6 months plus ttc (continuation of 6/7 months ttc) all welcome

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Hi everyone just another continuation thread 😊

@DSC1 let's hope so 🤞🤞not sure how much longer I can take 🙈 are you going to early teat or wait till AF is due?

@Annny27 I’m really trying to no longer test early as I hate seeing the BFN. What about you?

Hello again everyone!

I've not been on MN for a while because I'm trying to not scroll threads every 5 seconds looking for encouragement when I already know the answers.

Pretty sure AF has shown up today and had a BFN on 11dpo. Now onto Cycle 9 and our 7th month ttc. Trying to stay positive but we really thought maybe this was the cycle to get our bfp.

Honestly considering giving up ttc for a while, I'm fed up of the BFN's and AF showing up early/exactly on time. It's so depressing! Every month that goes by the worse it gets.

With my B&SIL having a baby just over a week ago and us still trying, I get so angry and pissed off with all the bloody messages and pictures. It is constant - I can't escape it and feel like they are rubbing it in our faces (I'm sure they're not, I just feel so bitter).

Anyway - welcome to the newcomers to this thread. We have got a Facebook group as mentioned by the others. If you'd like to join, just let me know and I will open the group up again.

Aww @MrsCOR! Would it be worth telling them you're ttc and then they can be more sensitive? My mates know and always check first that they can send a bump pic or scan pic. I suppose it's different once baby is here tho. You could always say to them to post to social media and you'll view it there. At least it won't clog up your WhatsApp then and you get a chance to avoid looking.

@MrsCOR I'm really sorry you think AF has arrived take some time for yourself over the next few days. I get what you mean about wanting to give up, theres months where I've felt so sure I must be pregnant but then AF arrives. You're getting closer to that BFP though. I agree with @notyetamumbuttrying would you consider telling them? I think unless people have been through this journey it wont even cross their mind that there might be other family members TTC if that makes sense. I told a few close family members like my MIL, but had other relatives visit in the garden last week, left all my clearblue Ovulation tests in my downstairs toilet, so long story short so many people know now! Because of lockdown and people not being allowed round I've just left all that sort of stuff in plain sight.

@KK251289 eek bet you're kicking yourself for that then!! I just find it much better when close friends and family know. My parents, sisters and a few from my close group of girl mates know, my uni mate, my neighbour, my work colleague, Christ it's a fair few actually 😂 esp since it's been so long now and ppl have known I wanted kids but we were waiting for the wedding first. Wedding was 11 months ago now and I'm crap at lying, wish I wasn't sometimes! And i also think if it goes over the year, I'd share that we had fertility issues so that everyone knew not to ask the annoying questions.

@notyetamumbuttrying I was really kicking myself at first but the people who know have been so supportive (more than i realised) so it's a blessing in disguise. I bet you've been asked millions of times since the wedding when you'll start having kids, must be so frustrating.

@KK251289 that's good then! I do think it's good to let SOME ppl know so that you don't have to worry about insensitive questions or those in the know can field questions if needs be. I'm glad you see the good in ppl knowing. It was annoying at the start but now more ppl know I don't get it anymore. Once we have our year anniversary I'm sure it'll ramp up from Dh's side of family/friends 🙈 I just hope we conceive by then...it's next month! 😬

@notyetamumbuttrying fingers crossed for you this next cycle. Are you trying anything new this month?

@MrsCOR I’m really sorry to hear that you are feeling like that and AF has arrived. Try to remember though that anything up to a year is considered normal - I know that’s really hard to hear when you are feeling low. I found not testing early had helped me as I just felt so terrible seeing those BFNs.

@notyetamumbuttrying I also think it’s a good idea to let some ppl know, just helps to have someone besides DH to talk to about it. Fingers crossed for you!!

@KK251289 no, finally gonna chill out. Just gonna stop taking agnus castus and keep up with everything else. Will eat pineapple and Brazil Nuts again. Will try and do it more too but DH isn't always as up for it as me so that's part tough! How about you?

