Pre-conception, planning and trying!

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Third thread here we go...

@CookieMonster3001
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@curiosity101
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@kittyT30
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I've started a new thread for us, tag people I've missed.

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@CookieMonster3001 cycle is normally 29 days and today is day 30 so 'late'. Took the test today with FMU. It was the clear blue rapid detection one.

I have a bit of spotting 8 dpo which I was tentatively hopeful about after people on here said maybe ovulation bleeding, then nothing and then spotting started again two days ago and seemed to be getting heavier in that I thought right that's AF. But then nothing since!!

@Kayeyeem I hope I don't have to wait another week!! I want a wine but I guess a stupid part of me is still hoping. I've not been on the pill or anything since I was pregnant last time so don't have that excuse.

@CookieMonster3001 that's so weird, we were going to wait until after my sisters wedding in July but when it got postponed a few weeks ago we decided to go for it but then I was panicking about her newly moved hen and there's jsut never ever a right time there will always be something!

@Kayeyeem it's so hard trying to plan isn't it because I'm told you can plan all you want but itl never work out- my friend didn't want a summer baby and was due in oct but her baby came super early in the august so now he's the youngest in the year but thankfully healthy!

@Wowthisisreal how frustrating for you, it's annoying but hopefully good news that AF hasn't come but you just want to know one way or the other! Xx

@Kayeyeem I know right :) sending so many positive vibes out in the hope that it happens for everyone here :) eek back in the tww! They creep round so quickly don’t they :) Hear you on the weight loss that’s my sole focus at the moment to try and take my mind of ttc lol! 36lb down in total so far and 21 since 1 Jan so replacing the obsession is working :)

@hollymaeres welcome good luck on your journey :)

@Arrierttyclock bless you it can be really frustrating but just know we are all here for you :) your cycle may take a bit of time to nofmalise but it will happen :) don’t blame you on the wine lack of ovulation this month is driving me crazy too :) hope you feel better soon :) re predicting dates and avoiding dates etc when we first started ttc in sept this consumed me I wanted a BFP to announce at Christmas and a summer baby- now I literally would have a baby any month of the year :) however I do still count from the start of AF every cycle to see what the due date would be and when 12 and 20 weeks would land so the planning never totally stops :)

@Wowthisisreal bless you so sorry to hear that af is giving you the run around really hope you get a BFP soon xx

@CookieMonster3001 that is so so true :) you always cheer me up thank you :) how are you feeling in tww?

@sunflowersaremyfav93 how are you doing?

@Curiosity101 @wrensandrobins are you both getting on okay :)?

So CD 23 for me opk finally back at low this morning. It seems like ovulation was trying due to LH high for so long but it just didn’t happen. In a way seeing the low this morning I was like okay atleast I know it’s not happening now :) gives me a solid 2 weeks minimum until next ovulation (praying it happens) to do as much exercise and healthy eating as possible :) I’m sticking to the no drinking for now but not going to lie I’ll be having a drink for my 30th in March with no guilt whatsoever :) hope everyone is okay! Nearly the weekend thank goodness! Sending all the positive energy and baby dust to you girlies :) we haven’t had a BFP yet during feb so waiting with anticipation and hoping it happens for one of you soon :) xxx

Another BFN with FRER. So now just waiting for AF to arrive so we can go again. Day 31.

For those who know more about this than me... does this mean I ovulated later than I thought? I got EWCM around the time the app said I would be. I said to DH that maybe this means we could OPKs this month because my cycle could be out of whack now and the app won't be accurate after this anomaly and he baulked at the price.

