TTC after ectopic Part 2

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@Luan82 thanks hun would be nice but can’t see it happening... yes it’s a weird feeling I no when I am due to ovulate I always seem to get cramps but then they go and come back closer to the actually ovulation date... according to the app It’s too early to test for ovulation I don’t want to waste my sticks as that thing is bloody expensive and I honestly don’t understand those cheap sticks I would end up a serial tester if I used them lol I no it’s going to be my left ovary this month again I can feel it... how you getting on hun?? Xx

@Luan82 I am at present only on cycle day 9 too xx

@Sweetbabydust1989 how long are your cycles? I ovulated two days late this month (typically my cycles are 29 days and ovulation occurs on the 15/16th day) but my period came early last month so hoping it's late or none existent for obv reasons !! I'm doing ok thank you, just trying desperately not to put too much pressure on myself or stress myself out by hoping too much that this is my month if that makes sense? - I'm now on my 5th month TTC after the medication for ectopic, I know that my AMH means my chances are lower but I can't help feeling just so devastated every month that it doesn't happen. It doesn't help that the fertility clinic aren't being responsive at all with my referral like time isn't a factor when I know that at 38 years old and a low amh it really is!! I wish I'd know how hard all this was going to be and I would have started trying years ago despite not being in the best place financially and with a family home etc... sorry - rant over - am also very hormonal today!!! Another lovely benefit of the 2WW !! xx

@Luan82 oh hun that’s awful I would be calling everyday well until they got sick of me anyway lol... oh yes you’re in your 2WW I have everything crossed well not my eyes as I wouldn’t be able to walk straight lol... my cycles are between 30-32 days but majority of them have been 30 days the last time I tested last month I did it on day 12 and had 3 days low fertility then day 15 was high fertility then day 16 was my peak so I had to stop testing as the app automatically did say 17 as a peak aswell... this month it’s saying test on day 11 because my app is set up for 31 day cycle not sure if I should change it to 30 day cycle what do you think?? Cramping is back again so I no ovulation Is definitely approaching I so hate my body and this dam adenomyosis thankfully it’s mild and iam not bed ridden xx

@Sweetbabydust1989 I tend to go by my cervical mucus as that tends to ramp up as I get closer? I only get cramps as I'm actually ovulating and it's usually around halfway through the cycle - so if your cycle is usually 30 days day 15 is a good indicator I think xx

@Luan82 yes I go by my mucus too I noticed today it was on the sticky side so I no it’s coming closer My clear blue app is going by when I log my periods. Only thing I hate about those tests is the dam flashy smiley face thankfully I only got one last month x

@Sweetbabydust1989 I have never seen a flashing one !! Only ever straight to static !! Not sure if that's good or bad tbh!! Xx

@Luan82ci only got one flashing smiley then straight to peak the next day not good or bad as you get a peak mine must just take time to build up xx

Caved and tested at 8 DPO today, of course it was a BFN. I knew it would be at this early stage but curiosity got the better of me.

The site that @Luan82 shared with me shows implantation would happen this weekend (if it happens) so fingers crossed. 🤞

I'm not expecting it to happen this month tbh but it's been nice to get back into that exciting feeling you get with testing. Even if it's a BFN, I'm still enjoying it.

Just nice to to feel like I have moved on enough from the ectopic and ready for all to start again. There was a point after surgery where I just couldn't even think about it.

Annoying though because AF isn't due for a little while yet, wanted to know if I could have a drink this weekend.

@Lililou - bless you! I don't blame you it's very difficult - I'm 8dpo too today!! How mad is that! Probability of implantation is highest tomorrow then potentially today or Sunday second highest, if it makes you feel any better I have heard that a very early positive result can be a sign of ectopic as the embryo implants quickly in the tube so I always try to think of it as a positive !! Don't forget you need a few days for the embryo to start producing Hormones even after implantation Xx

@Lililou TMI but my nipples are on FIRE today, another lovely side effect of slightly high prolactin i think... 🙄🙄🙄

