Trying but not trying...anyone else?

[larrythelizard]

TTC no 2.

I decided (with full support from DH) that we should get on with TTC no 2...

I've said to myself that for we'll take a 'relaxed' approach to it for a few months (no temping, no SMEP etc) and see what happens, no great rush - took the best part of a year (incl a MC) to conceive DS so I don't expect it to be quick...

Except obviously it's now all I can think about as I approach what I think is my fertile week!!

Anyone else out there in the same boat and want to try and keep the madness on here and not in their heads?!

Ah I totally agree - it's impossible to not get excited isn't it. And yep - definitely trying! DTD has never been such a regular occurrence in this house haha!

@wildraisins that is a very wise post!

Definitely thinking about it all the time...although ovulation appears to be later than usual this month (half heartedly tracked since Sept but to avoid pregnancy) - I assume this is my cycle giving me a big F you!

Can I join! Please bear with me I have not yet got to grips with all the abbreviations! Me and DP have decided to try but not try..however I am on depo so am now waiting for that to ‘run out’ (early jan) before anything could even potentially happen! DP is almost frustratingly relaxed...whereas I’m taking vitamins etc so feeling like I’m preparing more than I initially planned to anyway! 🤦‍♀️

Welcome @Porgy657

AF is now 2 days late for me but had a BFN yesterday morning. Stupid cycles 🙄

I thought today was ovulation day but I'm now thinking it isn't. Don't use temps or OPKs - should I be...? Does anyone else?

@Porgy657 you definitely sound like you belong here!

I'm not taking vitamins...more on trying to convince myself we're not trying...!

Bad times @mooloop...it's just doing it to fuck with you.

@bravotango I did with DC1 and have just started with this attempt but no second line so far. CM starting to get, erm, more though so I think it's coming...better for me to have to have lots of sex at the weekend when there's more time anyway!

Interesting - maybe this month I'll just see what happens and next month try the tests...

Thanks guys!
I think it’s making me feel like we’ve started...seen as I can’t do anything else (except practice as the OH puts it) till January! 😂

Hi, can I join in too? I have dd 4 (nearly 5) and am trying but not trying (but actually really trying) for baby number two with my current partner (it will be his first).

I'm definitely in the camp of 'let's just have unprotected sex regularly and it will happen when it's meant to' but we're both secretly way more invested then that! Just started month 4 of coming of the pill, currently cycle day 4. Not doing OPKs or temping or anything just dtd every 2-3 days. Last month I got completely obsessed with testing from 9 DPO and drove myself mad. I also spent far too much time researching whether I could have a BFN at 12/13 dpo and still go on to have a BFP. It was a bad month for obsessing. This month I'm going to wait till my period is due to try and save my sanity. Also as this would be the first for my DP and I already have a child he is naturally worried that because we haven't conceived after 3 months there must be something wrong with him, really want to dial the pressure right back for both our sanity!

Welcome @lobster8! You're doing better than I am this month, DH had a lot on so not really been up for it. Obviously wouldn't be a problem because I'm so relaxed about TTC right?!

You are all my people 🙈

No vitamins for me either yet @larrythelizard, I’m also pretending that it means I’m not really trying, ha!

I’ve been off the pill for a month and a half now - first withdrawal bleed was really crampy and painful. Then period was five days late... BFN on Tuesday, and period finally arrived yesterday, although it’s basically pain free and much more like it used to be in my teens, so I’m hoping things have settled down!

@lobster8 Bless him, that sounds hard. I’d like to offer helpful advice but I’m already thinking that I’m faulty as it didn’t happen this month and none of my friends even had to try 😬

@lobster8 @HopeAndDriftWood DC1 took pretty much a year (incl a MC). Most of my friends took 6m+ to conceive (discussed after the babies arrived not at the time), so 1 cycle is nothing.

I found quite a good YouTube first time round that said something like you only have about a 20% chance of getting pregnant each cycle so it's understandable it's not 'easy'!

Thanks @larrythelizard, that’s really reassuring to hear! My friends had their first children years ago when we were all really young, they weren’t planned, so it’s a bit of new ground (although most of them have subsequent kids and I guess some of those will have been! It’s never really been mentioned).

Enjoying some wine tonight, and I might have a look around YouTube too

Can I join too please!! We started "not preventing" number 2 in October, I'm 3 days from af so fingers crossed.
Dh is so chill, I pretend to be, but I'm tracking ovulation and marking sex on the flo app.
I just want a baby brother or sister for ds with a nice 2 year age gap.

Welcome @Cheeseycheeseycheesecheese I have lots of friends with a 2 year gap between their kids and it's a lovely gap! 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

Yeah hopeanddriftwood, I think it's a pretty standard fear! I remember worrying exactly the same before I had dd, and friends have said the same. I guess you don't know until you know, I recall being convinced I was going to be unable to get pregnant, I based this on no evidence just a gut feeling which was of course very wrong! Yep I said about the 20% chance each month and he knows it can easily take a year but i think when you've never tried before it's natural to have that niggling worry.

Just starting my TWW, I think a couple of us are in it at the moment? I'm hoping to test either 30th/31st so I know if I'll be drinking Prosecco or Nosecco at New Year

I'm behind you @Curiosity101 - AF not due until 3rd Jan. One of the things I told myself about this trying/not trying is that I'm not going to do early testing (let's see how long that lasts...!)

Thanks for the welcome @larrythelizard

I hope you all get your bfp's over the next week or so! Unfortunately af arrived early yesterday for me, so back to pretending I'm not fussed and just enjoying dtd with dh 🙃

@larrythelizard AF is due on the 3rd for me too 😁

Ah well @Cheeseycheeseycheesecheese just as were all so cool and collected about it...

I'm pretty sure I've ovulated now so now it's just a chance of waiting. Obviously not calling it the TWW! Hopefully Xmas stuff will distract me from any silly symptom spotting.

I genuinely don't expect to get pregnant this month, in my head it's some sort of practice with tracking my cycle!

Hope you all had a good Christmas.

I've spent the last few days symptom spotting which is completely stupid!

Trying to resist the urge to rest early - I think it's a waste of money (FRER!) - I really don't think we had enough sex this month!

@larrythelizard Fingers crossed for you. When are you planning to test?

I'm 6DPO today. Not symptom spotting, but can definitely tell I'm going to find it hard to resist testing from Monday (8DPO) onwards. My plan is to try and wait until Wednesday(10DPO) and do ICs each morning until either a hint of a BFP or AF. If I get a hint of a BFP I'll repeat the test with a FRER.

I've got the whole of next week off and am not back at work until the 4th so I'm going to try and focus on just enjoying the week. I don't want to wish it away as that'll mean going back to work and I definitely prefer being on holiday with DS and DH!

Trying to hold out to New Years Day @Curiosity101.

I'm using Natural cycles and temping and I don't agree when AF is due which makes me wonder if I got ovulation right! - I think I'm 7DPO...?

I didn't get a BFP until the day before AF was due with DC1

@larrythelizard What does natural cycles say? Is it earlier or later?

I have no idea when I got my BFP with DS. Working it backwards it was 9DPO but that's just based on his due date so just an estimate.