Over 40's TTC lots of baby dust to us all 6

[Chatbash72]

New thread ladies 💕

Congrats darling!!!

May I politely ask. Is this thread for the lovely ladies that are undergoing IVF only. Thank you xx

Morning ladies... will catch u with the threads during the day... been MIA for a bit... trying to get into the back to school head space..
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@Jaysdream7 it's for all ttc any which way they can 💕💕💕

May I ask women of our lovely age how easy has it been for the majority in the group to fall naturally. I am just totally unsure about what the odds are apart from the google stats. Xx

I'm 42. I have a daughter 18 and twins, both 16, girl and boy. I also have a healthy three-month-old, totally unplanned but very much loved and wanted. We were away for the weekend and I woke-up early on the Sunday morning feeling horny as f*ck; barely giving him time to regain a conscious state I demanded he pleasure me twice, there and then. To be fair, he did try and advise caution but he stood no chance. Anyway, apart from the girls being "grossing out" at the thought that, at our advanced age, we still enjoy an active sex life it was no more than that really - doing what comes naturally, only with the enthusiasm of a freshers-week teenager. I thought it would be difficult going through the baby stage again but it hasn't been at all. I also have the girls to help me with madam and they think she is " totally the best ever " so that makes a difference - good practice for them too. All I can advise is a weekend away, two bottles of Prosecco and a dirty mind ...... perhaps the sea air helps.

@Jaysdream7 my issue wasn’t falling pregnant but keeping them. I’ve fallen pregnant the only three times I’ve tried. First was a mmc at 39 years old lost at 12 weeks, second was straight after that at 5 weeks. Four months later we decided to try again and conceived our son aged 40 who’s now 5 months. We’re both now 41 and want to try again but to be honest I’m really scared about miscarrying again or losing a baby later. I’ve even worried about something happening to me. Hoping to start trying after Christmas if AF comes back by then as I’m breastfeeding. The stats just seem so bad for something going wrong. Some days I’m really positive about it and then other days I worry. I know we’ll definitely try for number two and fingers crossed it’s all ok. Xx

Hi all - was on this thread a few years ago but hope you don't mind me popping up again. Was lucky enough to have baby at just turned 42, conceived at 41 but did have a chemical, mc and blighted ovum from 39-41. DD now 10 mths and we are not using any contraception.

My cycles have been weird though and wanted some advice. Have been bleeding/spotting on what I think is ov day (testing and get ov pain) usually around day 9 but last few cycles have then had another bleed/spotting on day 14. This then coupled with spotting on and off for a week before AF. Cycle was 26 days but last few cycles is now 29 and that's when the day 14 spotting started. I had read about vitamin B50 helping with spotting week before period and this is my first cycle with that but still having spotting on day 14.

The other change since having baby is with sore boobs- I used to get them a few days after I ov and then it would ease when AF started- in fact I new I was pg when the boobs didn't get sore after OV but started getting sore at time AF was due.

Does this sound hormonal or dreaded peri- menopause? Am thinking it's prob not helping my chances at all - does anyone have any suggestions?

Hey @Namechanger0800 so sorry to hear your cycles are a bit confusing. Have you tried temping at all. Would be interesting to see if you’re getting a sustained temperature rise after ovulation. It could be low progesterone if you’re getting spotting. Have you spoken to your GP? It could be a hormone imbalance after having a baby. I’ve heard it can take a while to stabilise. Xx

Also really sorry about your losses. We went through two at 39 and then conceived our son at 40. Now 41 and he’s 5 months old. Now trying to get my AF back without completely stopping breastfeeding so we can try again after Christmas. I had a c section so wanting to make sure I’m as healed as possible without leaving it too late. I’ll be 42 next June. Xx

Thanks for then reply - yes had wondered about progesterone as I remember googling about my boobs being sore and it was a sign of higher progesterone and with me not getting that now there prob has been a change to my hormones. Never tried temping but I will give it a shot - have assumed I am ov because the pain coincides with a positive ov test and some spotting. Will look into that -thanks and so prob need to speak with my GP. I have been told I have cervical erosion before as well which can cause spotting but this spotting seems to be on similar days of my cycle. I will speak with GP I think if this carries on - my thyroid is ok though as had a series of bloods recently and that was ok

Any natural remedies to sort spotting issues out? Even putting ttc aside the spotting is irritating and annoying me now.

Sorry meant to add as well @catconfusion - I also had a csec so haven't been actively ttc but she's nearly 11 mths now and I feel fully healed as well now in that respect.

Part of me thinks don't push your luck though - never thought I'd have a successful pg again after the losses and issues I had before my lovely baby. Have older ones that had in my twenties and got pg and stayed pg then at the drop of a hat!

@Namechanger0800 I’d definitely start temping. I used Ovusense and would completely recommend if you can afford it. If you’re not getting a sustained temp rise you’ll know you’re not ovulating. Sometimes the hormones aren’t right and the egg doesn’t pop through properly. Not saying this is what it is but possible. This can cause bleeding apparently. I’m not sure what you can take for spotting. Hopefully it’ll settle down. Xx

@Namechanger0800 really helpful to know you had a c section as well. We’re in a similar boat. My cycles were so long and irregular I think I’ll chance it in January after 9 months. My GP said it should be fine as no complications.

