Trying but not trying...anyone else?

[larrythelizard]

TTC no 2.

I decided (with full support from DH) that we should get on with TTC no 2...

I've said to myself that for we'll take a 'relaxed' approach to it for a few months (no temping, no SMEP etc) and see what happens, no great rush - took the best part of a year (incl a MC) to conceive DS so I don't expect it to be quick...

Except obviously it's now all I can think about as I approach what I think is my fertile week!!

Anyone else out there in the same boat and want to try and keep the madness on here and not in their heads?!

@mrssunshinexxx I know it is we have literally been on this journey 3 times this is the 3rd. 1st and 2nd time one of us each changed our minds after a week of trying 🤣🤣 that was 4 years ago now after we got married. But now it really is now or never a 10 year age gap is enough anything over and my DD won't be interested either shell want her friends etc and I always said after 30 I wouldn't want to start again. I think we both just need to adjust after 10 years its a long time. And I never thought I'd only have 1 kid. I just think i don't wanna be 50 and wish I'd have done it. Because there's no big particular reason why not there's no medical reason etc. Xx

@MMG21 oh bless you, have you sat down and talked about it yet? I think its a cards on the table, pros and cons conversation.

Anyone else using the clear blue opks ? If so how many days of flashing smiley have you had in on day 5?!

@mrssunshinexxx I have been using them but I haven’t managed to get a smiley or even a flashing smiley but reading on here loads of people say they have had it for 6 or 7 days... did you get a static one?

@Brightspark12 no I gave up this month as they are so expensive and I was sure I felt ovulation on night 3 of flashing smileys so 🤞 I'm taking part in the clear blue new ovulation stick study next month so if I don't get pregnant this month I'll use them properly x

@mrssunshinexxx same I’ve spent loads already and it’s only month one😂 x

I know this thread is called trying but not trying but I haven’t been on any contraception for about 9 months and nothing happened yet (usually have sex every weekend and once in the week) I’m not that boring just we don’t live together yet so that’s when I go over. 😂 I saw online that most couples should be pregnant within a year if not using anything and a bit worried! Maybe I’m just missing the window? Anyone else the same x

Please don't put too much weight in it being a year @Brightspark12, DH and I spent 3 years not actively trying, it then took a further 6 months of trying for me to get pregnant and then 4 mc/cp before ds stuck. It was only because I hadn't had a "scare" in the 3 years that they did blood tests on me, otherwise they would have had me wait until we'd been trying a year.

This time round, although I'm tracking again, we're not making a point of dtd at the "perfect" time, unless the mood strikes haha.

Honestly, I bet you have been missing it. Have you plans to move in together ? Have you seen him when you've had a positive ovulation test this month? X

@Cheeseycheeseycheesecheese thanks so much, that’s so reassuring... I think you hear about people getting pregnant by accident after one shag and think there’s something wrong with you.
@mrssunshinexxx the plan is to move in soon! didn’t really get on with my ov tests this month.. I’m considering getting an ovusense if I have no luck.
How are you both getting on? Xx

@Brightspark12 which ones do you use ? Why don't you apply for the clear blue study it's all free x

@mrssunshinexxx I’m using clearblue but I have just googled that study I think I’ll apply! Thank you! Are you in your 2ww now? Xx

Yeah @Brightspark12 I'm not sure what date to expect AF though as this is the first month of TTC so I didn't take any notice of length of period before that but I know I'm fairly regular so I think I'm just going to wait until like 32 days when's yours due x

What dates are people testing ?

@mrssunshinexxx my periods are about 26-29 days and it’s day 25 today 😳sore boobs and cramps tho so I think it’s on it’s way. When do you think you will test? X

Eek you never know ! @Brightspark12 definitely not before around 27th think that will be 30 days since last period

How’s everyone doing?

I’m CD8 today. DH is very excited, he’s been doing loads of reading about fertility etc, bless him.

@SendMeHome what day is af due how are you feeling ? My period is due anytime between tomorrow and Tuesday and im sure it's on its way booooo

Ahh I’m sorry @mrssunshinexxx. AF will be due Valentines Day . I’m trying not to think about it too much, and focus on other things, but it’s basically always on my mind 🙈 Especially with the snow day today... I have a friend with a week old baby and a few with one year olds who’ve loved the snow.

Hope everyone is doing alright

Hi guys so I am CD33 now- yesterday I thought AF had come as when I wiped had red blood. Put in a tampon and absolutely nothing on it! Today no blood at all, really sore boobs still, I’m so confused 😂

Hiya, is it alright if I join you? We’re sort of not trying not preventing for a few months with a view to start proper trying after Easter (in theory we’re meant to be going on holiday in autumn and after having so many holidays cancelled with covid I don’t want to cancel another for a pregnancy) but gosh I find it so hard not to be all military about it! With my dd I was so obsessed, so this being chill thing is new to me!

I saw above about a clearblue study... where did you find this? Had a quick google but couldn’t see anything

@Brightspark12

Hi guys so I am CD33 now- yesterday I thought AF had come as when I wiped had red blood. Put in a tampon and absolutely nothing on it! Today no blood at all, really sore boobs still, I’m so confused 😂

Fingers crossed your trying but not trying has worked. I'm on cd8 after af arrived 2 days early this month, looks like my cycles are shortening?

Welcome @IDontDrinkTea I think once you decide to not prevent you start thinking more about it (well in my case I have)

No idea about the clearblue study, hope you get some more info 😊

@IDontDrinkTea google clear blue ovulation study but I think they have stoPPed doing it as someone asked me yesterday and when I had a look it said access denied on the page they only needed a certain amount of people so I imagine that's what's happened.
Cd 29 here if nothing happens tomorrow I'm going to test Tuesday morn but I'm really trying to not get my hopes up

I am trying. I’m using opks. Tracking my HR and trying to get more exercise and vitamins.
My partner is onboard but has anxiety means I need to keep it lowkey.
For example no ‘I’m ovulating let’s get it on’
So I keep the tests hidden, we talk about having a family but not the how to get there.

@mrssunshinexxx thank you - I’m guessing it must be closed now. Never mind. Last time I just bought the cheapie ovulation sticks and they worked just fine so I guess I’ll do the same again if required... although will try to hold off a little while

No AF yet ... feel so nervous I'm sure it's going to come . Cramps for 48 hours and headache for same amount of time