Started Ttc in July 2019

[Missgoldilocks]

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@Positivity2019 @Wearenotyourkind @hwotsit @jx0x0

@Wearenotyourkind nothing us women can't handle. It was just like an uncomfortable smear but nothing to faint over how some women were saying it was but then again everyone is different. I didn't feel the dye go in or anything :)
How are you?? X

@hwotsit sorry to hear that, it is hard but we just have to keep going

Hey. Sorry to hear about AF @Missgoldilocks and @hwotsit. I know there's not much I can say to make you feel better, but just hang in there and do what you need to do. Good for you re the health kick @Missgoldilocks, sounds really positive.

CD9 here and just finishing another longer AF. Really hoping my cycle will sort itself out now and I'll ovulate this month. All I want to be doing is trying to get pregnant again and it's so frustrating to feel like I've lost 3 months due to MC.

How are you doing @Positivity2019? How was tour first AF? I totally get what you were saying about work. It's been so hard to come back to work after the MC and just carry on as normal. I can't remember if you said what job you do? I hope your manager has been supportive.

@Missgoldilocks and @hwotsit I’m sorry to hear AF has arrived for you guys. Looks like you are in a good place @Missgoldilocks with your healthy eating and tablets ready to go. I know you must feel disappointed just now but good looking forward to the next cycle.

@hwotsit I’m cant remember if you’ve already said but do you take any vitamins or anything? I struggled through last year with short cycles and it did eventually settle into about 25-27 day cycles. I started Vit B6, Vit B complex and Coq10. I’m sorry your feeling low, I have faith it’ll happen for you.

@Wearenotyourkind my first AF was almost normal. I didn’t have so much period pain as I normally do. It lasted a day longer.
My manager has been incredibly supportive, I’m very lucky. I am an early years practitioner so around kids a lot although obviously not been around them since March. I’m glad I am getting back into the swing of work before the kids come back in Aug.

I have also started my AF yesterday. This was a strange cycle I just had. Didn’t seem to ovulate. no BBT rise. No positive stick and it was only a 23 day cycle. This feels more like my usual AF. Heavy already and period cramps. I’m not overly upset though, I feel like this periods and this cycle is just the regulation of things. I’m hoping it doesn’t drag to long though over the next few months. Thinking of you all.

@Positivity2019 our first post-MC cycles sound very similar. Mine was 21 days and no sign of ovulation too. Let's hope this cycle is more normal for both of us. Sorry to hear AF is heavier and more painful though. I knew you'd have a job in the caring professions, I hear that in how you come across on here.

Aww thanks @Wearenotyourkind, that such a nice thing to think and say. Also thanks for the reassurance that my strange cycle and period is similar to yours and probably a result of the loss. It’s so nice to have people to talk to who are in similar situations and who can share their experiences, it really is reassuring.

@hwotsit no problem. We are all in this together. Hopefully it helps you as well.

@Missgoldilocks and @jx0x0 hope you’re both fine.
I am on holiday now for a week and then the kids return to school!! That’s gonna be mad I think, they’ve been off for so long. Hoping this fine weather lasts a little while I’m off.

Hey lovely peeps,

Sorry I have been a bit quiet lately. I have actually taken the big (and scary) decision to go for IVF next month (if I don't get my BFP this month.) We have decided to go private and make the most of me not having to be in the office - which will make attending appointments so much easier for me. Our plan is to do the egg collection end of August and transfer October. We opted to do PGS - which means there is one cycle between the egg collection and the frozen embryo transfer. I know it may seem like we're jumping the gun but for many reasons we feel like now is a good time for us. I am really aware that not everyone has the option to go private so I hope this news isn't difficult for anyone. I would love to keep chatting. Who knows if it will work or not but I'd love to share the experience with you guys. Also if anyone else goes down this route then I can help answer any questions you have as the whole process does seem quite daunting when you first decide to sign up for it.

