6 months plus ttc (continuation of 6/7 months ttc) all welcome

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Hi everyone just another continuation thread 😊

Thanks @notyetamumbuttrying I really don't know what is happening this month! Started some more brown/pink spotting mid morning and therefore declared to OH the month was over and cried for a while... then nothing! I've had a pad on all day to make sure I can see how much, and it's not time for a tampon yet, and there's literally just a pink smear all day. Still no full flow. I can't take the rollercoaster anymore now so I'm just going to wait. AF must arrive properly tomorrow or Tuesday surely. X

Think mine will be tomorrow or Tuesday too @lamby12 means my 12 day LP's are finally over 🙌🏾 only upside to not being pregnant!

He AF here for me now too @notyetamumbuttrying
What a bxxxx this month dragging things out for SO long!!

It has made me realise about the job thing I need to get sorted and go for my business, the bigger upset about not being pregnant is even longer stuck in the job which is not right. I've been looking into mat allowance and I didn't realise there is so much available to self employed.

Good luck to anyone still in this month. X

@lamby12 sorry darlin! Mine will be tomorrow and then I'm bk to 14 day LP which I'm happy about.
Oh excellent stuff! Defo go for it and I'm sure you'll succeed! X

So sorry about AF @lamby12 it sounds like a particularly upsetting lead up, it's so unfair. But SO good that you've decided to start your business. I'm also freelance and much prefer it, I put aside a bit of money every time I'm paid into a maternity pot (plus as you say there is a self employed mat allowance) the only silver lining about trying for so long is at least I'm saving more money for when it finally does happen! Although I'm obvs also paying for private treatment 🙈

I've been putting various little things off every month incase it happens, so this month I've decided to go for it and act like it won't happen in the hopes that Sod's law it does. I've bought period underwear, biodegradable pads, a new supplement to try next cycle. Normally I only buy this stuff on CD1. Really hoping I've wasted all my money this month, that's very rational logic isn't it?

In an update from me we did our first IUI yesterday so I'm 1DPO today and starting progesterone tonight. Really hoping this 2ww doesn't do my head in.

@Dbop100 I'm exactly the same! Buy all my supplements and what not earlier now instead of waiting for cd1. I did that yesterday and I'm 14dpo today so praying I've wasted money too lol! Best of luck with the iui tww! Can I ask why you went with iui over ivf and how was the process? We have male factor and I heard they "wash" the sperm, do you happen to know how much that helps before they put it in you?

AF came tonight so cycle 18 I think and month 15 as of next week 😫

@notyetamumbuttrying I'm so sorry about AF, I'm at about the same currently in cycle 17. It's so hard.

Well I have DOR (Diminished Ovarian Reserve) so IVF would only give me a couple of eggs anyway, as I'm only 34 my consultant suggested trying a medicated IUI first. It's cheaper and less invasive so I figure why not. It was just like having a smear test, totally painless, Yes they wash the sperm but I don't know that that would necessarily help the sperm, we have no issues with MF. If I had to guess if MF can't be improved with lifestyle then I'd assume ICSI IVF would be needed.x

@Dbop100 thank you.
Oh I see! Thanks for explaining your situation. You're right in that ICSI is our best bet! I know Dh is reluctant to go ahead cos of the cost but I'm not really gonna give him much choice in the matter now. I'm beyond fed up and not prepared to wait any longer really. He has a follow up call with urologist today so after that call he has to book his second SA and I'm contacting the clinic to see when they have a slot for the first consultation.
I truly hope this it is for you and you can share your bfp in two weeks time x

@notyetamumbuttrying thank you! Even if it's not the month I feel good that we're taking proactive action, and moving in the direction of treatment. We'll do 3 IUIs then try IVF. Good luck with the tests, I've heard MF is easier to treat then if it's the woman and ICSI is meant to be really good. I'm sure if you can get going with everything you'll eventually get your BFP xx

@Dbop100 the only viable option seems to be ivf which is a bit extreme considering it's MF. They don't seem to actually 'treat' the men. It's a good job he got referred to urology really. He's done lifestyle changes so I'm really interested in seeing if there's been any improvement. Will keep you posted next month when it's booked and we get the results. I do want to do ivf as it should do the trick considering my fertility is fine. It's just the expense is holding dh bk as I'm not prepared to wait for the nhs one. We got referred in September and haven't been contacted yet so god knows how long it'll all take?! Great you've got a plan underway, so much luck and good vibes being sent your way xx

I don't know how but after 17 cycles of trying I still loose all rational thought around 8dpo (which is today) and start wondering about testing early. My brain knows there's no point but I find myself googling or watching YouTube videos about people testing early. Right, I'm going to hold out until at least Friday which is 11dpo (and so if it's a BFN I might have 1 drink that night). Sorry just had to get that out somewhere and talk myself down 🤯

@Dbop100 sorry I missed this on Tuesday! Did you test yesterday then? X

@notyetamumbuttrying No worries, thanks for checking in, I tested this morning at 12dpo with a FRER and got a BFN, so reckon thats me out this month. AF is due on Mon.
I ovulate around 20th Dec next cycle which is too late to do an IUI at the clinic so think I might have a month off trying. Would normally hate to do so but as it's Xmas, might be nice to have a month without taking the hormones, which make me feel tired and emotional, I don't know, will discuss it with my consultant on Monday.

