you get on.

I have everything crossed for you that now is your time

I started spotting brown blood but had been told not to panic because I'd got a sub chronic haematoma. Then it turned to pink and eventually bright red. I did go on to miscarry 5 days later. My Pregnancy tests even up to the day I found out at my scan our Baby hadn't made it were very very positive. Even the Dr at the hospital a couple of days before said he thought everything was ok because of how strong they were

Thank you @TJ17 for your kind words I will let you know how I get on x

@HopingForOurRainbowBaby thank you for your comment and for letting my know your experience. I am really sorry to hear you went through that .

I have had pink and brown spotting mostly. It has been 9 days now, maybe there was some red blood but not a lot of bright red blood that I have seen yet.

That’s sad to know about the pregnancy tests too, but thanks for sharing your experience.x

@greeneyesbiglashes Ahh Thank you Im just hoping this one sticks around with me this time fingers crossed Yes im hoping implantation too as im not due until tomorrow but the line wasnt faint and is a definite positive!

Yeah so basically last time it was very weird. I had my period which seemed normal and then around the time i was due to ovulate i noticed some pink spotting when i wiped which was weird as i didn't get mid cycle bleeding, I did a test which was a very faint positive and before i went to bed i wiped very dark red blood and it was all in my pad. I did a test the following day which was positive and i had some more purpleish blood on and off throughout the day and a very sore lower back. That night i had another dark red blood episode but this was in the toilet and on the tissue. The spotting continued to be brown and red for a few days and after getting a positive digital, the tests turned negative over about three days and the doctors confirmed the loss with a blood test and the following week i had a full bleed.

Mine went from pink to red very quickly so yours sounds totally different it really does! you hear of women who have small bleeds or even big bleeds and everything is okay with baby, I think the fact your lining looks nice and thick is a great plus i really do. When is your next scan? Im sorry you're having to go through this but im hoping it is all positive for you xxxx

Yes love that @unicornpower it sounds like implantation then! keep us updated. Such an exciting time for you, sending you loads of love!

Thanks for sharing what happened with you, I really appreciate it! I’m sorry you had to go through that, I can imagine how hard that was. I do usually spot and that’s what I was originally being tested for at the hospital as it was taking a lot time to get back into a rhythm after coming off the pill. I’ve had the dark red blood too when I have a wee and then wipe, there is deffo blood in the toilet but a few drops. It’s a lot lighter than my period would be, but yeah i’ve read on Google (which I know I shouldn’t but it’s become and obsession) that you can spot for like 2 weeks and still have positive tests I think and then the worst happens. So feeling really on edge and not that hopeful!

Thanks - mine was pink for a fair few days maybe 5 then went a more red colour and now brown. I did freak a bit when I saw a tiny bit of what looked like lining, it was probs the size of a seed... I feel like i’m going crazy lol! I hoped it would be over by now like the spotting but every morning is like groundhog day!

Yeah i’ve heard about women having big bleeds and it still being ok! Trying to hold onto that. I was worried that the spotting would have passed the lining but my sister disagreed..! Just panicked that the spotting will lead onto something more sinister. When I had the scan the lady said she couldn’t see anything to cause the bleeding. But again this was the abdominal scan so not sure how accurate it is that early on!

My next scan is Friday so in a few days, i’ve prayed so hard everything is gonna be ok!

Thanks so much xxxxx

@greeneyesbiglashes Oh im really hoping its all okay for you! I think you're a few weeks ahead of me so not too far!

Yeah the private scans i've been looking at do transvaginal at 6 weeks as its harder to see through an abdominal scan so maybe they'll do that on friday?

Its very hard as everyones experience is different but i hope its the best outcome for you-keep us posted?

Lots of love x

Thank you hun!

Yes I saw that too and was going to book that before I had these problems, now hoping the one at the Early Pregnancy Unit will give me good news. Yes hoping they will do the transvaginal one like you say!

Thanks ever so much as yes so hard to compare as every woman is different.

Sending love xx

@Greeneyesbiglashes good luck today! Keeping my fingers crossed for you x

Thanks @unicornpower that’s so kind of you to have remembered. I’m back now, everything looks normal so far!! They said i’m maybe a bit before 6 weeks so couldn’t see the Embryo sadly which is a bit scary! They think i’m more 5ish weeks than 6 weeks based on the size... so immediately worried that it’s stopped growing lol! But gotta take the positives and they said everything looks normal so far. The bleeding stopped yesterday and nothing really today either so i’m pleased.

How are you doing??xxx

Glad the bleeding has stopped for now that's good news 😊

Sorry the appointment wasn't more reassuring.

Will you have another scan in a few weeks or wait now until the 12 week dating scan?

I can’t offer too much advice regarding the bleeding but my sister did have quite bad bleeding with her first early on and everything was fine so doesn’t always mean the worst.
I had to have an early scan because of pains I was having and they could only see a gestational sac and yolk sac and estimated about five weeks. I then had to be rescanned two weeks later and they then saw an embryo and a heart beat and dated me 6 weeks +1. So you were probably really earn for your first scan. I was worried about it only being 6w+1 when it technically should of been 7w+1 but they said because it was just a sac on the earlier scan it’s really hard to get accurate dates. Xxx

Yes thank you @TJ17 i’m really pleased it has stopped!!

The lady was nice there and told me everything looks healthy but because I have irregular periods it probs meant I wasn’t 6 weeks, so i’m guessing 5-6 now...

Well I have got another scan next Thursday which I was already booked in for at a private hospital (through my docs) and so i’ll probs go to that and see what they say xxx

@jessi60 hey, thanks so much for your message.

Luckily my bleeding has stopped for the time being. It was spotting everyday for around 10 days so fingers crossed it won’t return! They said everything so far looks normal.

Thanks for sharing your story, i’m glad you could see the embryo and heartbeat. That’s reassuring for me too!! I was sure I was 6 weeks but I ovulate on the 17th day of my cycle so maybe a couple days longer than average, my sister then said it can take 5 days for it to all come together so hoping that’s why i’m 5-6 weeks rather than 6 weeks on the dot today. Praying for a little heartbeat next time!!xxx