🐧 Penguin Huddle 🐧 Thread 36 - TTC after pregnancy loss

[Kiki275]

Welcome to the 🐧 huddle. This a safe place to give and receive support for everyone who has experienced the loss(es) of a pregnancy or baby. Pregnancy and child loss is one of the most difficult things we can experience and it can also be the most lonely time too. So many of us have found much comfort from other lovely ladies on this thread, together we're rooting for lots of BFP's! Let 2020 end on a positive note x

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@Janefx40 no he stopped breathing completely and the only thing I could think of was to put his cpap machine on him and call an ambulance. It was so quick. He coughed and collapsed. Ive just spoken to the doctor and he has been started on medication and oxygen therapy so its wait and hope now

@Mumlili9 that must have been absolutely terrifying for you. It sounds like you did amazingly well to think so fast and get him help. It's so extra hard that you can't go around to a friend's or family member for support while you wait. It must be unbearable. I'm sorry I can't say or do more other than that I'm here to listen and you are welcome to PM me too if you want to talk to someone. Xxx

I am so sorry @Mumlili9, that sounds absolutely terrifying. He's in the best place and you did so well to get him help so quickly. Keep taking to us here. Sending you lots of love ❤️ xxx

@Mumlili9 that must be terrifying for you. Keeping everything crossed for him to rally quickly xx

@Mumlili9 how are you doing? My prayers are with you and your husband x

Update on my husband

Hes finally home but totally oxygen dependent, and it looks to be a permanent thing because of the damage covid did to his lungs. It gave him double pneumonia on top of copd and he has scars on his lungs.

Sadly this means the end of our journey ttc. He can't find the puff to get up the stairs let alone dtd and probably won't for 6 months or so. By then I will be 40 and we always said that we would stop trying when I turned 40.

I will be hanging around to see you all get your rainbow babies though probably a silent watcher

@Mumlili9 I’m so sorry to hear that. I hope that your husband makes as good a recovery as he can. My thoughts are with you both xxx

@Mumlili9 I'm so sorry to hear that, I really hope he has a speedy recovery and my thoughts are with you both. X

@mumlili9 I am so sorry to hear this, I hope he makes a full recovery soon. Thinking of you both. You know where we all are x

Oh @Mumlili9 I'm so sorry to hear it's the end of this particular road for you, although I'm pleased he's home. I can't imagine how difficult things must be for you at the moment. Thinking of you both xx

Omg ladies I am 11dpo and I have just had this its clearer then on the photo. I am now pooping, my pants as so worried that the same will happen with this one. What do you all think.

Looks like a BFP to me! Congrats, really pleased for you! It will be hard not to panic, I also worry if I fall pregnant again how I will cope with that. Just got to take it one day at a time :) enjoy the moment x

Thank you 😊 I am going to test tomorrow with a pink one as iv heard about it going over with a blue one. So will see how I get on tomorrow at 12dpo. I cant Believe it but instantly found myself thinking back to the scan and also both Erpc's which is so sad as it should be a happy moment.

I think I am going to hold off telling my partner for a few days and just let it sink in. Thank you so much I hope it sticks this time.

@slinks8113 I have only told this post as I'm the same its a very weird feeling and not sure how to deal with the feeling at the moment.

Will keep you all posted.

@kim80 tentative congratulations. I can totally relate to the uncertainty, especially compared to previous BFPs when I was swinging from the chandeliers practically. Keeping everything crossed for you x

Thank you @kiki275 its really appreciated, I genuinely thought I may have felt like that but I was taken straight back to the scan and operations which is horrible as it should be a happy moment. Its very early days and I will be keeping on here with all you lovely ladies. Hopefully 2021 will be all our years.

@kim80 congratulations!

I know EXACTLY how you feel. I’m now 6w3d and I’m constantly analysing everything as I’m scared of the same thing happening again. I had an early scan at 6 weeks and there was a heartbeat so I’m hoping that continues!

Wishing you all the best and if you want to chat to someone in the same boat then feel free to message me!

@Marshmallow123 thank you so much, its horrible to not feel more happier about it. Because of all the issues I had with the last much they did say if I fell again they would keep a closer eye so think I'm also going to request a 6 week scan for peace of mind. At the moment I'm trying not to get over excited which is so hard 😫.

So glad your scan went well and fingers crossed this is a good year for us all.

I may well take you up on the offer of messaging thank you so much. X

Just popping on to see how you're doing.

@VenusStarr sorry to hear you've been having a difficult time. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you to get your BFP that brings your rainbow when you decide to start TTC again.

@Mumlili9 so sorry to read your update. How is your DH now? I hope he's recovering well. It's a nasty virus. Sending you lots of love and hugs!

Also checking in to catch up.

@kim80 how are you? Hope everything is going smoothly still.

@Mumlili9 also hoping your husband is recovering.

@Janefx40 did you manage to get to that fertility appointment?

@InDreamland hope everything is going well with you? Sorry, the thread had dropped down my watching list so hadn't noticed your response.

My 12 week scan is on Friday. I'm kind of excited but kind of bricking it. At least its first thing so not too much hanging around beforehand x

Hi @kiki275 I have an early scan today as iv been spotting for the last 5 days but it has been very minimal only when wiping and no blood so I have to keep positive at the moment. I think I'm overly anxious because of what happened in September with the missed miscarriage. These first 12 weeks are so stressful 😫.

Wow congratulation I hope Friday goes well for you. Please keep us all informed. I'm sure everything will be fine 🙂. Take care of yourself x

@kim80 good luck today. I think we can all appreciate how anxious you might be feeling just now. Keeping everything crossed for you x

Keeping fingers crossed for happy and healthy pregnancies for you both @kiki275 @kim80

Thanks ladies I went for my scan and thankfully it was there in the right place very small about 5 weeks so couldn't see much but was so relieved that it is where it should be. My cervix were closed so they are unsure why or where I'm spotting from. I have a follow up scan in two weeks so just have to hope and pray that it continues to grow and be healthy.

Thank you for the lovely kind words from you all. I never realised how anxious pregnancy makes you after miscarriage it is not a fun place to be but it's so nice to be with people who do know how hard it is. X

Hello ladies just lurking around keeping upto date.
@kim80 excellent news. Fingers crossed for a happy and healthy pregnancy xx

@Kiki275 how did you get on Friday hun xx