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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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All about us ~ MC'ing or MC'ed or TTC after MC or just loves cakes!

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katendmom · 16/09/2007 21:00

Ok, girls, our last thread did get crazy long so I am starting this one. If you don't like the name - well... too bad You'll get used to it over time .

ILTC, hi there sista! I feel like we're SO alike. Can you believe that my bleeding started again today? I was quite . And out of all places it started in a zoo when we were watching little sheep at the "petting zoo" section with DS and DH. Grrreat!~ Hope you're feeling better and this mess if over soon for all of us .

Rosybelle, hi there~ [sends a wave] Com'on over - sorry you're here but it's easier to get through things together. If you read my previous posts you know what I have to say - ERPC (or D&C) all the way. Good luck!

Scully, hi... you sound like me... actually my DH who is very much doubting TCC'ing again. And that's just after one MC! Well... we did have a stillborn DD1 but went on to have a beautiful DS. What would have happened if we got scared back then and didn't do it. Ooops, promised not to talk about it until mid-Oct. That's when my MC blood/ tissue results are back from the lab to tell us what was wrong with the baby. We agreed we wouldn't make any decisions until we find out.

Cricri, I know you won't be chechking this thread until later but hope your weekend in Holland is fab!

Hugs and smooches to all!

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TJuice · 01/10/2007 16:27

well, i really hope the placenta theory is true because i was also in the 10weekish category and after a heartbeat at 7 weeks. i was devasted as i had also read the stats and felt really unlucky . . .

ronshar - resist, resist and my fingers are crossed for a BFP soonest . . . its a tough time for you right now.

ilts - here's hoping the symptom-spotting all makes sense with a bfp. i have gone from 0-60 in terms of (phantom in my case) symptom spotting. i knew nothing about anything but today i rushed home from work because i think i am ovulating - like a nutter.

kateend - could you be? I mean, its possible that you can ovulate immediately after your d&c right? at least my gynae said that she thought i already had ovulated when i went for my check up one week later (i was just like "how do you know"??!!).

nothing to report on the cake front, but i just finished a load of clotted cream fudge. surely someone has been baking or buying? Confess at once . . .

I listened to the Tina Taylor mp3 last night and her voice is not nearly as irritating as some eg. Paul McKenna. It was really soothing but i totally tuned out because i was so knackered.

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katendmom · 01/10/2007 16:36

TJ I honestly don't know... My D&C was on Sept. 13, then on around Sept. 26-27 I had cramping pains like I get when I OV... and it was putting me in a mid of a "cycle" if you consider D&C and the first day of AF... I know it doesn't make any sense... and it's probably nothing and I just like to believe it is

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herbaceous · 01/10/2007 16:43

Right. I am seriously f*cked off. Younger sis pregnant with third. Adoption agencies telling me basically to eff off. Then I spend the last two weeks getting cramps, and the last week feeling just like I did last time I was pregnant - funny head, buzzy mouth, twangy pains, funny smells... the works, and had even got to the stage of worrying about mcing again, and now that bitch Flo has turned up. Although not very heavily, like last month, making me think that perhaps I'm one of those women who has periods and is still pregnant. Though, natch, I haven't done a test as this theory would be blown out of the water, and I'd have to face the fact that it's more likely that I'm entering the menopause and might as well just forget the whole baby thing.

I want to cry.

lissiethevampireslayer · 01/10/2007 16:49

oh herby its a sad day when you half dread getting a bfp and are too scared to do a HPT, remember geting excited about ttc? wish i could, but more than that i wish i could help you x

herbaceous · 01/10/2007 16:53

Oh, and the EDD of my last mc is in a week's time. Yay.

lissiethevampireslayer · 01/10/2007 17:06

IKHYF, the edd of my ep is today, seems like every other month theres an EDD or loss date.

sweetkitty · 01/10/2007 17:19

lissie - thinking of you today I have only had one mc I don't know how you girls with 2 or more cope, your are all so strong

herby - it's so when everyone around you is getting pregnant without even ttc, I used to be one of those smug gits though, shame how a mc changes you, why are adoption agencies telling you to eff off, I hate that I know they have to have certain criteria etc but some of it is a pile of nonsence especially the age one for you

kate - I would do a test if I were you it would put your mind at rest if nothing else, I've said before my mc was around the 12th August bled for 2 weeks after that then had AF on the 7th Sept so ov'ed whilst still bleeding so you never know, apaprently you are really fertile after a mc.

hello to Tjuice and Flossie too
x

iliketosleep · 01/10/2007 17:28

i wasnt symptom spotting it was when i was bugging dp for a macdonalds breakfast muffin (im vegetarian) this morning and settled for battered sausage and chips for my dinner and when i sat down on the toilet earlier i had this really wierd horrible pulling feeling in my lower back which i had all through last pg and knew something was wrong when i was able to walk without looking like 90 year old woman (im 23!!) lol

herbaceous · 01/10/2007 17:47

Sweet kitty - the agencies I've contacted so far don't have many white babies or children, and don't place coloured or mixed-race children with white couples, as it doesn't do much for their identity. I can understand the policy, to an extent, but surely it's better for these poor kids to have a loving home, than none.

ClairePO · 01/10/2007 19:30

Hugs to everyone having a rough time of things at the moment

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katendmom · 01/10/2007 19:46

herby I am so sorry that you're not feeling the best today. Those "anniversaries" definitely catch up with us, don't they... Have you looked at adopting a baby from Russia? There is no shortage of white children in orphanages there, all ages... VERY SAD...