I completely get the feeling of not pushing your luck. I feel like that. My pregnancy was hard as I was huge and struggled with sickness but no major complications. I just opted for c section at 39 weeks as my baby is really big. I keep thinking what if something goes wrong next time. Google doesn’t help as the statistics are really scary for mums over 40. Xx

I don’t know if it’s potentially a red herring, but a number of ladies in a group I’m in for a specific medical issue have posted recently to say that their cycles have become much more regular since they started magnesium supplements. Could be worth a try?

Hi ladies, can I join too? I am 40.5, have had 1 MMC at 10 weeks in Jan, and a CP in July. I already have a DD age 3.

Can I ask you all a question, at what stage in your journey have/would you go for IVF? What's the tipping point? I am circling round the idea, it's just a lot of money for us on what is essentially a throw of the dice isn't it?

Hi my lovely sorry for your loses. I am also 40.5 and have 2 mc and 1 cp. May I ask why would you consider IVF have you struggled to conceive?? Xx

Ooops, sorry should have also mentioned TTC for a year in total so starting to really feel the (crushing, soul destroying) disappointment every month. Do MCs mean that it is just about continiuing until you get a decent egg do you think? I'm under no illusions that IVF is a miracle solution either, just wondering what pushes everyone to start going down that route.

Hey no worries at all.
In my opinion I think if I had been trying for 6 m plus I might start to think about that route just due to our age. ESP if I was really adamant I wanted another.
I am about to embark on cycle 2. I feel for you must be so hard she AF arrives each month bless you. Whatever you choose will be the right choice and I pray for you xx

Hi I'm 42. I have a gorgeous 2 year old girl - I have birth to her just a week after my 40th.

Now she's 2 I'm wondering wether to have another ...but I still think I'm too old. My DH is happy with one so there's no pressure to have another...but I'm just so undecided 🤷🏻‍♀️
Today I've helped my DD through a grumpy, teething tantrum kind of day. Yes it's tiring but I love being there for her no matter what. Would also love her to have a sibling.

Oh I'm just a bit lost on this.

Sorry for the ramble.

Hi ladies,

Hoping you dont mind me joining, I have just turned 40 a few months ago and we found out i was pregnant which was a massive shock as this was far from planned. We got our heads round it and was looking forward to it. I have children from a previous partner so was looking forward to having this with who I feel is my soul mate. We had a private scan booked for 12 weeks to complete the harmony test (due to age) and was told that the baby was measuring 11+4 but no heartbeat so had died a few days before. We are devasted i was booked in for a erpc which I had 10 days ago. Im still currently bleeding from this sorry if tmi but we are now desperate to start ttc again and hope that we get the happy ending. I am worried about age as had a dr write me off on the phone the other day saying well your age is against you which wasn't helpful. I clearly fell without trying so surely we have a chance again.

Hi, so sorry to hear this. I am 40 and desperate for a third. My consultant said it’s hit and miss at my age but keep going and don’t give up.
I fell really easily twice this year. Sadly lost both. I didn’t fall this month sadly but praying for this month. Positive thoughts mumma we can do this!!
Xxx

I got pregnant with DS after 5mths of trying, gave birth at 39. Started trying again at 40.5 (when DS turned 1) and it took us 18mths this time. Currently 42 (conceived a week after my Birthday) and 19wks pregnant with DD.

I/we did nothing either time. Just lots of regular sex. I didn't want to go down the road of temping, charting and expensive supplements as I'm very dubious about effectiveness and didn't want to get obsessed. We did try preseed a few times but very rarely and mostly for fun.

@claireb707

Hmmm doesn't look like I've ovulated this month 😩😢 am cd19, got peak opk on CD 14 and 16 but my temps haven't risen

Partner keeps saying there's no point anyway but I say there is as it only takes 1 😢

Guess cycle 13 is unlucky for us then 😢

Slight name change for me

This definitely was unlucky cycle 13. It ended today on day 42 😩😩 don't think I ovulated or if I did it was a lot later than I thought!

@MaryShelley1818 can't believe you're 19 weeks already! That's gone quick

@Namechanger0800 hi, I had spotting a few cycles ago, it can be caused by a progesterone drop.. there are lots of fruit and veg you can take to boost your progesterone.. 💕

Lots of new ladies, welcome 💕💕
Big hugs to those of you who have had losses and congratulations to those with BFP. Been off here for a while, had a m/c at end of May, 7 +2.. little or no help from drs during lockdown..
a few odd cycles since but still plodding on, we dtd as and when we please throughout my cycle and taking the supplements but trying not to stress about it ( easier said than done on some months ) AF is still coming so I haven't lost hope or faith.
@kim80 what a rude dr... sending hugs.. I had my boy at 40, my sis had her girl at 41.. my grandmother was born to her mum when she was 45, over 100 years ago.. don't loose hope💕💕

I know i didn't really need to hear that not that close to just having the erpc. I spoke with the bereavement midwife and she was fuming about it. Thank you so much @Chatbash72 for the confident words. I know i can do this i did it this time so surely everything is working on both of us. Really appreciate the comment im gladni have found this thread x