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🐧 Penguin Huddle 🐧 Thread 36 - TTC after pregnancy loss

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Kiki275 · 20/11/2020 20:27

Welcome to the 🐧 huddle. This a safe place to give and receive support for everyone who has experienced the loss(es) of a pregnancy or baby. Pregnancy and child loss is one of the most difficult things we can experience and it can also be the most lonely time too. So many of us have found much comfort from other lovely ladies on this thread, together we're rooting for lots of BFP's! Let 2020 end on a positive note x

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Kiki275 · 16/02/2021 07:44

It went well thanks @Mumlili9. I was so nervous and they had started scanning before DH had arrived in the room which really threw me. Tears definitely poured after with relief. One happy, healthy (so far) little baby xx

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Mumlili9 · 16/02/2021 11:44

@kiki275 thats amazing news hun im so happy for you 💗

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Kiki275 · 16/02/2021 12:17

Thanks @Mumlili9. The 20wk one will be the critical one for me, we won't be telling people until after that. A few know already but I feel like I'd be jynxing it if we said anything now to the masses. Gossip is just too uncontrollable x

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kim80 · 16/02/2021 19:36

Thank you @Mumlili9 It's been a tough journey already I am only 6 weeks and already had two scans due to bleeding but finally saw a very small heartbeat today so just got to pray that next week they still see it.

How are you? Hows is your husband. X

Mumlili9 · 16/02/2021 22:52

@Kiki275 im so happy for you. My fingers and toes are crossed for you.

@kim80 so do happy they found little ones heart beat, that has to feel amazing. Finger's crossed for next week.

Well I've had an interesting two weeks really. My consultant said its very very unlikely that I will fall pregnant on my own so that devastated me. Then an email came through from a tarot reader that I asked to do a fertility reading for me, she says ill get pregnant this month with a boy and that she sees sea shells 🐚 around me. Which was so amazing because a friend gave me two hand painted wall paintings of sea shells that hang in my bedroom. I didnt ovulate on cd 10 like I normally do which I thought was a blessing at the time because this was the first cycle we hadn't tried because of what the consultant said. But I did ovulate sometime Saturday (cd13) and DH decided on Friday night CD 12 that he would turn up his oxygen and dtd because he said he missed me 🥰. Well now im 3dpo and mother nature has decided that I need thrush just to pee me off. So I've just spent 2 hours deciding ( and googling) canesten pessaries and ttc, if its going to ruin the only sliver of hope I have left. What do you ladies think?

Mumlili9 · 16/02/2021 23:06

@kim80 and @kiki275 these are what I was talking about

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🐧 Penguin Huddle 🐧 Thread 36 - TTC after pregnancy loss
🐧 Penguin Huddle 🐧 Thread 36 - TTC after pregnancy loss
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kiki275 · 17/02/2021 07:25

@Mumlili9 I think we need to take whatever little things give us hope. Lovely pictures by the way. Thrush is extremely uncomfortable but I can't imagine it effecting the uterus too much. Good luck!!x

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kim80 · 17/02/2021 08:18

Wow @Mumlili9 sounds like your reading had some truth in it regarding the shells so why not hold on to the hope that this is your month.

All we can all do is hope, but sounds like you have had it all kinda fall right this month so I have everything crossed for you and your husband.

Thrush is not nice bless you, I hope you manage to get it sorted and it doesn't affect your chances.

Them pictures are lovely how spooky. 😊

Mumlili9 · 17/02/2021 13:21

@kim80 and @kiki275 yeah very strange. This was the reading by the way

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kim80 · 17/02/2021 13:40

@mumlili9 I so hope she is right for you. I have everything crossed,and hope your shells are the first sign of this being a magical month. 🤞 x

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Kiki275 · 17/02/2021 13:42

@Mumlili9 looks like a good reading. I'm very open minded about psychics and readings. There are lots of frauds around however I've often found just the hope they bring is enough to change my mindset and make things happen.
I'm truly hoping this is your month, the seashells are definitely a good omen xx

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kim80 · 24/02/2021 09:45

Well ladies I hope you are all well. Just an update from me I am not feeling very hopeful at the moment. Going by lmp I should be over 8 weeks pregnant but I know that's wrong because I know by positive opk that I got that on cd18 so taking a few days off I should be 7weeks plus. I went for an early scan due to spotting two weeks ago and he measured me 4-5 which to me was impossible but as it was so small he did say roughly. I went back yesteday and he measured me at 6 weeks. I have tried to argue that I know my dates and this is not a good sign I also know when I had sex his now discharged me as he had no worries as he saw a heartbeat but I know I can't have conceived that late as my partner went away to work so no when it happened.

