Over 40's TTC lots of baby dust to us all 6

[Chatbash72]

New thread ladies 💕

Ooh @SomnolentSekhmet sending big hugs... be gentle with yourself 💕💕💕

@Realitysucks..thank you for including me in the last thread. Great to hear you and baby Jake are really well. My advice is to enjoy this precious time and don't think too much about another!(yet!!)

Chat..thanks for the new thread.

Feeling really poorly today hormone wise. It's like some disorder or something ..something being the dreaded peri. Been in bed all day and can't function or talk to anyone. Hope tomorrow is better.
Hi to everyone x

@BooseysMom the tag here was struggling to find the new thread on the old app lol! I hate the new version on my phone! I know you’re right about enjoying now! Whilst I am breastfeeding periods are all over the place I’ve had 2 since April but GP advised best not to uses contraception if we wanted another die to age. Ideally we want to want till next year to try for another but by then I’m 43.

I’m sorry you feel rubbish sending virtual hugs x

@Chatbash72 thanks for new thread x

I'm 7dpo today and my boobs are so sore 😩😩 feel really heavy and even the duvet resting on them is annoying me

@Realitysucks.. thank you for the virtual hugs . Feeling like I've been hit by a truck today. Very weak and crampy. DH's second day taking DS out. They've gone for a picnic. DH doing really well for once! The worse thing is that this is all for nothing in that if I was preg it would be worth the pain and suffering. I wish above everything else it was pregnancy doing it!

Hi, I fell off the thread and just checking in to say Hi. How are all you lovely ladies?

I'm day 35, have no clue when I ov this month as had some bleeding day 7 I think..I'm on holiday so i am just enjoying eating my body weight in pate and cheese with a little cheeky beer.. ( not drunk in years) What will be will be...and trying to not symptoms spot just enjoying the time away..
sending lots of love to you gorgeous ladies

Rubyroost Lovely to hear from you. I also fell off! How are things with you?

Well I had given up ttc tbh but as I have been getting really bad peri symptoms I went through a crisis and now feel like I have to give it one more try...just as my lady gp prescribes hrt and tries to dissuade me due to age. I already know the dangers but bizarrely I STILL don't want to give up! I have one more month to try to have the spring time baby I always longed for.

Chat sending lots of love to you too! Enjoy your holiday. Wish I was there! It sounds heavenly.

@BooseysMom You sound very similar to me - although from what I remember I am 2 years older than you. I have read your posts in the past and I can relate to you and how you feel so much. I used to post in this thread a lot but found it hard and backed off for a while but I follow most of the time. I too can’t give up. The periods are still regular (ish) and I’ve read so much about women being 50 and one who was 53 having babies naturally. My GP sounds the opposite to yours. He said it’s not too old as long as you feel ok in yourself to cope with it and the oldest he’s known naturally was 56 or 57.

It’s so hard isn’t it? I told myself I would give up many times but that yearning has never gone.

I feel I am peri now though as I am having a lot of anxiety symptoms and I feel sad a a LOT but I believe ttc in the last few years has contributed to that and other family stuff has also.

I wish you all the luck in the world! I’d give it longer than one month though if that’s possible? Sending you truck loads of baby dust. X

@Chatbash72. I’m in the same position as you this month. Don’t know when I ovulated (if I did). I normally get sore breasts etc immediately after OV but this month I didn’t so thought I may not have ovulated until then, two or three days ago coming up to AF due time my breasts have become very sore. That gave me a glimmer of hope until I realise I may have ovulated very late and so I felt totally deflated again in which case this would be PMT symptoms as I would have definitely missed the boat BD wise! Aghh the highs and lows of all this eh?! Good luck xx

@BooseysMom tiring, but good thanks. The toddler seems to love is baby brother which is great to see even if he is a bit rough.

@realitysucks glad you're doing well. I decided to not bother with contraception or the withdrawal method and got pregnant again at 39 (was 3 months from 40) when our first born was 5 months. We had only had sex four times since the birth. 😳It ended in a very poorly baby (hydrops and cystic hygroma and later diagnosed as t21 pregnancy) and a termination at 13.5 weeks. It took my body about 4 months to return to normal and I got pregnant with this one 9 months after my termination. I was of the opinion that I didn't have any time to lose if I wanted a second.

I can't for the life of me remember the name of the lady who was pregnant at a similar time to me and @realitysucks. She sadly lost her baby around 30 weeks. Has she decided to try again or go for donor. Does anyone know how she is? Bit of a stupid question I know, obviously still heartbroken.

@Rubyroost that’s one tho g that worried me as I’m 42 now and not sure about it happening so quickly I definitely felt the pregnancy physically this time round.

I think you are referring to @Cleozeta

Yes, I am. Thank you I couldn't remember her username.
I had gestational diabetes (supposedly) and polyhydramnios. The two weren't linked as when my sugars were monitored doctors were surprised how under control they were. My first pregnancy was wonderful, my second not so!
I guess it's not just age, but the individual woman and health etc.

