Pre-conception, planning and trying!

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Third thread here we go...

@CookieMonster3001
@lollipop87
@bells3032
@thenewmrsM
@curiosity101
@AMS19
@butterfly5291
@clouless
@gems05
@HeyDW96
@kittyT30
@Pebbleinthesand

I've started a new thread for us, tag people I've missed.

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Hey, saving my spot!! 🤣

hello, can I scoot into this new thread please??

my husband and I are going to start trying soon, possibly early next year, we are currently NTNP but I'm feeling very impatient and probs need to chill out a bit haha. We've had a stressful 2020 for various reasons but I feel like a switch has been flipped inside me and now I want a baby! I've never felt like this before...it's weird!

I've been using Natural Cycles/ BBT on and off for a while (not very consistently which I know is sort of the point) - I haven't seen it mentioned here too much? has anyone else used it successfully? I feel like most of the time my sleep is so crap through lockdown insomnia it is probably pointless!

Marking

@thelessiknow I use natural cycles- I have been using it consistently for 4 months, but don't start TTC until this month! It's working really well for me, my temps are all nice and steady and ovulation has been fairly regular, albeit 2 days early randomly this month! I'm really good at taking my temperature though I do it every morning at 7 and I have never missed one

@MsQueenInTheNorth
@mackjm20
@TTCWC2
@lj1995
@MayDay27
@Leah2501
@minipilling
@littledinokitty
@NaomiW662
@anibendod
@madeinthe80z

Not sure if you all want to follow us into the new thread but didn't want anyone to be forgotten.

Oo and @RomillyTheRabbit

@Curiosity101 thanks for tagging me to carry over, definitely want to be involved

@sunflowersaremyfav93 thanks for the tag! I’ve got really behind on MN, will catch up tomorrow. Also I’ve got my 8-week scan tomorrow so I’m half excited half terrified, will let you know how it goes! Xx

@Lollipop87 Best of luck for your scan! What an exciting time for you. I hope it all goes well and enjoy it

I'm also very behind on MN at the moment. Just trying to keep busy with work, exercise etc. We had a few months where we had a bit of a panic about TTC and essentially put it hold. Main concern way money and trying to get some savings behind us but we've realised there will never be a perfect time and as long as we can save enough to survive maternity, we'll foggier the rest out. This year has taught us that you can't control/ predict everything! So now the Countdown is on for TTC in Jan. Glad we have Christmas to look forward to first but these last few weeks in November really have dragged.

How is everyone else doing in their journey? Hope you're all well 💗

@wrensandrobins oh exciting - good luck!!

I just bought some OPKs so I can try and make some sense out of it. My cycles have been verging on irregular this year and have a few months where ovulation hasn’t been detected :( do you ever find stuff like alcohol, sleep, stress really impacts your temp?

Afternoon my lovely ladies!! I have been a bit absent recently because I want to try and be super chill this third month. I will pop in every now and then but ahead of ovulation, I am trying not to think too much about TTC and just go with the flow! Better catch up....

@sunflowersaremyfav93 thank you for setting up the new thread! How are we on a 3rd already?!! 70 days (probably less now) will fly by!! I always wonder about the period thing aswell and what counts as CD1. This month I got red spotting on Saturday, but didn't need a pad as it just came out when I would go to the loo, and then started properly on Sunday so I logged that as CD1 as they say your first day is the day of first proper full flow. I don't think your last day of your period matters so much.

@mayday27 you can find some info on the SMEP plan, but its basically a schedule for when you should have sex that some people find really helps. It is supposed to be the idea way for the sperm to meet the egg. A little bit tooo much sex for me, but who knows I might give it a go if this month fails! My older sister had a horrendous pregnancy but when I ask her about it now she's like its all a blur and she has an amazing daughter now, so defo all worth it!

@Curiosity101 I never really get THAT much in the mood anymore. I have defo felt a decrease in my sex drive since starting the pill, and honestly thought it would return after stopping and it has a little, but not as much as it was before the pill! Amazing news with possibly starting this/next cycle!! You have been amazing with your weight loss so try not to worry too much about it! Looking at your fertile dates, your around a week after me!

