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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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6 months TTC

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Twinkletoes85 · 04/05/2020 10:49

Hello Ladies.

I’m mid 30s ttc my first. I was on the depo before, I know that causes issues to fertility and it will take longer. It was three months before my periods came back but I’ve been regular as clockwork since. Fairly certain I’m ovulating (lot of signs pointing to it) but still no baby. Im due again in the next couple of days and I can tell I’m going to come on.

I tried with my ex a few years ago for 7/8 months (although it was a very half hearted and not really a surprise it didn’t happen.) I wanted a baby for different reasons back then and got very upset every month. I was determined not to get as upset and try be more relaxed with my new partner but I’m starting to find it hard.

How do you cope with the disappointment of another failed cycle?

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Twinkletoes85 · 07/05/2020 22:14

@justjen87 hello! I’m glad we have helped. There’s a lot of us in the same boat. It’s reassuring in a way that there are more people than you think going through the same experience.

That’s amazing about your friend with pcos, it gives you hope that it just need to be the right time and it will happen. It’s just not quite been our right time yet.

Fingers crossed it works for you 😊

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justjen87 · 07/05/2020 22:35

@CurbsideProphet totally agree! Here’s to positive thinking as much as possible 👶🏻🤞🏻

justjen87 · 07/05/2020 22:37

@Twinkletoes85 I really agree with you that is is reassuring. Really great to hear when other to get their bfp after several months of trying.

Fingers crossed & big hugs to you too 🤞🏻

Lindsey02 · 08/05/2020 07:55

Morning ladies.

I have had a very emotional night, as I mentioned earlier I had a positive opk on Wednesday and dtd Sunday and tues. I was hoping to last night but didn’t happen. DH is on antidepressants so sometimes unfortunately things just don’t happen. I cried all night thinking I’d missed my chance.

It’s so hard to get men to see there is only a short time in 1 month you can conceive and not everyday of the month.Sad

I just feel that nothing goes right for us apart from our beautiful son. We couldn’t even get married like most couples because this covid19. I know I’m probably sounding so selfish but I had my hopes up this could be our month.

I have noticed something completely new this month though. Every morning I’ve felt really sick which isn’t like me. Does anybody else get this?

Sorry to rant but had to explain to people how I feel as I have no one.

justjen87 · 08/05/2020 08:24

Hey Lindsey, I felt similar to you when we first started ttc. It led to a few heated conversations & frustration. Men something just don’t seem to get it! I basically told him to do his research as it seemed like anything I said he didn’t believe & just thought I was being OTT. After he did things calmed down & me know realises we have a window of opportunity not the whole month!

I’m sorry to hear about your wedding. When has it been moved to?

With you feeling sick. Have you started taking any vitamins this month? As I felt like that when I started taking pregnacare x

Lindsey02 · 08/05/2020 09:01

@justjen87

Thank you for the reply. Our wedding was due to be on the 4th April. I’d had my hen do, final dress fitting etc and it had to be cancelled 2 weeks before. We are now due to get married the 13th feb. In my heart I wanted to conceive this month because the baby would be here for our big day.

I’ve not started taking and vitamins etc but I was going to, they do normally make me feel sick too. Maybe it’s where I’m just getting myself wound up and upset.

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Twinkletoes85 · 08/05/2020 09:13

@lindsey02 firstly you really don’t sound selfish! You sound like the rest of us, someone who really wants this to happen and is really fed up things just aren’t going right with anything atm. Totally understandable. I’m really sorry about your wedding I can only imagine how annoying/disappointing it was to have to move it. I understand why you would want a baby to have arrived safely before your wedding day

like you and @justjen87 it took a couple of months for my boyfriend to understand that really you’ve got a week at best every month to try and it all hinges around 24/48 hours. It led to some frustration and tears. He’s got a bad back and he’s put it out twice since we’ve been trying which coincided with ovulation. I know it’s not his fault but that annoyed me as it ruled one month out totally and that we didn’t get as many opportunities this month.

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CurbsideProphet · 08/05/2020 14:21

I'm so sorry about your wedding @Lindsey02 How upsetting to be all ready for it and then have to rearrange. My DH took quite a few months to get his head around the fact that there is such a short window for me to get pregnant.

It's not selfish at all to feel upset. Yes there's a pandemic, but other things can also be happening for us. I'm gutted to have another period. It is crap and it's absolutely fine to feel that way Flowers

MrsW2603 · 08/05/2020 18:10

Afternoon Ladies. How are we all? I've been sitting in the garden with my other half all day wishing we had a little one to enjoy the sunshine with. The last thing I want to do is resent all of my time without a child but it's all I seem to do these days. Maybe I need to get myself a hobby instead of wasting my time turning the spare room into a nursery in my head!

Lindsey, I'm so sorry to hear about your wedding being postponed. Know that when Feb 13th comes it will be even more special.

Nat4392 · 08/05/2020 18:45

@MrsW2603 We’ve been in the garden most of the day too, it’s been lovely but our neighbours have been in the garden with their baby and I’m jealous! So I’ve drowned my sorrows in a g&t 🙈 still got over a week before AF is due and trying not to think about it!

kittenpeak · 08/05/2020 19:39

@Nat4392 @MrsW2603 yes this is totally normal I think (I hope!) a lot of social occasions now involve kids, even just sitting in the garden, and I get sad and jealous when I even do that!