I have booked a private scan for another two weeks time but reading on Google it doesn't read good if it's smaller then your numbers say so I am now just waiting for a miscarriage to Start or I am prepared to hear the dreaded words I heard last time when they tell me there is no heartbeat. The next two weeks are going to be so long.

VenusStarr · 24/02/2021 10:53

I'm really sorry you're going through this worry @kim80 it's really hard to navigate. I'm sorry you've been discharged without support. I'm keeping everything crossed that in 2 weeks you get positive news (I've definitely heard it happen, having been on these boards for a long time).
Sending you lots of love ❤️ xx

InDreamland · 24/02/2021 12:48

@kim80 so sorry you're going through this anxiety, it's horrible isn't it. Keeping my fingers crossed for you that it's just too early to get a really accurate measurement and that everything is actually okay.

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kiki275 · 24/02/2021 12:59

@kim80 keeping everything crossed for you and sending huge hugs xx

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kim80 · 24/02/2021 13:07

Thanks ladies I have kinda accepted that this is not going to end well. I am disappointed with the epu that they are not willing to listen to me at all about my dates. The 6 weeks take me to exactly when I ovulated so I know its impossible.

Really appreciate all your support ladies thank you.

Mumlili9 · 24/02/2021 15:21

@kim80 fx its not as you fear, ((( hugs)))

Well its a bfn again. I quit , its obvious that its just not ment for me. Take care ladies

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Kiki275 · 24/02/2021 15:41

Oh @Mumlili9 I'm so sorry to hear this. The signs were so promising ☹️. I do wish you every hope for the future xx

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InDreamland · 24/02/2021 18:02

@Mumlili9 FlowersFlowersFlowers I'm hoping you get a surprise pregnancy that works out to be the one that sticks and is your rainbow you can take home. Sending hugs x

VenusStarr · 27/02/2021 08:48

Thinking of you @kim80 ❤️

I'm very sorry to hear this @Mumlili9, it's so, so hard. Sending you a big hug x

Thanks for the earlier messages @InDreamland

I saw my specialist this week and have now got steroids added into my plan, so we're going to start ttc properly again. I'm still not entirely hopeful after all this time (we've hit 3.5 years ttc now 😢) but the plan is a natural cycle this month with the steroids and then we'll move onto medicated cycles for 3 months, then review.

I don't know if anyone remembers my little orchid, but during my last pregnancy most of the flowers died (and dh ended up taking the last couple off, I got a bit obsessed). Anyway, in the last few weeks, a brand new shoot popped up and its already got a couple of tiny buds on it. So, I do feel like hope is returning, but I'm cautious as I've been here many times before. I just don't want to be stuck anymore.

Lots of love xx

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Kiki275 · 27/02/2021 09:42

@VenusStarr that's lovely your orchid is blooming again. It's a proper little survivor that one.
Keeping everything crossed for you this TTC cycle. You know far more now than you did previously and knowledge is power.xx

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VenusStarr · 27/02/2021 13:31

Thank you @Kiki275 ❤️ just when I think it's hopeless, something pops up to remind me there is hope.

I hope you're well ☺️ xx

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Kiki275 · 27/02/2021 13:53

I saw my first daffodil the other day outside nursery. Just a mini narcissi but pushing through nonetheless. They're definitely bringing me hope.x

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VenusStarr · 27/02/2021 18:46

🥰 Lovely @Kiki275 I've just bought some daffodils for the living room

kim80 · 03/03/2021 08:52

Well ladies it's not good news for me and is as I thought. I have had a rough week arguing with my local hospital because they would not listen to my dates at the scan and kept telling me I was wrong I knew I wasn't I know my body. Booked a private scan yesterday to be told no heartbeat 😭😭 by her measurements she feels that when he scanned me the week before it was probably like that then which has caused me even more anger.

I am waiting for the hisptial to call me today as they wont take the word of the private scan and will have to go back for it. But I have decided that after the harsh time I had with the surgical I think I am going to see if they will let me ride this out and wait for it to happen naturally.

Thank you for all your support through all this I really appreciate all of you. Xxx

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