@DSC1 yeah agreed. Good luck to you too!

@notyetamumbuttrying that sounds like a good idea. I've started taking vital DHA and a higher dose of COQ10 for this cycle. I've really run out of ideas if it doesnt work this cycle. I tried temping but just couldn't get on with it because my sleep pattern is so poor, tried pregnacare and it messed my cycles a bit, different ovulation tests brands etc

@KK251289 I take those two as well. What coQ10 do you take? Yeah temping is the only thing I haven't tried yet either, worried about getting obsessive! I was fine on pregnacare but swapped it out for the two mentioned. Have heard others say it messed with their cycles too.

@notyetamumbuttrying I take a 300mg one three times a day when I eat. This is the one I take:

www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B00GUEHM7O/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_TH5aFb0A7V7M9?tag=mumsnetforu03-21

@notyetamumbuttrying I've started taking agnus castus this month to see if it will do me any good, curious to know why you stopped taking it or what drawbacks you found with it?

@KK251289 same one as me but I only take it once a day. Wonder if I should up it 🤔
@jlmul9 it did what I wanted initially. Delayed ov by two days, lightened my periods and helped with pms a bit but it shortened my luteal phase by two days first cycle then one day the next cycle. It also gave me spotting for two days after my period rather than my usual one day. I'd been taking it for two cycles a few days before AF until a peak opk. I might go bk to them, but want to have a cycle off them to see what my periods do and to see if ov day goes bk to the usual day. I'll be going to the docs in the next couple months so I want my cycles to be as natural as possible for those discussions.

@notyetamumbuttrying I was taking one a day but I was reading on Luissa Zissmans instagram stories about TTC and that is what a fertility doctor told her to take along with folic acid and the vital DHA twice a day. It then followed with loads of screenshots of women messaging her who had been trying for ages starting these supplements then getting pregnant. I'll probably fall in the bracket of people it didnt work for but I was running out of ideas so thought I'd try it this month. I was reading online a safe amount of COQ10 is 1200mg so not taking anywhere near that.

@notyetamumbuttrying and @KK251289 please can I ask what COQ10 and DHA help with? Google keeps popping up with info on how they improve sperm quality 🙈 I've got a list of potential vits to try once I've had my blood done and results back, but neither of these are on my list x

@Tink2019 this is what she said on the blog:

"COQ10 is said to improve your egg quality so is great for older ladies and also said to increase fertilization rates. You need to take a minimum of 600mg per day. I used to take 3 tablets a day. So 900mg total per day (each tablet is 300mg each)"

I also took this DHA which is an omega 3 fatty acid, this is also said to improve egg quality. Here is an extract from a website about DHA:“…concluded that a lifelong consumption of a diet rich in omega-3 fatty acids could prolong reproductive function into an advanced maternal age. The researchers also found that a short-term treatment of omega-3 fatty acids could help improve egg (oocyte) quality (5).”

Hope this helps

@KK251289 I read her insta story too and saw the testimonials. I just didn't catch onto the amount taken per day. Might up mine then! Thank you 😊

Thank you @KK251289 😊 x

@notyetamumbuttrying @KK251289 I think I read somewhere that it depends on if you're taking ubiquinol or ubiquinone formulation of CoQ10. Ubiquinone has to be converted in the body so you need more of it, but ubiquinol doesn't 🤷🏼‍♀️ does the blog refer to what formulation you need higher doses of?

@Tilly1403 I checked her blog again but didnt find any mention of it but I definitely remember reading loads online about the differences in ubiquinol or ubiquinone. I'll try and find the other articles. This one is COQ10 pure and then the black pepper helps absorption.

@Tilly1403 @KK251289 gonna take two a day now this cycle and then go up to three next cycle. Gonna do a steady increase just in case! I take the same ones as you @KK251289.

Fingers crossed for you @notyetamumbuttrying. I had my static clearblue Sunday morning so basically in TWW from now so I'll let you know in the next few weeks if it works. If it does I'll be sharing this method far and wide!