A question for everyone, my period is not very regular (between 23 and 28) so I use clear blue sticks to work our ovulation rather than just using a calendar. (Tbh I don't keep track of dates now, I just pay attention to sticks) I dtd on every high and peak day I have. so last month that was 7 days in a row. Does that sound correct? Has anyone got experience with the clear blue sticks, and what are your thoughts? Lots of good luck and love to you all

justjen87 · 08/05/2020 20:19

@kittenpeak hello, I’m using the clear blue OPK too. My period is similar days to you too. 7 days is pretty normal from what I have experienced. I am on month 6 now of ttc. My friend has been using them too. Last month she got her bfp and had 12 days of high then peak days.

@Twinkletoes85 thank you, your positivity is amazing. Thank you so much!

MeadowHay · 08/05/2020 21:34

Hi, I just want to say that even younger women etc it's normal to take a good while. We conceived at 23 and it took about 5 months after coming off the COCP but my cycles are only around 22/23 days so that was more cycles than months. All we did was use fertility friend to track my periods and had sex every other day around the week it suggested I would be ovulating. Good luck to you all x

Fifol · 08/05/2020 22:48

Hi all, can I join in? We have been ttc since October and my heart breaks a little every month when AF shows! I'm 31 and this will be our first.

I started using the clearblue opk 3 cycles ago, find them useful to know when the peak is as my cycles have ranged from 28 to 40 days. Started temping this month too just to see. @kittenpeak I had 20 days of flashing smileys one month!!

Best of luck to everyone x

Nat4392 · 08/05/2020 22:51

@fifol welcome! You must spend a fortune on ov tests! 😮 x

Fifol · 08/05/2020 22:53

@nat4392 ha that month I had to get a second box of them, i was determined to get that static smiley face!!! Thankfully the two other times I had 5 or 6 flashers so was ok.

kittenpeak · 09/05/2020 01:20

@Nat4392 yes those sticks cost a fortune but I don't trust my cycle unfortunately!! @Fifol yes 20 days sounds long - my husband wouldn't have coped with that! Makes sense if sometimes you have 4 day cycle, but if you're having 5-6 it sounds normal.

My heart breaks each month too. I'm due on Sunday and took an early response test this morning and nothing. Nada. It still bothers me that it doesn't happen when I know there is a sperm and egg in the same place at the same time! X

beachbum85 · 09/05/2020 01:22

Hi again everyone. Just catching up on all the messages as I spent the afternoon in the garden with DP too Smile

@Lindsey02 I'm so sorry to hear about your wedding having to be postponed, and I can totally understand the additional frustration. My OH took ages to accept the fact that there's such a small time window too, and I felt ridiculous having to explain the mechanics of it all Grin but I was travelling a lot for work and when we couldn't be together during the fertile window, he'd just say: oh, we'll try again another day... sigh 9 months in he finally started paying more attention.
In any case, I do hope you're feeling better today Daffodil and @CurbsideProphet too. If not, and you need to rant, you know this is the place

@Fifol how are you finding temping? Is it any better than just OPKs?

Fingers tightly crossed for everyone still waiting this month xx

Fifol · 09/05/2020 09:16

@kittenpeak and everyone else who said too, it is very frustrating when you know you have timed everything right. I'm trying to stay really positive though that our time is near.

@beachbum85 I'm only on CD7 and only started a few days ago so I don't know yet but I just felt I had to add something this cycle! It will just be interesting to see if I see a rise in temps after the opk peak

Lindsey02 · 09/05/2020 09:37

Morning ladies

Hope you are all well? So I’ve had a little look at my app and it looks like i ovulated between tues and thurs. we dtd tues night but not feeling that hopeful. Have any of you tried anything else? A few years ago I had a spell done which obviously didn’t work. I had a reading done on tues saying I would find out in June that I’m pregnant and she could see me heavily pregnant at Christmas. I have since had a reading with someone else who has said September. Confused

It’s got to the point I know names for a girl or a boy. My poor head is so puzzled with all of this.

I decided last night I was going to join in with everyone else and I had a drink, went to bed and didn’t even think about dtd. Today I’ve woke up to no CM so think this months chances have gone anyway so maybe time for a rest.

Anybody due to test soon?

MrsW2603 · 09/05/2020 12:07

Morning all, I can't believe I'm writing this. My spotting stopped on Thursday after two days so I caved and did a test this morning - I have a faint line on a clearblue.
The last two days I had been at my lowest mentally, thought it would never happen to me. Its very early days but for me getting a positive is a first. Hang in there ladies!

beachbum85 · 09/05/2020 12:20

Congratulations @MrsW2603!! Amazing news 🌟

@Lindsey02 I'll be testing tomorrow... Never had a BFP before and not being my hopes up, but maybe this BFP brings luck to the thread 😊

Lindsey02 · 09/05/2020 12:30

@MrsW2603

This sounds so positive, so happy for you xx

@Beachbum85

I will keep my fingers crossed for you xx

justjen87 · 09/05/2020 12:52

@MrsW2603 that’s great news! Thank you for sharing. Congratulations x

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Twinkletoes85 · 09/05/2020 12:59

@MrsW2603 That’s wonderful news 😊 I’m a day late now but then I’ve been three days late once before and still come on so I’m not reading too much into it (trying not to anyway!)

@lindsey02 sometimes the best thing to do is just have break, relax a bit and try take your mind off it. Which app are you using?
I haven’t tried it so I can’t tell you how good or bad it is but one of the ladies mentioned ovusense. You do have to pay a subscription so I think it’s a bit of a last resort but it looks useful for helping you really keep track of ovulation and when’s the best time to dtd.

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