@MATTSMAMMA.. thanks for your msg. I remember you too! Its lovely to hear from you. I used to post loads here and like you found it too difficult and left for a while. With me it's a guilt thing as I could have ttc alot more than I did but something kept preventing me ..prob sheer exhaustion as I was 41 when i had DS and was ebf for years. I had a gap to conceive from when af returned from 42 to now, or preferably 44 and it just didn't happen.
It's really sad as DS would have been a great big brother and if I had another now, the age gap would be too big.

56 or 57?! Good grief! That makes me feel young at 48!! I don't know tbh. The gp said I don't want to spoil the family dynamic and I have to consider how would we cope if anything happened. She was pretty blunt and did a great job of putting me off at the time! But then this morning with the last af just finished I just felt more determined than ever!!

Thanks again for your lovely msg and the truck load of baby dust!! I send the same to you xx

@BooseysMom I'm sorry, my post wasn't the most helpful. Sending hugs. X

@BooseysMom I know where your coming from. I’m not actively ttc as I was before but more of the thinking that if it happens then it happens and is meant to be. I’ve actually got pregnant a lot in the last previous couple of years - ( not so much now) and I have had a lot of chemicals so maybe my answer is there but so many who are older than me have managed it so who knows. I need to come to terms with it and I feel I maybe every so slightly but it’s bloody hard emotionally sometimes . I get you with the age gap thing and it’s personal preference I suppose but there are a lot of families with much bigger age gaps. A friend has just had her third and there is a 13 year gap between the eldest and the new baby and 10 years between the middle child and the baby. They are all very happy and it works but it’s how you yourself feel. Age gaps certainly don’t seem as far apart the older the child gets. Good luck whatever you decide and I’ll be lurking about on this thread for a good while longer xx

@Rubyroost and @Realitysucks thank you for remembering me, hope you are both doing well?

We decided to go for donor egg, and have 1st treatment in around 2 weeks! Not taking any more chances on own eggs as I couldn't face that kind of heartbreak again, but yet not willing to give up either!

@Cleozeta hope you’re ok x I can’t imagine having to go through what you did. I’m glad you are going down the Donor egg route. Good luck with the first treatment I really hope it works out x

We are all good here. Baby Jake has hit the 4 month sleep regression ( a couple of weeks early!)

@Cleozeta all the very best luck for your first treatment and I hope it goes smoothly. I felt so very sad for you when I heard your news as I had followed on here and your pregnancy seemed to be progressing well. I can't imagine the pain and grief you still must be feeling. Please let us know how you get on x

Rubyroost.. thank you but no need to apologise as I appreciate everyone here has different circumstances.

mattsmamma.. sorry to hear of your chemicals. We all need a dose of baby dust now! Glad you'll be lurking around here.., so will I for now as you just never know.
I had the same way of thinking that I'd just not get too serious about it and if it happens it happens but if not I would be ok. Well that worked for a while but then the peri symptoms set in and my hormones seem to be in overdrive and are really fluctuating. Who knows if I'm still ovulating even.
You're right about the age gap thing. Alot of parents just have another to be a playmate for their first and we never had this so we were and are his playmates. If we had another the dynamics would really change and he would be the one who looks after them..he doesn't seem keen on that idea!

[quote Cleozeta]**@Rubyroost* and @Realitysucks* thank you for remembering me, hope you are both doing well?

We decided to go for donor egg, and have 1st treatment in around 2 weeks! Not taking any more chances on own eggs as I couldn't face that kind of heartbreak again, but yet not willing to give up either![/quote]
Cleozeta wishing you so much luck and love, you're so strong xx

Thank you, you have all been such a great support. It's been a long old journey

@Cleozeta, wishing you all the luck in the world for your DE cycle in a couple of weeks. Hope you are coping OK, I have also been thinking about you a lot over the past couple of months.

@MaryShelley1818, hope everything is going well for you and you've passed some more milestones.

[quote ecostats]@Cleozeta, wishing you all the luck in the world for your DE cycle in a couple of weeks. Hope you are coping OK, I have also been thinking about you a lot over the past couple of months.

@MaryShelley1818, hope everything is going well for you and you've passed some more milestones.[/quote]
Thank you xx
I had a scan yesterday (13wks) due to some pale pink spotting and baby was waving and kicking it's little legs, all looked good.
I've been quite poorly and been diagnosed with Gestational Diabetes, I'm pretty much eating a Keto diet which is making me feel sick constantly but blood sugars are still too high.
My Harmony test came back inconclusive due to not enough fetal DNA in sample so just had redraw last night and about to start the anxious wait for results again.
Just keep reminding myself how lucky I am and that hopefully it'll be worth it in the end if we get a healthy baby xx

Oh lovely that sounds so tough @MaryShelley1818 hope you get your bloods under control and start to feel better soon xx

So happy that little peanut was waving and kicking, really hope we all get to see the same on our own scans soon!