6 months plus ttc (continuation of 6/7 months ttc) all welcome

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Hi everyone just another continuation thread 😊

@lamby12 men are so annoying I swear! Good he's keen now but all seems too late doesn't it. Yeah I knew about vit d so ordered some tabs the other month. Let's hope they do wonders! Dh is having his scan this afternoon. He's gone into the office today as it's closer to the hospital so won't see him until he's bk now. He said he'd book the second SA after the scan...I think he meant after the results but they should be able to let him know at that time, they did for my scan. Will keep you posted!

@lamby12 oh yeah I am all across the vit D 😂, I take so many supplements now I practically rattle when I walk, I think about 15 a day in total? After reading 'it starts with the egg' it suggests so many good ones to help improve egg quality you kind of get hooked.

Sounds very positive for you though that hopefully you just need some pills to sort things out. The money is 🤮 we're paying £1k for every IUI we're about to do (fingers crossed in 2 weeks) and that's nothing compared to the cost of IVF which I can't even think about it's insane.

@notyetamumbuttrying hope you get the scan results quickly, let us know how it goes.

My period is due tomorrow and I'm feeling pretty crap, another month of it not happening rolls on by (I did a test yesterday and it was a BFN) but trying to console myself that conceiving whilst sick with Covid (as I was 2 weeks ago) is not the best idea and hopefully next month when I'm better will be lucky.

@Dbop100 so much luck to you! Glad you're feeling better now. And yes, will do x

Hi @Dbop100 yes my daily vitamins are constantly going up!

Having another frustrating month because I weirdly got in my head this month might be the month (does anyone else ever do that for no reason? Just a feeling?) and AF is clearly on the way in the next few days as I'm starting to feel sluggish, etc, and I feel so flat about it again.

One thing for me is I hate my job and I really want to move/leave and start my own business which I have in the background but I need to benefit from mat pay. I know that's a really bad reason but I feel like my whole life is on hold until I'm pregnant! I'm in constant limbo whether to just go for my business and if pregnancy happens then great, but I'll have no mat pay, and we wouldn't be ok financially. Or continue with the patience game keeping my business at a certain level so I can juggle it with my job, in order to make sure I get mat pay.

I'm so fed up of the wait. Obviously I want a baby ASAP for all the right reasons to but the addition of wanting to move the rest of my plan on with the business is making me frustrated too.

Just been chasing the clinic as we had our initial appointment on Monday and still not got the follow up email with next steps.

Can you tell how frustrated I am?! 

@notyetamumbuttrying how was you scan?

@lamby12 I feel your frustration! I want to leave too but don't want to miss out on mat pay. I'll have to stay now as our likely path is ivf and my boss is very understanding so I know I'm better off where I am. I may feel different if I was going off to start my own business. Maybe it would be good having another focus? Take your mind away from ttc constantly.
The scan was for Dh on his testes and went fine. No noticeable blockages etc so now just waiting on the follow up and next steps. I keep telling him just to get the repeat SA so we can move forward with a plan but he's hellbent on waiting for this call so I'm just standing still 🤷🏾‍♀️

Hi @notyetamumbuttrying yes it's so frustrating isn't it. My boss is great too I'm just totally bored and unmotivated and combined with lockdown I feel pretty fed up all round.
Probably impending PMS making me feel crap too!

The thing is if I do my business I won't even qualify for statutory mat pay, as I understand it. So we'd be so much worse off, and I really want to have that 'maternity leave' time of financially security (I've worked to be entitled to it after all, in terms of time at the company!) so I just feel a bit annoyed that I'm on hold.

I know OH is fed up of me being miserable about it now too. The consultant was very adamant my hormones were out of whack and I really feel mood wise it affects me.

Glad the scan was ok for your OH. It's so frustrating waiting for them to get on with things isn't it!!

Where are you in this cycle? X

@lamby12 I see your predicament!
I'm 3dpo so not a lot going on but not really in the habit of checking what dpo I am now as it doesn't really matter until I know what his sperms doing. Pointless tracking when my chances are even slimmer than most :( where are you to? X

@notyetamumbuttrying yes just need to try and pull myself out of the down mood and get on with things at the moment. Always stressing about being short on time around the house and I've sat here since lunchtime googling and foruming about TTC. I haven't done that for a while so I'll afford myself that slack and go for a walk in a minute. (Supposed to be working... will end up catching up tonight!)