@Wowthisisreal sorry to hear about your BFN. It could mean that or it could just mean your cycle hasn’t settled yet. I came off the coil in jan 2020 and it took a good few months for it to settle into a pattern then we started trying in sept 2020 and I still have the odd month like the last 2 where is goes abit haywire :) hang in there it will settle its super frustrating I know but it can take a bit of time :) I’ve definitely felt better using opks just to give me more of an idea. I use the fermometer ones and buy from Amazon and they aren’t as expensive. Really hope you get your BFP soon x

@Wowthisisreal I’ve just realised maybe it wasn’t you who said that you had only just come off contraception -morning brain- so I’m really sorry if my part about the cycle settling made no sense whatsoever and had no relevance x

@mackjm20 it's ok! No I haven't been on hormonal contraception for a few years now (before DS 1 was conceived) so it isn't that 🙂

Hey all, just checking in to see how everyone is getting one. 👋 Hi to all the new TTCers.

@sunflowersaremyfav93 Sorry to hear about your BFN but am I right in saying you're going into your first proper cycle of trying now? So excited for you!

@CookieMonster3001 Good luck for this cycle. Sounds like you're testing next week some time? 🤞

All is well over here. Morning sickness has started easing over the last few days so I feel a lot more like myself. It does cause me to worry occasionally and wonder if everything is progressing ok but I am so grateful to be feeling better. 9+3 today 🙂. Got my 12 week scan appointment through for 1st March 😊.

@Kayeyeem tell me about it!! Nothing really unusual for me yet just the standard nipple pinches although not been as crampy as I was last month...only another 6 days till I can test lol

@Wowthisisreal that's really strange! Fingers crossed it sorts itself out soon! It defo could possibly mean that you ovulated later! The month after my mc I ovulated 6 days later and therefore that pushed my period back 6 days. If I hadn't have been testing OPKS I would have been late and super confused!

@Arrierttyclock yep the time is defo never right. OH even said to me he really regrets waiting now (he initially wanted to wait until the end of last year whereas I was ready to start as soon as possible), but he truly didn't think it would take us this long or that we would miscarry!

@mackjm20 you are too sweet! I am doing OK at the moment, time is dragging as usual but I am trying to not get too caught up in symptoms and have to remind myself that anything that I am feeling right now is due to either oestrogen or progesterone! I am trying to help myself out as much as possible by eating plenty of fruit and veg (of course the pineapple returns), Ive got some walnuts and almonds (wanted brazil nuts but they didn't have any) and having flaxseed, sunflower seed and linseed with my breakfast in the morning. Oh and not to forget wearing about lots on my lower half!! Oh for sure you have to have a drink on your 30th birthday!! In fact, if I am still not pregnant I will have a drink for your 30th too! lol...Defo sounds as though you are having an anovulatory cycle which is annoying but hopefully AF will show up soon and you can start your next cycle.

@Curiosity101 lovely to hear from you! Glad you are doing well and lil bub is growing nicely. Hope your scan goes well! And thanks, yeah planning on testing next week some point (probably Wednesday!) so fingers crossed! I have a good feeling this cycle.

@mackjm20 Wow that is an awesome weightloss 🤩 how are you doing it? I've been trying to lose weight since my eldest was born 5.5 years ago but I'm a big comfort/stress/binge eater so I struggle to stay committed 🙈 I gave up in December and decided I needed to wipe the slate clean and start again from scratch. So I started again in January and have lost 5lbs so far. I did have a couple of weeks of illness where I stayed the same and put on but I'm focused now so hoping to see a good loss this week 😊
Sorry ovulation didn't happen for you, how frustrating! But good on you for having a positive mind set. Hopefully it will help your cycle to sort itself out!
Definitely have a drink for your 30th, no guilt, it's a celebration. Don't do what I did on my 30th and get so hammered on cocktails 🍸 that you can't remember most of it 🤦🏽‍♀️😂

Oops wasn't ready to send that yet! I'm 38 in March and all I want is lots of cake and a Chinese 🤣
@Wowthisisreal That's a shame ☹️ hopefully AF turns up soon so you can get it over with and on to trying again.
@Curiosity101 Glad you're feeling a bit better. How exciting that you're not too far from your 12 week scan 😊
@CookieMonster3001 I've been very bloated the last 3 days but that could be to gluten as I had cut it out but have reintroduced some 🤦🏽‍♀️ so not noticed anything else as feeling so uncomfortable with that, it's all I can think about lol.
Not sure I want to test at all this time. Going to try and just wait until AF turns up or doesn't, if I can 😳

@Kayeyeem i say that to myself every month then by 8dpo I become this crazy poas lady!

