TTC after MC - Dec/Jan 2020 (Thread 16)

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@NatJ24 sounds like she might arrive any day then judging by your timings!

All fingers crossed for you @RS2609 and I really hope the next week goes quickly for you 🤞🏻

@MrsF111 amazing news!!! 😍😍😍😍😍😍 Here's to a healthy happy pregnancy!!!

@RS2609 completely understand re: anxiety, but so glad that you're doing ok otherwise! 😘

🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻 to those of you in the TWW!!! Hopefully some more BFPs to come!!!

@bubblybrit good to know! I really hope that's what's happening with me! Where are you at cycle wise now? 😃

@Gamechanger2019 there's a few of us having weird spotting, so you're not alone - see my replies as follows! I find It helps knowing that it's not just you though! 😃

@PumpkinEverything thank you re: chart! It sounds like there maybe was residual for you? 🤔 But I also think me, you and @ELMcg and @NatJ24 have trickster bodies! 🤦🏻‍♀️
🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻 @NatJ24 that's her arriving so you can move forwards! @ELMcg any clearer updates from you???
As for my crazy super light spotting, I know it's not MC bleeding, and I had an OPK increase last week, so thinking it's some weird precursor to AF and my cycle trying to return! I finish my antibiotics tomorrow, and since I'm confident this isn't MC bleeding anymore, we're going to start DTD again!!! It's been a long few weeks!!! 🤪 Sorry if that's TMI!!! 🤣🙊

Sorry if I missed any other updates! Hope everyone else is doing well! TGIF tomorrow! 😍

Haha, I think we all do @M4v3r1ck @ELMcg @NatJ24 and I’m just happy I’m not the only one experiencing it 😂🙈

Totally get it! I was too scared to do anything through my pregnancy, so it was nearly 3 months for us 😳

@M4v3r1ck @bez91 @PumpkinEverything thank you all so much for your kind words. I think it’s the kind of anxiety only women who have been through loss can understand so it’s so helpful to be able to speak to you all who get where I’m coming from. DH has been wonderful but I don’t think partners fully grasp the overthinking of every little twinge or checking every time you go to the toilet. I’m trying really hard to just be in the moment and take everything as it comes as I know no amount of worrying will change the outcome. Easier said than done though! x

No they definitely do not get it at all @RS2609 and I think the checking every time you go to the bathroom part is exhausting, considering the amount of times a day that happens! Are you going to have any early scans done?

Totally agree on checking everytime you go to the bathroom, i forgot about that and I’m now scared every time!

@RS2609 it definitely is understandable that you would feel like that and be anxious. Like the others have said after a loss it doesn't help with them feelings but as time goes on hopefully you start to relax and feel a bit better.

@PumpkinEverything @M4v3r1ck @ELMcg AF has arrived! I'm a bit shocked I kept thinking I'll be waiting for ages, but very glad! Atleast I know that this is a new cycle now. How are you all?

Great news @NatJ24 she arrived right on time then after your peak! So pleased for you as it means somethings going right and that was a real peak then 3 weeks ago 😊
Happy it’s the weekend finally! I always find the weekdays go slower when I’m wishing two weeks away, so hoping I can distract myself a bit now. Got some great news yesterday that our lockdown has been extended until early March, potentially until after Easter here in NI, but I’m trying to not let it get to me 🤦‍♀️

@PumpkinEverything I'm sure we'll following NI (I'm in England) we're just always last to the party 🤦🏼‍♀️
I find that, this week has dragged. Hasn't helped that my 3 year old has been isolating from nursery so literally worked from home with her on my knee all week😩 stress levels through the roof. When are you testing? Have you been symptom spotting? 🙈

I would say it’s likely @bez91 feels like there’s no end in sight for any of us! That must be so hard for you! Is your work being flexible and okay about it all?
I’m really unsure as to when to test. I want to wait until after AF is due, but it’s my husbands birthday next Friday (I’ll be 11 DPO then) and I would like to know before I have a drink! I’ve thought to myself I could just not have anything, but I rarely drink much anyway and want a few as I’m going to order us a restaurant dinner 😂 trying not to symptom spot but finding it extremely hard. And I said I wouldn’t, but I keep referring back to my notes from last time to see if I’m experiencing the same things 🤦‍♀️ It’s much too early for me to notice anything anyway so I need to stop it! How about you?

@NatJ24 so happy for you AF has arrived! Now you know you are on track again!

@M4v3r1ck literally no news over here, no AF yet, boobs not sore so unlikely it'll be here in the next day or two as that's usually my tell tale sign! I'm 6 weeks today since the first signs of MC and 5 and a half weeks since my D&c so I would have expected by now.

More I think about I'm like maybe I did have an AF a few weeks ago 😂 who knows! I'm not as good at the tracking as you guys as I've always been like clockwork!

But it is just still a waiting game, if AF doesn't come by the 30th then it's pregnancy test time for me!

@PumpkinEverything they are good but I work more or less autonomously so anything I don't do doesn't get picked up by someone else 🤦🏼‍♀️
Ahh that's a bummer with DHs birthday. My DH bought me some Nosecco from Tesco last time round, it's not too bad 🙈

That's exactly me 😂 I'm literally comparing each day DPO with the symptoms from the 2 pregnancies last year. Weirdest one which I've had both times the last few days is really watery CM. TMI but there's been loads. Cramping, twinges and bloating but that's AF too. I suffered with nosebleeds all throughout my pregnancy with my DD and had them in the TWWs the last 2 times when I conceived so maybe I'm hoping for a nosebleed 😂 Fx for us!