I'm 8dpo, (short cycles though - due in 3/2 days). I think I ov day 12 this cycle as I had hip pain though same as you I've eased off the tracking for now whilst we go through all the tests. Also OH has just slipped a disk so I bet there will be no DTD for the next month or so, delays everything into 2021 really!

I can't believe I've got in to my head this month could be the month as we only DTD once! Ridiculous I know, but I've had loads of discharge since Ov, not clear but not sinister looking or anything not an infection or anything. Usually after Ov I don't have anything until AF so it's weird for me. But dangerous for me to start symptom spotting so far into TTC journey, I have further to fall each month it feels!!

You're just at the start of 2ww so hopefully you can keep your mind off things for now. And if your waiting for results it sounds like you're fairly relaxed this month. X

@lamby12 defo relaxed now. Might even have sex this weekend just for fun 😂 your poor OH with a slipped disc, ouch!!
It's so hard not to get carried away when you get different symptoms. This meme sums up infertility very well...x

@notyetamumbuttrying love that meme thanks and so true.
I'm currently awaiting AF today/tomorrow and trying not to think too much because I've had a weird feeling this month (however not the first time and the weird feeling always turns out to be a trick) therefore trying to expect AF.
I thought about getting a test this morning then realised I didn't want to waste £10-15 so maybe I am getting wiser!!
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@lamby12 it's an awful cycle of hope and doom isn't it. I'm trying my best to expect af on Sunday. Pms is already here so that's hint enough that the sperm has not improved!!

Yes it is. Oh sorry @notyetamumbuttrying has AF arrived fully yet? Mine hasn't but I'm still well in the zone - short cycles but quite irregular, usually 22ish days but every now and again there's a 28+ day so could be another week and still not late...
I was in sainsburys earlier and went down the test aisle (like some kind of addict) and they only had the £30 CB kit left so I resisted.
Anyone else do the (absurd) mentality that if you hold off testing you're more likely to be rewarded with a BFP? haha

@lamby12 yep I do all sorts of craziness like this! It's called bargaining in psychology terms I believe. So I'm not due until Sunday coming, it's just pms starts about 5 days before I'm due on. So I get a week of crazy and then 5 days of pain with cramps/headaches etc when the witch comes! Such fun being a women right..🙄

@notyetamumbuttrying yes definite bargaining. Even though it will clearly make not difference.
Still no AF, I've had and continue to have lots of discharge this month which is unusual for me and had a weird feeling. But we only DTD once so I'm trying not to overthink it. Because OH has done his back very bad at work next month will be out too I think
I can't get a test today or tomorrow as I'm busy/working so that keeps me away from it until Friday.
If AF hasn't arrived by Friday I will test, even if just to make sure I don't get myself hopeful (further to fall when AF does come isn't there?!)

That sounds like a rough week before AF. I used to know exactly when it was coming and these days, maybe because of symptom spotting, and irregular pain from endometriosis, I feel like I have no idea what's going on up until the moment I see red!
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Hey @lamby12, I've not been on here for yonks, but thought I'd check in for some reason today. Really hoping AF stays away for you (and you @notyetamumbuttrying), just wanted to share a friends story re. mat pay...she was in an awful job, really stressful and hated it, but stayed because of the mat pay. Eventually she couldn't take the stress anymore and left to go freelance, couple of months later (after months of trying) she was pregnant. We all thought going freelance would make her more stressed but it actually did the opposite and even though finances were tight they made it work. Hopefully AF stays away and can you build your business up so you don't need to go back 🤞🏻 x

Hi @Tink2019 thanks for that and I think you're right. Me and OH had a big talk about it last night, he says I'm crazy easing off on my business workload and basically 'waiting to have a baby' and I just need to get on with life and if it happens it will be a nice problem to have. I do get that but as I have my job too I get a bit overwhelmed sometimes!
It didn't feel crazy when we started TTC 15ish months ago as I expected it to happen immediately. But now it's been this long I'm realising it could be that long again, or more... so it maybe is a bit crazy.
So I am going to go for it with my business - not leave my job, but start really trying to push it so the workload gets enough to leave my job. Wish me luck!!
Hopefully will give me something to focus on rather than 'waiting' all the time to be pregnant. And I can see how the stress thing is an impact too in a job you don't like, so maybe I'll be happier and healthier?!

