TTC after a chemical pregnancy / early miscarriage

[Littlebee1990]

Hi everyone, on a few really supportive threads on here but thought I’d make another for anyone who may be in a similar position to me and we can support eachother... I’m petrified of trying again after last month tbh.

Last week I thought our dreams had finally come true when I got 3 BFP (including a digital!).. a week later I was bleeding and a call to the EPU confirmed it was a chemical pregnancy / early miscarriage.. so I’m back here and tomorrow will be CD1 cycle 4 (I know so many people have been trying so much longer) but just didn’t expect to be back so soon after getting a BFP.

So tomorrow marks CD5.. AF is due around 1st August and I promise to not POAS (apart from the one I need to pee on tomorrow to confirm the pregnancy is gone!) until 8th August if AF doesn’t show.. I can’t risk seeing a chemical and testing early again so have told myself never again will I test early.

Would love some buddies along the way with me 🤞🏼🌈❤️

I've ordered some cheapie ovulation strips off amazon today, whens the best time of day to do them??

Also, just been to my childrens school for the first time in forever, they had a transition day to meet their new teachers, and there are so many pregnant mums up there, of course I'm happy for them and I'm full of smiles and congratulations, but it really hurts I've come home feeling really shit 😔 xx

@Klc11066 😔 My social media is constantly baby announcements and I agree it’s so hard but just have to try and remember our time will come. CD8 for me today, we dtd last night for the first time since the chemical pregnancy and nice to feel “normal” again..

I have this irrational fear that it’s just not going to happen for me and my boyfriend and it scares me so much 😫

And re the OPKs some people test 3 times a day, I just do FMU

I was told the best time of day to do the OPK is 2pm which has worked for me 3 time’s before 👍🏻 I also feel like everywhere I go is pregnant people at the moment!! Including 3 friends! You can’t help but feel jealous, I don’t not want them to be, I just want to be too! It’s normal, especially after losses x

Hi ladies, sorry to hear about your losses 💕
I had a early miscarriage at just over 5 weeks about 4.5 weeks ago, on CD5 now following my first AF after the MC. That first month back TTC really did my head in as we were hoping so much to get pregnant right away, it took us 10 cycles to get pregnant the first time (trying for our 1st) but I feel a lot more level headed now. Nothing like being at the start of a new cycle to make you feel optimistic! I've just spent a horrible amount of money today on supplements 🤦‍♀️xx

@littlebee1990 I feel the same way, I know I already have my two, but this is different, I'm in different circumstances now and my oh is basically their dad (it's been 4 years since they saw their bio dad) I just want it so much xx

Hello everyone. So glad to see this thread but also sorry to read so many sad chemical pregnancies / early miscarriages.

I've been fairly silent on the boards for a while but decided to rejoin for some peer support. DH and I are ttc our first. Started ttc in May 2019. Had our first chemical in our 2nd cycle of trying. Fell pregnant again in the cycle immediately after but had an early miscarriage then nothing at all since :( . I used OPKs earlier this year for a few months to confirm my ovulation day matched up with my app. I've started using them again the last couple of months as my cycles have been shorter during Covid and I am ovulating 2-3 days earlier. AF is due the 16th this month so currently in the dreaded wait!

Hoping for BFPs for us all :)

@edw1 thank you, I know it's normal to feel a bit jealous, it's just a rubbish feeling isnt it! I'll try doing them at 2pm if that's the case! My last cycle was shorter for some reason so I want to be totally sure I'm getting my ovulation right!xx

@Littlebee1990 yep! Everyone on my social media is getting pregnant. We DTD for the first time last night and it felt different. I think its because I'm also scared that either I get pregnant and have another CP or that I won't fall pregnant again! Please tell me these feelings are normal.x

Hi, I think this is the thread I’m looking for 😔

After ttc, and getting bfp first cycle on June 18th, I think I’m currently losing it.

Pg symptoms disappeared a week ago, had some pain and discharge Thursday, bleeding Friday (EPU gave me an early scan and took bloods. Could see gestational sac) redid blood test Saturday and Hcg had only risen 16%. Had another scan Monday where the doctor said she saw a yolk sac this time and I was to go back for another scan on 20th.

Pain has got pretty bad this evening, & bleeding a little bit heavier, so I think this is is.

I’m beyond heartbroken, & a bit lost, & lonely.

I’m 33, & as far as I know I’m healthy. We’ve both said we want to try again as soon as we can, but worried we have been spoilt getting it first cycle (I tried with an ex for 6 years, & nothing - although this is currently feeling like a Particulr period I had back then, so maybe this is the second Miscarriage I’ve had?)

Sorry for the essay, I just feel so lonely. I’m in the bath to help cramps, oh is snoring in the bedroom (with phone on loud incase I need him) and I want to cry, but I feel like I’ve cried everything out since Thursday.

I just want our healthy baby. I’m
Dreading going back to work, I’ve been medically suspended and the boss has told everyone it’s asthma, but I’m pretty sure everyone is going to realise my asthma hasn’t been miraculously cured, and also I don’t want to act like this baby didn’t happen.

Sorry, hi everyone x

Oh gosh I'm so sorry to hear this @Sansa87 sending you lots of love. We're all here for you and we know how heartbreaking it is, so you're not alone. I suppose you don't know for sure yet but the fear alone is unbearable.
If you're in a lot of pain it might be that you need to think about speaking to a doctor again? Or can you mange it until tomorrow with paracetamol and maybe a hot water bottle? If it gets really bad maybe you should go to A&E? It's hard to say only you know how much pain you can handle. I hope your OH is able to look after you and give you lots of hugs.X

@Dbop100 Thankyou ❤️ I really don’t want to go to hospital, whilst I was aware oh wouldn’t be allowed to go to scans during covid, I didn’t think of the possibility of anything goes wrong, he’s still have to wait in car park.