As @hwotsit said I am rooting for us all! It's been so nice to connect with others in a similar situation. It's been such a source of comfort and joy on this challenging journey.

Much love to you all. X

Thank you for your lovely message @hwotsit. Yes, we have already had tests done and everything looks ok aside from my cervix which is v narrow / partly closed. I will need to have a cervical dilation in Oct before the transfer. My DH's job means he is sometimes away at short notice so we want to get the egg collection / blastocysts done while we are both still working from home.

The HFEA website is best place to go to find a clinic. You can type in your postcode and it comes up with a list of options. Worth checking their success rates and reviews. Also I typed in the name of my consultant into mumsnet and saw what other women had said about him.

I am sorry you have been feeling down. And I am sorry you are experiencing work stress. I was feeling really stressed other day and I my DH gave me a head massage - like they do in the hairdresser. Get your DH to give you one!! I think ttc has defo made me look after myself and both my physical and mental health more. Are you able to work from home at all at the moment? If not could you negotiate that?

TTC is the most isolating and heart wrenching thing I have ever gone through. It's nice talking on here - it's helped me a lot.

Big love to all. We must be due some good news soon! Sending positive vibes to all. X

@jx0x0 oh that's excellent news!!! I wish you all the best! It can be quite draining in itself IVF my sister is currerntly going through it right now! I hope it runs smoothly for you though and I think it's great that you Kind of have a time on it then like a direction if you will! We will definitely be going private in January of we haven't got a bfp by then for IVF

Please do keep chatting let us know how you get on xx

I'm entering fertile week in a day or two, I have relaxed a lot the past 2 weeks steadily lost 1kg a week which I'm happy with. It seems now my OH is the one wanting a baby more and more, he says he wants it before his next birthday which is July next year, its quite upsetting when I see him looking at little kids with that wistful smile, it's quite new and I'm desperate to give him what he wants.

You're right, Ttc is absolutely heart wrenching so thank god we find people that are on a similar journey to us to talk to x

Hi guys, how are we all doing?
@jx0x0 I wish you all the luck in your IVF journey. Please do keep chatting. It is definitely something that my partner and I have discussed so it would be good to hear your knowledge and experience.

@hwotsit sorry to hear that it’s stressful for you just now. It’s so hard when work is stress and TTC is stress and it just feels hopeless. I found wfh really difficult but thankfully I’m back to school next week and can get a semi normal routine back. Please take care and I hope you’ve relaxed some over these hot n sunny days.

@Missgoldilocks well done on a steady weight loss. That must feel great!! I know it’s so heartbreaking to see your partner yearning for a child but it’s just not happening. It’s how I feel too. It’s an unbelievable feeling of failure and I really feel like I’m letting my lovely guy down. However, I know you and your DP have been on such a journey and It’s so sweet to hear he is up there in his enthusiasm for your TTC and that although it feels sooo far away, you’ve a solid plan going forward from Jan and your appointment to get things underway. I will always have faith and hope for you and everyone here to get their BFP soon. Before Xmas!!!!! Please before Xmas!!!!

That’s my hope that we are expecting again before Xmas but if not then we will be seeking some kind of help I think. I’m just at the end of my tether, don’t know how much longer I have in me for all this.

@Wearenotyourkind hope you’re fine lovely.

@Positivity2019 yes let's all hope we get bfps for Xmas because I too can't deal with it much longer! I think I'm 1dpo today but will dtd tonight just in case, we dtd from cd11 this month so gave it our best shot. I have my hopes high on this month since I have in the past got pregnant in August near on 3 times... It sounds silly but yeah..
Good luck to all xx

Hey gang

@jx0x0 great news that you have a plan! Of course we still want you around if going through IVF, you're stuck with us now. I really hope you don't need to take the next step though...when is AF due this month?

How's the acupuncture going @hwotsit? I was looking into this myself recently. Sorry to hear you've been feeling down. Is work still really stressful?