Urgh, Heading into cycle 18 and ending another year with no success feels so crap. I'm sure we're all feeling it, really hoping next year is better for us all.x

@Dbop100 sorry honey, sucks don't it! A month off might be a good shout! U can hop off the horrible rollercoaster then.
I have everything pinned on 2021 tbh!! It's just got to be the year I get pregnant and sell the flat. Nothing can be worse than the shit show that was 2020!!

Hi! This is my first ever post on here so I'm not really down with the abbreviations. I had been trying to conceive naturally for 10 years. Everyone including my GP had given up hope. I finally relented and was getting referred for fertility investigations when I realised I was late,did a test and I'm now 15 weeks on. I'm 38 and honestly completely shocked I had pretty much resigned myself to a life without children . I'm also utterly terrified as I have 0 experience with babies so I'll be on here a lot asking stupid questions probably 😂

@Dbop100 sorry you had another frustrating cycle, it's always worse when you start wanting to test early. Sorry you're expecting AF on Monday. I agree maybe a month off could make you feel better - whilst it feels like delaying things the months I've had off OPKs and not worrying about tracking always make me feel more rational and balanced that this is a long game!

@notyetamumbuttrying everything pinned on 2021 here too! It's just got to be the year surely?!?

I had my fertility baseline scan and blood test on Thursday for amh. Blood test will take 2 weeks but scan was all great and they said everything looked perfect including 17mm egg (day 11) looking ready and waiting. She she was able to suggest I would Ov this weekend. We've DTD yesterday and today, not sure if we'll manage the weekend and OH is working nights and it never happens even when we say we have to because he's too knackered then I feel bad trying to force things as that's exactly what we said wed stop doing. Hopefully we've still done it at the right time, I've been a lot more relaxed as we said we'd stop worrying about trying as intensively whilst having all the tests etc. So fingers crossed that works in our favour.

Going to really try and not spoil Xmas with the TWW as it will be right when AF is due and I don't want to spend it in a crazy early testing am I aren't I hole!
Last Xmas we had just been trying for a few months and I was over a week late so decided I must be pregnant and came on AF Xmas Eve so it was shit. Trying to not think about TTC again until 2021....!

Omg re. My above comment I put it in the wrong thread. I'm so sorry to anyone out there who s struggling the last thing you maybe want to see is me talking about it happening naturally. It was my first post and I was reading your thread previously and must have gone back to it. Sorry

@Isamc83 no worries, congratulations, 10 years is a long time that must've been so hard, glad it's working out for you now x

Thanks for understanding. I had pretty much given up. My older sister had the same problem as me but decided to go the IV F route after 3 cycles didn't work she threw in the towel then a couple of years later she decided to try one final time and it worked and she had my niece so there is always hope. Good luck xx

@lamby12 it definitely has to be, in so many ways!! 😬 best of luck for the Xmas tww and keeping zen! Sounds like you're covered in terms of dtd and ov so try and relax, as irritating as that word is 😆
@Isamc83 don't worry! It's good to hear a good news story on here and 10 years is a helluva time to wait!! Thoroughly deserved! Hope the pregnancy goes well x

Omg I am already obsessing and I am only 2dpo.... so much for being cool this month. Why did the scanner have to tell me everything looked perfect for this months Ov and the great time to DTD would be Friday...so we did... so I'm trying not to convince myself it has to be this month....?!
Help.....

Ps - my friend just had her baby today and 3 work colleagues told me they are pregnant yesterday. Maybe why I've gone a little off track....!

@lamby12 oh nooo it's so hard I know. Try and tell yourself that at 2dpo nothing is decided either way for sure yet, the egg is still floating down the tube and won't even implant or not for days. Sounds like you did everything you could and now it's just up to biology and luck. Fingers crossed for you!

Also this time of year magnifies everything, you think about what has and hasn't happened over the whole year, there's pressure for it to end of a high, it's really tough. I'm clinging onto feeling the hope of a new year in Jan x

Yes @Dbop100 absolutely! I know I couldn't even be pregnant yet 'technically' even if it was going to happen. Definitely this time of year makes it worse thinking you have to have some good news. I also find other people's babies/pregnancy announcements always give me an extra boost of desperation!

Really trying to distract myself with lots of stuff to do every time I think about googling....! Thankfully time seems to be going quite quick at the moment. Christmas is flying round so at least the TWW will be over by the time Christmas is here. X