All about us ~ MC'ing or MC'ed or TTC after MC or just loves cakes!

[katendmom]

Ok, girls, our last thread did get crazy long so I am starting this one. If you don't like the name - well... too bad You'll get used to it over time .

ILTC, hi there sista! I feel like we're SO alike. Can you believe that my bleeding started again today? I was quite . And out of all places it started in a zoo when we were watching little sheep at the "petting zoo" section with DS and DH. Grrreat!~ Hope you're feeling better and this mess if over soon for all of us .

Rosybelle, hi there~ [sends a wave] Com'on over - sorry you're here but it's easier to get through things together. If you read my previous posts you know what I have to say - ERPC (or D&C) all the way. Good luck!

Scully, hi... you sound like me... actually my DH who is very much doubting TCC'ing again. And that's just after one MC! Well... we did have a stillborn DD1 but went on to have a beautiful DS. What would have happened if we got scared back then and didn't do it. Ooops, promised not to talk about it until mid-Oct. That's when my MC blood/ tissue results are back from the lab to tell us what was wrong with the baby. We agreed we wouldn't make any decisions until we find out.

Cricri, I know you won't be chechking this thread until later but hope your weekend in Holland is fab!

Hugs and smooches to all!

I cant belive that there are so many women going through the pain and trauma of a MC!
p2b and frankielamb, I am so very sorry for you and your babies. It is a horrible time for you both. Go easy on yourselves it takes a long time to get over losing a baby no matter when in the pregnancy it happens.

In my experience most people who know you have had a MC do not ask if you are trying again because it means they have to deal with the whole subject of MC.
Even my family who normally have no shame have stopped even mentioning the word baby, pregnancy, or having another one!! The only person who has the gall is MIL. But then she really doesnt give a shite about anyones feelings!

I am still pregnant at the moment. (.)(.) getting bigger but no little bump but then I am expecting too much as only a little bit pregnant.
Can I ask?? When should I go to doctors? Will they think I am nuts if I ask for scan etc as no bleeding etc???
Also the worst has happened. I have GONE OFF CAKE . Whats that all about?

Frankielamb, so sorry to hear your story. Just to let your know, there is a new version of this thread running now 'october 2007 mc'. Make sure you post on it so that you get all the sympathy you deserve.

We'll be waiting for you!

Hi all. Am feeling really sad and just wanted a moan. I am so broody and so desperate to ttc but i still have to wait another three months. Miss talking to you all Ellie G, nh101 and popsy 76. Really down at the minute

Ronshar- go to the doctor whenever but be prepared for an anticimax. Mine asked if I had done a test (laughed when I told him I'd done 12) congartulated me and told me to come back at ten weeks to get paperwork going. Because I ahd only had one mc there was no point in pushing me forward for scan....am still tempted to call epu anyway.

Know what you mean about going off cake- have gone off chocolate. It gives me heartburn. Where's the justice?????

Hello all,

I saw the consultant today and now feel worse than ever. He doesn't think my last mc was due to measles he blames the stitch and says that I probably didn't need it in the first place but because I had my mc whilst it was still in place my cervix could be damaged now. He hasn't put a suture in for a woman since 1996 as he thinks they are unnesscary. Every 6 months he sees about 3 or 4 women who like me were treated at different hospitals and were given stitches, he has recommened that they all have regular scan with an emergency stitch if needed and no one has needed one for over 10 years. He told me the decision to stitch or not is mine but like me is worried about the damage from the mc, he has offered regular scan from 12 to 34 weeks fortninghly at the begining then weekly then fortninghly again. I think I will go for the scans but he said either way there is a risk of mc. I really am scared of having another late loss and I know if it happens agian dp won't try again. I am going to see hime again in four weeks to give him my final decison and I will have a scan at the same time. I feel sick at the moment but that's to do with nerves.

Goingfor3 thinking of you...

Hiya lovleylou, you pop into my mind so often, I am sorry you still feel down, I began to feel better about six months after my MC and hoped you were feeling the same. I didn't think I'd have a chance of falling PG cos my periods had gone AWOL so was resigned to waiting at least another six months to ttc, but doc put me on Clomid and voila! I am PG.

I am so so rooting for you to be PG in March. Hopefully it will happen quickly as you have given your body such a good break. Your LO must be giving you lots of pleasure at the mo at least!