How are you doing @Missgoldilocks? You must be a few days DPO by now? Did you give self insemination a go this cycle? I totally hear you about wanting to give tour partner a child. My husband turns 40 next year and I really want this to happen before then.

Lovely to hear from you @Positivity2019. Are you all set for back to school soon? How's your cycles been since the MC? Mine are still weird. I'm currently on CD23 and still bleeding from what I presume is AF (from CD1). Also no sign of ovulation again. It's so frustrating. I think I'd feel so much better and more in control if my cycle was at least back to some semblance of normal. But at the moment, I feel shit as we can't even carry on TTC. I've read that cycles can take a few months to settle down after a MC, but don't know if this still to be expected.

@Wearenotyourkind heyyy, I'm about 1 dpo today I'd say, but we did self insemination once on Thursday, we didn't use my syringes we used the cup method again but if there's another time I'll be using the syringes as the cup just isn't comfortable. I hope your cycles sort themselves out? That's super irritating x

Hi hi everyone, are we all melting coz I know I am. Hopefully you’ve all been able to enjoy some socially distanced sunshine.

@Missgoldilocks I don’t think your August theory is silly at all. I really hope it’s your month for a positive. I’m 1dpo today so our cycles are nearly synced, TWW is afoot for us both.

@Wearenotyourkind Back to school for some of the kids and feel like we are nearly organised. It’s a gradual stay for them today and tomorrow then they are off fri and then back to full week next week. Sorry to hear your cycle is still up in the air and you still feel in a limbo of waiting. It’s so frustrating, I’m sure you guys just want to get back on with it. My cycle seems like it is a bit better, however I am unsure if I ovulated this month. Not getting any peaks on my clear blue monitor. But we’ve been DTD plenty so that’s all we can do I guess.

@hwotsit I use an Ava bracelet to keep a track of my BBT. I also use the clear blue monitor, but I don’t ever seem to get a peak. However, the Ava seems to identify confirmed ovulation. Acupuncture sounds interesting, I’ve never really looked into it. Glad to hear you have some good info from it too.
Your right what you said about timescales. I used to make these timescales all the time when we first started TTC last year but I had to stop, it was really making me miserable. We’ve decided to set one for Xmas but it’s more so we can try seeking medical help if we are still floundering by then. But by god I hope we will be expecting by then. I hope we all will.

Take care everyone xx

@Missgoldilocks
@hwotsit
@jx0x0
@Wearenotyourkind
Hope you guys are all doing fine and taking care of yourselves. X

@hwotsit how are you finding the acupuncture? It’s not something I’ve considered. It looks intimidating if I’m honest. I have researched fertility yoga a little. I’ve started back doing some light yoga and I figured since I’m doing it anyway I might as well do some poses that may help fertility. I’m glad to hear that things are finally underway with your referral, that must be a relief.
I am on CD5. Just finished my period yesterday. I feel like it’s back to normal and my cycle seems to be better. It was a more normal period for me. I’m not really sure where my head is at though. Feel like I’ve tried so much stuff and now I’m so tired of trying that I may just DTD regularly and let the chips fall where they may. We’ve set a goal for Xmas time and if no joy then it’s the docs for us.

Hi all - no good news here either, I'm afraid. Although I appreciate your positive thinking @hwotsit!

My cycles are still all over the place - I bled for 30 days non stop, then had a whole 4 days off and am now bleeding again. So frustrating as I have no idea what's going on and if I'm ovulating and so can't even get stuck in with trying again. It's really starting to get me down as I just want to move forward after the MC, but don't feel that my body is letting me. I had an assessment for counselling today though, so will give that a go. I'm hoping it'll help me process the loss. I also spoke to GP last week and she is writing to gynae for an opinion and will come back to me when she's had a response.

Great that your cycles seem back to normal @Positivity2019! How are you getting on back at school?

How are you doing @Missgoldilocks? Any good news?

Meant to add - good news re the SA @hwotsit, fingers crossed the results are positive. Hope the acupuncture is helpful in relaxation, if nothing else.