Over 40's TTC lots of baby dust to us all 6

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New thread ladies 💕

@Anxiousbuthopeful I would have thought that the interventions you've had over your previous 3 cycles would be the reason. What were your cycles like previously?

@Catconfusion.. I remember you from earlier threads. I was just searching the old gang! I was just the same as you, dropping in and out of this whole thing, and now I'm 49 I'm having to accept it won't happen. I have DS who's now 7. I had him at nearly 41.
Anyway I just wanted to say hi and I hope you find peace with whatever happens ..

Hello all. I am slightly struggling after another chemical pregnancy which barely even got started. I am told it is likely chromosomal but I do wonder whether there is something else going on too...

This was after the cancelled IVF last month. Stopped taking meds, delayed ovulation (didn’t even bother to track after a bit!) and then late period, lightly positive HPT and then a bleed. I am so frustrated but trying to see it as a good sign. How is everyone else doing?

I'm out for this month, I really thought we'd done it this cycle. I'm starting to think about seeing my GP for clomid or similar, it's been 7 months now and I'll be 41 in October.

@Pinkywoo i know just how you feel. I was also convinced it would happen again and it didn’t and I cried! Turning 43 in the summer...

It's shit isn't it! The other thing that worries me is that two of those seven months I didn't get a positive opk, so presumably didn't ovulate, so could I be peri menopausal?

Hey @BooseysMom I’m so sorry it didn’t happen for you. Praying for a miracle for you. I do remember you. Sadly I’m going through my second chemical. It’s so difficult to stay positive and not worry about the future. I feel so silly for assuming I’d just fall pregnant again easily after ds was born. I probably need to start accepting I’m nearly 42 and things are bound to be different now. Xx

@Anxiousbuthopeful, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I’m now going through my second chemical in 4 months. I know what you mean with the wondering if something else is going on. I’m yet to call the GP but it just feels like there’s not much support for women over 40. Fingers crossed it’s better news for you next time. Xx

@Pinkywoo I’m so sorry you’re concerned about peri. It seems perfectly normal though to have the odd cycle where you don’t ovulate.

I was on a path for Clomid before I conceived ds just before I turned 40. My cycles are 50 days plus. I’m going through my second chemical since we started ttc in December and I’m really worried now I have ds and I’m over 40 they won’t help us. I’m not sure what the rules are. Are you trying for your first dc? Hoping you get decent support from your GP! Xx

@Catconfusion.. thank you and sorry to hear about your chemical. I think I might have had a few of those in the process of ttc but I was never sure they were as I never tested. DS was my miracle at 3 months off 41!
Wishing you baby dust. At 42 there is still a very good chance

Hi All can I join too please?

@Pinkywoo nice to see you again from the 35+ graduates thread!

I’m ttc #2 and I have a 16 month old. this is cycle 4 of trying.

@BooseysMom nice to see you are still around (although a shame its on this thread). How are you doing now? I hope you're feeling better xxx

Hi everyone! Me still here too. TTC #1 at 42, 43 in the summer. So hard to keep the faith

Aww thanks @BooseysMom I’m staying hopeful at the moment. Trying not to consider the what ifs. Xx

Hi @birdbybird I’m also trying for #2 with a 13 month old. Also now starting cycle 4 after having a chemical, also had a chemical on cycle 1. Trying to see the positive that we got pregnant however brief it was. I’m calling the GP tomorrow and I’m so scared they won’t help us due to age. At 39 they couldn’t do enough and we conceive ds at just over 40. Sending baby dust your way! Xx

Hey @Anxiousbuthopeful, it’s so hard. How long have you been trying? Hoping you get some luck soon! Xx

Thank you @Catconfusion! Trying now for a year and a half, with 3CPs and one MMC in that time (2 naturally conceived and 2 IVFs). Have two frozen blastocysts from earlier this year which still await implantation and meanwhile trying naturally. How about you? How long did it take to conceive your first?

Hi All, can I join?
I am ttc #1 at the grand age of 41. I thought for ages that I did not want kids and then I met the right man!
My Mirena has just been removed so we are just starting to ttc but I am trying not to get too excited in case it does not happen for us.

Hey @Anxiousbuthopeful but hopeful. I’m sorry to hear you’ve had so much loss. I don’t know much about IVF but I really hope your frozen embryos stick. When will you have them implanted? I’ve got everything crossed for you!

I started with a bit of a bang at 39 years old. Came back from my honeymoon accidentally pregnant. It was a mmc at 12 weeks. We then had a CP straight after. I was so traumatised we took a four month break. I conceived my ds the very next cycle at only just 40 years old so it wasn’t a long journey at about 7 months but quite traumatic. Ds is now 13 months and I’m now starting my 4th cycle of ttc #2 . I’m finding secondary infertility a completely different beast. There’s so much guilt when I have a beautiful healthy child with ttc when it’s not going so well. My mum thinks we’re mad and should just be grateful for what we have at our age. I just don’t feel nearly 42 and it seems unfair that just because we met late we can’t have the family we want. Xx

@JaffaCake123 it’s so hard isn’t it!? I had so much bad luck with relationships and dating. I met my DH at 38 years old and we did everything as quickly as we could. Got married 8 months later and actually got pregnant with my first mc during the honeymoon.

My only advice is to try and enjoy life and not let ttc take over. It’s hard at our age because there’s a lot more pressure and it’s so time sensitive. I really hope you’re successful! Xx

Dear @Catconfusion - I am so sorry for you mmc at 12 weeks, traumatizing indeed. But so wonderful it happened for you and so many positive signs for it to happen again! And I know what you mean @JaffaCake123 - same exact thing for me. Never wanted kids, met the right man at 38, still didn’t get off the fence until 41 (!) thought i would just try and not mind either way and then became completely obsessed. I agree with previous advice don’t let that happen to you! Hope it works out quickly!

Hi, @birdbybird nice to see you again! 👋

I'm on CD9 of cycle 8, DH reminded me that we used fertility lube when we conceived DS so will give that a try this month, can't hurt!

Hi @Catconfusion Nice to meet you!

Cd 13 and have a solid smile on the CB digital.

Thank you @Catconfusion and @Anxiousbuthopeful for the advice. I know how easily I can get carried away with worrying about things so will try and relax and plan other things to look forward to