An update on this month, AF still not here so picked up a 2 pack super cheap test in the coop this morning. BFN. I'm now 4 days late and no pms so will test again tomorrow with FMU but I'm convinced it would be enough hcg by now to show.

I'm not often late and usually short cycles but I am glad I tested, as last year I had a random 35 day cycle (2 weeks late for me!) and didn't test basically decided I was definitely pregnant. Then on Xmas eve AF arrived and I was gutted. Maybe a chemical I'll never know or maybe just a nasty trick cycle. But I'm glad I've tested so I can start to talk myself down from any hope that was building. I know you're not out til AF and all that but I don't have the mental strength for the false hope these days now I'm 15-16months in!

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That sounds like a great plan @lamby12, I really hope it works out for you 🤞🏻 Hope is such a tricky feeling, you want to be hopeful but also not too hopeful. Sounds like doing the tests was the right thing for you - I'm so sorry they weren't positive, I really hope you get your positive soon x

Hi everyone, I've been quiet for a while but i have been to my GP and I have my day 2-4 bloods this cycle and I'm just starting to come on - any advice on what is classed as day one?! Do I wait for the first proper day given it's quite late now? Or would today count as day 1? With the weekend I really need to get it right!!

Thanks @Tink2019

Well I think AF is here for me now. A teeny tiny bit of pink/spotting but got that familiar dragging feeling like concrete has been poured into my pelvis so I think it's on its way. My cervix still feels very high though (anyone else check this...? I know some find it weird!) I only check occasionally and never find it reliable anyway.

@Chalkie67 it's a difficult one, I was told to take day 1 as the first day you would fill a pad/tampon and count as consistent flow. Like once your sure AF is in town and not just spotting. Hope that helps. X

Why oh why does AF have to mess with us so much...?! so I had some pink spotting yesterday (tiny bit) and pains/heavy feeling started so I started to wallow about AF. Now nothing for 24 hours.

I've got back pain (I don't usually get back pain with AF, all stomach pain) and I don't have any bowel symptoms. Because I have endometriosis on my bowel, usually I get the runs for a couple of days before AF and throughout.

Very weird this month so if she arrives in the next few days she's really messing with me.

I'm pretty sure AF is here or on her way, but then that little bit of hope comes back because with my first pregnancy, after BFP, I had spotting and period pains that then evaporated and I was pregnant.

Now in the waiting for AF phase again rather than certain it's here.

@lamby12 thank you for taking the time to reply. I have gone for today as day one so 🤞 I don't mess up my results by getting it wrong! Typical that I have hit the weekend with this cycle and can get tested!

Sorry to hear your AF is messing you around. I'm in different moods in each cycle, sometimes I quite like the hope it gives for a few days but other times I just have to test to stop me getting too excited.....I really feel for you and hope it's positive news (partly because it would be nice to hear some 😂)

Thanks @Chalkie67 I hope your test results are good and I'm sure you've gone for the right day if it felt right.

I'm very on edge here. Still no AF, but constant AF pains so feel like it's coming any second. A day of checking at the toilet every half hour and staring at the FR test I did this lunchtime that I think maybe I can see a faint line but any sane person would not!
Really odd to be so late on AF for me (almost a week now) and little bits of pink mucus spotting occasionally, I've seen no red...yet! One minute I think I MUST be pregnant and the next I think ohhh the pains I've got I must have come on I need to check my underwear!!
Such a rollercoaster.

If I haven't come on overnight I'm going to do another FR with FMU tomorrow. X

Good luck for the morning @lamby12! I'll be coming on tomorrow sadly but to be expected with the male factor issue.

Thanks @notyetamumbuttrying sorry about that for you.
A BFN this morning, OH says there's no faint line.... (he's not an expert line imagineer like me though haha)
But no it's a BFN. Surely would be showing by now. I used FR rapid though I meant to but FR early and obviously messed up. But I think they are as sensitive?
I don't want to start a massive testing spree, probably just need to accept it and wait for AF.
However l really nothing this morning, so pink/brown mucus-y spotting on Thursday is a while ago now.

Pfffffffff what a month this is turning out to be. X

@lamby12 how bloody frustrating! Only thing I can suggest is do your FR early response tomorrow so that you're not wondering and then wait for AF if it's bfn again.