Trying but not trying...anyone else?

[larrythelizard]

TTC no 2.

I decided (with full support from DH) that we should get on with TTC no 2...

I've said to myself that for we'll take a 'relaxed' approach to it for a few months (no temping, no SMEP etc) and see what happens, no great rush - took the best part of a year (incl a MC) to conceive DS so I don't expect it to be quick...

Except obviously it's now all I can think about as I approach what I think is my fertile week!!

Anyone else out there in the same boat and want to try and keep the madness on here and not in their heads?!

Well that gives me confidence in it! I’m enjoying the symptom tracking etc

Hi please can i join? I am TTC #2 my daughter is nearly 10! Came off the pill in December had withdrawal bleed 22nd-27th and DTD ever since 🤣🤣 theoretically I should be due AF 19th Jan but who knows? I'm taking a relaxed approach but also thinking about it 90% of the day. Also since stopping the pill my libedo has increased massively also because I want to get pregnant but its a huge change ive notice anyone else noticed that after stopping BC?

Hi can I join!! Not trying but not not trying if that makes sense 😂 xx

@Brightspark12 same 🤣🤣 trying not to be disappointed when the hubby falls asleep or is too tired to DTD i know he knows what I'm after and I think he resents me for it a bit 😂🤣🤣

@MMG21 😂😂 are you tracking anything or just seeing how it goes? I’ve started taking my temperature and doing ovulation kits out of curiosity that everything is working as it should be... trying not to get obsessed😬

@Brightspark12 Its a bit difficult for me because I stopped my pill in December so if i go off first day of last period (with drawal bleed) theoretically I should be due AF 19th Jan. I typed this in a calculator and it said ovulation dates 2nd-8th but my hubby has been working away so only managed to do 1st 2nd 7th 8th so I doubt it'll be this time round 😒 I don't wanna have to do sticks etc but I won't rule it out x

@Brightspark12 what cd are you on ? I'm cd 14 and got flashing smiley today

@MMG21 yeah maybe try and have some fun first of all before having to resort to the sticks! You may be lucky fingers crossed x

@mrssunshinexxx Hiya! That’s good news! I’m on CD17 and not a sniff of even a flashing smiley! Someone said on another thread maybe I should try doing the clearblue tests later in the afternoon... when do you do them x

@Brightspark12 what month are you on? I use the clear blue ones first wee of the day ! X

@mrssunshinexxx this is my first month using them - yeah I do that too! Maybe I actually haven’t ovulated yet. Trying to temp too- have you tried it xx

No I don't feel like I need to bother? It's only month 1 for me too @Brightspark12 x

@mrssunshinexxx good luck! Not long till the symptom spotting begins.. the dreaded two week wait! X

I’m 8dpo today, but I think I’m out... had some red spotting this morning, not much, but the same again at about 6pm. I’m gutted. I’ve been telling myself it might take a while and it’s okay, but I think I was really optimistic it’d happen... it feels so long until we can try again.

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I’m still technically covered by depo so really counting down the days!!

@Brightspark12 haven't missed that !! I've only just come off my contraception this month so really trying not to get my hopes up x

How's everyone's chilled approach going? I'm starting to feel myself not being quite so relaxed as the days go on.
I'm 6dpo and have had slight cramps on my lower left side and one of my nipples has been itchy today 🤨
I'm sat on the sofa with dh watching TV and outwardly being chill but driving myself crazy trying to work out if they're normal pms symptoms or not.

@Cheeseycheeseycheesecheese I’m with you on that! I am finding myself becoming a bit obsessed😂 how long will you wait to test when is AF due? X

@Cheeseycheeseycheesecheese and @Brightspark12 same here!! Around 4/5 dpo and can't help symptom spotting even though it would be so unlikely to feel anything this early! Been nauseous on and off for days but it definitely could be me convincing myself

@Brightspark12 and @stillfeelingmad I don't remember it taking over like this when trying for ds last time! Although I was in the process of getting ready to be sent for tests when we finally created DS so ignored symptoms, I actually didn't test until I missed my second period with him.

I'll probably wait until day 2 or 3 of when my period is due, I have a cheap sainsburys test in the bathroom, not sure if that would show anything earlier than that.

@stillfeelingmad some people do say they feel it that early but i have never been pregnant so I wouldn’t know😂
@Cheeseycheeseycheesecheese how exciting! It’s hard not to get your hopes up every month even though we are ‘not trying’. X

Hmm still getting waves of random queasiness now! But had a take away curry last night lol so that could be the reason! Earliest I could test on early
Detection is Saturday

I know it is like 90% unlikely that it'll happen this month only stopped pill in Dec. And I haven't even mentioned ovulation days to do it, timing etc to my DH just been having sex I've not even mithered him. and already he's gone into the cba stage! 2 nights in a row hes not wanted to do it or wanted a BJ instead. Well that didn't last long. "The oh I won't turn down sex or moan about it" speech he gave 🙈 i've no chance if we don't DTD. May aswell go back on the pill. Am I over reacting or not?

@MMG21 no you aren't overreacting that would piss me off. He is definitely fully wanting another baby?

@mrssunshinexxx hes not making it very clear if he doesn't he knows I'm off the pill. He always said he didn't and when I've said I do he says why??? Because in 8 years were free (kind of) or at least dont need to worry about sitters, or going away etc 🤣🤣 DD is nearly 10.. and we will only be 40 and 38. But I've said its not a reason to say "I just dont want another one". He would love a boy. And said if you could 100% guarantee it he'd do it now. So he does Deep down want one. He just thinks of the negatives, plus he is 31 and he genuinely thinks that's too old to become a dad 🙈🙈🙈 he's just silly. We compromised by giving it until I'm 30 (in oct) because he knows I want one and he doesnt really for the reasons I've mentioned. I think its because of how long we've waited about 5 years ago he was begging me to have one and I said no. We go on full circles. Xx

@MMG21 that's really dofficult if you have felt the same but at different times. Maybe just be spontaneous 😀