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TTC #2 over 40

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Jem1979 · 12/01/2021 08:45

Anyone else TTC over the age of 40? I have a 19 month who was conceived first attempt. TTC #2 since June without success so far. Be good to hear from anyone in the same boat! I’m still bfeeding so wondering if that might be a factor. Plus my age obvs!

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Twothirtyam · 11/10/2021 12:09

Wow good news about the scan @Jem1979 - exciting!
@Sash78 I understand how you’re feeling about wanting to give your son a sibling but you know that brothers or sisters don’t always get on so try not to think you’ve let him down if it doesn’t happen. I often feel the same as you but funnily my daughter never asks for one and actually she’s so attached and clingy with me I’m not actually sure she’d want one! I’m just thinking more about when she’s older really. And also I just really like being a Mum (as hard as it is) and want to do more of it! Does your son have cousins or anything?
I’ve just booked in for a fertility assessment this month. Kind of dreading it but I guess will be good to know. Need to get all my questions prepped!

Sash78 · 11/10/2021 14:18

Thanks @Twothirtyam. Yes I'm not even that close to my brother so I'm probably blowing it out of proportion. My son does have cousins so that's good, but they're a fair bit older. He still thinks they're great and looks up to them though.
Your fertility assessment might turn out to be a positive step and help with all this. Even if it's just that you know you've done all you can and keep trying. Hope it goes well.

Lastyearttc · 13/10/2021 15:45

Hi ladies, hope everyone is ok and hanging in there. Some good news my end... had my dating scan yesterday and it's all ok still. So I'm 13+3 at 43yo. Just waiting for screening results now but wanted to share that it can happen! My daughter is 6yo and I fell on my 13th cycle after another mmc last year.

Twothirtyam · 14/10/2021 07:20

@Lastyearttc that’s fantastic thank you for sharing! Every bit of positive news is much needed here and I’m really happy it’s going well for you! Hope you’re feeling well as you go into the second trimester 😊

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Jem1979 · 17/10/2021 13:47

@Lastyearttc that's great news about your scan! I have mine on 1st Nov. Hope all continues to go smoothly for you.

@Twothirtyam best of luck for the assessment!

@Sash78 that must be hard when your wee one is asking for a sibling. I suppose in the end if it's not to be then you can maybe explain that you tried but that he was meant to have all of your love?

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birdbybird · 18/10/2021 17:20

Hi @Jem1979 were you breastfeeding your first? Are you still bf? All the best with the scan!

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Jem1979 · 19/10/2021 09:23

@birdbybird yes still feeding himConfused how are you doing? x

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birdbybird · 19/10/2021 15:03

@Jem1979 I'm ok. Had a HSG this cycle and may ovulate soon. I'm also still BF and is good to hear that you were still able to conceive. How old is your little one and how often do you BF? Any feeds over night? Good to hear all going well with the new pregnancy! :)

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Jem1979 · 25/10/2021 19:03

@birdbybird yes that's twice now I've managed to conceive while still bf so it's obviously possible. My son is almost 2 1/2. He feeds to sleep at night and then when he wakes but rarely during the day unless he's unwell. But he's a frequent waker so can be 4/5 times some nights! Tried to wean him a few months back but he was totally inconsolable so just decided he wasn't ready. Good luck this cycle x

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Jem1979 · 02/11/2021 15:24

Hi all, just to update I had my first official scan yesterday and all went well, 13+1 and due on 08 May. Lovely to see the wee bubba wriggling about. Hope everyone is doing ok x

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Lastyearttc · 03/11/2021 21:41

Great news @Jem1979 ! My screening results came back low, so everything going in the right direction here too x

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Jem1979 · 09/11/2021 15:59

@Lastyearttc my screening results have also come back low so good news for us both x

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RockingGazelle · 30/11/2021 13:12

Hi all - can I join please? I was 40 in July and am TTC #2. I have a DD who will be 2 next month. Lovely to see some BFPs on this thread.
Had been hoping to have a good try this month but DH was ill (not going to lie- I was quite irritated!) and so I think we completely missed our window. So onto December....