Ah another day of flashing smileys! I was so excited when I got my first one but I'm sick of seeing it now! We DTD last night and now my husbands away until Saturday so we'll see. I don't think I'll get my peak this month... if I don't get a peak does that mean I haven't ovulated at all and therefore out of the running for this month? I've looked loads online and I just can't find an answer

@CookieMonster3001 😂 I feel I may be the same...
@Arrierttyclock Ah frustrating! I can't help on that one I'm afraid as I don't track but fingers crossed for you. That must be hard with your DH away 😔 my DH works long hours and long weeks so never here during the day/evening but he's always there snoring away beside me 😉 at night so time to DTD is easy. Hopefully DTD last night still keeps you in the running 🤞🏼

@Wowthisisreal bless you! I real feel your pain on cycle randomly changing then as that’s what mines done this month and is driving me mad. Would defo recommend the fermometer opks :)

@Curiosity101 so glad to hear the morning sickness is easing :) I hope the scan goes so well :)

@CookieMonster3001 sounds like you are doing all the right things :) eek hope the tww goes quickly for you :) ah yes defo champagne for the 30th! Ah that’s so sweet yes defo you should it’s a nice excuse for you to have a drinks then too :) unless fingers crossed you have you bfp by then :)

@Kayeyeem thank you :) so I did Veganuary and dry jan which has helped loads but mainly through weight watchers and calorie deficit :) I find weight watchers so so easy to follow as still allows you treats but the weight comes off really easily :) 5lb is so so good well done :) I know exactly what you mean about the stress eating it’s so hard to break the habits isn’t it! Are you following a specific plan? Thank you hoping next cycle I ovulate and can put this one behind me :) Omgosh I love cake and Chinese! Haha hope you have a lovely bday in March :)

@Arrierttyclock I think if there is no peak the only way to see if you have ovulated for certain is tracking bbt. So for me this month I had lots of highs but no peak and then because my bbt hasn’t risen it basically confirms that I didn’t ovulate I’m not sure how else you would know but I think it’s super easy to miss the peak on a test - last month I tested in the morning it was high tested at 12 was peak and by the next morning was low so only a short window of peak :) so you may have had a peak and just not caught it on a test- fingers crossed for you :)

Welcome @hollymaeres and good luck!!

Really sorry to hear that @wowthisisreal, it’s horrible when AF is late but it’s still a BFN.. you just want to get on with the next cycle.

@cookiemonster3001 how’s the TWW going? I’m going to do the new thread now.. what shall we call ourselves? I was thinking the impatient ttc’ers? You’re right.. it’s no longer preconception planners... it’s going to be the lucky thread I feel it 🥳

Hi @mackjm20 how are you? I’m good, CD2, can’t wait until my fertile week going to give it a really good go haha!! It’s so weird that you didn’t ovulate this month, do you think you just missed the peak but did ovulate?

Hi @curiosity101 really pleased to hear things are going well and the sickness has eased for a bit. How exciting, will you be telling family and friends at 12 weeks? Yes this is our first go of it so since 1 Feb we’ve been DTD more and now I’m just waiting for my fertile week which start from 21 Feb, fingers crossed.

@arrierttyclock I’m not sure if the answer either and can just imagine how frustrating that it! I just wonder though if you and @mackjm20 are ovulating but it’s just because you’re testing the wrong times? Or am I just completely off with that, would it still show some kind of peak? I’ve never used the CB ones before and I’m no pro at using OPks generally.. so will it detect a peak regardless?