@wrensandrobins eeek how exciting, about TTC next cycle! Defo agree even a few lbs is better than nothing! I almost felt like throwing in the towel with weight loss, but then my sisters wedding has now been moved to December, and I basically have no choice as I need to fit into the dress I bought!! haha. I think if we can be healthy 90% of the time, the 10% we are not will not matter much! Ive literally put myself on a chicken, veg and sweet potato diet!

@Lollipop87 good luck with your scan!! Cannot believe your at 8 weeks already! The time has flown! Hope pregnancy is treating you well.

Ive persuaded OH to let me finally put the decorations up this weekend after he has been a scrooge all November! And I am going to try and make my first ever Christmas cake this weekend. Although I cheated a little and got a Christmas Cake box from Waitrose that has all the measured out ingredients already lol.

@CookieMonster3001 Yaaaaassss Christmas!!! It's 1 week today until we can start on our advent calendars. And yes... I'm a grown woman with a child and I still get excited about advent calendars 😁. Are Christmas cakes the ones that get 'fed'? I think we normally have one that's had copious amounts of alcohol added to it 😃😅

Exciting, I look forward to seeing your update the week before me!

I've had an update from DH. We're officially trying from now. So December 14/15th onwards will be my first fertile window. Now I just need to get my head around the idea that we're actually starting.

@Curiosity101 thanks for the tag! And yay for you officially starting that's so exciting!!

@CookieMonster3001 I'll look up the SMEP plan and see how much sex it involves! The first fertile window we are TTC in falls over Xmas and NY so it may not be possible to do that much!

Oh thanks for setting up the new thread!

I am getting bored of planning now. I just want it to be 2021 already!! house move and starting trying (via IVF).

Scared it won't work and scared it will!! haha

Thank you @Curiosity101! Definitely want to follow you all over

I’ve got so much catching up to do from the old thread. Although we’re not trying yet (and it might end up being later in the year now, unfortunately) so I don’t really have anything exciting to add at the moment!

@thelessiknow it won't help you but no, my temp is so steady, every when I had a bottle of wine it didn't go out of wack, I have had a few unsettled nights and it was ok! Only think is my wake time was shifting loads because my partner was leaving for work at very different times and waking me so now I just have a really early alarm and then go back to sleep, some mornings I temp asleep and my thermometer beep wakes me haha

Morning all, happy hump day (definitely a TTC joke in there somewhere 😁).

I bit the bullet and weighed myself this morning. It wasn't as bad as I expected after 2 weeks off of dieting. I'm no long 1lb from pre pregnancy, I'm 2 1/2lb from it. Some of that may even be food and/or water weight.

8 days until AF is due so my goal is to be back to pre pregnancy by then as that will be my first cycle TTC.

Anything below pre pregnancy is just a bonus at this point.

I'm also retesting my thyroid 2 weeks today which is exciting.

I also had a pamper day voucher for a local spa which I've not been able to use this year. I contact them today and found out they've waived all expiry dates!! 😁👍 Now I just need to find someone to go with. I considered taking DH but I don't think he'd be keen.

Hello! Can I jump back in? I was on the first thread in the early days but I didn't stay on top of it! I was hoping we'd be TTC #2 by now but my DP is still looking for another job. I'm really struggling with the disappointment and frustration of waiting, and would love some space to vent!

@Curiosity101 I still demand an advent calendar from my mum!! And now that I am married I get 3, one from my mum, one from my mother in law and my OH's calendar that he always forgets to eat! hehe. And yep I am making the Christmas cake that's going to be fed lots of brandy over the next 4 weeks. Will be a little gutted if I cant have any, but I figured, if by some Christmas miracle I am pregnant this cycle, I will have only just found out, so hoping a small slither wont kill anyone!! I am so excited you are trying this month!! Fingers crossed for us all! I just picked up some conceive plus lube, because OH prefers to DTD in the morning, and I am dry as hell at that time, so figured it will speed the process up haha. He even told me to make sure I set an alarm for 6am so I have enough time to take my temp and pee before we DTD and then we can sleep a little after its done before work. Hes getting far more into this than I am! lol...2 and half lbs... you have got this!! Are you allowed to take a mumsnetter.. Id happily keep you company at a spa day lol

@MayDay27 Defo depends on how much you are used to. Me and OH only usually do it once a week, so its a little too much for us, although me and OH had a chat the other day about just trying to be more active during the whole month rather than the fertile period in the hopes that it will take the pressure of that one week.