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Jem1979 · 01/12/2021 10:47

@RockingGazelle hi there and welcome to the chat! Yes a few pregnancies on this thread, think it's me & @Lastyearttc at the moment so definitely shows it can be done in your 40's. How long have you been TTC number 2? I know that feeling of frustration when you haven't been able to properly try one month! x

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RockingGazelle · 03/12/2021 21:07

Thanks @Jem1979. Hope all is going well with your pregnancy. How many weeks are you now?

We have been trying since April but the first few months were not proper efforts. Have upped the ante a bit more recently with opks but it's so hard finding the time and mojo to dtd enough, especially as my DD is not a good sleeper!

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Jem1979 · 04/12/2021 08:29

@RockingGazelle thanks yes can't really complain. 18 weeks tomo, have 20 weeks scan in a couple of weeks so feels like it's flying by! Am a bit more knackered but think that's to be expected at 42 with a 2 1/2 year old!! Oh I hear ya, my son is a frequent waker. We had to be creative about DTD lol but it is very hard when you know it's your peak and you can't really be ar5ed!! Haha. We started to try last May when my son turned one. Took 9 months to conceive then sadly had a mc at 8 weeks in April. Thankfully got pregnant again in August. How long did it take you to conceive your DD? xx

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RockingGazelle · 06/12/2021 19:11

Hi @Jem1979. Oh god, I know exactly what you mean about not being arsed when you have to do it. And my DH is not a fan of being under pressure!!

DD took 10 months to conceive with one.chemical in that time. So it wasn't too bad. But I'm obviously a few years older, and now the wrong side of 40, plus we DTD far less! So we will see.

Ooh not long for the 20 week scan. Will you find out the sex or keep it a surprise?

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Jem1979 · 11/12/2021 13:18

@RockingGazelle no, not going to find out. Didn't with our DS and liked that it was a surprise! I think maybe girl this time but hubby is convinced it's another boy!

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Jem1979 · 23/12/2021 08:47

All good at our 20 week scan everything looks as it should. Hope everyone has a lovely Christmas x

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Jem1979 · 03/01/2022 12:53

Happy new year ladies! Hope 2022 is a happy & healthy one with some more good news on this thread xx

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Jem1979 · 25/01/2022 18:14

Hi everyone, just thought I'd check in. How's everyone's January been? I feel like the time is just flying by! 25 weeks now can't believe it. Feeling grand, just really missing the booze! Lol x

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Jem1979 · 01/03/2022 07:25

Hi everyone, just me saying hello again. @Lastyearttc how are you doing? I'm 30 weeks so the end is in sight, feeling pretty unprepared but equally excited! Hope everyone is doing ok, start of spring today so hopefully some better weather & some good new on the horizon for all those trying xx

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cuju2407 · 01/03/2022 08:34

I've been watching this thread for a few months and finally got my bfp on Sunday. Still in shock as I was preparing myself to accept it might never happen.

Lastyearttc · 02/03/2022 11:16

Hi @Jem1979, great to hear from you. Sitting in antenatal ward right now just had a 33 week growth scan. All good. Also haven’t found out the sex as curious as I am! And also completely unprepared as have to finish up my full time job and move house at the end of March, so really hope this baby stays in until April!

Good luck to everyone else!

Mattieandmummy · 02/03/2022 15:05

An update from me and apologies for being very quiet on this thread. Just had my 20 week scan and we're having another girl! I hadn't really allowed myself to be excited until now but am quietly really really pleased. For anyone who doesn't remember me and is feeling dispirited I am almost 41 and once my cycle sorted itself out from stopping breastfeeding I conceived immediately, then miscarried very early then had one weird cycle and then bang pregnant again with this one.