Impatient TTC - Thread 3..or 4? www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/4162872-impatient-ttc-thread-3-or-4

New thread... couldn't remember if it was 3 or 4...

@Arrierttyclock I think there is a possibility that you can still ovulate, but unless you do BBT its hard to confirm. I say this because I have read a few forums where women have said they didn't get their peak and they still fell pregnant, so it could be the case that you started testing too late so it registered your normally high levels as baseline and therefore unable to pick up an LH surge (of course I could also be talking completely out of my arse!). Either way, with BBT if your temps don't increase at all, that would assume you haven't ovulated and therefore no chance of pregnancy this month. Fingers crossed DTD up until your OH is away has covered anything just in case.

@mackjm20 pulling out my fave red wine this weekend for valentines day! Id be gutted if I got a BFP next week and never got a chance to enjoy a lovely glass of red before hand! Sharing it with OH though so will only be having the one!

@sunflowersaremyfav93 oh I like the impatient TTC'ers - describes me to a tee!! And I hope so!! The month I fell pregnant, you said to me that you had a feeling that cycle was the one, and you were bang on the money!! So I hope you are right and that our next thread is a lucky one!! I kind of have the same feeling, I think we are hopefully going to be getting some BFP's soon!

So what are you ladies doing for Valentines day this year? Cant do much of covid, and have to admit, me and OH never really used to do much in terms of buying each other gifts (last year he got me socks lol - which funnily enough are coming in handy in my TWWs!) but we do tend to go out for a meal. Of course as we cant do that this year, we are planning on getting a dirty takeaway, wine, homemade cookies and icecream and a movie!

@sunflowersaremyfav93 good I’m good thank you! I bet how exciting I can’t believe your countdown is finally over :) I don’t think so as my bbt hasn’t risen so pretty sure was a no ovulation month for me. Next month hopefully :)

@CookieMonster3001 oooo yes love a glass of red :) I’m still off the booze but defo going to enjoy a takeaway this weekend :) thinking of ordering either Nando’s or dominos as both have vegan options- the Nando’s imitator wrap is amazing :) we never really do pressies either :) just be nice to have a chilled Sunday :) hope you enjoy the wine :) I would do exactly the same :) x

Moving over the thread 4 can you believe?! Thanks for sorting it @sunflowersaremyfav93 :) 9 BFPs in the 3 threads so far :) here is wishing for many more in thread 4 :) x

@cookiemonster3001 I really did have a feeling that time so I really hope I'm right about the next thread too 🥳🥰
Haha Cookie, I literally asked for socks too, specifically for the TWW haha! We’re not doing much, a nice long dog walk and roast dinner at home.. I have requested pancakes in bed, he’s never made me fluffy pancakes so I’m looking forward to that. Your V day plans sound perfect!! I'm hoping AF will have gone by then so we can DTD without it feeing like it's about making a baby.

@mackjm20 I’m soooo relieved the countdown is over, I counted down from 250 😂. Ah yes I forgot you track BBT as well, I never did because I found it all so confusing. On to next cycle though, we’re all in it together.

@sunflowersaremyfav93 I started tracking bbt last month mine is pretty up and down but gives me a rough idea and I am like 99% sure of no ovulation this cycle :) your v day plans sound so nice and fluffy pancakes sound amazing :) yesss exactly I’ll be wishing away the tww next cycle I’m sure :) 3lb down this week just weighed in so gives me 2 weeks to shift abit more and dtd without pressure before fertile again :) on to cycle 7 :) x

Thanks all for your advice I'm hoping you're right as I'm on my 9th flashing smiley now. I'm going to do tomorrow then stop and just see what happens. It's confusing because I tested really early then I had what I thought were ovulation pains as that's what I always get and I had abit of CM which only happened once but still no peak!
The BBT is a good idea. My DH actually brought an ovulation thermometer in March as it was the only one available so least I have it ready 😂

Just seen there's a new thread, will head on over!xx

Ladies, am I being blind? I cant find the new thread lol