@thelessiknow I agree with @wrensandrobins I think the idea is to look for trends rather than worrying too much about each temp. Mine is sometimes all over the place, but I can still see a shift after ovulation and that's what we need to look out for.

@Mybobowler welcome! This is definitely a safe space for you to vent all you need. This group is full of amazing ladies and very supportive so you are in the right place :)

@Curiosity101 take DH, book a room, send DS have a sleepover with nanny and DTD!! 😂😂 haha I'm kidding, a spa day would be an absolute dream atm! Also fan-bloody-tasting that you're TTC now!

I was thinking of buying a load of nice underwear on ASOS when they do a Black Friday sale.. is it even worth it? 😂

@CookieMonster3001 Omg yes I need to get us advent calendars! Me and my bf ac had a convo about how much DTD is needed haha and I was like you know we both get tired in the evening we're going to have to have morning sex and he said that's good I'm hornier in the morning 😂😂 but I'm like my breath will smell? I'll look like crap? Funny how they think isn't it. Did AF arrive for you btw? I can't remember what happened in the end.

@sunflowersaremyfav93 ahhh I remember when me and OH first started dating, and he always used to wake up and use mouthwash before getting busy, or id make sure I was all shaved and smooth and smelly yummy. Now after 6 yrs together we don't care about any of that anymore. Although he refuses to kiss me in the morning after DTD until he has brushed his teeth, even though I have told him I don't care lol. The other day we DTD when I had a green face mask on and he goes I feel like im having sex with female shrek... I was like thanks mate. lol

AF did arrive in the end, a day early. But I knew that would happen so was pretty OK with it! on to cycle number 3! Lucky number 3 hopefully!!!

@Mybobowler Welcome back. Definitely vent away! Is there anything you've thought of to keep you occupied whilst you're waiting? Hobbies? Health and fitness? That kind of thing?

@CookieMonster3001 I'm sure a small bit of Christmas cake definitely won't cause an issue. Your advent calendar situation sounds amazing 😄 DH is making me an advent calendar this year 🙈🙉 no idea what it's going to have in it. I'm now torn between making one for him or copping out and just buying him a nice chocolate one 🤷. You and your DH crack me up so much, I love the bit where you're planning to go back to sleep after. As in, you're literally setting a sex alarm 😄, that's some baby making commitment right there.

You'll have to let me know if you're ever in the East Mids area and we'll arrange a spa day 😁

@sunflowersaremyfav93 hahaha love it. DS has actually never had a night away from me 😮 except the first night when he was in the NICU. I'll have to cross that bridge at some point but Covid has actually been a good excuse to say no to overnights with grandparents ☺️. And yeah, I think I'm getting my head around the idea that next cycle (ie. 8 days from now will be when we start). It means I should be testing on New year's Eve / day 🙉🙈

Definitely buy yourself some nice things if you want them! Why wouldn't you?

On the subject of morning sex. Morning breath makes me feel queasy 🤢🤢🤢. I think I have quite a sensitive sense of smell. Which is ironic cause I have no issues changing nappies, animal smells, farm smells etc. But BO, morning breath and air someone has just breathed really makes me feel ill. I think it's got worse as I'd got older as it didn't used to bother me much at all when I was younger 🤷

Me and DH were laughing about when I was pregnant and I refused to let him wear his aftershave (which I normally love), because it started smelling like mouldy garlic.

Now I know it's this month I cannot focus on anything- I am one track mind waiting for this months Aunt Flo- approx 8 days feels like 4 years 🤣

All I can think is 19 days until I'm TTC 🤣

I am obsessed

@wrensandrobins 🤣🤣🤣 I know what you mean.

jumping in to say hello, this is my last cycle before we start TTC our first sproglett. I'm due on just before christmas, so we'll be seeing in the new year 'with a bang'

debating whether to have a test run with OPKs this month to get my head around them.