@NatJ24 glad AF has arrived so you now know where you are!

Haha @ELMcg really sounds like it could have been! I was never really into anything like that until I realised how irregular my cycles were and I was sick of not knowing when AF was going to turn up (and this was before we started trying, although I wasn’t doing OPKs but noting down symptoms instead)
@bez91 that’s the same as my job too! Someone I work with has two kids at home and would sometimes take a few hours off during the day and then come back on at night to do his work. Yes I’ve read watery CM is supposed to be a sign! I’ve had a bit of cramping too, including today, but it feels like AF as well, even though it would be too early for her as well 😂 ah! My mum had nosebleeds as well and I was so on the edge when I was pregnant wondering if I’d get them as even the thought of them makes me feel faint. Last time I had one a few years ago I thought I’d need to take the day off work because I got so stressed 😂😂😂

@PumpkinEverything I know, it all fits in with that peak I had now. I am 5 weeks since medical management tomorrow, so its not been too late from that. I seen that about NI extending the lockdown and like @bez91 said I'm sure we won't be far behind! You are both in the TWW arent you? I bet it is going so much slower with the lockdown and being in all the time. It just give you more time to think doesnt it. And, the symptom spotting, I know ill be the same when I'm at that stage you just can't help it can you 🙈

@ELMcg maybe that could have been your AF a couple of weeks ago. If it doesn't appear then definitely pregnancy test time! 🤞 I think it will be one or the other by then and either way at least you will know more 🙂 the whole thing is just waiting isnt it. We wish our lives away!

Yeah, not too long of a wait for you @NatJ24 which is great 😊 and I’m sure you feel more in control now. It’s absolutely dragging in. I’m only 4 DPO and it feels more like day 104 😂 going to try and get out on a big walk both days at the weekend and get coffee to try and distract myself. It’s just so much harder when you can’t do anything or really see anyone

@PumpkinEverything @MrsF111 @NatJ24 exactly, just have to take it one day at a time and keep everything crossed 🤞

@M4v3r1ck. I’m on CD4 so just ordered some OPKs to start testing next week. I’m not sure if DH is ready to TTC yet but I at least want to start tracking my cycles to increases my chances as we move forward. Did your spotting come to much? X

Also meant to say congrats to all the BFPs. There has been a few recently so gives me some hope!

Hi ladies please can I join? I had a missed miscarriage at 9 weeks back on 30th Nov. Feeling like I'm finally getting back to my normal self now so hoping to try again next cycle. We dtd twice a day or two before when I expect to ovulate but I really havnt tracked this cycle so don't expect a bfp. It took me a while to fall the first time so really hope its not a long wait again and it works out of course🙏❤

@PumpkinEverything hope the TWW goes super quick for you!

@Loll35 of course it's such a lovely bunch here, so much support on this page! You never know a BFP may come your way when you least expect it. I understand though you don't want to get hopes up! Are you currently just waiting on AF?

Thank you @ELMcg yes af due next weekend. I've had one af since mmc and that was ~34 day cycle, im usually 29 days so cycle still settling i guess. I've had a couple of mild period type cramps. We had to really work at it to conceive so I can't imagine dtd twice would work but hey you never know!? 🤭

@RS2609 that's what we're here for! 😘 I would also say, don't worry about worrying, let it out and allow it to have its moment. Even just write it all down or just post your thoughts/feelings on here - these feelings and concerns are very natural and it would be hard to bottle them up and ignore them! 😘

@NatJ24 woop!! So good that you can fully move on now! 😃

@PumpkinEverything I think the whole lockdown makes this process tougher as we have less things to distract ourselves with! It feels like we're constantly waiting! 🤦🏻‍♀️

@ELMcg I'm regular too, so I'd actually be due this week if my cycle continued from my last confirmed period! Did you work out when yours would be? Maybe it would match that "light/weird AF"!? 🤔

@bez91 massive kudos to everyone working with kids! Hopefully you can breathe easy for the next couple of days now! 😘 You had nosebleeds as pregnancy symptoms?! How random!

@bubblybrit it's always good to get in the habit of tracking again! I've started doing it again even with my crazy body! Still having weird spotting!? Hopefully this is a lucky cycle for you! 🤞🏻

@Loll35 welcome and sorry you find yourself here! Just being able to chat and thought dump to these lovely ladies has helped me immensely! 😍

Happy Friday everyone!!! 😍😍😍

Hi everyone, finding it tough to keep up with this busy thread but am still reading it!

Very frustrated here at the moment, going by my normal cycle that returned on time last month 3 weeks after mc I'm 2 days late now, but going by an app that takes mc into account and another just to add to the fun lol af due in 2 days or 4 days. Had positive ov test 10 days ago, did an frer today based on the theory that should show up a positive if there was one going by any of the possible cycle lengths I've been given by the apps, and nothing. So frustrating, not pregnant but no period either so wtf!

@MrsF111 huge congratulations!!!! X x x

Congratulations @MrsF111 !! Wonderful news!