Hey lovelylou - so sorry you're feeling crappy hon. Don't worry about coming on to have a moan, it's shitty when you're ttc and not getting where you want to be, and makes you feel so miserable. Am thinking of you and sending lots of love and hugs x

going for 3- i am so sorry to hear that, what a huge decision to make. The books all seem to make stitches sound like a routine thing. I wonder if anyone on MN has had the same experience? I'm glad he will scan you regularly and keep a good eye on you but I can imagine it must be very scary. Sending you a big hug xx

lovelylou- sorry to hear you are feeling so low. One way I coped with those dark times was to try and control as much of the ttc process as could be controlled- in the sense of trying to make sure I was as healthy and relaxed as I could be. Hopefully you will then be in peak condition for when you are allowed to try again.

Flosspot- 12 tests!!! DH hid ours once I reached 7!

Torres I felt so bad for you when you said "I am still pregnant" as if you expect it to be taken away from you any minute. I can understand how you feel as I felt like this during my most recent m/c, and I know statistics are not comforting BUT you have an excellent chance of everything being perfectly ok. Just gotta do the 3 months, then on to the home stretch. Sounds so easy doesn't it, but bloody hard I know. I suppose I'm just saying try to relax and try to be positive as worrying makes the time drag even slower. I remember not allowing myself to look past the week I had reached in my baby book so as not to jinx myself. The things we do! Like to think I am pragmatic usually - but totally superstitious when it comes to pregnancy issues!

frankielamb - so very sad to hear of your m/c and your friend's stillborn baby and previous m/c. The ability to have a child is seen as such an unquestionable thing, yet the science is so fuzzy.

Lovelylou - sorry you are down. TTC is getting to me now too

Goingfor3 - sorry to hear about your predicament. Why is consultant care so hit and miss

Had a major wobble yesterday - saw the slightest of slight pink-tinged mucus and was convinced it was the end, sobbed for ages.

I was OK after my last MC, just saw it as one of those things, but I would not be able to cope if this one ends badly too. I took my temp though this mornign and it is still high so that is a good sign but I have been feeling less sick this week and feel "less pregnant" so that's why I thought it was bad news yesterday.

No more blood etc so am actually more confident now! Scan on Monday (shitting myself!)

Hugs to nh xxx

I am bleeding properly. I am really pissed off.
I am telling everyone. It isnt making me feel better yet.
Sorry to drag everyone else down.

Ronshar- keeping everything crossed and sending you big hugs.

Torres- yet to admit to DH that I did 12 tests. Have spares in case of emergency panic moment.

NH- hope you are feeling brighter. I must confess I seem to sit on the fringes of excitement but for the main part am afriad for every minute of every day. Good luck with Monday. I have to wait until 11 weeks. Only four weeks left [insert tick-tock emoticon along with impatient foot-tapping floss emoticon here]

Ronshar, after my reaction yesterday to a bit of pink I am totally feeling for you. But remember - bleeding happens in 20% of pregnancies and 75% result in successful pregnancy.

Have you got a scan?

ronshar. Is it heavy bleeding? Any pain? Do you have epu near you? I bled with ds and all was fine, but I know how nerve wracking it is

ronshar - am sorry. How is it now?

Still bleeding but I am trying to tell myself it is slowing down. It is a bit like trying to see if it is a line or not on a pee stick!
I do not have any pain but breast definitely not as heavy as this time yesterday.

Thank you NH I feel a bad because you and Floss and others are around the same time as me and I dont want to add to your worries. Please dont think it will happen to you.

How are you doing this morning ronshar?

Don't feel bad for us! How is it today? Have you tested again to see how strong the hcg is?

I was making it up, I think, when I said bleeding was slowing down!
No real pain but feel awful. I am also passing clots and tissue!!!

Never mind back to the drawing board!!

the waiting is awful isn't it

ronshar- thinking of you and hoping you're ok xx

ladylush- thank you for your kind words- you've hit the nail on the head. I am exactly the same with my pregnacy book and although I know the date of my 12 week scan I haven't allowed myself to write it in my diary. Very irrational! I hope you're ok and managing to keep positive xx

nh- best of luck for the scan on monday xx

torres, ronshar, thinking of you x