SK I am not sure a test will do me any good. I did do one late last week and it turned out BFP. It was WAY too early to turn out possitive for this new pg... so must have been hormones from the mc... So, I am waiting for 35 days to pass since D&C since that's how long I guess it takes for hormones to be out of your system.

If I test on like a day 36 (or 40 if I am really good - oh yeah, and AF isn't here) and it is positive - than I'll know it is BFP. Makes sense?

ILTS - a battered sausage for dinner for a vegetarian?! That?s major, woman! You?re either pg or? or I don?t know really what else this could be! How old are your DC? Could you eat meat when you were pg with them?

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iliketosleep · 01/10/2007 20:04

with dd1 7 i ate meat and fish, after she was born i couldnt touch either, still havent ate fish though with dd2 6 i lived on cheeseburgers and with ds 4 i ate anything but dont remember meat being on the menu

It is strange isnt it lol....

With lost little one i lived on crisps or chips.

iliketosleep · 01/10/2007 20:05

i couldnt be pg again so soon could i? its only been 3 weeks tomorrow since m/c [hopeful emoticon]

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katendmom · 01/10/2007 20:14

Don't know babe but am struggling with the same question. Just started a new thread on "Conception" - let's see if anybody responds. Should have had a ? mark in the subject line though! too late now

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ClairePO · 01/10/2007 20:43

ooh very exciting - did either of you do any OPK's? I did and it was showing a surge last Thurs, but having read Bucky's v v v informative EWCM link (and ordered the video*) I don't think this will be my month as no EWCM.

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katendmom · 01/10/2007 20:51

Now what's that link again?

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ClairePO · 01/10/2007 21:01

www.fertilityuk.org/nfps401.html

You getting the vid?

I managed not to be a cow today which quite impressed me as it's not normal. We have two 3 month pregnant ladies at work so due when I would have been and one of them came to my office to enquire where one of the other partners in my dept was and I bit my tongue and didn't say anything unpleasant about not having tracker devices fitted to people. Then again nor did I feel strong enough to say I heard your news congrats. So maybe I was a bit cowish really. Oh yes and I stared at her tum I couldn't help myself.

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katendmom · 01/10/2007 21:09

Clair you did as GREAT as you could. I got a bit too when I was talking to my BF who's pg (I know that) and she told me that her EDD is exactly what might would have been... I didn't tell her that... so I guess I did ok today too

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splishsplosh · 01/10/2007 21:36

Hi everyone,
Big hugs to everyone who's having an especially bad time right now.

I went for my re-scan this morning, and they said there's still 3ml of material left (was 16ml a week ago) can't believe after all that bleeding that it's not all out. They then said they wanted to do an ercp - but after reading some people's experience of that, and having spent 12 days doing it the natural way, i just don't want to now have to have an op. Feel quite upset that it's still dragging on. It feels like until I get over the physical side of things, there's no way I can even start getting over the emotional side.

Anyway, they've given me some antibiotics - the sho seemed to think that this was a prob as I as bf still - asked me if I wanted to give up - well of course at some stage, but wasn't thinking of today! - and told me to do a preg test in 2 weeks. If it's -ive then that;s all ok, but if it shows positive, I have to get referred back for another scan to see what's happening. I'm hardly bleeding anymore, so I'm worried things aren't going to finish, but the dr said sometimes blood can be reabsorbed by the body.... here's hoping.

I had to take my dd with me to the scan, and she just wailed and cried when she saw me on the table, which was quite upsetting too.

Now I'd got used to the idea of a 2nd lo, I'm finding it hard to give up on the idea, but relationship with dp isn't going well at the moment, so don't think it's likely I'll be ttc. We have various issues anyway, and I think my grief over my mum's death and now the miscarriage seems to make me so angry towards him sometimes. I feel doubly let down when I feel he's not supportive, as am going through such a low point right now and don't feel he's there for me like I need him to be. Not sure how fair that is, but I guess this isn't my most rational time.

Sorry for long old rambling

sweetkitty · 01/10/2007 21:36

kate - that makes sense I forgot you tested BFP last week, a waiting game for you now

herby - that is isn't it I know they have rules but as you said I'm sure these kids would rather grow up with two lovely adoptive parents than with foster parents or in a care home, it's not fair

ILTS - I'm veggie too but during pregnancy every now and again I would need a McDonalds and I hate McDonalds, but they tasted so good. With both DDs my first 12 week diets were horrendous, only thing I could face were chips or Dairylea cheese sandwiches.

splishsplosh · 01/10/2007 21:37

I'm a veggie too, didn't crave meat at all though, just pizza with dd, and with the mc one, chocolate and crisps

justjules · 01/10/2007 21:39

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splishsplosh · 01/10/2007 21:45

Oh justjules, that must have been so hard. I know it seems like there are little babies and pg people everywhere, and it just feels like why not me, doesn't it.

sweetkitty · 01/10/2007 21:47

jules I don't know what to say to you only that it will get better I'm sure, you have got to come to the end of your long and painful tunnel soon, the light is there for you.

Please use this thread as your sounding board if you need it theres so much support on here and not one of us would mind if you screamed, ranted or sobbed every day we all have broad shoulders.

please please take care of yourself xxx

ClairePO · 01/10/2007 21:49

oh Jules and splishsplosh it sounds like you've both had rotten days

splishsplosh I hope the bleeding stops soon and that things get better with your DP

Jules stay safe in that bubble tomorrow, we'll all stay in ours and we'll all float beside each other bubble talking. There will be no new mums or pregnant ladies just lots of support.