[quote Luan82]@Lililou - bless you! I don't blame you it's very difficult - I'm 8dpo too today!! How mad is that! Probability of implantation is highest tomorrow then potentially today or Sunday second highest, if it makes you feel any better I have heard that a very early positive result can be a sign of ectopic as the embryo implants quickly in the tube so I always try to think of it as a positive !! Don't forget you need a few days for the embryo to start producing Hormones even after implantation Xx[/quote]
Didn't know that but it makes sense. I'm totally symptom spotting at the moment. I feel like I'm having the very very slightest crampy feeling but it's so slight I feel like I could just be imagining it 😂

@Lililou fingers crossed hun I did an ovulation test today low fertility I knew it would be... which site was that again I might have a nose xx

@Luan82 I didn’t no this I am loving all your knowledge comes in very handy lol low fertility for me today xx

whenmybaby.com/implantation-calculator.php

@Lililou thanks hun x

I've had two people fairly close tell me they were pregnant this week. It's always feels like a bit of a blow. It makes you think about how how you were going to share the news, how far along you'd be now and that 'your turn' will have to wait. Obviously I'm happy for them but I just feel a bit meh. Always seem to be a few come along at once too. Went for a walk with a friend I haven't seen in a while before and relayed the whole ectopic story to her. It was good and cathartic but feeling a bit drained now and like I just want to curl up on the sofa and do nothing.

@Lililou I no how you feel a work colleague of mine came into my work she is literally 2 weeks away from her due date and it was lovely to see her but it hurt like hell I am keeping my whole ttc quiet only you ladies no and that’s it And if it happens I will keep it quiet until My trousers don’t fit no more lol I am so thankful for this supportive thread as many aren’t I am on 2 Facebook groups one is pretty goodish but the other is so strict you cannot ask hardly anything my posts constantly get declined especially if I ask about success stories it’s an actual joke it’s a ttc group so all ladies on there are in the same boat xx

That's a shame @Sweetbabydust1989, doesn't sound like much of a support group if you can't ask questions like that. I've always found this group and the other support group for those that have experienced MC/MMC brilliant (MC/MMC group are very welcoming of anyone that had experience any kind of loss). I actually only found the ectopic support group later, the MC group got me through it when it was all going on. Some wonderful people on there. I just find a bit hard to keep with that one as there are a lot more posts in that group.

Also you've just reminded me that I found out about a third pregnancy this week. Someone in work that is about to go on maternity and I had no idea due to lockdown. Also suspect she might have been told about my ectopic and didn't say anything. Feeling better today about it all, just was on a bit of a downer yesterday recounting the whole ectopic story to a friend plus all the announcements. On days like that I find the only thing that really helps is to accept it and have an early night. Generally feel much better the next day.

Anyway, we're off to a (very chilly) garden bbq today. Anyone doing anything nice?

[quote Sweetbabydust1989]@Luan82 I didn’t no this I am loving all your knowledge comes in very handy lol low fertility for me today xx[/quote]
12 months unexplained infertility- I've had plenty of time to geek up on the subject !! 😂😂😂 x

@Lililou - I'm off to a bbq too!! It is a wee bit chilly, I'm designated driver as if it's close to implantation I didn't want to drink this weekend just in case 😉🤞🏼🙏🏼xx

@Lililou yes the Facebook group is awful I went on it for advice and to be able to talk to ladies that have gone through the same thing but they constantly decline posts.. yes I am having a nice relaxing day today I did an ovulation test this morning still low fertility but I am thinking my clear blue app has told me to test too early as last month I tested on day 12 and this month it told me to test on day 10 which is annoying still doing the baby dance but due to my working hours I will miss the important high fertility days so hoping I have enough stored lol hope you’re having a good day hun xx

@Luan82 we all appreciate it so much I am literally petrified my slightly damage tube might pick my embryo up again I really want a hsg but unless I pay I have to wait 6-12 months... I did another ovulation test is low fertility think it told me to test 2 days earlier than last month as last month I tested on day 12 this month it said day 10 I am going to possibly miss my high fertility window due to working hours so hoping I have enough stored in me to as iam trying to DTD everyday lol xx