The bleeding seems to have stopped again, but pain still there. I honestly never knew mc’s were like this. I think I just assumed heavy period and al done and dusted. The doctor warned me that If pg wasn’t viable and o didn’t fully mc then I would need medical help, which doesn’t sound fun either.

I never realised how hard this was.

@Sansa87 I’m so sorry you’re here on this thread but I’m glad you found us. I really really hope the bleeding eases and you don’t need us but we’re here if you do ❤️
A friend of mine bled throughout her entire pregnancy and all was fine so it may well not be all over but I completely understand your fear. It was a week ago I started bleeding at 5+3 and the bleeding has finally stopped now.

We’re going to continue to try again straight away. Don’t think too much about the TTC with the ex.. I was with my ex from 16-27 and felt the same as you did! Me and my boyfriend are on cycle 4 now and last month when we got our BFP it was cycle 3.. I remember going to sleep bleeding and being so fearful of the next morning.

We’re all here for you, please keep us posted ❤️

Thanks @Littlebee1990 I’m hoping I can miscarry naturally instead of medical help in 2 weeks, and can jump right back into ttc. I have no idea how cycles work after a mc, I’ve heard you can ovulate two weeks after, but how do you know the day of your actual mc

I’ve been looking at pandora charms that we can get in memory of our little bubs, as I think that will help.

Currently led on the sofa in a towel as it’s far too late to rerun a warm bath.

@Sansa87 sending so many hugs your way and praying you’re wrong! Please let us know either way. I couldn’t bare not knowing if I’d lost mine or not so went to A&E with heavy bleeding and unfortunately for me, a scan confirmed that day that I’d lost my baby at 10 weeks 😢 it was the most horrific day of my life being in hosp alone and then finding out what I pretty much already know... my bleeding was so heavy that I couldn’t leave the bathroom all night and passed huge clots so it sounds a little different, so so hoping it is! I ovulated again 2 weeks after mine and conceived but had a chemical mc, that was on the 26th May so am hoping after having my first normal period last month that this month is our time! We bought a little angel box and wrote letters, as did my mum, sister and best friend where I also put my hospital notes, and a couple of things that had already been knitted. I also bought an Angel charm for my pandora bracelet. It’s definitely not something to just brush off and forget. As soon as you see that line on a pregnancy test, you make a bond and love that baby in your tummy! Do what ever feels right for you. I also had to go back to work and I must say, being honest with everyone has made it so much better. Everyone’s been really supportive and understanding..... please keep us updated. X

My 1st cycle after CP doesn't look to have been successful. Due on today and had a negative test yesterday and had cramps the past couple of mornings!

Fingers crossed AF shows her face soon so I can get on with cycle 3!

@Sansa87 just wanted to say sorry for what you're going through. It really is truly awful

@Rumples as frustrating as it is, especially if as impatient as me... a period might be a good thing to clear out/reset everything? I fell pregnant straight after my mc and that ended too so am hoping now that I’ve had a proper period last month, that things might be better for me this month! I’ve also since been diagnosed with PCOS so having a period for me is a good sign I hope xxx

Hi @EDW1 so sorry you went through that. My level of bleeding definitely isn’t nowhere near yours, but still far too heavy for what I’d assume is normal, especially with the 16% rise in hcg and loss of ph symptoms.

I am so sorry you went through it alone too. I’m determined to try and get through it at home, just so even if oh is at work, I’m in a safe place, and can call him home.

I then feel guilty I just want it to happen so we can try again.

The 2ww after ov seems a lot easier than the mc 2ww

@Sansa87 both of the waits are just horrid. I know what you mean, we were just desperate for the bleeding to stop and start trying again after our second mc, and the first to be honest, although I struggled a lot more emotionally with that one but the want for this baby has never and will never go away I don’t think! Hope you’re feeling ok. Xx

@EDW1 you're probably right. I just like to know that I've started a new cycle and start looking forward.

Fingers crossed for you..definitely positive that you're having regular periods.

I've ordered some opks for next month..I have no idea when I ovulate and normally just go off the apps but have seen on here that they can be off by a few days.

No one ever explains how hard it is once you get the bfp do they @EDW1

I’ve read that your cycle begins when you miscarry, but I don’t know if that means when the miscarriage starts (I still don’t really know when it’s considered to have started) or is it when it ends?

I used the cb advanced digital opk so don’t really want to waste the sticks until I know I’m actually looking for ov

also found out you can’t “cancel” a pg on the Flo app without letting them know date of mc which I don’t know 🙄

How is everyone doing?

Hey, I was advised to date the MC as the last first day of red blood CD9 for us.. can’t wait to start ovulating so we can have some hope again

@Sansa87 I was told to count cycle day 1 as the first day of your miscarriage bleed... and I ovulated 2 weeks after so it seems right?? Will send some pics of the app xx

@Sansa87 I also use CB digital as I find the cheap sticks impossible to read (and have missed peaks before using them) - but to save money I start testing early (day 6) with the cheap sticks and as soon as I get a faint line (or I get to say day 10) I switch to CB - I've randomly ovulated early before so I don't want to miss it but also want to save the precious expensive CB's x

I’ll look one at for some cheap ov sticks, thankyou!

Really hope we all get our rainbow baby bfps very soon ❤️